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I Don’t Love My Husband Anymore – Lysa Terkeurst


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2 Responses to “I Don’t Love My Husband Anymore – Lysa Terkeurst”
  1. Gugu says:

    (SOUTH AFRICA) I am 28 yrs old, had been married 5 yrs until last year when my husband filed for a divorce which left me disappointed and angry. I even ended up at a hospital for 3 weeks suffering from depression. I started praying for my situation, got out of the with a positive outlook and so much faith that things will work out.

    At the time, my estranged husband wasn’t talking to me at all, he kicked me out of the house, so I had to find my own place to stay. I still loved him and prayed so much for things to work out and go back to normal. He went to court for our divorce hearing after I had signed for the settlement stating I don’t anything from him anymore except money for rent for a couple of months until I found a job.

    I haven’t gotten my divorce decree to this day, I am not even sure about my marital status. God finally answered my prayers this year. My husband came back, infact moved in my apartment. It was fun for a few months but now I wish I let him go; he hasn’t changed a bit. I’m so tired of praying for this marriage, it feels like my energy has been drained. I feel like I’ve fallen out of love; I have no desire to be with him anymore…even decided I want to move on with my life now. He refuses to change his ways, he doesn’t want to go to church & he says he doesn’t believe in God. He’s in a foul mood every single day. I understand he hasn’t had a job for almost a year now, which will explain his mood but he’s not concerned about our relationship, infact he doesn’t care at all.

    I want him to leave me if he can’t bring happiness to my life. And I don’t know if it’s the right thing. Oh did I mention he is 42 yrs old, 13yrs older than me & we have a 5 yr old son. He has gambling problems, drinking & smoking. He has an impulsive disorder. He doesn’t like discussing feelings which frustrates me because I’m very expressive. I need to make a decision, so tired of feeling like I’m behind bars and self pitying myself.

    • Louise says:

      (UNITED STATES) Oh my gosh, you are in such a good position. My husband has very low self-esteem. When I met him he was not my type at all. He has a tendency to get a girlfriend before he leaves the one he is with. I met him when he was ending a relationship. I’m going to have to shorten this, however. Before we got married he went to prostitutes and he cheated on me with a co-worker. I didn’t miss him until he left.

      Years later we had an argument and we separated. I thought it was because of the argument. He later told me he was with someone else for the past 3 years and she is also married. He would not tell me who she was. I found out through the grace of God who she was and told her husband. He unfortunately immediately left her. Her husband wasn’t very sexual with her because she had an STD, which there is currently no cure. I prayed daily. I took the time to read and reflect on what the Bible says about marriage. I realized I was not being the wife God made for him. There were moments when I almost got involved with someone else but I believe the angels blocked that from happening.

      My husband had no intention on coming back, however, God had another plan. We eventually got back together. I was happy for the opportunity to put into practice being a good biblical wife. I asked God to make sure he does not cheat on me again. I trust he will not. The issue is my husband does not worship God. He believes in several theories of creation. I only believe in one. God created the world and Jesus Christ died for our sins. I enjoy TBN, 700 club. I tithe and donate my earnings, not his. My husband does not believe in giving money, helping others. I’ve always had passions like this since I was a child. I will love to foster care or adopt. My husband is waiting until the kids are old enough. He does not want to adopt.

      I believe my marriage was restored so I could be a good Christian wife and so I could know that maybe my husband is not the Christian husband that I pray for. I pray for a Christian husband that I can minister with -it may be the man I’m with now or it may be someone else.

      One big mistake me and you made at first -We put our husbands before God. When we first got back together I used to turn my Christian shows off when he walked in the room because of his sarcastic remarks. If my husband leaves me again, I will be fine. It’s very difficult to live with a non-believer. They constantly invite demons and unclean spirits into your home.

      Please take this opportunity to grow your relationship with God. Cry out to the Lord and ask him what you should do. Once you show God that you can live without what you are asking for and still be happy –that’s when you’ll receive it. Frankly, if you are divorced do not remarry him until he is the Christian husband you want him to be. Please try to make sure the next man you are physically intimate with is the husband that God has sent you.

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