Premarital Quiz Before You Say “I Do”
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Questions … questions … questions!!! What’s the point in asking each other so many questions before marriage? Well, there are many different reasons:

1. “You’ll never know everything about the person you’ve chosen to marry. But the more information you have before entering into this commitment, the less chance you will be confronted with unfulfillable expectations.” (From the book, Getting Ready for Marriage – by Jerry Hardin and Dianne Sloan)

It is good to do as much of your emotional work now before you marry rather than dumping a lot of unvoiced needs and expectations upon your partner after the marriage. You sure don’t want to set your marriage up for future problems and maybe even possible failure because expectations were never given a voice when it’s most productive and wise to do so!

As couples, we enter into marriage from two different vantage points and with a load of two different background experiences, which contribute to our expectations. That in itself, can lend itself to future clashes. It’s good to try to learn what you can (without living together first) so you can work through many of your differences before you marry. (There will be many, many more that you won’t be able to work through beforehand, so eliminate what you can while you’re preparing for marriage.)

2. It’s better to find out your differences now before you marry so you can decide if it truly is best for you to marry in the first place. It’s better to part ways now than it would be to have a failed marriage —especially with children involved. It’s a difficult situation to think about, but it’s the reality you should face. Asking each other the right questions and then working through the truthful answers, could help you to better know your compatibility.

3. Now is also a good time to learn the skill of building communication bridges together in mature ways. You will be so thankful you did. As you go through the various questions, work through any disagreements in ways that help your relationship grow stronger, rather than tearing it apart. This will take effort and intentionality to do this.

To help you with this, we have many articles and many recommended resources in the “Communication and Conflict” section, plus the “Communication Tools” section. And if you need a counselor to help teach you what you need to learn —again, now is a good time to do that so you’re better prepared for your marriage.

So, to point you to some good questions which you can ask each other, we are providing a few links below to web sites which have good lists that you may find helpful.

Please click onto the link below which is provided by the Narramore Foundation:

PRE-MARITAL QUIZ: Principles to Consider Before You Say “I Do”

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This article was written by Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International

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6 responses to “Premarital Quiz Before You Say “I Do”

    1. (USA)  The best charactistic of course, in choosing a spouse, is that your walk with Christ is the same as your potential spouse’s. However, after that area you need to remember that a spouse is to be your best friend. Love her because you love what she loves, just like you would any other friend. But remember your spouse is your best friend forever, not just some symbol of what once was, but of what always will be.

      We are given speciffic instructions by God that we are to love our spouse like Christ loves the Church, and we see that he was willing to suffer by torture and torment, before dying for his beloved church. Therefore, we see that we are to give all we can and take all we can to give our spouse everything we can. If you find someone you have feelings for but you aren’t willing to give your all she’s not the one.

  1. (SOUTH AFRICA)  What is the solution if you are saved and your partner believes in God and acknowledges God but is not saved?

  2. (SA) I will advise you if you are still not married, to walk away. The Bible clearly states the we should not have a marriage relationship with unbelievers. Spiritual inequality in a marriage will frustrate you in a long run; it’s not easy at all. But if you are already married, by the grace of God you are to stay and be an example of Christ in your marriage. God bless.

  3. (USA)  Jesus Is Lord Of Lords & King Of Kings. He is Faithful & True. Run to Him while you still can. REPENT; NOW is The time! Don’t wait another day, don’t wait another moment. He is waiting for You with His arms open wide!