God’s Prescription For a Lasting Marriage

GOD'S PRESCRIPTION Lasting Marriage - Canva Pixabay background“Find the right person, fall in love, set your hopes on them —that’s Hollywood’s path to finding a love.” That sounds like a great formula for a lasting marriage doesn’t it? It would be, if it worked for a lifetime —that falling in love in that manner meant “staying in love” for a lifetime. But God has a different prescription for a lasting marriage.

Chip Ingram, the president of Walk Thru the Bible, explains this in a Family Life Today radio interview titled, “God’s Prescription for a Lasting Relationship.” Chip did this interview with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine.

In this interview Chip Ingram says that Hollywood is all about “finding the right person.”

Concerning Love and Lasting Marriage, Chip says:

“It’s built in our DNA that the whole thing about love is there’s somebody out there. You’ve got to go find them.

And then fall in love. It will be a dramatic, spine-tingling, oh, this look is in your eyes, and this feeling will come over you. And then set your hopes and dreams upon them. This person is going to come through and make your life.

So, step 1 is find the right person. Step 2 is fall in love. And step 3 is fix your hopes and dreams on them. But then they do have a step 4. When that doesn’t work go back to step 1. You have the wrong person, so find someone else.

And so we have cultivated and developed this idea that if you’re not fulfilled, if it’s not ooey-gooey, if things aren’t going you way, if you don’t feel accepted, affirmed, then you must be with the wrong person. So find the right person.”

Hmmm… I’m not thinking that this is exactly God’s Prescription for how we’re to conduct our lives. It certainly isn’t one for  a marriage that will last. On this issue, you may want to find out more by listening to more of this interview. There are 5 parts to it. (But you can choose to listen to any of them on their own, although each interview builds to the next.).

Here’s what they involve:

Part 1 – Looking for Love in All the Right Places: 

Chip let the Lord lead him to a mate who shared his faith. Are you doing the same? Chip Ingram, author of Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships, talks to Dennis Rainey about his own attempts to find a love that would last.

Part 2 – God’s Prescription for Lasting Relationships:

Find the right person, fall in love, set your hopes on them. That’s Hollywood’s path to finding love. Chip Ingram, president of Walk Thru the Bible, tells Dennis Rainey how God’s prescription for love differs from that of Hollywood’s.

Part 3 – Tests of Love, Part 1: 

How do you know if you’re in love? Chip Ingram, an author and president of Walk Thru the Bible, shares 12 tests that let you know whether or not you truly have been hit by Cupid’s arrow.

Part 4 – Tests of Love, Part 2: 

‘Your heart beats faster whenever this person appears. But is it love? Chip Ingram, author of Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships, continues to share some sound advice for testing the quality of your love.

Part 5 – Saying “No” to Second-Rate Sex: 

We’ve all heard that you shouldn’t have sex because God says so, but are there other reasons? Walk Thru the Bible President Chip Ingram teaches you how to say no to second-rate sex.

To listen to all or any one of these interviews, please click onto the Familylife.com link below:

LOVE, SEX, AND LASTING RELATIONSHIPS

Author Whitney Hopler wrote an interesting article on this same subject. In it, she gives several helpful guidelines so “you can prepare for a marriage that goes all the way” with one of them encouraging you to:

Rewrite the story of your life.

Whether you are discerning marriage or already married, if your life story has been moving in the wrong direction, invite God to write the rest of your story His way. Learn from your mistakes. Confess your sins, and embrace the forgiveness and healing that God offers. Rely on God’s grace to grow. Recognize that your identity lies solely in who God says you are. It’s not in what has happened to you. Break free from the shame of your past by realizing that, while what’s done is done, God can work all things together for good. And you can choose to move into a better future.”

To learn more, please click onto the Crosswalk.com web site to read:

BUILD A MARRIAGE THAT GOES THE DISTANCE

Sadly, it’s “now more common for marriages to fail than it is for them to last a lifetime.” But even so, as Whitney Hopler writes, “you can still get married with the confidence that you’ll enjoy the healthy, holy marriage God wants you to have if you invest time before getting married into asking wise questions.” And also being truthful in answering them —that’s also important.

So, below is a link to a Crosswalk.com article, in which Whitney gives and explains:

12 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE GETTING MARRIED

To learn more, you can read Whitney Hopler’s book, 12 Questions to Ask Before You Marry.

Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this article.

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3 responses to “God’s Prescription For a Lasting Marriage

  1. (ZIMBABWE)  Why wait until there is problem? Counseling should be sought before people even get married to help them unearth the little, yet important things, they are bringing into the marriage and find understanding for one another, and deal with those issues that need be worked at. Leaving it till problems come up might be homicidal, leading to the death of the marriage.

  2. (NIGERIA) Please advise me. My fiance is still in school and he has no job but I have a job that has been sustaining us in our relationship. Do you think it is okay for us to talk about marriage, let alone plan it?

    1. (USA) It could be much better for you if you waited to marry until things were a bit more financially stable (as long as you are not living together — then there is not much difference financially). Financial pressures can become problematic when you first marry because there are so many other pressures to work through. If you can wait, do …but if not, just know that you will need to work through the pressures as a team — even though you are the main income-earner right now.

      The bigger issue though, is to make sure you’re compatible in other areas of your marriage. We have a lot of pages of questions that would be good for you to both go through together, which are posted in the “Marriage Preparation Tools” topic, which I encourage you GREATLY to do. You want to make sure you are able to see and work through your differences in healthy ways. THAT’S what’s most important, and that you are compatible in integrity and moral issues (such as being faithful to each other sexually, commitment to the sanctity of marriage and each other, and especially spiritual compatibility and like-mindedness. I hope you have that and wish you well.