Money, it can be a blessing or a curse, all depending upon the way you approach it. When you manage it well, it can be a blessing. But when you don’t or can’t, it certainly brings one to want to curse.
When it comes to money and marriage, the blessing and curse issue is applicable, as well. Money issues can bring out the best and worse in us —especially if we allow it to divide us, rather than work together to manage it as best as possible.
“Money issues need to be talked about. Many people try to avoid subjects (or really anything) they don’t like or are afraid of. You have to face the giants. If your finances are a mess, you have to face up to the truth. How can you expect to move a mountain that you refuse to admit exists?” (Bob Lotich, from Christianpf.com article, Money and Marriage: 7 Lessons I Have Learned So Far)
You may find it beneficial to read the rest of what Bob Lotich writes because money issues can be mountainous in how they can divide and separate you in your marriage.
It takes real teamwork to make your money work FOR you, in your marriage, rather than allow it to work against you and divide you.
In your marriage vows you most likely promised to “love, honor, and cherish” each other, “for better or for worse, for richer or poorer.” But when you said those vows to each other and to God, you may not have fully realized that the “better and worse” of times would visit you during the “richer or poorer” times —particularly during the times when you feel the poorest. THAT’S one of the many times in your marriage when you need to come together and show teamwork.
“Couples need to remember to work as team when dealing with their finances. Money is one of the most common sources of conflict in a marriage, regardless of whether the couple has only a little money or a lot of money. The problem, Dr Gary Chapman explains, is not the amount of money that a couple has, but their attitude toward money and how they handle it.
“Most people fit into one of two categories when it comes to money. They are either spenders or savers by nature. And people tend to marry their opposite when it comes to attitudes toward money, Chapman says. However, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, if the two can balance each other.” (Belinda Elliott, from CBN.com article, The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted)
And truly, that is what marriage is about so much of the time —balancing each other and finding ways to work together as a team, no matter what the issue is, no matter what it is that can divide you.
That’s why we put this web site together, and that’s why we have posted so many articles concerning finances. As a “cord of three strands” you and your spouse are to work within your marriage, with God, in working through your issues. Money issues can be one of the biggest, you will have to work through.
So, to start you out on this journey, below are several links to other web sites, which give scriptures dealing with money. Please read through them, and pray about how you can live together by the principles God presents in them. As the Bible says in Psalm 119:105, God’s Word can be a “lamp” to your feet and a “light” to your path.
May it be so, as you read:
If you need additional help after reading the scriptures above, I encourage you to read other articles posted in the Marriage and Finances topic, which could help you as well.
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