Facebook Marriage Quotes – Page 16

Marriage facebook quotes Pixabay computer-419961_640Below are a few of the quotes we’ve posted on the Marriage Missions Facebook Page. This is the 16th page we’ve created with quotes from many different “marriage experts” giving marriage tips, which can still be used in a variety of ways. With these marriage Facebook quotes:

  • A church, ministry, counseling organization, or an individual can use them to share on their Facebook site, if desired.
  • They can be used as points of discussion in marriage classes, mentoring, counseling, or coaching situations.
  • Couples or individuals can use these quotes to discuss or consider the issues raised, allowing the Holy Spirit, our Wonderful Counselor, to speak further to them.

Discussion Points

They make great discussion points for those couples who want to use them for conversation starters for a 22 Minute Date. Just make sure, if you use these quotes in a dating situation, you don’t get into heated arguments over them.

The point in sharing these marriage tips is to build marital relationship bridges, not construct walls of contention, causing a breakdown of communication. You can constructively disagree with these tips and with each other, and still learn more about each other and grow closer together, in the process.

It is our sincere hope that the tips below will help marriage. As you read them, please consider:

  1. Do you agree or disagree? Why or why not?
  1. Do you have further thoughts on the issue to apply personally or as a general rule? (If you’re reading them with someone else, please share.)
  1. Do any scriptures come to mind, which apply to the marriage tip given? (If so, please share.)

The following are quotes to note for your use (each paragraph we were able to glean stands on its own —for your knowledge, the original sources are noted afterward in parenthesis)

Marriage Facebook Quotes:

•  If you find yourself unhappy, “You need to quit blaming your spouse, children, parents, mother-in-law, boss, or the dog! They aren’t responsible for your unhappiness. They may contribute to the hurt, but unless there is abuse in your life, you’re responsible for how you respond. Dr. Henry Cloud summarized it this way: ‘I can’t blame them for what I do with what they do to me. I am responsible for how I respond’.” (Jim Burns)

•  “Get Mutual Friends: It’s important to have individual friends outside of your marriage, but it’s just as important to have mutual friends [who are supportive of your relationship] as well. Find other couples and friends to spend time with together and create yet another shared space that will connect you to one another. Time with friends can be a very special way to invest in yourself and in turn, your marriage.” (Debra Fileta)

•  “Somebody has to break out of the negative cycle of poor treatment for poor treatment—to step out of the insult-for-insult cycle and respond differently. You cannot control your spouse’s behavior, but you can control your own and CHOOSE to treat them with love.” (D.H.)Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.(1 Peter 3:9) (Dr. Dave Currie with Glen Hoos)

Prayerfully Consider:

•  “If we choose to delve into a serious conversation every time our spouses say or do something off-putting, we’ll run our relationships into the ground. Perhaps it’s a time for silence. Maybe it’s better to reserve your thoughts for a day or two. If you still feel the same way, you’ll have had time to clarify what you want to communicate, or you may find in the wait that it doesn’t warrant a conversation at all.” (Cara Joyner)

•  “In geography class you may have learned about continental drift, where huge ‘plates’ of earth move slowly in opposite directions. The same thing happens in a lot of marriages, very subtly. How can you keep from drifting? By talking regularly, setting mutual goals for your marriage, planning the future together, playing together, cultivating shared interests and fanning the flame of romance.” (Louis McBurney, M.D.)

•  As a married couple, “when you go out for your date, do something that renews your bond. Watching a movie or going to a concert may be fun, but they don’t give you the opportunity to talk to one another. If you decide to see a movie, follow it up with dessert or coffee. There’s value in just sitting alone together, face to face, and talking.” (Dr Alan Stafford)

•  Regarding marriage a key question: “Will we approach marriage from a God-centered view or a man-centered view? In a man-centered view, we will maintain our marriage as long as our earthly comforts, desires, and expectations are met. In a God-centered view, we preserve our marriage because it brings glory to God and points a sinful world to a reconciling Creator.” –Gary Thomas

More Quotes:

•  “In our marriages, we don’t have control over our spouse’s shortcomings (no matter how much nagging or cajoling we might invest) but we do have control over what we focus on. There’s always some good quality tucked in our spouse. After all, he (she) was fashioned in the very image of our Lord, so there’s something in there that reflects the Lord and that quality is good.” (April Motl)

•  In your marriage and family life: “Prioritize. What is your top priority? It’s where you devote the majority of your time or energy. Turn off the television and put down your iPhone. Your email and updating your Facebook status can wait. ‘Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.(Philippians 2:3)” (Brent Rinehart)

•  “Marriage grows you up. Living with another person forces you to grow up. And just when it seems your spouse is done growing you up, your kids take over. That’s a simple fact of marriage. Recognize this and harness the energy it creates” -Corey. “When I was a child I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, and reasoned as a child… but when I grew up, I put away childish ways. (1 Corinthians 13:11)

Additional Quotes:

•  “A man of honor is not a man in a tuxedo on his wedding day. A man of honor is a staying man. He knows (or learns) what it takes to be a great husband and he gets himself committed to fulfilling it.” (Lawrence Namale) The same goes for a woman of honor —she isn’t a woman in a fancy gown on her wedding day, but she is a staying woman. She knows (or learns) what it takes to be a great wife and commits to fulfilling it.

•  “Sometimes couples complain that their time is limited because they’re so busy. The good news is that you don’t need to spend enormous amounts of time together to breed closeness and connection. Regular, brief get-togethers work too. Small changes in your schedule can make a huge difference. But don’t leave ‘rendezvousing’ up to chance. Plan and schedule dates together. Marriage is serious business.” (Michele Weiner-Davis)

•  “Faith impacts every aspect of a person’s life. If your partner struggles with her (or his) faith, don’t preach or pressure. Instead, pray and live an example of a godly life. Prayer can change the one who prays, one’s marriage, and one’s partner. Don’t let a day pass without serious prayer. What can happen will surprise you.” -Karen O’Connor (From the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “The Prayers that Changed Husbands”)

•  “Marriage is something you create every day. Marriage will not erase your debt, make your cranky family member nicer, or get you a raise. Things work out because we work at them” -Maggie Reyes. “Whatever you do, work at it wholeheartedly as though you were doing it for the Lord and not merely for people.” -Colossians 3:23

•  “When a fault of your spouse comes to your attention lift it to the Lord. Pray for Him to be strong in your [spouse’s] weakness, and to use this issue to accomplish something good in you.” Consider this statement, “If a sudden jar can cause me to speak an impatient, unloving word, then I know nothing of Calvary love. For a cup brimful of sweet water cannot spill even one drop of bitter water, however suddenly jolted.” (April Motl and Amy Carmichael from the Crosswalk.com blog, “The Power of Words in Your Marriage”)

•  Concerning marital conflict: “Have you reached the point where discussion is no longer beneficial? Are you too tired or emotional to clearly communicate with and understand each other? Perhaps it’s time to call it. If it’s important to continue the conversation, set a time to come back together and talk. If it’s better to walk away, do so completely, leaving all bitterness and resentment on the table.” -Cara Joyner (From Todayschristianwoman.com article, “The Best Marriage Advice I’ve Ever Heard”)

•  “Love, by itself, is not enough to sustain even the most loving couples —at least the kind of love Hollywood pumps into our culture is not enough. Marriage requires new skills in communication, conflict resolution and so on. Love cannot protect a marriage from harm. But love combined with effective skills can overcome all.” (Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot)

“You’ve probably heard of the expression, “Surrender is not an option.” When a ship’s captain headed into battle—where surrender wasn’t an option—he would give the order to nail his country’s colors to the mast. When the crew realized there was no option but to fight, they became more determined to win the battle. This is the same mindset we’re to have in marriage, to stand our ground and find a way to make it work.” (Dr Norm Wright, from the book “One Marriage Under God“)

•  In your marital relationship: “Initiate. Remember the courtship? Make an effort to woo your spouse all over again. So many marriages fall apart because people just stop trying. ‘Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it‘” (Proverbs 3:27).(Brent Rinehart, from the Crosswalk.com article, “7 Words That Will Change Our Marriages”)

•  “When you work together to assist or cheer up people whom God leads you to help, you double your impact for good and make your marriage happier as you make others happier. As Christian spouses, God has ordained you to serve others as a team: Make a list of kind acts you can do together (include some you can do anonymously). Mentor others to help them have better marriages; sponsor an impoverished child together.” (Whitney Hopler, from the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Enjoy a Happily Ever After Marriage”)

•  Tips to help you in your marriage: “Be polite. Are you more polite to co-workers or store clerks than you are to your spouse? Practice good manners at home. – Harsh words and actions have no place in your home. Choose to be kind. – Smile often. Put on a happy face and let it determine your disposition. Remember how meaningful the glances were which you once gave each other.” (Erroll Stephens)

•  “Giving a sincere apology is essential to relationship maintenance. Research indicates that satisfying apologies are quite different for different people. An acceptable apology for you might not work for your partner and vice versa. Tell your spouse what you need to feel reassured that the hurtful behavior is unlikely to recur. Of course, with repeated infractions, the requirements to feel safe will be greater.” (From the Smartmarriages article, “The Importance of Apology” by Steven Stosny)

•  “Some partners struggle with laziness and others struggle with workaholism. Neither extreme is healthy. Pray that your spouse will find a balance in his (her) work and that it will bring a sense of fulfillment. Our jobs, whether they’re inside or outside the home, impact how we feel about ourselves and our marriages. Pray your spouse’s job will fill him (or her) with a sense of meaning, purpose, and personal satisfaction.” (Karen O’Connor, from the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “The Prayers that Changed Husbands”)

•  In a growth-focused marriage: “Couples identify problems but don’t dwell on them. They look beyond the solutions to how God might use this process to teach them more about Him and/or themselves, their partners, and their marriages. They understand problems are inevitable and the real challenge is in dealing with them in such a way that honors God and each other while helping the couple grow through it.” (Gary and Carrie Oliver, from the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Ready, Set, Grow”)

•  “Become a student of your spouse’s sexual zones. A woman has more erogenous zones than her breasts and vagina. Explore with her & discover where she’s most responsive. Kiss, stroke, or caress each body part. Ask, ‘How does this feel? What would make you feel even more tingly —if I caressed less or more?’ Remember: although it’s good to work toward climax, the journey is pretty unbelievable too.” -Gary and Barbara Rosberg (From the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Our Best Sex Advice”)

•  “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.(Proverbs 17:22) “Each day we give a piece of our heart to our spouses. Are you providing your spouse with good medicine, or drying their bones by your negative mood?” (Demarquis Johnson)

•  “When you feel burdened by your [spouse’s] weakness, ask the Lord (and this is a little hard) to give you a fresh reminder of your own weakness so that you could respond with compassion and grace. We all need grace, however, sometimes we forget just how much we need it. And whether that is in our marriage or another area of life, that is a dangerous place to be.” -April Motl (From the Crosswalk.com blog, “The Power of Words in Your Marriage”)

•  “When we kiss our spouse on the lips, especially as a way to say good night, we convey a kind of lover’s short hand to the questions we rarely articulate but deeply feel: ‘Do you still love me, in spite of all the mistakes I make?’ ‘Do you still want to be with me when I burn the toast, leave my clothes on the floor, etc?’ A kiss on the lips is a way of answering in the affirmative these unspoken questions.” (Les and Leslie Parrott – From emailed devotional sent 2/19/2014)

•  “There are things all couples should do on a regular basis to prevent serious problems from arising that chisel away at love, friendship and passion. At the top of this ‘love insurance’ list is the importance of spending time together. It tells your spouse, ‘You matter to me.’ Time together gives opportunities to touch base, to collect new memories, laugh at each other’s jokes and to renew love.” MAKE the time! (Michele Weiner-Davis)

•  “Overcome the biggest hurdles to happiness as a couple. Those hurdles include: depending on money to make you happy, comparing yourselves to others, holding on to pride, obsessing over the past pain and regrets, fixating on the future rather than living fully in the present, and focusing on what you don’t have rather than what you do. When you overcome those hurdles, you can enjoy a happier marriage that endures.” (Whitney Hopler, from the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Enjoy a Happily Ever After Marriage”)

•  “A long-term benefit of dating your spouse is the model you set in place for your children. One of the best ways to demonstrate love to our children is by expressing affection to our mates. When children have observed their parents placing priority on dating and romance, they’ll carry that expectation into their own relationships. Kids need to see quality, loving relationships in a world where those aren’t the norm.” (From the book, “CREATIVE ROMANCE… Hundreds of Ways to Say ‘I Love You’ and Much More” by Doug Fields)

•  Keep your eyes wide open before marriage and half shut afterwards. Apply the principles in Philippians 4:8-9. Focus MOST on “whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things…” as it pertains to your spouse. It’s difficult to do, but SO important!

•  In marriages that are growing: “Couples really believe ‘God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them(Romans 8:28). Good marriages don’t just ‘happen.’ While couples don’t ignore problems, they choose to look beyond solving the immediate problem in ways God might help them ‘become like his son‘ (Romans 8:29, NLT).” (Gary and Carrie Oliver, from the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Ready, Set, Grow”)

•  “Christian marriage does not merely exist for the benefit of the two people in the marriage; it is for the benefit of the world, that God would be glorified in it. The main purpose of marriage is not the enjoyment of the two people who are married, the main purpose of marriage is to glorify Christ as we participate in the mission of God.” – Tim Suttle

•  “We all need to hear words of love and affirmation from our spouses. Be your spouse’s cheerleader. Among other things, APPLAUD YOUR SPOUSE’S ACHIEVEMENTS. By achievements, we mean everything from success at work to mastering a new skill to handling a difficult situation well.” Don’t neglect your spouse’s need of affirmation. Be lavish in giving (even more than you receive) the love he/she longs to hear from YOU. (Quote from the book, “Intimacy on the Run” by Jeannette and Robert Lauer)

•  “Following dreams together will make your marriage happier by stirring optimism. Dream together in ways such as: envisioning what you each hope for, discussing details together, building a ‘bucket list’ of experiences you hope to have together, identifying dreams that are most meaningful to each of you, and setting goals that are specific, achievable, realistic, and time sensitive to help you achieve your dreams.” (Whitney Hopler, gleaned from the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Enjoy a Happily Ever After Marriage”)

•  “Love without truth is sentimentality; it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws. Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it” –Timothy Keller.Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into Him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body is held together…” -Ephesians 4:15-16.

•  “It’s rare that problems in marriage are all about 1 person. Even when 1 person is the majority of the issue, their spouse usually has something they need to change. Focusing on the one who’s most ‘at fault’ may seem logical, but it’s not the best approach. Good change by 1 can make it easier for the other. A small change can super charge the change process for the other spouse, or encourage them to work on change.” (Paul Byerly, gleaned from The-generous-husband.com article, “It’s Not All Her or All You”)

•  “Choose to obey God’s command to forgive each other for the ways —both small and large —that you hurt or offend each other. Remind yourself regularly that God has forgiven you of many sins, and let your gratitude for God’s forgiveness motivate you to answer his call to forgive each other. Think about issues where you may be holding grudges and come up with ideas to resolve each one.” (Whitney Hopler, from the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Give Your Marriage a Makeover in Only 10 Days”)

•  “A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man [or woman] quietly holds it back.(Proverbs 29:11) Speak words motivated by love, rather than vindictiveness. “Ask the Lord to put a ‘governor’ on your tongue today, to enable you to speak only words that reflect the heart of Christ. If you feel the need to ‘vent’ tell the Lord what’s on your mind, rather than blurting it out to your spouse.” (Nancy Leigh DeMoss, from the April 19 devotional page in the book, “The Quiet Place”)

•  Any time we reconcile in marriage, it’s a picture of what God wants to do with us as human beings. “All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation… entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.” (See: 2 Corinthians 5:18-20)

•  “Honestly consider how much time and energy you spend on your marriage every day, versus other relationships (such as with your kids and friends) and activities (such work and watching TV). Make a conscious choice to avoid neglecting your marriage by giving it your full attention as one of your top priorities every day. Ask the Holy Spirit to renew your mind every day so your marriage is at the forefront of your thoughts.” (Whitney Hopler, from the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Give Your Marriage a Makeover in Only 10 Days”)

•  “Micromanaging isn’t good for business. The same is true for marriages. Micromanagement makes people feel stupid or incompetent. …Paul tells us love doesn’t insist on its own way (1 Cor 13:5). Discussing varying ways of doing things and working it out together is good; pushing to do it your way is unloving. Love looks for ways to make things easier for the other person, even if it requires sacrifice.” –Paul Byerly

•  “Say ‘no’ to a passive-aggressive battle. Nobody wins in an argument your partner isn’t even aware you’re having. Withholding affection, turning a cold shoulder, casting the silent treatment, and engaging in unloving conversations about your spouse when he (or she) isn’t around all drive you away from your spouse. In the end, you’ll only become more frustrated and nothing will be resolved.” –Cara Joyner(From Todayschristianwoman.com article, “The Best Marriage Advice I’ve Ever Heard”) 

•  “Displayed love will help your children see the value of marriage. Having a positive attitude toward marriage will change a million little decisions along the way as they grow. It’ll impact who they date, how they date, and what they look for in the people they date. It will impact how they live out their marriage. Our children will set a higher standard because they’ve seen what to aspire to in your marriage.” (Tricia Goyer, from the Happywivesclub.com article, “4 Ways Loving Your Spouse Benefits Your Kids”)

•  “Sometimes we spend so much time praying about our marriage ‘pain points’ that we forget to spend as much time, if not more, on the ‘praise points.’ Remember to thank God for the good and beautiful in your marriage even as you pursuer the greater.” -Ngina Otiende

•  “Being an artist at romance doesn’t require so much a sentimental nature as it requires a thoughtful nature. It’s the thoughtfulness of the little gifts, the notes, the phone calls, the touch, the look in the eyes, that says to the other person, ‘You know what? You’re agenda is worthy of my life and my time.'” (Dennis Rainey)

•  “Couples need to take seriously Paul’s urging to ‘pray without ceasing.’ Consistent prayer knits hearts together and attunes couples to the leading of the Holy Spirit. When there’s an ‘issue’ apply Psalm 139:23-24: ‘Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way of everlasting.‘ The 1st prayer should be, ‘Lord, change ME.'” (Gary and Carrie Oliver, from the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Ready, Set, Grow”)

•  “Move beyond simply tolerating your spouse to truly appreciating him or her. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you see how your differences (in personality, background, strengths, weaknesses, and gender) can complement each other so that you all can accomplish more together than you can apart. Remember why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place, and express your admiration to your spouse in fresh ways.” (Whitney Hopler, from the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Give Your Marriage a Makeover in Only 10 Days”)

•  “Sleep-deprived spouses are not sexy, so before you can revitalize your love life you’ll get some rest. Take a nap. Go to bed tonight when you get the kids to sleep. We actually have advised parents to have a sleep date. Get away for 24 hours, but spend the 1st part of it sleeping. Until you overcome some of your sleep deprivation, you won’t be alert enough to concentrate on loving each other.” David and Claudia Arp (From the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Our Best Sex Advice”)

•  “If you’ve had a stressful day at work, when you come home, it’s likely to be stressful there as well. So rather than letting the elephant in the room (the stress level in your life) walk around freely, point it out before you and your spouse get in to it. A simple, ‘Hey honey, good to see you, (kiss), I’d like about 5 minutes to decompress from my day before I hear about your day, all right?'” might help. – Corey(from Simplemarriage.net article, “You Cannot NOT Communicate”)

•  “How do we avoid having a mid-marriage crisis?” Something that helps is to “Share Dreams. Have frequent conversations like: Where are we going? What do we want to accomplish together? What kind of lifestyle do we want to have and what legacy do we want to leave through our marriage? They can sound crazy to everyone else, but the dreams you create with your spouse become a glue for your relationship.” -Edward (From the elevateyourmarriage.com article, “11 Tips to Avoid a Mid-Marriage Crisis”)

•  “Enjoy the 80% you really enjoy about your spouse and ask God to show you how to live with the rest and not to focus on it.” (Jim Elliot)Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Therefore, be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” (Ephesians 4:32 – 5:2)

•  In your marriage: “Laugh a lot together. Laughter bonds people. It’s like taking a vitamin for your marriage. Proverbs 17:22 says, ‘A cheerful heart is good medicine.‘ Jay Leno says, ‘You can’t stay mad at somebody who makes you laugh.’ Bob Hope calls laughter an ‘instant vacation.'” (L&L Parrott) So… look for ways to take lots of laughter vacations together. (Les & Leslie Parrott, from Marriage Partnership article, “Get Closer”)

•  “In 2 Corinthians 2:14-15 we read, ‘Thanks be to God, who in Christ always leads us in triumphal procession, and through us spreads the fragrance of the knowledge of him everywhere. For we are the aroma of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing.‘ Question: What does it smell like in your home? Do people look at your marriage and see and smell the aroma of Christ?” (Gleaned from the Family Life Today article, “What Makes a Marriage Distinctively Christian?” by Bob Lepine)

•  “Life is full of pressure and expectations. We race from one point to another, trying to pack more into a day than is reasonable. This stress frequently steals our peace and enjoyment and makes us irritable and impatient. It opens doors to worry, depression, and all sorts of physical symptoms. Pray that your spouse will not be overwhelmed by the stress of life and will relax & find contentment in all he (she) does.” (Karen O’Connor from the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “The Prayers that Changed Husbands”)

•  “Ask the Holy Spirit to renew your mind every day so your marriage is at the forefront of your thoughts. Look for opportunities to nurture your relationship with your spouse regularly. Eliminate excess activities from your schedule so you’ll be free to spend time together to grow your marriage. Let your spouse know how important he or she is to you, through your words and your actions.” (Whitney Hopler, from the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Give Your Marriage a Makeover in Only 10 Days”)

•  ESPECIALLY, when dealing with your marriage partner: “Put your brain in gear before putting your mouth in motion. Be considerate and be courteous. Wait until the right time to say what you need to say. Then, be sure you’re thinking clearly before you say it. How many arguments and tensions in marriage could be avoided if we would simply practice this one bit of wisdom!” – Debi Walter -The Romantic Vineyard (from the article, “Sowing Seeds of Wisdom)

•  “Take your [spouse] to a movie rental store or stop by a Redbox or Blockbuster Express station and have [him or her] pick out a movie. Or select one of his [her] favorites from your home collection. Pop some popcorn, or another movie-friendly snack food, light a few candles, dim the lights, pop in the movie, and cuddle together on the couch. Who cares if it’s the middle of the week? MAKE time to spend time together.” (Hanna Williams, from the Becominghiseve.wordpress.com article, “Pop, Pop, Pop Date”)

•  “There are 2 hindrances to good communication in marriage that must be overcome: the bad habit of lazy listening and hasty speaking.” (John Lavendar)Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.(James 1:19-20)

•  “What if you were to claim this a day to take a walk together with your spouse? Not to see how many steps you can add to your Fitbit or to get to where you’re going, but to walk just for the sake of being together. As you do, purpose to stop and talk to a neighbor, pick a wild flower or two… Make it a leisurely time to relax and unwind —together. Oh, and leave your electronic devices at home.”  (Debi Walter, from Theromanticvineyard.com article, “Walking Wednesdays”)

•  “Without ever passing out a tract, preaching a sermon, or even saying a word, a Spirit-filled Christian home declares to all who come within reach that God will do for others what He has done for them, if they’ll only give Him a chance.” –Jerry JenkinsBe imitators of God… and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.(Ephesians 5:1)

•  “If you expose yourself to people who talk down about their spouses or don’t invest time in their family and marriage, it will rub off on you, to the detriment of your marriage. If, on the other hand, you expose yourself to people who speak well of their spouse, invest time in their family and marriage or are just overall marriage friendly, it will encourage you and help you grow in your marriage relationship.” (Lori Byerly, from The-generous-wife.com blog, “It Will Rub Off on You”)

•  We reap what we sow (and water) in marriage. When the grass in our marital yard looks brown and not so desirable any longer, and someone else’s looks greener and more tempting to take as our own… BEWARE!!! FLEE AWAY from the temptation, as we’re told in the Bible. Instead, make it your mission to water and tend to your own grass –your own marital and personal journey with God-honoring integrity everyday.

•  “What if you say, ‘Why not’ to your spouse? Your husband calls and announces, ‘I’ll meet you at home; we’ll enjoy lunch—and each other.’ Instead of lamenting the lost opportunity to run an errand, respond, ‘Why not?’ Or when your wife emails and announces, “The kids are at sports practice for 2 hours. If you come home early, I’ll make it worth your while,’ don’t think of the work on your desk. Respond, ‘Why not?'” (Gary and Barbara Rosberg, from the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Our Best Sex Advice”)

•  “How do you overcome the routine you’ve fallen into? By daily acts of kindness, letting your spouse know you’re thinking of them throughout the day. Never leave the house without a passionate kiss…giving a little passion to remember you by for the rest of the day. Take 30 seconds to email a note of caring and even enticement. Also set aside time to have a weekly date night so your relationship continues to grow.” (Beth Young, from the article “The Crimes We Commit Against Our Marriages” posted on Marriage Advice.com)

•  “Many couples fall victim to thinking ‘if my spouse cared, they’d figure out what I’m feeling/thinking.’ What part of your vows said you’d read each other’s minds for as long as you both shall live? Don’t wait for your spouse to pick up that you’re frustrated. Speak up. 2 things will happen: you’ll grow because you’ve taken charge of your thoughts and your partner can grow because you’re treating them like an adult.” (Corey, gleaned from Simplemarriage.net article, “You Cannot NOT Communicate”)

•  “Displayed love gives children a pattern to follow. Kids live what they see. They will approach relationships the way they see us approaching them. What does a healthy relationship look like? They will understand this by seeing it in us. Love—they will discover by watching—is more than just hugs and kisses, but also kind words, helpful gestures, and tender care in other numerous ways.” – Tricia Goyer (From the Happywivesclub.com article, “4 Ways Loving Your Spouse Benefits Your Kids”)

•  “God’s steadfast love motivates us to enter into covenant with him. We know God is committed to our best interest. Therefore, we commit our lives to loving and serving him. In covenant marriage, it’s much the same. We enter marriage with a sense we’re loved; thus, we freely commit ourselves to each other for life. We’re then responsible for maintaining this attitude of love throughout the marriage.” -Gary Chapman

•  “Make a habit of celebrating positive moments that you and your spouse share. Avoid the unhappy trap of taking each other for granted. Ways to celebrate include: complimenting each other for positive words and actions every day, responding to each other’s good news with excitement, enjoying music together often, expressing affection freely thru hugs, kisses, back rubs, and serving each other thru acts of kindness.” (Whitney Hopler, from the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Enjoy a Happily Ever After Marriage”)

•  “We all have fears. These fears can be overwhelming and even irrational. Know your partner’s fears. Do they have to do with safety, finances, failure or death? Pray that these fears won’t paralyze your spouse, but that she (he) can work through and overcome them. Also, try to be patient and understanding, doing all you can to help and bring comfort. Never belittle your spouse for fears. Be a source of reassurance and support.” (Karen O’Connor, from the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “The Prayers that Changed Husbands”)

•  “Re-falling in love after a painful experience in marriage IS possible. But that can only happen if the couple resolves to elevate their marriage covenant beyond romance and affection. The covenant that God has ‘acted as a witness’ never changes unlike romance and affection, which exists in one moment and fades in the next.” (Phillip Mwaura) But it CAN reappear in another, when you intentionally work at it.

•  “Look up intimacy in a dictionary and you see words like close, warm, affectionate, and caring. At a meeting for marriage therapists, we heard a speaker define intimacy this way: ‘In-to-me-see.’ Intimacy is seeing into each other’s lives and celebrating what you find. It’s being aware of each other’s crazy quirks –and allowing them to endear you to them. Every time you do, you up the ante for more emotional intimacy.” (Drs Les and Leslie Parrott, gleaned from the 03/12/2014 E-devotional, “How To Be Happy When Your Spouse Drives You Nuts”)

•  “Love. Without love, there is no marriage. And, that’s why we must keep the spark alive. This year, set aside more time to date your spouse. And, when you are out, try your best to make sure the kids or grandkids aren’t the primary topic of conversation. ‘And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony(Colossians 3:14).(Brent Rinehart)

•  To help your marriage: “Build healthy friendships with other couples. Having other couples to hangout with is really crucial. Without friends, our marriage becomes an island. And if you have ever seen an episode of Gilligan’s Island, LOST, or the movie Castaway —then you know two things, (1) being on the island is boring (2) everyone wants to get off the island.” –Edward, from the elevateyourmarriage.com article, “11 Tips to Avoid a Mid-Marriage Crisis”)

•  “Pray that you’ll be the best spouse you can be. Ask forgiveness for those times you’ve been selfish or insensitive. Focus on loving your partner more, treating him (or her) with courtesy and compassion. Pray that you’ll change any negative or neglectful attitudes that you may have. As we improve our words and behavior, we pave the way for our spouse to make similar changes.” (Karen O’Connor)

•  “Speak ‘life’ into your spouse thru words of encouragement. The word encourage means ‘to make courageous.’ When we speak encouraging words we put courage into the other …we’re giving our spouse that extra energy —extra courage —to do something, to release untapped potential in some area of their life. ‘You’re going to have a great presentation.’ ‘You’re going to handle that situation just fine.’” Be an encourager! (From the Smalleymarriage.com web site)

•  “How do you leave your spouse in the morning? If you have only 1 smile in you, give it to the people you love (ESPECIALLY your spouse). Don’t be surly at home, then go out in the street and start grinning ‘Good morning’ at total strangers.” (Smalley) Love should BEGIN at home. “Love is patient, love is kind…it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.-1 Cor. 13:4-5 (Quote from the Smalleymarriage.com web site)

•  Comparing our spouse’s actions to ours can cause marital turmoil. “The greatest remedy to the comparison game is gratitude. The change in perspective is so minor we might not even realize its importance, but its effects can be life-long (and life-giving!). Instead of judging who can wipe down counters better, we can train ourselves to get in the habit of simply thanking our spouses for what they do and who they are.” (Stacy Voss from the Today’s Christian Woman article, “Apples to Diamonds”)

•  In marriages that are healthy and growing: “Couples understand that as ‘iron sharpens iron(Proverbs 27:17), so one spouse sharpens another. Sponge doesn’t sharpen sponge. Nerf doesn’t sharpen Nerf. Iron sharpens iron. When they’re faced with painful or discouraging issues, they remind each other that the product (greater love and deeper intimacy) is worth the process (dealing with the issues).” (Gary and Carrie Oliver, from Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Ready, Set, Grow”)

•  “Thank your spouse for something specific you appreciate that he/she did. “Thanks for being a great provider” or “Thanks for washing the dishes.” (Smalley) Don’t fall into the trap of taking your spouse for granted. Be generous —be an encourager, even in little things. “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.(1 Thess. 5:18)Do not grow weary in doing good…(Galatians 6:9) (Quote from the Smalleymarriage.com web site)

•  “Not every day will be full of fireworks, but every day can be full of love.” (Renae Willis) To do so, it will take intentionality… being pro-active —not letting life, and all its busyness, slide you apart. “Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.” (Tom Mullen) (The quotes with quotation marks around them come from the book, “101 Most Important Things You Need to Know Before You Get Married”)

•  “Every marriage is different so we have to keep a good perspective of what God has brought us through in our own marriage situation. Comparing our marriage to other marriages is an enormous undue pressure on us. But when we think about what God has brought us through, we regain a perspective filled with thanksgiving.” –Edward (From the elevateyourmarriage.com article, “11 Tips to Avoid a Mid-Marriage Crisis”)

•  During busy seasons, beware of just talking AT each other, rather that talking with each other. “The busier you are, the greater your need to communicate with your spouse. It can be easy for things to go unsaid and upcoming appointments and events not to be discussed. This will create conflict and tension in your marriage. Benefits: (1) This sends 2 critical messages: ‘YOU are on my mind’ and ‘WE are on my mind.'” –Smalley (Quote from the Smalleymarriage.com web site) 

•  “In disagreements, fight fairly. No name-calling and no dredging up the past. Always be prepared to indulge in a piece of humble pie.” (Renae Willis)But I tell you that men [and women] will have to give account on the Day of Judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.(Matthew 12:37)

•  “It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day-to-day basis.” (Margaret Bonanno) “Marriages are made stronger in spite of circumstances, not because of them.” (Renae Willis) This is ESPECIALLY true when marital partners determine to persevere —with the Lord as their strength, through the tough times, no matter what the circumstances are that they come against!

•  “Change yourself to change your marriage. Instead of trying to get your spouse to change (which can be a futile effort), ask the Holy Spirit to show you how you should change so your marriage will improve as a result. When you change your own attitudes and actions, the dynamic of your marriage can change, which can then inspire your spouse to make changes in his or her own life.” –Whitney Hopler(From the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Give Your Marriage a Makeover in Only 10 Days”)

•  “The greatest benefit of sharing and listening to each other’s opinions on the small stuff is that you’re well-rehearsed when it comes to the big stuff” (Jay Payleitner). “The lips of the wise spread knowledge, not so the hearts of fools(Prov. 15:7). “Apply your heart to instruction and your ears to words of knowledge” (Prov. 23:12).Listen to advice and accept instruction and in the end you will be wise(Prov. 19:20).

•  “Men, if you want to touch your wife’s body, touch her heart 1st. Talk with her. Consider vacuuming as foreplay! Honor her & be sensitive to her needs. Women, if you want to have a great relationship, stop treating your man like he’s a Neanderthal or a cretin because he wants to have sex. This is his God-given desire and his best way of connecting with you.” (Cindy Sigler Dagnan, gleaned from the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Beating the Bedroom Blues”)

•  Marriage vows are not rules or guidelines. They’re “a public demonstration of a commitment to a covenant relationship. Malachi 2:14 says that marriage is a holy covenant before God. For Christians, marriage goes beyond earthly promise. It’s a divine picture of the relationship between Christ and his Bride, the Church. Our promise to love and honor each other is a spiritual representation of our relationship with God.” (Drs Les and Leslie Parrott)

•  “Start your day with prayer. Roll over, hug your [spouse] and say something like, ‘Lord, we give you our day.’ or ‘God, thank you for being so good to us. Help us honor you today in everything we do.'” (Lori Byerly) “Nothing tends more to cement the hearts of Christians than praying together. Never do they love one another so well as when they witness the outpouring of each other’s hearts in prayer.” (Charles Finney)

•  “Frequently Connect With Your Spouse when they have been gone for the day so it communicates, ‘I’ve been thinking of you.’ Use brief phone calls, voice mail, text messaging or e-mails to connect or flirt with your spouse throughout the day. Let them know you care about them or were just thinking about them. Your words will act like a pep-up pill and help them to get through the day.” (Smalley,  from the Smalleymarriage.com web site)

•  From The Cybersalt Digest: “On their 50th wedding anniversary during the banquet celebrating it, Tom was asked to give his friends a brief account of the benefits of a long marriage. Tom responds, ‘I’ve learned that marriage is the best teacher of all. It teaches you loyalty, meekness, forbearance, self-restraint, forgiveness, and many other qualities you wouldn’t have needed if you’d stayed single.'” True, huh?

•  “Wherever you are in your marriage, no doubt you have some scratches and dents [conflicts and foolish choices]. Perhaps you’re even tempted to see those imperfections as a sign that you’re ‘settling for less.’ Take heart in a biblical principle: Christ’s strength and glory does not shine through our perfection but through showing each other His grace in the midst of our weakness and disappointment.” -Dr. Juli Slattery (From the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Scratch-and-Dent Marriage”)

•  “Long-lasting love doesn’t happen by accident. We don’t find ourselves holding hands after 25 years with the one that we love by pure chance. Love is deliberate; it’s intentional, it’s purposeful, and in the end it’s worth every minute (and every effort) that we invest” -Darlene Schacht.

•  For the sake of the intimacy of your marriage: Consider a bedroom “do over. If your bedroom has become the repository for bills cluttering a desk, a corner stuffed with books and magazines, or a bed full of laundry that you need to throw off the bed, put your energies into completely cleaning it up and throwing things out. Choose a new theme, paint, or comforter set. The painting alone is worth trying!” (Cindy Sigler Dagnan, gleaned from the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Beating the Bedroom Blues”)

•  A quote to consider: “I didn’t marry you because you were perfect. I didn’t even marry you because I loved you. I married you because you gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults. And the promise I gave you made up for mine…And when our children were growing up, it wasn’t a house that protected them; it wasn’t our love that protected them —it was that promise.” (Thornton Wilder)

•  “Often, when a spouse returns home, the other spouse is in the middle of something and barely looks up to say hello, not to mention walk over to embrace them when they come in. Most people would stop whatever they’re doing to welcome a guest…why shouldn’t we do the same for our best friend and spouse? This says ‘I VALUE you—that the person coming in the door is more important than anything else I might be doing.'” (Quote from the Smalleymarriage.com web site)

•  In your marriage: “When you make a commitment to do something together every day [for at least 15 minutes], for the purpose of connecting, you begin to connect on a level you never even knew possible. Lay every hope and dream out there and then [together] think of ways you can help each other achieve those dreams. There are no rules to when, where or what you do for your daily ritual.” (Fawn Weaver) TRY IT! (From Happywivesclub.com article, “12 Weeks to a Happier Marriage”)

•  “Just like you can’t simultaneously be looking forward and backward, you can’t be looking out for what other people do better than your spouse and look for ways to encourage and motivate him (or her) at the same time. By deliberately choosing to look at your spouse in respect, you’ll be moving your relationship forward, but most importantly, you’ll stop spoiling your marriage by comparing apples to diamonds.” -Stacy Voss (from the Today’s Christian Woman article, “Apples to Diamonds”)

•  “Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.” (Martin Luther) Of course, this is sound advice if the situation is reversed: Let the husband make the wife glad to come home, and let her make him sorry to see her leave. It’s also good to try (to the best of your ability) to: “Put your best foot forward for your spouse, even more than for your friends.” (Renae Willis)

•  “Don’t accumulate resentment until you explode. Handle and resolve each issue as it comes up.” (Bill Turner) “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you(Ephesians 4:30-32).

•  “The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.” (Robert C. Dodds) Do what you can to try to “think together” in your marriage and proceed as partners, not adversaries. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?(Amos 3:3)If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other(Galatians 5:15).

•  “Husbands and wives, you can move toward your spouse and work on your marriage. On your own, you would ruin your marriage, but because the whole fullness of deity dwells bodily, you can love your spouse sacrificially. Whoever you are, and whatever God has called you to, move forward with courage and faith, because the whole fullness of deity dwells bodily. You don’t have to live in timidity as a believer.” -Paul D. Tripp

•  “When you begin the day talking about everything on your schedules that day or conclude it recapping everything that went on within it, there is no place in your head for those voices that enter so many, ‘I wonder what he’s (she’s) doing?’ When there’s nothing left unsaid between you, trust pillars are added on top of the foundation of your marriage to build up the house your marriage has built.” –Fawn Weaver(From Happywivesclub.com article, “12 Weeks to a Happier Marriage”)

•  In marital sex: “The big O is not orgasm. The big O is oneness. It’s not how great the bodies or how great the orgasm. It’s, ‘Was that a loving experience where we shared with each other? Was it contributing to our oneness?'” —Christopher McCluskey(From the Todayschristianwoman.com article, “Our Best Sex Advice”)

•  “Replacing the toilet paper roll does not cause brain damage. Neither does unloading the dishwasher. Teamwork works in marriages just as it does in football. Get a game plan and stick to it. Everyone’s not the quarterback. It takes all team members working together for success.” (Renae Willis)Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil.(Ecclesiastes 4:9)

•  Keep in mind that “much of the sin of your spouse will be impersonal; they’re not plotting and scheming about how they can devastate you. They’re sinful people, and that sin simply splashes up into your life. We often make things worse when we interpret their actions as direct and personal attacks” –Paul D. Tripp. Try as best you can, not to assume the worst about your spouse’s motives. Give grace, whenever it’s possible. (From the paultripp.com blog, “Wednesday’s Word: Walk With Forbearance”)

•  “Often the difference between a successful marriage and a mediocre one consists of leaving about 3 or 4 things a day unsaid.” (Harlan Miller)When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.(Proverbs 10:19)If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless.(James 1:26)

•  “Pray for the wisdom you need to know what to do to earn a deeper level of trust from your spouse. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you when you’re not giving trust to your spouse when he or she deserves it from you. After either one of you breaks the trust between you (such as by lying or cheating), confess, repent, and do whatever it takes to restore trust over time so you all can feel safe with each other again.” (Whitney Hopler, from the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Give Your Marriage a Makeover in Only 10 Days”)

•  “A wise physician once said, ‘The best medicine for humans is love.’ Someone asked, ‘What if it doesn’t work?’ He smiled and answered, ‘Increase the dose’.” (Unknown) “…Faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.(1 Corinthians 13:13)

•  “One advantage of marriage, is that when you fall out of love, it keeps you together til you can fall in love [with each other] again.” (Judith Viorst) Know that: “Marriage will be like a roller coaster–full of ups and downs. You’ll need to catch your breath at times [and work hard at it other times], but it’s a ride worth taking.” (Renae Willis) Be careful though, that you choose someone and you ARE someone of good character.

•  “Compliment your spouse on things you admire about him or her. And don’t take it for granted that your words are superfluous. It’s a simple matter to say such things as: ‘You did a good job’; ‘I love the way you make people feel welcome when they come to our home’; ‘I appreciate what a hard worker you are’; ‘You’re so loving with the kids.’ So in addition to a laugh a day, give your spouse a compliment every day.” (Gleaned from the book, “Intimacy on the Run” by Jeannette and Robert Lauer)

•  QUICK ROMANTIC TIP: “My husband and I each have a journal, and we write to each other occasionally. It might be just a quick little love note, or a note that says, “I was thinking of you,” or it can be a sensitive topic that we need to discuss further. We leave it on the pillow so the other one knows we’ve written in it.” -Becky and Dick Berg

•  “Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. One of the greatest skills in marriage is to assume less and learn more. Nothing pushes us to grow quite like marriage. Look at it as an endless opportunity to learn about the person you love most, yourself, and the world around you. Assume as little as possible…discover as much as possible.” –Keith Weaver (From the Happy Wives Club blog, “6 Easy Ways to Exceed Your Spouse’s Expectations”)

•  Is the following how you feel with your marriage partner? “If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live a day without you.” Keep in mind: “None of us know how many days we have. Treasure each one as if it’s your last.” (Renae Willis) When both of you do, you’ll more likely approach each other a lot like you did in the beginning, when you first fell in love.

•  “You’ll enjoy your marriage more if you laugh a lot together. Try to find ways to experience pleasure that endears you to each other. Develop secrets together, private jokes that keep you whispering fun nothings and keep you intrigued with each other. Wink at him and watch him melt. Schedule time and find ways to make fun happen. Instead of thinking, ‘we can’t do that!’ Find a way. Be persistent.” Persevere! (Linda Weber, author of Mom, You’re Incredible)

•  “Pray for the ability to see your spouse from God’s perspective, which will inspire you to honor each other’s true worth. You can honor each other by loving and respecting each other unconditionally as a way of honoring the fact that God has made you both in his image. Take advantage of opportunities to communicate encouraging messages to your spouse and serve your spouse through acts of kindness.” -Whitney Hopler (From the Crosswalk.com article, “How to Give Your Marriage a Makeover in Only 10 Days”)

•  “Marital love is not blind —it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less.” (Rabbi Julius Gordon) “Make it a habit to see your partner as God sees them. God sees all and loves us anyway.” (Renae Willis)We love because he first love us.(1 John 4:19)

•  “The divorce rate would be lower if instead of marrying for better or worse people would marry for good.” (Ruby Dee) Sadly, “People shop for a bathing suit with more care than they do a husband or wife. The rules are the same. Look for something you’ll feel comfortable wearing. Allow for room to grow.” (Erma Bombeck) The difference is that a bathing suit is for a season, marriage is supposed to be for life!

•  “It’s important to learn your spouse’s communication style and needs. Is your spouse a person that needs ‘consistent’ feedback while they’re talking? Or is your spouse one that wants to complete their thoughts without interruption? Remember: Listening is important in communication. Without someone listening, there’s little to no connecting happening! Prov. 18:13: ‘To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.’” (Pamela King, gleaned from the Stilldatingmyspouse.com article, “Ways to Improve Nonverbal Communication in Marriage)

•  “If the grass looks better on the other side, it’s because they took better care of it.” (Cecil Selig) Stay true to the vow you made to your spouse and to your God. It’s the right thing to do, NO MATTER WHAT! “What we need is a time machine so people entering into an affair could flash forward and see themselves, their kids, & their lives at the other end of this ‘tunnel of love’ –at the end of the lust.” (Diane Sollee)

•  A good marriage is priceless. “Every marriage is an investment that requires constant meaningful deposits.” (Christina) “Marriages usually don’t collapse overnight. They become bankrupt gradually because they lack daily deposits of love, communication, and affirmation.” (Doug Fields) Question: Are you doing YOUR part in building a good marital relationship with your spouse?

•  “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” (Sam Keen) “No, you are not marrying the perfect person, but you can love perfectly [as Jesus] and in that love, make them perfect” [to the degree that this is possible]. (Renae Willis) As Jesus said, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you…(John 13:34) (Renae Willis, from the book, “101 Most Important Things You Need to Know Before You Get Married”)

“A happy marriage is the union of two forgivers.” (Robert Quillen) “It doesn’t take a very big person to carry even the smallest grudge.” (Renae Willis)See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no ‘root of bitterness’ springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled” (Heb. 12:15) “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.(Eph. 4:32)

•  “Love each other always and in all ways. This sounds simple as you embark on this journey because you don’t know the ‘all ways’ part yet. If you truly get the ‘always’ part, then you’ll be fine with [and will find a way to love each other in] ‘all ways.’ (Renae Willis) We should take our example from Jesus who said, “Love one another as I have loved you” –Sacrificial love lived out, no doubt!

•  “Anger makes your mouth work faster than your brain.” (Evan Esar) “When one’s temper gets the best of us, it reveals the worst of us.” (Renae Willis)A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly(Prov. 14:29). “Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him(Prov. 29:20). Whether you’re a husband or a wife, “be angry and do not sin.(Eph. 4:26)

•  “When listening or speaking, are you attentive, leaning forward, slumping in your chair or even playing on your phone? To be an effective communicator, pay attention to your spouse moods, gestures and actions for what your spouse is feeling or not telling you. Also, be conscience to what your nonverbal messages are telling your spouse. Couples should be conscious of their verbal and nonverbal communication.” -Pamela King

•  “Children need to know what healthy adult relationships look like. They need a united, stable homelife. The way we offer this is if we work to build a strong marriage where we remember what being a wife [husband] is like amongst the daily demands of being a mom [dad]. Sometimes we need to put our spouse’s needs above our children’s. Sometimes we need to tell the children it’s Mom and Dad time and they need to wait.” (Sheila Wray Gregoire)

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