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Becoming The Man Of Your Wife’s Dreams

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Before you marry, you ARE the man of your wife’s dreams. But things change after you marry and she comes to know you in a different way. It is then that you especially need to cooperate with God in truly becoming the man of her dreams — the man God has called you to be as her husband.

However, there aren’t a lot of models that we see in today’s world of men that will help you to see that in action.

“I’m convinced we have a generation of married men who are confused and lonely; they’re stuck in a lifeless marriage because they never learned how to cultivate a relationship with a woman that speaks to her romantic need for intimacy.” (Dennis Rainey)

To learn more about how to cultivate a romantic relationship to help you to become the husband your wife desires and the husband God has called you to be, please read this article.


And then below is a link to an article, which builds upon the same concept of romance and sex. As author Paul McGuire says,

“Thankfully, the greatest sex and romance manual ever written is the Bible. Men who are sexually frustrated can find understanding into the female psyche and learn how to have the sex life they’ve always wanted in the pages of God’s Word. Not only that, but the Bible actually shows us how we can have the most rewarding, passionate, erotic, spiritual and fulfilling sex life that is humanly possible!”

Paul then gives you 10 ways, based on scriptures to help you, so “you can ignite your sex life and, ultimately, help cultivate that closeness that your wife is longing for.”

Please click onto the following web site link to read:


In closing, I want to share with you 3 things that Bob Lepine talks about in his article, “7 Things to Remember About Sex” (which I encourage you to read in its entirety. Bob made these very important points to prayerfully consider:

– “Sex is probably (but not necessarily) a lower priority for your wife than it is for you. Are you as committed to meeting her needs and desires as you’d like her to be with your desire for sex? Could you even name her top three relationship needs? Here is one of them …

– “Your wife needs a safe and secure relationship. In order for her to engage in sex with heart and mind and body, she needs to know that you will be there for her, that you are committed to her, and that she is your one and only.

– “Your wife wants to have sex with a companion, not with someone who simply shares her mailing address. If you’re not spending time having fun together in all kinds of settings, she’s going to be less motivated to be with you sexually.”

Please pray about this, and consider what God would have you do, to love your wife in ways that God would have you.

This article is written by Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International.

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