The following are “Real Life” testimonies from people who have wondered if “he or she is THE ONE” that they are meant to marry.
We believe you will learn through what they have to say. We believe you find hope through reading what they have lived through and learned through. That is our prayer.
IS HE OR SHE THE ONE TESTIMONIES
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• SABRINA’S WEDDING: The Calling
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• WE ALMOST MARRIED BUT WE DIDN’T HAVE PEACE
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(USA) I have a predicament that I need council on. I am 18, a college student. My girlfriend is 16 and in high school. We broke up but she still wants to see me. A few days ago she told me she was pregnant with my child (I know for a fact it is). Should I marry her even though I’m not in love with her and raise the child together or should we not get married just because of the circumstance? I’m scared and don’t know what to do! Please, some one give me advice.
(NIGERIA) Please don’t!!!!!!! You’ll both spend the rest of your life regretting it. You need love to weather the storms in marriage. I hope you take the best decision. Cheers.
(SOUTH AFRICA) 1. I personaly believe that giving a child 2 happy homes is better than giving 1 UNhappy home!
2. God is love, a relationship without love won’t work unfortunately
3. Your priorities have now changed, that baby boy/girl should be number 1 in your life now, please take of the little no matter what!
(NIGERIA) I am glad the Lord perfected his will and answered your prayers by granting you your heart desire. Serve Him even more and be committed in fulfilling your purpose through him.
I am 31 years old and have grown up as a Christian since my chidhood days. I have gone to series of marriage programs and teachings that I promised God and myself that I will not make a mistake in my choice for a life partner.
It has really not been easy for me in that I must not marry a non christian, but a believer, or a follower of christ and not only that, I must be sure that it was God that is leading me into the marriage through his divers ways of his leading. I must pray for his direction, have a word from him through the scriptures and have a confirmation and a conviction. All these prcedures I determined to follow, I don’t want to regret my marriage, above all I want to make heaven.
A time came when I was really determined to know God’s will for me. I prayed and fasted and was expecting to receive a word from the Lord. After the fasting, I received a call from my ex-boyfriend who earlier proposed to me but I called it off when we fell into sin. I hated him after that.
Before then, we had series of quarrels and misunderstandings. One of the problem I had with him was his refusal to change location. He resides in the part of the country that is prone to religious conficts and violence which can happen at any time. He believes that the cost of living where I reside is very high.
I thought over this, when I lost my peace, I decided to let go. Despite that, he still calls, I told him to stop calling me, yet he still calls.
Three years has passed, and he still he called me again that he want to see me. I have gone for counselling, I kept trusting God for direction but no word came.
I decided to call him and ask him how serious is he about us. I was shocked when he told me that he is not going to make any commitment yet until he visits me again. Wanting to know how convinced he is, he said he knew from within him.
My problem is this, the more I pray about marriage, the more he calls me. He is born again and told me he is into evangelism and winning souls but I can’t tell of his way of life where he resides.
But I am not convinced. I asked him to pray more for God’s leading. If God is not in it then we will know. Since then he only calls me to know how I am fairing and he sends text messages but no concrete word. Please I need your comments.
(NIGERIA) Your case and mine are very similar in many respects. But I think that when someone calls you the more you pray for that person (cos I’m assuming when you were praying for a husband, you’d mention your ex’s name in asking if he’s the one). It is to be expected. However you may still want to seek for conviction.
Then again, search yourself, why don’t you have peace about him? Are you sure it’s not something you’re reacting to, something physical that you don’t really like about him, rather than spiritual leading?
(USA) How much of your past do you share? My fiancé is not wanting to go through marriage because, I won’t tell him the name of my ex. He is saying that he can’t trust me.
(NIGERIA) Be open and share your past with him. If he is truly meant for you, he will be there for you, but if he is not for you, he will go.
It is wise to always tell the truth no matter how tough it is. When you lie and the truth is eventually discovered, the hurt cannot be compared with when you tell the truth at the begining.
(NIGERIA) If he does not trust you… then there’s no need marrying him because he will always distrust you after marriage.
(UNITED STATES) All I can say to these posting is to trust God and lean not on your own understanding. If your desire is to get married then he will send you your husband or wife. In my own relationship I asked the Lord for a husband and he gave me confirmation twice that he is sending him to me. He did not come that next week or month but, five months later he came into my life.
I enjoy him so much but, we both know that God brought us together for marriage. We still have issues but, from being with him my faith has grown and his too. Plus, we both made a commitment to trust God in our relationship, pray together and no matter what, to let God work all things out.
I didn’t say it was easy, but I know I am getting a husband for life and not just a few years. Cuz the Lord looked around this world and found him for me and me for him. And it’s wonderful… so keep on trusting God and in the mean time keep yourself up in all, so when he or she comes your way you will be ready.
(NIGERIA) Early last year I met a brother who told me he got word that I am his future wife and he asked me to pray about it. I did a little prayer and at the end of the day I told him I didn’t get anything from the Lord. Personally I don’t like him; he is too churchy for my liking. We ended up with a quarrel and deleted each others numbers and that was it.
When I turned 21, I decided to have a boyfriend, and have been praying concerning marriage. But along the line I decided to say yes to a new boyfriend. He had a problem with his graduation that was before I said yes. I decided to pray for him when he told me about it despite the fact that I haven’t said yes. Then, that same night I made up my mind to pray for him I had a dream where a woman was challenging me -that I was interfering in what doesn’t concern me.
I was so stubborn in the dream, I told the woman that I will not leave; the guy that was so cute and that I am going after him. She made it clear to me that it was none of my business. When I woke up I was so scared, I later summoned courage and prayed for him even out of fear, few days later I gave him a yes.
A few weeks after I said yes to my new boyfriend. The brother I met earlier came back and he apologized and still insisted I go back and pray again. He refuses to tell me his conviction but he asked me to pray by myself before he can share his with me. The truth is I don’t know how to pray about issues like this because ever since then I have been praying the best I can but I haven’t gotten any answers. Please, I need your advice.