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Creative Dates for You and Your Spouse

Why do you need to “date” your spouse? After all, you’ve already “got” them as your mate!

“One mistake that many married couples make is believing that dating is strictly for those who are in search of a committed partner. Another huge mistake that married couples make is to place a tremendous amount of attention on their children, their families and their careers while neglecting their own relationship. Regularly schedule date nights can help to put the focus back on the marriage and help them to maintain a healthy and exciting relationship.” (By “Kissmegoodnight”)

Lets face it:

“A marriage requires a commitment of time, energy, and resources just to survive, let alone thrive and grow. No one would expect a garden to grow without a gardener giving it the proper care. But many people expect their marriage to grow and thrive without putting in time, energy, and money. Don’t be foolish. Every single day you need to do some things that will strengthen your marital relationship.” (Gil Stieglitz)

Are you investing in your marriage relationship to keep it alive and growing so you are not only married lovers, but continue to be friends?

“How do you turn a spouse into a friend? Proverbs 18:24 tells us that “a man who has friends must be friendly.” You have to BE a good friend to HAVE a good friend. You have to purpose to have fun together. Without friendship and fun, marriage is just work. In fact, if you take sex and friendship out if it, marriage is little more than a business relationship. BE FUN, CREATE FUN in your marriage! (Jimmy Evans, from book, “Our Secret Paradise” page 121)

Be INTENTIONAL in building your friendship with and love for one another:

“Keep meaningful rituals in your relationship. Whether it’s having a dinner conversation after work every night or taking a long walk, have something in place that allows you to stay in touch with each other’s lives -M. Brandenburg. And don’t forget to schedule regular date times with each other. You dated your spouse before marriage—that’s what contributed to your falling in love with each other in the 1st place.” (Mark Brandenburg, Certified Personal Coach and author of Fix Your Wife in 30 Days or Less, quote appeared in an article from Smart Marriages on 11/18/03.)

So, with that said, do you need some dating tips? Well, here are some ideas that Nancy C Anderson gives, posted on the Growthtrac.com web site:

FIVE CREATIVE DATES FOR COUPLES

The following are additional tips for you and your spouse:

50 DATING IDEAS FOR MARRIED COUPLES

From TheRomanticVineyard.com, the following are a few ideas for dates with a new twist (and for more, you’ll see additional ideas listed on the sidebar):

ARTSY DATE IDEAS

MOVIE DATES

CELEBRATION DATE IDEAS

CHEAP DATES

EARTH DAY DATE IDEAS

From the Smallnotebook.org web site:

20 POCKET CHANGE DATE NIGHT IDEAS

From the Triciagoyer.com web site:

30 FUN (AND CHEAP) DATES

And from LoveWise.com a few more suggestions —especially if you’re on a tight budget:

RECESSION ROMANCE: 25 Free or Nearly Free Ideas for Great Dates

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2 Responses to “Creative Dates for You and Your Spouse”
  1. Dennis says:

    (USA)  This is so true! I’ve been posting on here in various topics about how after my wife, and I discussed our pasts, and truly opened up to each other our passion, and sex life have FAR more than doubled. More like multiplied exponentially.

    However after reading this, and reflecting back on the last few weeks I realize that the talk, while very important to the revitalization of our marriage, was just the beginning. We danced to some old songs on New Years Eve morning, we went out to dinner, and then because the movie we were going to see was sold out we came home, and watched a movie on demand. Then the following weekend we went to see a movie at the theater. And then again last weekend we went to see another. So in addition to our discussion to clear out the barriers, another thing that has helped to bring us closer has been these date nights. We may not be able to afford to go out every weekend, but I plan on trying to keep these date nights going on at least every other week to every couple of weeks.

    Love shouldn’t be work, your marriage shouldn’t revolve around work, kids, and bills. It instead should be about you, and your spouse being more like friends with benefits than just 2 people raising kids, and sharing bills, and living space. I’ve always considered my wife to be my best friend even back when we were dating, and my best guy friend couldn’t understand how he was my best friend, and so was my girlfriend, but that’s just how it really needs to be in order for the love to survive all of the stuff life throws at us.

    So go make friends with your spouse, and get to know each other again. What you learn about how your spouse has changed during your marriage just might surprise you.

  2. Charlie Becker says:

    (USA) Thanks for this article! Can I promote my first app I just released called Date Envy!? It’s for iPhone and iPad and I wrote it because I am passionate about being creative and fun (and even inexpensive) on dates! I’m still single but my parents (who are also Christian) has shown me what a Christ-centered relationship is, and yes, part of that is going out on fun dates even after 40 years of marriage.

    Anyway, the app allows you to select cost, weather, activity-level, length, etc and will give you a bunch of fun ideas you and your spouse can go do! The app is free in Feb 2013 (http://bit.ly/dateenvy_itunes)

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