The following is a copy of our (Steve and Cindy Wright’s) personal Mission Statement for our marriage. These are the principles we are committed to live by throughout our lives together. We have them framed and hung in a prominent place so we can continually be reminded of that which is most important to us. You are welcome to use this guideline for constructing your own Personal Mission Statement:
We believe God has called us to live a life of love in our marriage in a pro-active, CHRIST-LIKE manner —regarding our GOD and each other as more important than ourselves. Further, we believe God has called us to be “MARRIAGE MISSIONARIES” to live, learn and lead others to live in healthy Covenantal Relationship with Christ and with each other.
BASIC CORE VALUES: We acknowledge the importance of living what we believe. In covenant with God and with each other we vow to “CHOOSE EACH OTHER” everyday in small and large ways. We pledge to:
• Honor God above all by submitting to the authority of His Word in all things-even at the sacrifice of our own desires.
• Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed. (Proverbs 16:3)
• The LORD, the God of Israel, declares: “I promised that your house and your Father’s house would minister before me forever,” but now the LORD declares: “Far be it from Me! Those who honor Me I will honor, but those who despise Me will be disdained.” (1 Samuel 2:30)
• Be imitators of God —living a life of sacrificial love just as Christ loved and gave Himself up for us.
• Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. (Ephesians 5:1-2)
• Love, honor, and cherish each other as “unto the Lord” in word and deed until we’re parted by death. We will protect each other’s feelings both at home and in public.
• A new command I give you: Love one another as I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. (John 13:34)
• So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. (1 Corinthians 10:23)
• Whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to GOD the Father through Him. (Colossians 3:17)
• Keep the lines of communication open so we grow together in our relationship in “an understanding way.” We’ll speak regularly about those things that are important to us and will not allow life to slide us apart physically, spiritually, or emotionally.
• A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions. (Proverbs 18:2)
• A wise man’s heart guides his mouth, and his lips promote instruction. Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. (Proverbs 16:23-24)
• Strive to keep short accounts when angry. We will work to identify the underlying cause of our anger when it occurs, and deal with it so we don’t give the enemy of our faith a foothold into dividing us against each other.
• A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. (Proverbs 17:27)
• Take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. (James 1:19-20)
• In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
• Forgive one another. When we cross a line into unhealthy anger, we will seek the other’s forgiveness for the hurt we’ve caused. We will forgive each other as Christ has forgiven us.
• Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ GOD forgave you. (Ephesians 4:31-32)
• For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. (Matthew 6:14-15)
• Continually provide each other with words of encouragement combined with affectionate touch —knowing this is necessary for the health of our relationship.
• Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29-30)
• Prayerfully and emotionally support the character growth of our spouse. We will work to build each other up spiritually and emotionally —supporting one another by our actions. We commit ourselves to pray with one another, and for one another.
• Rejoice with and cry with each other —sharing in each other’s joys, and heartaches —being sympathetically supportive of each other when one of us is hurting.
• Work to maintain protective hedges against sexual temptations and every sin that can so easily build itself up against Christ and against each other. When one of us has reason for concern, it’s to become a concern to the both of us. We will not allow anyone to tear apart what God has joined together.
• Put away immature game playing. We recognize that we’re called to maturity in our married lives and will seek to conduct ourselves accordingly.
• When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. But when I grew up, I put childish ways behind me. (1 Corinthians 13:11)
• Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil. (Hebrews 5:13-14)
• Infuse humor into our lives together so we don’t lose sight of the joy of the Lord and the healing power that laughter can bring.
• A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. (Proverbs 17:22)
• Reach out beyond our walls to be a spiritual help to others for Christ and will be supportive in each other’s efforts in this mission.
Now, ours is a bit longer, yet yours doesn’t have to be this complex. Below is a link to a web site, where Kristen explains and shows you what she and her family came up with, that helps them to be more intentional in how they lead their lives together: