Marriage Miracles – Marriage Message #138

“Two thousand years ago, in the midst of a marriage, Jesus met an impossible need with His supernatural intervention. Today, the scene is set again with you and the one you have promised your life to. The couple, the need —the miracle.” (Ron Hutchcraft)

Image credit: Stuart Miles, Freedigitalphotos.net
Image credit: Stuart Miles, Freedigitalphotos.net

Being in marriage ministry, Cindy and I find it interesting that Jesus chose to perform His first miracle at a wedding —His glory revealed in marriage. (You can read about it in John 2:1-11.)

We believe that most marriages face times when they need a touch from God. We are certain, that if we had not “invited Christ” into our lives and marriage back in 1974, in all likelihood, we would be divorced by now (and we’d certainly never be in marriage ministry.) Even today, many years later, we still depend on the Lord’s help to keep our marriage strong —one that reflects the heart of Christ.

In his book, “Start Your Trip With A Full Tank” (no longer in print), Ron Hutchcraft talks about “Marriage Miracles” which can be an encouragement for all of us. He writes:

“Maybe your marriage could use a miracle right now. That day in Cana there was a change that no man or woman could make. Nobody can change water into wine, but Jesus did. Maybe right now some change is urgently needed in your home. There is a need that must be met if your relationship is going to be what it needs to be.

“Maybe it is time for Cana revisited —a marriage miracle. Right now there’s a strain, a distance, resentment, and frustration. Maybe there are thoughts of bitterness and giving up.

“Have you been to your knees yet? Have you prayed —pouring out your mess, your pain, and your dark feelings to the Lord —crying out together for Jesus’ healing in your marriage? The less you feel like doing it, the more you need to. And if your partner will not, don’t let that stop you.

“This passage in John 2, says Jesus had been invited to this wedding, to this marriage. If you have not done so before, why not invite Him into your marriage? Close the door on quitting. Ask God to show you the HOPE FACTORS you can build upon. You have looked at the hopelessness factors long enough. Can you pray this? ‘Lord, we can’t make it work. And we/I don’t know how You would,  but we beg You to help us to do what WE CAN’T, at this point in our marriage.'”

If both of you are followers of Christ, yet your unhappiness causes you to feel like giving up on your marriage, we urge you to empty yourselves of whatever agendas you may be clinging onto. Pray TOGETHER that God will pour out His Spirit of reconciliation upon you and help you see the hope factors, and learn how to become partners rather than adversaries, to the glory of God.

“If happiness is our primary goal, we’ll get a divorce as soon as happiness seems to wane. If receiving love is our primary goal, we’ll dump our spouse as soon as they seem to be less attentive. But if we marry for the glory of God, to model His love and commitment to our children, and reveal His witness to the world, divorce makes no sense.” (Gary Thomas)

Fred and Florence Littauer in their book, Daily Marriage Builders for Couples, give the following thoughts on “Curing Marriage Problems.” They wrote:

“Is there any hope? Is there any possibility that change can be affected in your lives in the way you treat one another? Can you change the way you react to your mate when something unkind or cutting is said to you? Somehow on our own we are not able to control our own reactions to what we perceive to be hurtful negatives. But the Bible tells me I can do all things! Yes, we can do all things, but we must complete the verse: ‘I can do all things THROUGH CHRIST who strengthens me.

“There lies the answer. All my known resolutions will probably go for naught, but when I enlist the Lord Jesus to help me, to do what I cannot do on my own, amazing and rewarding changes can take place. We must not, however, forget the first part of that verse. It says, ‘I can do all things.‘ We are not directed to let Christ to do it for us. We must do it ourselves BUT with His help.”

Oswald Chambers wrote:

“We cannot do what God does and …God will not do what we can do. We cannot save ourselves nor sanctify ourselves, God does that; but God will not give us good habits. He will not give us character. He will not make us walk aright. We have to get into the habit of hearkening to God about everything, to form the habit of finding out what God says.”

Bible teacher, Beth Moore, who has worked through her share of marital problems, reminds us:

“Sometimes God works through miracles and other times through the individual.”

…”When we trust our lives to the unseen but ever-present God, He will write our lives into His story and every last one of them will turn out out be a great read, with a grand ending.”

But we must not lose sight of the ultimate “grand ending” we’re to aim for in our lives as followers of Jesus Christ. It’s is to one day hear the Lord tell us, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”

Paul Tripp, in his book, What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage challenges us with the following thoughts:

“Our desire is that our marriages would be the location of our comfort, ease, and enjoyment; we often have desires no bigger than this. But God’s purpose is that each of our marriages would be a tool for something that is way more miraculous and glorious than our tiny, little, self-focussed definition of happiness. He has designed marriage to be one of the most effective and efficient tools of personal holiness. He has designed your marriage to change you.”

Another reminder from Beth Moore may be good to consider:

“We lose our strength when we wait upon an event, but our strength will be renewed when we wait upon the Lord.”

Keep your eyes upon the Lord. Ask for HIS perspective, HIS strength, and HIS help in unraveling this thing —to help you approach issues in your marriage in ways that reflect His heart. When you do, the results will be no less miraculous than when Jesus turned the water into wine.

May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! (Romans 15:5-6)

Steve and Cindy Wright

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86 responses to “Marriage Miracles – Marriage Message #138

  1. Dear Father, please turn my husband’s heart back to you. Wrap your arms around him. Comfort him. Love him. Reveal yourself to him. Speak to his mind. Remind him of when he loved You and prayed to you and believed in you and depended on you. Do a surgical operation on his hardened heart. Remove bitterness and unforgiveness far from him. Fight against those who fight against him.

    Arise mighty God, and let every principality and power fighting our marriage scatter! Let every weapon being formed against me and my husband fail to prosper. Bitterness go! Unforgiveness go! Adultery go! Intent to divorce go in the name of Jesus and by the power of His blood. Transform me Lord to become the wife that my husband can once again love. I plead the blood of Jesus against every plan of my husband to leave our home, me and our two young children.

    Mighty God, I pray for an 11th hour miracle. Disappoint every plan of my husband to prepare documents of divorce. What God has joined together, let not man, woman, principality, power, spiritual wickedness in high places put asunder. Marriage is good, and the marriage bed is undefiled.

    My husband, you have broken our marriage covenant, defiled our marriage bed, but I forgive you. I’ve hurt you with words. I want you to forgive me.

    Lord, work your way through my husband’s heart. Heal every artery, every valve, every chamber. Restore unto him the joy of your salvation. Renew a right spirit in him. Even his accomplices in adultery. Visit them, Lord. Work your way into their hearts. Open their eyes that they may see. Mighty God, there is nothing too hard for you to do. I am decreeing and declaring and I am calling my husband’s restored heart done!

  2. My name is Reverend Vanessa from Zimbabwe. Please, please Man of God, pray for my life my sister Esther. She is H.I.V and she is really suffering and in so much pain. My life is full of misery. My husband has also tormented me. His name is Justin. He is a pastor but he has caused me a lot of suffering. He has been in prison twice now for attempted rape. I married him in 1996. I was a pastor in a church where he was serving as a deacon.

    Please men of God, this man has tortured my soul and he has enslaved my royalty. I’m in distress, with hardships, setbacks, stagnation, business failures, financial distress. I’m broke. People owe me a lot of money, yet I’m in deep, deep poverty. I’m failing to pray fervently as I used to do. we have separated 3 times in 19 yrs. He has fathered many children with many women during our separation. I don’t know what to do. He has left home again. Each time he comes back he only stays three months. I wedded and made vows to GOD with this man. He’s my wedded husband. I tried to get married to someone but it never worked. This man beats me, bruises me, curses me, humiliates me, yet I’ve taken care of his mom, his kids with other women; I’ve taken care for him in prison with his day to day supplies from 2012-7. August 2014 when he came out of prison, I bought everything for him. He doesn’t appreciate me, Please, please pray for my marriage. I don’t know why I love a man who has hurt me so much, deserted me many times and still I always have loved him. This has brought pain to my family.

    I need deliverance, men of God. Help me; please pray for my husband. Please, he is in bondage and I have been dreaming a lot of bad dreams even about prison. I need healing in my whole life. My husband should come back home a reformed and saved man and as a pastor. Please, I need reconciliation and forgiveness, deliverance, healing, and restoration. I want to be a living testimony to the glory of GOD. Can GOD heal and restore my marriage? To be delivered from Relationship Killers: insecurity, trust issues, Facebook, jealousy, lack of communication, assumptions and infidelity?

    1. Oh! My sister, I never knew so many people were hurting this bad in their marriages. Oh Christ, have mercy on our afflictions. These desperations, oh Lord, sustain our brokenness for many times our tragedies seem beyond human capacity to bear.

  3. Please pray to restore my marriage life. My wife is short tempered and doesn’t like my widowed mother staying with me. She is old and needs medical help. I miss my wife and son. I am from India.

  4. Please pray for Ryan and me… so that God increases the love in our hearts for each other …God gives us the strength to face any challenge that comes our way causing a strain in our love for each other ….God unites us both in marriage and makes our bond so strong that no man can divide us.

  5. My name is Maria, but it’s not my full name. My husband Justin went to his home town on October 13, 2015 after 7 years and now he has fully changed. He talks very rude and whatever I say he takes wrongly. He talks to his family, relatives, and friends for hours and if I say something he tells me that he needs freedom and happiness and he is not happy with me and wants to leave as soon as his family calls him. He is a nice person though. We had small fights and we used to get along in hours or in a day.

    Now they have changed him fully. They don’t want him to leave with me so he says lies to them that he is living with his friends. Please pray for me to the Almighty God that my Justin should not change no matter what comes; he should not change. No other women or girls are to be in his life and no other relationships should break us. For his sake I left my whole family, brothers, and sister, and I don’t talk to anybody as he was not liking anybody from my family. I came from far away. I have even insulted them for his sake but not from my heart. It’s ok. I know they’ll forgive me and understand.

    My husband Justin please, he should not leave me at any cost, no other relationship or girls should enter his shadow. I know his parents will force him to get married to other beautiful girls but I want my God to help me and him not to get into any such relationships. All are telling him to go to abroad but please I know he will change completely. I had lived with him more than 10 years but the way he talks we went through so many ups and downs and he I did not conceive a second child becoz he was not interested. But now I ask the God to help me to conceive at least when any such things happen. I want to keep the child in his rememberance and live. Please God, all I ask my Justin in 2005 & 2006 he used to kneel and pray to mother Mary to unite us not to be separated but now if I say that he says that time he was young and did not know what life is. Please God you can change so many disasters. Please help me. All I ask is my Justin should accept me as I am and to love me and stay with us and not betray us.

  6. Pray that God will heal my broken marriage and my wife’s, (Sandy), hardened heart. She has moved out, sleeping with another man, and threatens divorce, which is not in accord. with Rev.22:18,19 and Eccl. 5:4-7. Pray that the Lord will send a messenger in her path to remind her of her vows, the consequences of divorce, and to reconcile this marriage in accordance with God’s perfect will.
    Pray that Sandy will not file for divorce. Pray a protecting hedge of thornbushes around Sandy, rebuking Satan, all demonic forces and all who attempt to destroy our marriage. I’m trusting in God’s intervention for the miracle of Marriage Restoration by pleading the blood of Jesus over our covenant…”but with God all things are possible.”

  7. I was not a good man to my wife Mariah. I treated her like a possession and bought her material things more than I ever filled her up with my true love and care for her. I should have been there for her emotionally as much as I was physically and left all of the mature things behind many months ago but I didn’t and now our marriage is falling before my eyes.

    Dear God, I need a miracle from you to fill her with your love for me again and for our commitment to one another. I need your unfailing and great love to fill me again Lord, so that I may be the man I know I am capable of being rather than the one I play out in my head that everyone likes. God, I need a miracle, because I’ve failed my wife and let her down on multiple occasions with my anger and my temper and I know I cannot be capable of change without your eternal love.

    Please, anyone that reads this keep my marriage in your prayers because I need a miracle to get through this time in my life. I need my wife again.

  8. Please pray my husband loves me again and that my marriage is completely restored. I really want my husband and kids back; please please help pray for a miracle. Please, I also need a miracle for my finances. Please help me.

  9. I am rajeev from india. please pray for me. I have been looking to get married for many years. I want the very best and beautiful life partner. Please pray for me.

  10. Please pray for my wife Lola and me, Leon. My wife left me on 20 April 2016, says she does not love me. She is gone with my kids. I cannot judge what is happening. But I believe with a collective of prayers God can soften her heart and change the situation around. Thank you for your prayers in advance. God Bless you all.