I Am Standing For The Healing Of My Marriage!


I will not give up, give in,
give out, nor give over
’til the healing takes place.

I made a vow; I said the words; I gave the pledge.
I gave a ring; I took a ring; I gave myself.

I trusted GOD, and said the words, and meant the words:
in sickness and in health,
in sorrow and in joy,
for better or for worse,
for richer or for poorer,
in good times and in bad…

I will NOT sit down, let down, slow down,
calm down, fall down, look down nor be down

I refuse to put my eyes on outward circumstances,
or listen to prophets of doom.

I will not buy into what is trendy, worldly, popular,
convenient, easy, quick,
thrifty, or advantageous.
Nor will I settle for a cheap imitation of God’s real thing.

I will not seek to lower God’s standard,
twist God’s will, rewrite God’s word,
violate God’s covenant,
or accept what God hates—which is namely… divorce!

In a world of filth, I will stay pure.
Even though surrounded by lies I will speak the truth.
Where hopelessness abounds,
I will hope in GOD.

Where revenge is easier, I will bless instead of curse;
and where the odds are stacked against me,
I will trust in God’s faithfulness.

and I will not acquiesce, compromise, quarrel or quit…
I have made the choice.

I have set my face, entered the race, believed the Word,
and TRUSTED GOD for the outcome.

I will allow neither the reaction of my spouse,
nor the urging of my friends,
the advice of my loved ones,
economic hardship,
nor the prompting of the devil
to make me let up, slow up, blow up, or give up


The above poem is featured on the Home page of the web site Rejoiceministries.org. This web site, and their entire ministry, is designed to encourage and give hope to those who are standing in the gap believing God for a miracle in their marriages. They supply its reader’s more than 18 pages of testimonies of restored marriages and over 72 pages where you’re able to read individual letters of praise to God for answers to prayer and testimonies of God’s faithfulness through the various difficulties they’ve encountered in their marriages and families.

You can read the testimonies and the stories of restored marriages by clicking into them from the side bar of the Home page of their web site.

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111 responses to “I Am Standing For The Healing Of My Marriage!

  1. I read the above poem and I am floored at how perfectly the words and feelings were presented. I have been married for 19 years and without warning have found myself on the edge of divorce with my wife. We are both Christians and are active in our church. We have two beautiful children together aged 16 & 11.

    I am in serious pain as I am forced to evaluate all that has seemingly crashed in on me without warning. My wife will not talk to me about the issues that got us to this point. I did a lot of self evaluation and know that I have likely not met all her emotional needs and at times was critical of her. Somewhere she decided that she has had enough. She has hardened her heart against me and I do fear there is someone else involved.

    She has agreed to counseling but I know from her temperament and actions that she is rejecting it all. She has shut me out, and she has shut God out. I did a search about standing up for your marriage and it brought me to this site. This was heaven sent for me. It is exactly how I feel despite knowing the odds are so stacked against me at the moment. She blamed me recently for not “standing up for her” over a given situation that I had absolutely no control over. It hurt me deeply. What man would not feel that pain? We are our wife’s protector in every sense and to be told so coldly that you were not doing your duty was devastating.

    Well, we have a counseling session scheduled for today. Today I am going to show her that her man is going to take a stand. I am going to read this to her as I feel every word of it. I am sure I will be blamed for being controlling or overly demanding or trying to one up her religiously. At this point I do not care. I have to make it known that I am not letting my marriage and my family evaporate before me. God saw to it that we met and blessed our union. I am not going to let this marriage go.

    I decided before God and my family and friends that I was going to take her as my wife till death. I am going to honor my commitment. I pray this does not drive her away even further as she seems to be trying to find any and all excuses at the moment to back up her disastrous plan. Thanks be to God for all that he is. I know that whatever happens HE WILL NOT ABANDON ME !!!!!

    1. It breaks my heart to read these type of stories. I went through a similar situation with my separated wife and feel your pain. You finally realize how to be the man she wants but she has given up and no longer wants that from you. She feels the “grass will be greener” and the people around you and her somewhat encourage the seperation. As if the vows meant nothing.
      Like you I truly love my wife and will tell you I did everything wrong. I begged, pleaded, cried, broke down but it was if she just looked right through me with no compassion.

      Look up Joe Beam and read some of his articles on how to take care of you. I have none of the answers because I long for my wife and friend but I am trying to get through it day by day. Don’t try and convince her as she will think you are trying to control her.

      1. I’ve been in the same situation. My wife was a Godly woman in every aspects of her life. It was her who told me about Christ. Now she’s gone for 3 months, already living with another man. I begged, cried, plead, all for the worse. It hurts a lot seeing our best friend, lover, life companion looking down at us with cold heart.

    2. I’m in the same position. I found God, I changed, I became a better person, a better wife and now he doesn’t want me anymore after 5 and 1/2 yrs of marriage. He says he doesn’t love me, he’s not in love with me, he doesn’t care. Just asked for the divorce last night. It’s so heart breaking. I’m in so much pain I don’t know what to do with myself. I want to hold on, I still have faith, I believe God will heal our marriage. Yet he says, no, he doesn’t believe in marriage and seems to not even believe in God anymore. I don’t know if there’s another woman. I do know he has changed ever since he started to hang out more with his coworkers. They’re all in their 20s, drink, party, and do drugs. I’m not sure if to let him go and give him a divorce as he seems so unhappy and I love him so much I just want him to be happy or if I should hold on and keep fighting in prayer.

      1. I hope things are better now. Join us in prayer. 1 am (Eastern) Monday, Wednesday, Saturday–wee hours of the morning. Marriage prayer call.

  2. I have been standing for a little over 4 years. I am very tired. I have suffered embarrassment, ridicule, and personal attacks from family members and the workplace because of my spouse’s decision to leave our marriage. There is no support around me. I have been labeled by others including so called Christians. They gossiped but not one of these believers offered to pray with me. Not a single one. I have had to single handedly defend my marriage and what I understand as the word of God regarding marriage. People who have cheated or left their marriages talked down to me. People who were married on paper but not in spirit have mocked and attacked me. This all has affected my health. I am a very strong person but I am very, very tired. I want to give up on this marriage, this person who has given up on me. My life is on hold. I don’t like this. I want a healthy marrige. A loving, godly marriage. I want to give up on this stand. Please pray that I will have peace and God’s clear purpose for me.

    1. HelpmeLord, I know your pain. I have been standing almost as long as you and have several friends who have been doing as long and even longer than you. The Lord isn’t finished yet. Ignore those people who criticize your stand. They do so, because your godly stand threatens them. Just be the light. God hates divorce! Jesus contrary to the position the church has taken did not give an out from marriage. Stand strong and firm in your saviour! I know that bone weariness you speak of, it plagues me as well but let God be your strength in your weakness. Please do go to Rejoice Marriage Ministries, they will replenish you.

  3. I am going through a difficult time at present. My wife and I have been experiencing problems for many years. At this point she has asked me to leave the family home. She told me that I should not contact her and she simply wants to be free. I know in my heart that God can deal with this situation. As hard as it is each day, I have a very deep sense of faith. I believe that God can & will heal my marriage.

    My wife makes no effort to contact me and I know that she has been in other relationships. But despite this, I have a deep yearning in my heart to hold unto my marriage and not to let go. Please can you pray for us? Please pray that God will restore our marriage in Jesus name.

  4. My husband was having an afair for 2 years and also moved out 3 times. I let the children visit him but said I don’t want that other lady near them because we are still married. My husband moved back home but the other woman has a baby and first the baby come to our house for a hour and then again for 2 hours. Now, she doesn’t want to let the baby come anymore because I didn’t want my children near her so she is not letting her child near me or my house. My husband is the only one who can see the child at her house. I don’t want him to have a relationship with his kind of woman. Please pray for us because my husband is not very settled and is never at home and we don’t talk more than 3 sentences a day and most of the time we only see each for an hour a day if I wait up for him.

  5. Hello dear fellow Standers. We are trying to gather Standers around the world to fight as one army against a common enemy coming against all our marriages and families. From Monday 4, July 2016 Mondays all over the world will be fasting and prayer day for Standers everywhere. Please join and tell any other standers to join knowing that we are each doing far more than just adding our own strength. The Bible tells us that one can send a thousand fleeing but two can send ten thousand fleeing. Fighting each and every Monday as one body should bring forth a tidal wave of breakthroughs. God Bless you all 💝💝

    1. Yes, I will join you in fasting and/or prayer on Mondays!!!

    2. Sally,

      I am in agreement with your prayers for prodigal and standers around the world and I will join you starting tomorrow in prayer and fasting