It’s almost as if Pastors and their spouses have a bulls-eye invisibly painted upon their marriages! The enemy of our faith appears to target them and their families all the more. This is probably because of the impact they have in poking holes in the spiritual darkness surrounding this world. Their “downfall” has the potential to do so much damage to so many. That is why it is so important to affair proof your marriage, protecting to the best of your ability.
Also, because of the dynamics of ministering and showing compassion to those who are in emotional pain, pastors can be idealized because of the care they are showing to the one who is hurting. They are then vulnerable to having others attracted to them. Because of the chemistry the situation can bring, a mutual attraction can develop even though neither “thought it would or could happen.”
This is Common
We hear of this scenario happening continually all throughout the world. Not only is this heart-breaking for the families involved, but it must terribly tear against the heart of God!
For this reason, Pastors and their spouses have to be all the more diligent in putting up hedges to protect their marriages and their family life.
There are many books and magazine articles on this subject (many of which we have posted on our web site) that can help you. Also, the ministry of Focus on the Family, Canada, has a great article written by Dr Simon Sheh, which is posted on their web site in their Clergy Care section that can give you some good insights.
To read this article, please click onto the Clergycare.ca link provided below:
Another article you might find helpful can be found on the Leadership Journal web site. Please click onto the link provided below to read:
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An article written by Karen Blake to help the Pastor’s Wife and the challenges she can encounter concerning this issue, is posted on MinistryToday.com. Please click onto the link below to read:
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