Repeatedly we’ve reminded you of the scripture verse that says “Laughter is as good medicine.” And that’s especially true for our marriages. You can sometimes get overly serious in life when you forget to look for humor in situation.
With the recent death of Cindy’s Dad, Richard Rowland, this Marriage Message is something we need. We’re looking for ways to find our smile and laugh again. There is a time to mourn, but there is also a time to laugh, and this seems like a good one.
We realize that some of you are living in situations that make it all the more difficult to think of laughing. But we’ve found those are times when you need to look all the harder for things to laugh about together. There’s something about laughing together that brings a new perspective into things.
“Laughter bonds people. Any good friend will tell you that laughter is the shortest distance between two people — especially in marriage.” (Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott)
There have been all kinds of studies that have shown the mental, physical and emotional health benefits to laughing together. It’s been said that laughter is like “inner jogging” because “every system in our body gets a workout when we have a hearty laugh.” (more…)
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Dating your husband or wife will be very different from dating a potential husband or wife. Yet it is just as important. When you were single, dating was a time to get away alone, to talk, laugh, and have fun together. You took time to get away alone, to talk, laugh, and have fun together. You took time to learn more about each other, about your past and your dreams for the future. You gradually felt at ease with each other.
But, you see, even though you’re married, the two of you still need the same thing. You need to get away alone and continue to talk, laugh, and have fun together. You need to learn more about each other, your past and your dreams for the future. You need to feel at ease with each other as you face new challenges together.
That’s why dating shouldn’t stop with marriage. Too often, married couples get settled, caught up in the routine of jobs, church, parenting, and other commitments. Many couples are so busy that they don’t take time to nurture the foundation of their family —their marriage and their relationship with each other. As we know all too well, when that marriage foundation begins to crumble, everything else comes down with it. (more…)
The illustration in this blog is a bit comical, but it’s also too often true, and more than a bit sad. It’s the place where many spouses find themselves in their marriages. They end up looking in all the wrong places for the solutions they need, to get past certain issues that are destroying their relationship. They lose the art of turning TO each other, talking it out, as God would have us. OR it may be that they never learned that important skill in the first place.
Before we marry, we can never imagine that we’d get to this kind of place —one where we lose the “skill” of just sitting down and talking to each other to settle our differences in ways that leads to a peaceable relationship. We’re so caught up in LOVE and what it means to us at that point in time, that we just sort of let it all go its natural course, believing it will just flow into something even more beautiful than it is/was originally.
That’s what happened to my husband Steve and me, where we thought our love was so true, so unlike that of our parents and others, that it would only get better after marriage. Wrong! We were so wrong.