Forgotten Promises: I Didn’t Marry This

Forgotten promises Pixabay wedding-540905_1920There have been several times in our married life when I have looked up at Heaven and said to God, “I didn’t marry this. This is not what I agreed to… This isn’t fair.” (I talked a bit in my last blog about the “This Isn’t Fair” statement.) But I’ve seen that during trials we often don’t remember forgotten promises that we made on our wedding day.

Forgotten Promises

I’ll never forget the day the Lord confronted me about what I promised on my wedding day. He said to me, within my thoughts, “Yes you did. You promised to ‘love, honor, and cherish for better, for worse, until death’ do you part. This is part of the ‘worse’ of it all.” I instantly knew He was right. I had. But I had forgotten. It changed how I approached matters afterward.

All of this hit home again recently when one of my niece’s got married on the other side of the country. Because of my brother’s heart condition, he and we couldn’t attend the wedding. So via Skype, we attended the wedding that way. We’re thankful for modern technology.

But during the ceremony, we heard the preacher helping the couple exchange their vows. I thought to myself, “I hope they remember what they’re promising each other when times get tough!” There’s no doubt that they will experience tough times. And during those times, promises we made are often forgotten. My husband and I have often forgotten promises we made to each other (like in the incident I previously cited). It’s amazing how we often forget such important things.

Wedding Vows: Forgotten Promises

I came across a few quotes (from unknown sources) that have actually been said during some wedding ceremonies. When you read them, you’ll probably agree with me that they are romantic:

• “There comes a time when you meet someone and you just want to make them smile for the rest of your life.”

• “I can conquer the world with one hand, as long as you’re holding the other.”

•“I can’t promise to solve all your problems, but I can promise you won’t have to face them alone.”

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the people who said this to their intended, would actually live out what they promised? I hope they can and have done so.

I usually try to get couples to write out their wedding vows and post them on one of the walls of their home. It is less likely you will forget that, which you have written out staring you in the face. When you make promises —especially marital covenant promises, you had better not forget what you promised to do. Follow through on your promises. You can’t MAKE your spouse follow through on his or hers, but you can follow through on yours.

While researching and writing this blog, I came across the following article that is written by fellow blogger Frank Powell. Please read what he has to say. He makes some very good points:


Above all, we are to remember that promises are not to be given lightly.

There are No Forgotten Promises With God

God doesn’t forget promises we make and we shouldn’t either. But we do… even though when we marry we enter into a covenant agreement with our spouse AND with God. Entering into a covenant agreement is MUCH more serious than signing a contract with someone. That’s why we should take it very, very seriously. We should NOT forget nor take lightly what we promise on our wedding day.

The Bible says, “It is a trap for a man to dedicate something rashly and only later consider his vows,(Proverbs 20:25) It’s important when we marry, that we don’t “rashly” make promises we won’t keep.

To consider this subject further, below is a linked article written by April Motyl. It’s something that I encourage you to read. You can find it at the link:


Be a promise keeper. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. And to the best of your ability, never break solemn promises. They matter to God, and they should matter to you.

Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this blog.

In Addition:

Here’s a related article that brings this point home, all the more:


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