When you’ve been away from each other for a long time because a spouse has been deployed, it’s difficult to imagine that the time you will have after the return home will be anything but wonderful. But that is not always the case. Returning home after deployment can bring with it many challenges.
“The longer your spouse has been deployed, and the more danger he’s faced, the more likely you both have changed. Even if the reunion goes as planned, challenges lie ahead.” (Erin Prater)
When a spouse has been deployed for a long time it’s important to remember:
“Wars begin where you will, but do not end where you please.” (Machiavelli)
After Deployment: A Different War Zone
Reunions are wonderful. But you can also find a different war zone rising between you if you don’t do what it takes to make your transition time together easier. It takes more intentionality on both of your parts than working things out on a “wing and a prayer.”
There have been a lot of events and personal changes that have happened in both of your lives during deployment. That in itself is monumental, in the effort it will take to overcome and bridge them.
And what if there are additional problems, such as what this couple encountered:
“Just back from Iraq, Navy SEAL Mark Waddell suffered from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. And his wife, Marshéle, was clueless how to help.”
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And from Military.com an article (and additional articles as well) that could help you further in your adjustment time. Please click onto the web site link to read:
We want to lead you to help in any way we can. So here’s another resource that we’re especially excited to share with you. It comes from an organization called Operation We Are Here. It helps family and friends of those who are deployed. The also help those have come home after being deployed in the military. If the spouse who has come home is suffering from PTSD, please read and take advantage of the resources they offer:
Here’s one more resource you may find helpful. It’s posted on the Preachitteachit.org web site. It comes from the book, Wounded Warriors: Those for Whom the War Never Ends. If your spouse is in this situation, perhaps reading it can bring a little clarity into what is happening:
May the Lord minister to your marriage and your lives.
Cindy Wright from Marriage Missions International compiled this article.
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