Helpful Advice To The Bride

Pixabay bride-1822580_1920Your wedding day is a precious gift from God, a day when family and friends surround you and bless you, expressing their love and joy and support for you and your groom. But if you could possibly take all their smiling faces and put them together, they still wouldn’t be as big as the smile your heavenly Father wears as He looks down on you, His bride on your special day. “As a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so …your God [is rejoicing] over you” (Isaiah 62:5) right now.

Still, as wonderful and beautiful as your wedding is, it’s only one day …and a wedding does not make a marriage. If you are going to be what Scripture calls a “wife of noble character” (Proverbs 31:10), it’s going to take a daily commitment. It takes a daily decision to renew your vows to your groom.

Advice to the Bride

Remember that marriages —even those made in heaven —are not perfect. And neither is the groom! There will be times when your husband will perplex, anger and irritate you. There will be days when dirty socks on the floor, lack of communication and puzzling priorities make you want to put him out on Tuesday with the trash. But those are the times when a “wife of noble character” will prove herself.

Those are the times when, if you would be fully loved, you must love him fully. This is because it is when your love is challenged the most that it will shine the brightest.

Speaking of that, I urge you not to shoot for perfection in your marriage. Instead, shoot for intimacy. And the only way to be intimate with another person is to be vulnerable about who you are. Be vulnerable about what you think and what you feel. Let it always be the real you that your husband is in love with and not some variation or imitation.

A Cord of Three Cords

Also, keep in mind that marriage is not a due. It is a trio. Therefore, show yourself to be a woman of God in everything you do. After all, this is one of the reasons your groom chose you in the first place. And you can do nothing better to strengthen and preserve your marriage than to remember that “charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30)

Seek out older women to mentor you, as the Bible commands in Titus 2:3-5. Look for godly women who have solid marriages and learn from them.

I advise you to make your mother-in-law your best friend. No woman on earth knows your groom any better than she does, and that’s wisdom that can’t be bought for any amount of money.

And be sensitive to your parents too, as they adjust—not so much to your groom, but to their daughter as a wife! The Bible is clear that you and your new husband must truly and completely leave your parents and cleave to each other, but that won’t always be an easy process for your mom and dad. Help them through it, even as you make sure that your groom is always your top priority. [We have several articles posted in the Dealing with In Laws & Parents topic that can guide you in this mission.]

Your Attitude Matters

And finally, don’t ever ask yourself, “How can I get more out of my marriage?” or even, “How can my husband get more out of our marriage?” Ask, “How can God get more glory from our marriage?”

With that kind of attitude, the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of the glory God bestows on your marriage. And your husband will arise and call you blessed, saying, “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” (Proverbs 31:29)

This article was written by Bob Hostetler. It can be found, along with numerous others, in the book, For Better, For Worse. Unfortunately, this book is no longer being published. This is unfortunate because it’s filled with true life testimonies (written by different authors) compiled and edited by Marlene Bagnull, published by Christian Publications. It’s a unique book which goes through each part of the wedding vows. (They are: “To Have and to Hold, For Better or for Worse, For Richer, or for Poorer, In Sickness and in Health, Forsaking All Others, To Love and to Cherish, Till Death Do Us Part.”) And it tells actual events on each of these subjects about real people.

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The following are related articles, with the first one written by Tricia Goyer, and the second one written by Lindsay Hall:



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8 responses to “Helpful Advice To The Bride

  1. (USA)  I agree with all this passage says. Marriage is not 50-50 it’s 100-100%. I plan on being the best wife I can be to my husband, and to bring glory to God’s name in all we do.

  2. (USA)  I am still young only 19 yr. but I do desire to be a godly wife of nobel character. I want to be exactly the kind of woman that God rejoices over and is proud of, a woman who will love and support her husband, commit to being obedient to the Word and Will of God, loving and caring to others. Please pray for me that the Lord helps me to be a good godly wife someday.

  3. (KENYA)  I’m not yet married but my prayer this day is that may God make be to be a noble wife to my husband to be and teach me the right way to follow so that my marriage may give honor and glory to His name.

  4. (NIGERIA)  First i’ll like to thank you guys for the good works you are doing, God bless you. I am preparing for my wedding and I need advice on how to handle a long distance relationship. I and my fiance live in different states. Thank you.

  5. (KENYA)  May the work you do you for the people of God bring reconciliation and smiles to everyone who reads this article. I thank the Lord for blessing me with my husband Gerald as a gift of his blessing. We are now married for 1 year and 25 days. I anoint my ideas, wisdom and energy to care for my husband to bring glory to my Creator …Amen.

  6. (UGANDA)  We are encouragaed to always give credit where it is due and in all sincerity, thank you for this peace of work, sharing extremely well meditated words carefully selected for better growth in the mystery of matrimony. May the peace and grace of God almighty continue to mentor you. Blessings!!!

  7. (SIERRA LEONE)  This is really wonderful. Any one that make this reading part of their daily life will definitely succeed.

  8. (SOUTH AFRICA) Thank you for this article. I learned a lot from reading it than I would ever have by some or other magazines that are not Christ based. God Bless you.