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Marriage Miracles – Marriage Message #138

“Two thousand years ago, in the midst of a marriage, Jesus met an impossible need with His supernatural intervention. Today, the scene is set again with you and the one you have promised your life to. The couple, the need —the miracle.” (Ron Hutchcraft)

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Being in marriage ministry, Cindy and I find it interesting that Jesus chose to perform His first miracle at a wedding —His glory revealed in marriage. (You can read about it in John 2:1-11.)

We believe that most marriages face times when they need a touch from God. We are certain, that if we had not “invited Christ” into our lives and marriage back in 1974, in all likelihood, we would be divorced by now (and we’d certainly never be in marriage ministry.) Even today, many years later, we still depend on the Lord’s help to keep our marriage strong —one that reflects the heart of Christ.

In his book, “Start Your Trip With A Full Tank” (no longer in print), Ron Hutchcraft talks about “Marriage Miracles” which can be an encouragement for all of us. He writes:

“Maybe your marriage could use a miracle right now. That day in Cana there was a change that no man or woman could make. Nobody can change water into wine, but Jesus did. Maybe right now some change is urgently needed in your home. There is a need that must be met if your relationship is going to be what it needs to be.

“Maybe it is time for Cana revisited —a marriage miracle. Right now there’s a strain, a distance, resentment, and frustration. Maybe there are thoughts of bitterness and giving up.

“Have you been to your knees yet? Have you prayed —pouring out your mess, your pain, and your dark feelings to the Lord —crying out together for Jesus’ healing in your marriage? The less you feel like doing it, the more you need to. And if your partner will not, don’t let that stop you.

“This passage in John 2, says Jesus had been invited to this wedding, to this marriage. If you have not done so before, why not invite Him into your marriage? Close the door on quitting. Ask God to show you the HOPE FACTORS you can build upon. You have looked at the hopelessness factors long enough. Can you pray this? ‘Lord, we can’t make it work. And we/I don’t know how You would,  but we beg You to help us to do what WE CAN’T, at this point in our marriage.'”

If both of you are followers of Christ, yet your unhappiness causes you to feel like giving up on your marriage, we urge you to empty yourselves of whatever agendas you may be clinging onto. Pray TOGETHER that God will pour out His Spirit of reconciliation upon you and help you see the hope factors, and learn how to become partners rather than adversaries, to the glory of God.

“If happiness is our primary goal, we’ll get a divorce as soon as happiness seems to wane. If receiving love is our primary goal, we’ll dump our spouse as soon as they seem to be less attentive. But if we marry for the glory of God, to model His love and commitment to our children, and reveal His witness to the world, divorce makes no sense.” (Gary Thomas)

Fred and Florence Littauer in their book, Daily Marriage Builders for Couples, give the following thoughts on “Curing Marriage Problems.” They wrote:

“Is there any hope? Is there any possibility that change can be affected in your lives in the way you treat one another? Can you change the way you react to your mate when something unkind or cutting is said to you? Somehow on our own we are not able to control our own reactions to what we perceive to be hurtful negatives. But the Bible tells me I can do all things! Yes, we can do all things, but we must complete the verse: ‘I can do all things THROUGH CHRIST who strengthens me.

“There lies the answer. All my known resolutions will probably go for naught, but when I enlist the Lord Jesus to help me, to do what I cannot do on my own, amazing and rewarding changes can take place. We must not, however, forget the first part of that verse. It says, ‘I can do all things.‘ We are not directed to let Christ to do it for us. We must do it ourselves BUT with His help.”

Oswald Chambers wrote:

“We cannot do what God does and …God will not do what we can do. We cannot save ourselves nor sanctify ourselves, God does that; but God will not give us good habits. He will not give us character. He will not make us walk aright. We have to get into the habit of hearkening to God about everything, to form the habit of finding out what God says.”

Bible teacher, Beth Moore, who has worked through her share of marital problems, reminds us:

“Sometimes God works through miracles and other times through the individual.”

…”When we trust our lives to the unseen but ever-present God, He will write our lives into His story and every last one of them will turn out out be a great read, with a grand ending.”

But we must not lose sight of the ultimate “grand ending” we’re to aim for in our lives as followers of Jesus Christ. It’s is to one day hear the Lord tell us, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”

Paul Tripp, in his book, What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage challenges us with the following thoughts:

“Our desire is that our marriages would be the location of our comfort, ease, and enjoyment; we often have desires no bigger than this. But God’s purpose is that each of our marriages would be a tool for something that is way more miraculous and glorious than our tiny, little, self-focussed definition of happiness. He has designed marriage to be one of the most effective and efficient tools of personal holiness. He has designed your marriage to change you.”

Another reminder from Beth Moore may be good to consider:

“We lose our strength when we wait upon an event, but our strength will be renewed when we wait upon the Lord.”

Keep your eyes upon the Lord. Ask for HIS perspective, HIS strength, and HIS help in unraveling this thing —to help you approach issues in your marriage in ways that reflect His heart. When you do, the results will be no less miraculous than when Jesus turned the water into wine.

May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! (Romans 15:5-6)

Steve and Cindy Wright

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71 Responses to “Marriage Miracles – Marriage Message #138”
  1. Michelle says:

    (USA)  Please pray that my marriage will be healed and saved. Help my husband, Ken to want to love me again. Fill him with God’s unconditional love and help him to know God’s truth. Give Ken the wisdom to end his affair with Kirvan. help Kirvan to leave my husband alone. Fill her with the Holy Spirit and help her to find a good man who is available. Protect our two small children so they will not feel the pain of our situation. Continue to increase my strength and faith in God. Help me to trust God above all I see and feel. Thank you for the glorious miracle that I am receiving.

  2. Stephen says:

    (AUSTRALIA) Stephen and Tavia. A completely romantic Christ-centered marriage I ask Lord. Thank you for your blessings.

  3. Crystal says:

    (USA) My husband and I are unequally yoked. Although he was saved to my knowledge before we got married God allowed me, but did not call me into this marriage, and it has been a nightmare. We got pregnant a year and half after we met and God called me to Himself through our first born. I did not marry him right away but a few years later. We have been together 16 years, 10 married.

    I feel like I need to live for God’s glory. I’m weary overall and wish I was loved and accepted for who I am, but I’m not. I live often mistreated, criticized constantly and lonely. I’m attempting to sow in tears and bloom where I am planted. I took this position almost four years ago.

    Please pray that I would live for His glory. Please pray for my heart to heal from all the pain. Please pray for my husband’s heart. That God would draw Him to Himself, taking away his heart of stone and giving him a heart of flesh and a new Spirit (Ezekiel). Please pray for protection over our family, we have two sons and a daughter. And that God would restore the years the locusts have eaten. Praise Him that one day He will return and all the sorrow and pain will be done! Glory to God!

  4. HARRIET says:

    (UGANDA) Please pray for my relationship which is not going on well. -Harriet and Selly

  5. Harriett says:

    (UGANDA) Please pray for my relationship which is not going on well. -Harry and Selly

  6. Prencess says:

    (US) Today I have gotten on my knees, cried & asked God to breathe life into my broken marriage. When my husband came home from work, he said he’s had enough & wants a divorce (placing his ring on his other hand to show that the marriage is over in his heart, mind & spirit). I stood in his face & said “NO”, that God has the final say on this (in which he said that divorce is what the spirit of God wants him to do).

    As my heart broke into a billion pieces I told him, (asking GOD for strength not to give in to the enemy) “IT AIN’T OVER TILL GOD SAYS IT’S OVER. I LOVE YOU STILL.” I use “The Power Of A Praying Wife book by Stormie Omartian as a guide on how to pray for my husband, his attitude, emotions, etc., because it’s the only thing that keeps me from falling apart.

    As desperate as I am to give my husband what he wants, a voice inside of me say’s “FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE & DON’T GIVE UP, I WOULD BREATHE LIFE IN YOUR MARRIAGE, WHERE LOVE HAS DIED. NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS OR DO, DON’T GIVE UP I AM HERE.” …Please pray with me that the enemy loses this battle & that God will give us the victory. Thank you & God Bless!

    • Oz says:

      (US) Prencess, I am in your same situation with my wife. I pray to God he saves my marriage as I pray for yours, as well. Please, tell me how things are with you and your husband. I have a lot of Faith and Hope in God that he will help me move this mountain of separation, will cast the temptations of the devil away from her and our marrriage, and will let us reunite once more to live His life how He wants us to. Please, if you can read this, say a prayer for my marriage, for my wife to come home. I say all this in the name of the Lord Christ Jesus. Amen

    • Bonnie from United States says:

      I am going through the exact same thing right now. Do you have any words of wisdom or hope?

    • Smita from India says:

      Praying.

    • Prencess from United States says:

      Still praying for mine & yours.

  7. Anna says:

    (INDIA) Please pray for me. I have been broken for the last 20 years. 24 months ago the biggest hit happened. The rose tinited glass has shattered. I see all as it really is. Please help me God.

  8. Gracey says:

    (SOUTH AFRICA) Today we face the challenge of the final blow on our marriage restoration after over 30 years. Satan is out to kill and destroy generations, but we are more than conquerers through Christ Jesus. For this we have Jesus. We desperately need God’s divine supernatural power to wipe out the family devourer worldwide by the mighty Power of God. Please pray for us as we ask God’s Power to take hold of our situation and turn it into a beautiful testimony of hope for the nations. Believing the God of the impossible. -Family of Hope

  9. Aila says:

    (PHILIPPINES) I want to tell you something about my prayer request? for my husband & restoration marriage. My husband decided to be separated to me already. He doesn’t have love for me anymore & he can’t back me anymore 100%. I got hurt my heartache and am suffering now. I have one my son, 3 yrs old. I really need my husband back together with our family & supporting our family. Please pray for my husband. Let God touch his heart & his mind for the Lord. He is unchristian but he ignores my verses and shares God’s word already. I am patience the Lord will help me. I am really praying all night, day, & week. I am crying to the Lord. I tell God how I feel? Pray for his mom in law to allow us restoration of our marriage. I know his mom wants to separate us.. It hurts too much… thanks and God bless. -Che

    • Letila says:

      (AUSTRALIA) I pray in Jesus name for the restoration of this marriage. Lord, I speak against the work of the enemy in this marriage. The interference of family influence i know is the work of the devil, in Jeus matchless name I speak against and bind every work of the devil in this lady’s life, her son’s life and her husband’s life. Lord, redirect the husband to know his place in his home and that is the head of this household. In Jesus name I pray.

  10. Letila says:

    (AUSTRALIA) Dear God, I ask for a miracle to restore my marriage today. I pray my husband to return to me today. We have been married for 10 years and I believe that God didn’t put me in this marriage just to get me out now. Please God save my marriage now; in Jesus name I pray.

  11. Busi says:

    (SOUTH AFRIA) I need my husband back i cheated on my marrraige.

  12. Finky says:

    (SOUTH AFRICA) Please pray for me and my husband; his name is Joseph and I’m Finky. We had a miscarriage last year in Nov and are now trying to have our first child. This has put a lot of strain on our marriage. We are praying and trusting God for twins these year.

    Please pray for us as this has made me very sad. I’m at a place where I feel like giving up or committing suicide. And we just got married last yer.

  13. Minnie says:

    (UNITED STATES) Please pray for my marriage. I’ve been going through a really hard time. My husband really doesn’t want anything to do with our son and me, but I have a feeling we will get back together. Thank you.

  14. Kesha from United States says:

    I ask for your prayers and interceding prayers on behalf of my husband, who has asked me for a divorce. I love him and he still loves me, but our relationship has been strained recently and he is no longer sure that love is enough for us to make it. I have gone before the throne of God with prayer. But I am asking for you to pray also for my husband and I, that we can get back to the place/state where we first fell in love, communicate better, and renew our lifetime commitment to each other to a place where our relationship will never be threatened again. I feel like we need a miracle and I have faith in God to perform. I believe that the prayer of the righteous avails much and I believe that the institution of marriage is to be protected and fought for. Thank you in advance for your prayers and God bless!

    • Cindy Wright from United States says:

      Kesha, I’m praying for you and for your husband. You say that you both love each other. Do you both love the Lord and do both of you believe He can work miracles and resurrect that which is dead?

  15. Sarah from United States says:

    Please pray for my husband’s salvation and the restoration of our marriage. We have been married almost 8 years with 3 children. He no longer wishes to be married and has begun saying incredibly cruel things to me. I do not believe in divorce but I am a broken soul who cannot go any farther alone. I know God is with me. I am asking for prayers that he will soften my husband’s heart and turn him back to his family. I ask that his soul be filled with God’s love and that our family not be destroyed by bitterness, hatred and divorce.

  16. Caring person from United States says:

    Pray for no divorce for Cortney and Blake.

  17. Josh from United States says:

    Please pray that God will send my wife home to me and our kids. I need a miracle. I am devastated. Thanks.

  18. Diane from United States says:

    Please! Please! Pray for our marriage! It’s in Critical Condition! My husband filed for divorce. He’s been gone 2 years after he got a big inheritance. Today is our 34th wedding anniversary. Please pray as I miss him and want him to come home and stop divorce. He abandoned me after rededicating his life to the Lord then promising to grow old together, saying that he’d never do what he’s doing right now. I’m so depressed that I’ve seriously thought really bad thoughts. Although I’m far from perfect, my walk with Christ was strong when this happened. This makes me feel like a terrible person, but I know I was doing things right. Divorce is right around the corner so please pray for Glenn and Diane. We need probably the biggest marriage miracle ever!!! Today is our anniversary so his coming home would be the best gift ever in the history of our marriage!!! I’m devastated beyond belief. God help us.

  19. Chris and Lauren from United States says:

    My wife and I have been separated for over three months. Just recently the Holy Spirit overwhelmed me and broke me. I now am a follower of Jesus. My wife has a hard heart and is bitter right now. I need all the prayers we can get for the Holy Spirit to break through her hardened heart and get some light into the darkness. Please pray for us. We have a 7 and 8 year old that is being effected as well. Please pray that we can reconcile soon so the devil doesn’t do anymore damage.

  20. Liz from United States says:

    Dear God, please help me heal my marriage and my husband. Please show me how to help heal the damage we have done with words that cut like daggers. Help me to heal the actions we took while in rage that tore our hearts apart. Please God I beg of you help me save my marriage. I forgive my husband, forgive wrongful actions and regret not forgiving him before. I pray it is not too late.

    Please Lord forgive me for my wrongful actions I took when angry with my husband. Please soften his heart for me. Please open his heart and mind to me to be able to see the love I have for him and for him to see the error in his ways. I humbly beg of you God give me hope again.

    I feel regret, guilt, despair, anxiety, heart ache, and loneliness… I am sorry Lord. Please, please, please forgive me. Please do not let my husband break our covenant of marriage. He has started the process and I need a miracle Lord. I need You to come to my need and answer my request. Marriage is sacred and is a special bond between who you designated us to be with and take our journey with.

    Please Lord let my husband see he is making a mistake and a rash decision due to anger/hurt and pride. Please let him see and feel my love and please bring my husband back to me so we can reconcile this marriage before it is lost for good. Please Dear Lord I beg of you from the bottom if my heart to lend your blessing and hand this way. Amen

  21. Faye from United States says:

    Please pray that God’s will, will be done in my marriage –that my husband would be saved and that he would be the head of the house as God called him to be, and that I would be a help meet for him. Pray that his love for me would be restored and if there be another woman that God would deliver him. Please pray my strength in the Lord.

  22. Amanda from United States says:

    Please pray for God to intervene in my marriage. My husband filed for divorce because I had an affair. I made a terrible mistake that is costing me everything. A lot was wrong leading up to it. I love my husband and still do. We have 2 little children 3 and 4. They need us. Please Lord, help us. Fill us with your love and strength to overcome all the obstacles we are facing. Need a miracle and prayers! Amanda and Jon

  23. Ann and Samuel from Uganda says:

    Pray for me, that my husband Samuel can love me again, come home, and we settle and look after our kid. Pray God will work a miracle for me because he left me with a young baby and I am not working.

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