What does the Bible say about Abuse and Domestic abuse? Does it even address it? The simple answer is YES! And that’s what we’d like you to be aware of because obviously those who believe otherwise need more information than they’ve up until now.
It is NOT ok for one spouse to commit violence against the other. It’s something God hates. And for those of you who are victims of abuse in your marriage, PLEASE don’t be fooled into thinking that you “deserve it” because your spouse tells you this is so and that the Bible even condones it. That is not true.
That’s why we have a whole section dealing with this subject —to help those who visit this web site become more aware of biblical truths concerning abuse.
That is also why we put together this article. The Bible says, “The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked and those who love violence his soul hates“ (Psalm 11:5). Anything God “hates” we should take note of and hate and reject as well.
Violence is not something the Lord condones in the home —especially within a Christian marriage where marriage is a living picture of Christ’s love for the church. Those who tell you that the Bible condones abuse in marriage are misguided and wrong.
To help prove this, lets look at what the Bible has to say about abuse. The following are web site links (to Focus Ministries and Suite 101) to articles you can click into so you can read:
These next two articles come from different web sites and hopefully, will help you further see that as Christians, we are wrong if we think that the Lord would sanction or condone abuse in the home.
The first article is written by Fiona Soltes and is posted on the web site for Lifeway Ministries. It gives an overall look at how Christians view abusive relationships and what they can and should do about it. Please click onto the link below to read:
This next article is posted on the web site BeenThinking.com where Bible teacher and author Mart De Haan reconsiders how he originally looked at abuse in marriage and what he’s since learned as he’s studied the Bible more in depth on this subject:
Another excellent article is posted on Todayschristianwoman.com web site. We believe you will find it helpful for those who are under the opinion that abuse is just about violence to the body. Yes, it is definitely that. But there is a whole mind set and behavioral pattern that includes control issues that go along with it as well.
The author Gwyneth Nelson never thought she would be involved in a marriage rocked by violence and control issues because both she and her husband were Christians. As she said, “I couldn’t believe this was my reality and I couldn’t see a way out.” It’s a sad but true story of two people in love where abusive behavior became a way of life. Please click onto the link provided below to learn from and read:
For those of you who feel imprisoned in marriages where you are experiencing violence, and for those of you who want to know more about how to combat violence in marriage, there are also a number of articles posted on the web site for FOCUS Ministries, Inc. on the subject of Domestic Violence that you might find helpful. Rather than explain each one, we thought you might enjoy choosing which one most applies to your Christian marriage. To choose which articles you would like to read:
May we always:
“Remember those in prison
as if you were their fellow prisoners,
and those who are mistreated
as if you yourselves were suffering“
If you are a victim of abuse, we pray the above scriptures, and what you have learned in this article, the additional linked articles provided, plus what is posted on the Marriage Missions web site —particularly in the “Abuse in Marriage” topic, will help you to reach out to the Lord and those He provides to assist you, to find a place of safety and peace.
If you are an abuser, we pray your eyes will be opened and you will reach out to the Lord and those who can best help you, to stop the violence you are committing against your spouse, and bring peace into your home.
If you are a friend, family member, church member, and/or someone who can make a difference to help those who are oppressed, we pray the Lord will empower and lead you to do what it takes to bring help, hope and peace into homes that are racked by violence.
This article was compiled by Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International.
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