There’s one thing for sure —we ALL will suffer at some point in our lives. It’s inevitable! We’re told in the Bible that in this life we WILL suffer tribulations. But WHEN it happens, even though we’re warned that it will, it can bring about an internal battle within, where we can start to question why God would allow this to happen to us. From our viewpoint it doesn’t make sense.
It can also bring about an external battle within many marriages (and often does) where couples start to turn on each other. This causes even more suffering, more questioning, and more chaos.
To combat this, we’re going to share some insights from something we heard several years ago in a radio message given by Dr Charles Stanley from Intouch.org, on the ways that “God Uses Our Suffering.” You may even want to use the following points as a Bible study either separately or together —discussing how they could apply to your situation, along with the scripture.
Even if your spouse won’t join you in partnership while you are suffering, or perhaps you are suffering because of things your spouse has done or said, we hope you will find at least some of the information within this message to be helpful. Ask God to enlighten you, help you to use the information you can use, and join Him in partnership to battle that which is confusing you and causing you additional pain.
Here’s what we learned from Dr Stanley’s sermon. The direct quotes from Dr Stanley are in “quotation marks” and the rest is summarized: (more…)
Don’t Allow Tragedies to Split Your Marriage Apart!
The Bible says, “in this world you will have trouble” (John 16:33). It’s an established fact. And yet so often, despite the warning, when major trouble occurs we’re taken by surprise and are unprepared for the trauma that it can cause in our marital relationship.
It’s during difficult times that we need to be especially “on the alert” because of all the damage that can occur. The enemy of our faith will try in every way to pit us against each other so that everything is turned even more upside down than now —making any kind of recovery all the more difficult.
As psychologist Dr Gary Smalley warns: “Trauma puts us at the wall of conflict.” And from what we’ve seen in Marriage Missions, that especially happens in marriage. It tests the strength and resolve of the relationship more than most couples could ever have imagined previously.
“Every couple faces things they’d prefer to avoid —job losses, severe illnesses, financial reversals, deaths of close family members and many other such events. We call them crises, roadblocks, setbacks or tragedies, and none of these are terms of endearment. That’s because these storms of life place immense stress on us —and they also test our marriages. (more…)
- Steve Wright – November 30, 2013
There’s a war being waged against your marriage, and it’s something we need to be aware of and combat in whatever way we can. This is something that Cindy and I have been aware of for a number of years. The enemy of our faith would like nothing better than to get us to wage war against each other and ultimately, bring our marriage down. The same is true for your marital relationship.
The more and more divorce “casualties” and crippled Christian marriages there are around, the better it is for those who are working for the Powers of Darkness. There IS a war going on to attack our marriages —no doubt about it.
I was recently thinking of an analogy to explain this war. I was thinking of how a Navy War Ship is always in harms way when it’s at sea. That’s its job. Every sailor on board knows there are enemy subs, ships and planes that COULD attack them at any time.
So they train on:
(1) How to avoid those circumstances (to the best of their ability) and
(2) They train to know what they must do IF and WHEN they are attacked, to minimize the risk of loss of life or sinking their ship.
The comparative picture I get is that a Christian married couple, from the moment the vows are finished, this couple is in harms way for the rest of their lives together. And the enemy of our faith —the enemy of marriage will try to torpedo and sink the marriage at every opportunity. (more…)