When Getting and Keeping an Erection Isn’t Happening
You can’t turn on the TV or pick up a magazine today without being bombarded with the term, “Erectile Dysfunction.” The ads/commercials make it seem like if a man who suffers from this just takes a little blue pill, then everything will be fine. Well, that hasn’t been my experience and from the posts and e-mails we receive here at Marriage Missions there are many marriages where the little blue pill didn’t “fix the problem.”
Ten years ago I would have never thought I would be writing an article on this topic. In fact, I couldn’t have imagined saying the words, “Erectile Dysfunction” out loud. Yet today it is a far more common problem men, and couples are facing in their marriages. And it’s not just “senior” men; it is affecting many younger men/couples as well.
In a poll that TodaysChristianWomen.com conducted a number of years ago, they discovered that 46 per cent of those who participated in the survey have dealt with this issue in their marriages.
Cindy and I wanted to approach this problem from a compassionate, biblical approach and try to offer some good counsel from a number of different perspectives. So, Cindy conducted a lot of research on the Internet and that’s where you’ll see several articles below that we feel is a good place to learn how to deal with this as a Christian couple.
Briefly, our story is that I’ve been an insulin dependent diabetic for the past 37 years. I’ve been blessed that I haven’t had any major problems or complications and I am very healthy. However, over time, but especially the past 5 years or so, my diabetes started affecting my blood circulation which has resulted in my inability to get and maintain an erection. I tried Viagra but found that it messed up my heart rhythm so I stopped taking it. Cindy and I decided it wasn’t worth the risk.
That doesn’t mean our physical relationship stopped. It meant that we had to become more “creative.” I am so blessed to have Cindy as my wife and lover because she has never belittled me or made me feel like I’m “less of a man.” Quite the opposite; she has gone out of her way to build up my ego and esteem as her lover.
Below are the articles Cindy found that best reflect our views on this subject. We hope they help you. Before you go any further, stop and pray for the Lord to reveal what it is He wants YOU to get out of these and how He wants you to apply them to your situation.
In the following linked article, Amy (not her real name) battled with the consequences of what it meant to the love life of her and her husband when his Diabetes and heart problems stole his ability to keep an erection going so they could make love in the way they wanted to.
To read what she learned as she struggled with this dilemma, please click onto the Todayschristianwoman.com article below to read:
There are a few reasons why a man can’t obtain or maintain having an erection. To explore if this may be the reason this is happening to you or your husband, please click onto the following ehealthMD.com web site link to read:
Paul Byerly has written a great article on this subject, which you could benefit from reading by clicking onto Themarriagebed.com web site link to read:
The key to being able to maintain a level of intimacy that is fulfilling to both partners all boils down to being willing to WORK TOGETHER. I found I can’t do this alone. And it’s not all about getting my “needs” met and ignoring Cindy’s needs. To put it simply is to put it the way the Apostle Paul told us to live In Philippians.
Paul tells the people to always consider other people’s ambitions, goals and interests in all that they do in Philippians 2:4: “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also the interests of others.“
This article was written by Steve Wright of Marriage Missions International.
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