“The best place to start dealing with conflict is before a conflict arises. That’s right, BEFORE a conflict arises. Every couple has their own combination of attitudes, emotions, and circumstances that set them up for conflict, but most couples are totally unaware of what they are. As you identify the factors that precede your most frequent conflicts, you’ll discover a gold mine of insights to help you deal more effectively with those conflicts once they arise.”
The above quote is written by Gary and Carrie Oliver who wrote a wonderful book titled, Mad About Us, published by Bethany House.
We’re going to share with you several quotes and seven steps to dealing with conflict contained within this book. They have a LOT more say that would be helpful if you could read it, but we’re giving you what we can hoping it will be a good start to dealing with your own areas of conflict with each other (and those of you who can obtain the book, in Kindle version, may want to do so in order to learn more). In an edited version, they write: (more…)
How I Got Addicted to Porn
When I was 14 years old, my dad and I bought one of the first satellite dishes. It gave me access to hundreds of channels including pornography nearly any time I wanted to see it.
We didn’t keep the satellite dish forever —but it began my addiction. All throughout high school I purchased magazines and developed a very unrealistic view of sex and an extremely unhealthy view of women. I didn’t see anything wrong with what I was doing.
I Wanted Out…
That all changed in May of 1990 when I accepted Christ …and my life was changed.
I knew porn was wrong and not what God wanted for me, but I had sown the seeds of a porn addiction into my life for over five years. I wanted the desire to look at porn to go away overnight… but it didn’t.
In fact, I struggled with it for the next 10 years. (more…)
Debi Walter – April 17, 2015
In the 36 years that Tom and I have been married, we’ve learned about what marriage is and what it isn’t. If it were possible, we would love to have you over to our home, put on a pot of coffee or hot tea and sit in our kitchen talking about what we’ve learned all these years. We would love to help you see the big picture of marriage and not just what you’re facing today. We would love to encourage you on all the reasons it’s worth the effort.
But this isn’t possible. So, we’ve decided to do the next best thing–have you fix your own beverage of choice, find a comfortable seat and listen in as we share with you what we’ve learned in the hopes of helping you stay the course for a lifetime.
And now for our list…
What Marriage Isn’t: (more…)