“For Married Women” Links and Recommended Resources

The following are Web Site Married Women Links and descriptions of resources that pertain to married women. Above all, we pray they will minister to your marriage.

Web Site Links for Married Women

• Familylife.com This the web site for the ministry of Family Life Today. This is a great ministry that has a great web site. In it they have many articles you can find to be very helpful. In particular, if you go into their web site and click into “Articles” and then select “Marriage” you will find an option you can select called “Wives.” There you will find a long list of articles you can read.

• Flylady.net This web site is designed to help you organize and de-clutter your house and your life. It’s put together by those who say, “We are not perfect. But we have learned to get our own homes and lives in order. And most importantly, we have been where you are now.”

• Happywivesclub.com They’re “searching for at least 1 million happy wives all over the world. Those who enjoy being a wife absolutely adore their husband and are still head-over-heels in love.” On this web site, you’ll see articles written by Fawn Weaver and others, who will help you to embrace marriage in a positive way!

Additional Married Women Links

• Intentionaltoday.com This web site is put together by Ngina Otiende, a native Kenyan, who now lives in the United States. The mission of this web site is to “encourage, equip and inspire early-wed wives to build intentional happily-ever-afters!” As Ngina states, “If you are in your early years of marriage and are wondering how to navigate and transition from ‘temporary honeymoon’ to lasting bliss, this blog is for you. If you are older in marriage and need refresher tips, insights and thoughts, this blog is for you. Or if you are wondering how to connect the dots when it comes to your personal success, this blog is for you.”

• Justmoved.org This ministry is committed to the spiritual growth and emotional well-being of women who are going through the transition and adjustment of moving. Additionally, they are committed to strengthen and minister to the family through Biblical teaching; providing truth, hope and encouragement so they will know and understand the love of Christ. Using God’s word and His Biblical principles, Just Moved ministers through their Web site, radio broadcasts, teaching materials, books, videos, conferences, speaking engagements, Newsletters, prayer support, and their Moving On After Moving In classes that are currently offered in over two-thirds of the U.S. and in countries throughout the world.

Even More Links:

To further help you, here are more married women links:

• Marital Harmony: Emergency Marriage Manual for Christian Women. This free on-line manual, written by Dominie Soo Bush, is described by the author as a tool “for WIVES ONLY and does not address the husband’s role or responsibilities in marriage. There are many good books on this subject. …If men would only read them! Of course, an ideal marriage is where both husband and wife are doing their part to adapt and make the marriage work. CAUTION: Do not discuss the ideas in this booklet with your husband. It will backfire. Just try to live it.”

• Peterswife.com: Peter’s Wife is a great place for women working outside their home culture to connect, encourage and help one another. Browse their site and choose the ways that best fit your situation and needs. The newsletter is the core of their service. For ten years Peter’s Wife was mailed until printing and postage made it too costly. The Internet breathed new life into their vision and in May, 2000, Peter’s Wife began again as an email newsletter. You can sign up for them on their web site.

• Todayschristianwoman.com: This is a web site put together by the ministry of Christianity Today, which features articles on faith, marriage + sex, parenting, church + ministry, friends + community, and more as it pertains to today’s Christian woman.

• Tolovehonorandvacuum.com This is a web site with author Sheila Wray Gregoire, in which she emphasizes that it’s about “real marriage, no pretensions.” It’s worth noting that Sheila has articles, blogs, and video opportunities, plus other information, which can help you in your married life.

Recommended Resources for Married Women:

Here are married women links to resources to help you:

• Because I Said Forever: Embracing Hope in an Imperfect Marriage -written by Deb Kalmbach and Heather Kopp, published by Multnomah Publishers. This book is one of my (Cindy’s) favorite books on the subject of marriage. It’s a compilation of true testimonies on various subjects of marriage lived out by different women who have and are living through some really tough situations. And yet God has helped them to live victoriously despite the difficulties.

The authors have done an excellent job of “applying biblical principles to the challenging issues involved in a difficult marriage.” The great thing about this book is it gives the readers different biblically based options to consider. You’ll discover that it is possible to be personally fulfilled even if your marriage is not fulfilling. It is possible to discover joy, to find the support you need. It is possible to thrive in your Christian walk, turning your challenges into opportunities for personal and spiritual growth.”

Additional Resource Descriptions of Women Links:

• For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men -written by Shaunti Feldhahn, published by Multnomah. This is a GREAT book to help women learn about what motivates men. It gets behind their thought processes and their actions (or non-actions). Shaunti interviewed over 1000 men in researching this book. As a result, she found that she didn’t know the mind of her husband and others like she thought she did.

Shaunti makes it very clear that this isn’t a “male-bashing” book. Also, it’s not written to justify what men believe. It is written to reveal what they believe. Of course, there are always exceptions to everything. But as Shaunti explains, this book will help women to better understand most men and most likely her husband.

• For Women Only Discussion Guide: A Companion to the Bestseller about the Inner Lives of Men -written by Shaunti Feldhahn with Lisa Rice, published by Multnomah. This discussion guide is designed to be used by book clubs, and in small group settings. Or it can even be used for having a one-on-one dialogue with the man in your life. Many women, after reading the For Women Only book may wonder, “So what do I do with the information I’ve just been given?” This discussion guide is designed to help answer that question. It contains personal stories, questions, and situational case studies to equip you to apply the truths you learn in your own life.

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Here are more married women links:

• Girls Gone Wise in a World Gone Wild -written by Mary Kassian, published by Moody Publishers. In this book, author Mary Kassian knows “the devastation and heartache being wild can bring. Her insights from Proverbs on the differences between a saucy, seductive Wild Thing and a smart, biblically savvy Wise Thing is a must read. Every minute you spend here will help you —or someone you love. It has the potential to replace the emptiness and guilt of being wild with the power of living out God’s spectacular design for women. But be prepared. This isn’t your grandmother’s handbook on etiquette. It’s God’s Word unfolded by someone He’s commissioned to speak the truth in love.

You’ll be captivated, challenged, and impassioned to be far more than the world’s model of the perfect woman. If you read this book and apply its principles you’ll become something your Heavenly Father has always intended you to be. You’ll be A Girl Gone Wise in a World Gone Wild.”

• How to Get Your Husband to Talk to You -written by Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby, published by Multnomah. This book is about what a wife “can do and say and think and change that will create an inviting climate for warm conversation.” It “is fun and practical —an easy-to-read primer of sorts that will help you resolve the age-old mystery of communication between the sexes. You can open this book to any section and pick up a tip or two that can encourage your husband to talk to you. So, whether you have lots of time to read or just a few minutes a week, you’ll find this book helpful.

More Married Women Links to Resources:

• Liberated Through Submission: God’s Design for Freedom in All Relationships! -written by Bunny Wilson, published by Harvest House. In this wonderful book, Bunny Wilson shares her clear and thoughtful understanding of a principle that will revolutionize your thinking on the area of submission. Using the Bible as a guide, Liberated Through Submission shares the fascinating facts of true, biblical submission. It explores how submission applies to every man and every woman. Take note: if submission is the last thing you want to do —you need to read this book!

• Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires -written by Dr Emerson Eggerichs. This is a Focus on the Family Book, published by Integrity Publishers. It’s a marriage book delivers a revolutionary message. Here’s what people are saying about this book: “I’ve been married 35 years and have not heard this taught.” — “This is the key that I have been missing.” — “It caused a light bulb moment for me.” — “You connected all the dots for me.” — “As a counselor, I’ve never been so excited about any material.” — “You’re on to something huge here.”

• Sacred Influence: How God Uses Wives to Shape the Souls of Their Husbands -written by Gary Thomas, published by Zondervan Publishing. In these pages, you’ll find a perspective to help you understand your husband. Does a heartbreaking marital problem —a hair-trigger temper, Internet addiction, irresponsibility, emotional distance —feel like an impossible roadblock to you? This book doesn’t gloss over issues like these. Instead it faces them head-on with a solid, positive advice.

This is a WONDERFUL book that we HIGHLY recommend for you to read. It gives a new fresh insight into the male mind. Plus it gives you spiritual help in seeing this from a Godly perspective.

In Addition there are these women links:

• Secrets to Getting More Done in Less Time -written by Donna Otto, published by Harvest House. Discover easy ways to save thousands of steps in the kitchen, streamline your shopping, create joyful holiday gatherings, and make your daily planner work for you. This book deals with: Clutter, paper piles and stacks of mail, deadlines, last-minute panics, wardrobe woes, inflexible budgets, and much more.

• 10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages -written by Karla Downing, published by Beacon Hill Press of Kansas City. This book helps women overcome their sense of powerlessness by giving them tools to improve their marriage. It examines misconceptions about Scriptures that cause confusion and even pain. Women will begin to focus on what they can do to change themselves, instead of trying over and over again to change their husbands. As they learn to set boundaries with their husbands, they will protect themselves and their children from the effects of the difficult marriage. One day at a time, their lives will begin to change and heal as they apply the information, insights, and principles to their individual situation.

Additionally, 10 Lifesaving Principles helps women: Re-examine their ideas about certain Christian scriptures and principles (for example, submission). It helps you to develop a support system of family, friends, and other women facing the same problems. It guides readers to set boundaries with their husbands. This is help to protect them and their children from the effects of the difficult marriage.

Plus These Women Links:

• The Best Thing I Ever Did for My Marriage: 50 Real Life Stories -written Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby, published by Multnomah. This book contains 50 eye-opening, often humorous true stories. There are contributions from Cynthia Heald, Dee Brestin, Rosemary Jensen, and Donna Otto. It will inspire you with moments that build stronger marriages. Most importantly, this book inspires you to: bring down walls between you and your husband. Plus it will help you to adjust to differences in your personalities. There is help in dealing with the damage and heartbreak of betrayal.

• The Mother-in-Law Dance: Can Two Women Love the Same Man and Still Get Along? -written by Annie Chapman, published by Harvest House. This book has so much to offer. I’ve (Cindy) always loved everything Annie has written. But this is one of her best. I’d highly recommend this book to everyone to read who either is a mother-in-law or has a mother-in-law. In this book Annie Chapman describes the often delicate relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as a dance. She very candidly discusses the twists and turns of this connection. Plus, she provides practical advice to help you better relate with your mother- or daughter-in-law.

More Women Links:

• The Politically Incorrect Wife -written by Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby, published by Multnomah. This is a real down-to-earth book, which is both inspiring yet practical. It helps those who read it to have a clearer understanding of God’s design for the married woman. After years of having their marriages “stuck” in no-win positions, they eventually realized how “selfish and self-centered” their idea of love really was. They “discovered God’s plan for marriage and began to follow His set of standards.”

Also, they go on to say, “By God’s grace, we discovered a life-changing truth. Political correctness doesn’t work in a marriage. We were shocked to learn this! After all, we had spent years shaping our lives around this faulty view. We thank God every day for showing us the spiritual principles in His plan for marriage.” You’ll want to read the book to find out what they learned.

• The Power of a Positive Wife -written by Karol Ladd, published by Howard Publishing Company. You can read this book for your own personal growth and enrichment. Or you can use it in a group study with the women in your church or community. There are Power Points at the end of each chapter. They offer scriptures to read with questions to ponder. Plus, there are sample prayers to pray, verses to memorize, and activities to help you effectively put principles into practice.

Additionally here are more married women links:

• The Power of a Praying Wife -written by Stormie Omartian, published by Harvest House Publishers. What a wonderful book this is! Along with real-life illustrations Stormie also includes sample prayers and “power tools.” There are verses that inspire and encourage —to help wives rest in the assurance of God’s wonderful promises. Stormie says this book is “not a means of gaining control over your husband. In fact, it is quite the opposite. It’s laying down all claim to power in and of yourself. You are to rely on God’s power to transform you, your husband, and your marriage.

“This power is not given to wield like a weapon in order to beat back an unruly beast. It’s a gentle tool of restoration appropriated through the prayers of a wife who longs to do right more than be right. This is to give life more than get even. It’s a way to invite God’s power into your husband’s life for his greatest blessing, which is ultimately yours, too.”

“Many difficult things that happen in a marriage relationship are actually part of the enemy’s plan set up for its demise. But we can say, ‘I will not allow anything to destroy my marriage.’ …’I will not sit idle while an invisible wall goes up between us.’ ‘I will not allow wrong attitudes, and bad choices to erode what we are trying to build together.’ Plus, ‘I will not tolerate hurt and unforgiveness lead us to divorce.'” To that we say, “AMEN!” This is a terrific book that we highly recommend!

And then there’s these married women links:

• The Power of Being a Woman: Embracing the Triumph of the Feminine Spirit -written by Michelle McKinney Hammond, published by Harvest House. This book helps you to get a handle on the true feminine mystique. You’ll find help in perfecting the art of being a woman. This includes: using your greatest power —influence, and reclaiming your rightful identity as a woman of God.

• The Walk-Out Woman: When Your Heart is Empty and Your Dreams Are Lost -written by Dr Steve Stephens and Alice Gray, published by Multnomah. We HIGHLY recommend this book. This is for women who need practical and inspiring help to breathe new life into their marriages. As the authors say, concerning this book, “We pray that you will recognize the symptoms and dangers of becoming a walk-out woman. We hope that you will realize that it is not a path to happiness.

“Opening your heart to your marriage again is indeed a risk. But we believe it’s a risk worth taking. …We’ll talk about realistic and unrealistic expectations. In addition we give the dangers of creating a new fantasy with someone else. We’ll also give you strategies for taking care of yourself. There are tips to help you resolve conflict, and deal with loss. You’ll remember the good times, and press closer to the Lord.”

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• The Wounded Woman: Hope and Healing for Those Who Hurt -written by Dr Steve Stephens and Pam Vredevelt, published by Multnomah Publishers. This is a good book for women who find it difficult to cope with the tragedies that plague them. It offers you the pathway to regain your footing, and restart your life. You can then recover your energy, and reclaim your joy. Contained within its pages are real-life testimonies that will guide you toward recovery. It will inspire you to press forward in newfound strength —not in spite of your wounds but because of them.

Additionally, as Dr Stephens says, “We cannot change the past. What has occurred —with all of its hurt, injustice, cruelty, disappointment, and tragedy —has slipped into history, beyond our control. Even so, we can change how we view the painful realities that have touched our life. And we can deal with what we say to ourselves about those realities.” The mission of this book is to help you move forward. It helps you to work through your pain. It “reminds you that there is hope that you are not alone. God never promised to keep us from wounds. But God did promise to be with us and to help us heal.”