A Marriage Miracle – MM #130

Marriage miracle-364681_1920 - PixabayAre you praying for a marriage miracle today? Are you losing hope that God truly does resurrect marriages from the ruins? Please hang on; looking to God for hope and help is not fruitless. After all:

“Who better to resurrect an ash heap of a marriage than the creator of marriage Himself?” (Marla Kloenckner)

Need a Marriage Miracle?

Is your marriage troubled? Do you know others in that situation? If so, we hope you’ll find the following to be inspiring.

Jim Cymbala (pastor of the Brooklyn Tabernacle in New York City) spoke on a (January 7, 2004) radio broadcast on Focus on the Family about the power of prayer. He told how it has changed his life. The following are a few things he shared on the subject of marriage:

“There have been more books written about marriages than in all the preceding 2000 years of church history. More books in the last 40 years have been written on marriage. And yet go to any pastor in America; ask him if there aren’t more problems in marriages today than ever before. We’ve got all the ‘how-to’s’ but what we’re missing is the praise of God. Those that pray together stay together.

“Even so, there will be difficult moments. I’m not being overly simplistic about this. But God says, ‘Call upon Me and I will answer you. I will show you great and marvelous things‘ —just give Me a chance!

The Need for God’s Power

“The problems we’re experiencing in married life isn’t because we’re lacking knowledge or the ‘how-to’s.’ All of that has its place. But brother and sister, when the rubber meets the road what we need is the power of God. The Bible says, And therefore, let us come boldly to the throne of God so that we might receive grace and mercy in our time of need.

“The God over my life and possibly yours writes, You have not because you ask not. In other words God has this table set for us. And He sees you and your spouse and He knows exactly what you need. He has the table spread with every type of wisdom, grace, and strength you could ever possibly need. But He says the only way you can get it is to pull up to the table. You are to ‘Taste and see that the Lord is good‘ —and pulling up to the table is called PRAYER.

“In other words God doesn’t tell us ‘pray because I want my people to pray’—He says, ‘pray because I have all kinds of things for you’ and ‘when you ask you shall receive.

The Grace and Power of God

“And the hard cases that some of you are facing —know that the ultimate answer isn’t going to come from going to another seminar. Seminars have their limits. What they are is an arrow that points you to the throne of grace. But when you get there —WATCH OUT! —because God can do exceedingly beyond what we ask or think.

“I’m not being simplistic. But we have too many technicians invading the church that are into ‘methodology.’ The answer is not in methodology, the answer is in the power of the Holy Spirit. The answer is in the grace of God.”

Please note:

Methodology is a TOOL. It’s something that helps you as you work WITH the power of God —because of the power of God —in the strength and wisdom that God can give you through His Holy Spirit. It is not a substitute, or something that has much power without the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

We can personally testify that without plugging into the power of God through prayer, our own marriage would be a divorce disaster. Pulling up to the table called PRAYER has been the wisest move we’ve made to save and strengthen our marriage. God is in the miracle-working business. We’ve experienced that personally and have seen it lived out in the lives of countless others.

We’d also like to share additional thoughts on this subject written by Ron Hutchcraft. It comes from his book, Start Your Trip with a Full Tank …and Other Spiritual Jump Starts (a Baker book which is no longer being published). In it he talked about a marriage miracle that Christ performed at a wedding in Cana (see John 2:1-11). He wrote:

A Marriage Miracle

“Take notice of where Jesus did His first miracle—at a wedding. We saw our own personal miracle at our wedding, and we’ve seen a lot since. Maybe your marriage could use a miracle right now.

“That day in Cana, there was a change that no man or woman could make. Nobody can change water into wine, but Jesus did. Maybe right now, some change is urgently needed in your home. Have you been to your knees together yet?

“Have you poured out your mess, your pain, and your dark feelings to the Lord —crying out together for Jesus’ healing in your marriage? The less you feel like doing it, the more you need to. And if your partner absolutely will not, don’t let that stop you. This passage says Jesus had been INVITED to this wedding, to this marriage. Why don’t you invite Him into your marriage?

Don’t Quit

“Close the door to quitting. Ask God to show you the hope factors that you can build on. You’ve looked at the hopeless factors long enough. Can you pray this? ‘Lord, we can’t make it work, and I don’t know how You would, but we beg You to do what we can’t do in this marriage.’

“2,000 years ago, in the midst of a marriage, Jesus met an impossible need with His supernatural intervention. Today, the scene is set again with you and the one you’ve promised your life to.”

Hope Factors

Did you see that term… hope factors, in what Ron wrote? God specializes in giving hope. And above all, He cares for you. Your marriage miracle may or may not come in the way you hope and pray it will. But don’t lose hope. God still does perform miracles. Pray, hope, and look to God to bring a miracle into your life. Just don’t box Him in. Look for a series of small miracles, as well as big ones. And don’t put it into your time frame, but give God the elbow room He needs for whatever amount of time He needs to do what He deems important to do.

Here are some additional points to consider on this issue:

Break it Down

“If you’re in a difficult season in your marriage and you start to think, ‘How can I take another 10 or 20 or, God forbid, 30 years of this?’ You’re headed for trouble. You’re asking God to give you the grace for something that hasn’t happened. Instead, break it down to a single unit —a single day: ‘Just focus on this: Can I love my husband [or wife] for this day?’ Don’t think about 10 years down the road, or even 10 months! Can you love your spouse for this one day?

“Some friends who knew I was running the Seattle Marathon asked me, ‘How did you do that for 26 miles?’ My answer? ‘One mile at a time.’ How do you stay married for 26 years? One day at a time. Break it down. Focus on the here and now. Put the future in God’s hands. Some miles will seem easy, and some will feel hard, but you need to focus only on the ones you’re currently running. Let the others remain in His care. Can you love your spouse for this one day?” (Gary Thomas, Devotions for a Sacred Marriage)

Additionally, realize:

“Nobody is advocating that men and women stay in a physically abusive marriage, or in a marriage unhinged by constant infidelity. But ‘most people who get divorced,’ as James Wilson (social scientist) said, ‘aren’t trying to escape such dire situations.’

“…Couples divorce at lower thresholds of unhappiness now than in the past, researcher have found. In a study conducted over many years, it was found that nearly three-fifths of married men and women who said in the 1980’s that they were unhappy said 10 years later that they were ‘very happy’ or ‘quite happy.’…We’re losing many marriages that could be saved.” (Andrew Hermann)

Again, don’t box God in by putting your time frame and your parameters onto the miracle you are trusting Him for. In the meantime, I encourage you to read and watch as many of the following video testimonies as you can. It may help to build your faith to believe God for the miracle you are looking for:

SAVE MY MARRIAGE TESTIMONIES

Put Your Hope In God

You may find it difficult to put your hope into a situation that looks hopeless. But you can put your hope into a God who is able to resurrect the dead? Don’t underestimate all that God can accomplish in your marriage and in your life with one heart fully yielded to Him.

Cindy and Steve Wright

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22 responses to “A Marriage Miracle – MM #130

  1. (ETHIOPIA) Me and my husband are divorced. We both contributed to this disaster. I still feel that we meant to be together. I love him so much and I believe our children should be raised with both their parents. I pray to God every single day to do his miracle and make us family again. Please join me with prayer.

  2. (NIGERIA)  God can still bring you guys together; stop praying and start thanking him for bringing you and your husband together. It is well with you.

  3. (PHILIPPINES)  My Husband and I had separated due to my infidelity. I admit I made mistakes, and hurt him so much. I want my marriage to be fixed, and to bring us together. I love Him so much. He has already decided to apply for an annulment, which I agreed to, but deep in my heart I refused to.

    Please help me. I need a miracle, from GOD, to bring us together; and start all over again with GOD’s blessings. I know I have hurt Him and His ego so much that he doesn’t want me anymore. His friends tell me that He still loves me, but we can’t live together anymore; because our relationship has already been stained. I want my Husband… Please help…

  4. (USA)  My wife is filing for divorce. At first I wanted this, but I never filed. We both had affairs. I take all the blame. We have two small kids and I don’t know what to do. Please pray for our family. I will do anything to save my marriage and have another chance to be the husband God wants me to be.

  5. (USA)  I need a miracle from God Right NOW! My husband filed for a divorce 2 wks ago without discussing it with me. I DO NOT want a divorce. I love him so much! I had an afair 2 yrs ago and my husband has yet to forgive me. He says he has tried but he feels infidelity is unforgivable.

    We have a 6 1/2 yr old daughter and she loves us both so much. I have been praying and asking God to save my marrige and I have been thanking HIM for doing so. I pray constantly for GOD to allow forgiveness to set in and for him to see how much he loves me. He is planning to move out soon. I am trying to stay strong and in God’s word. Please pray for us.

  6. (UNITED STATES)  My husband has been in an affair for 2 yrs. I have prayed so much for this season to be over; the pain is horrible. We still live together but are fighting about this other person and that he calls her a friend. I pray that God opens his eyes to show him what a beautiful family he has and how much I love him. I watch this and stand in faith that it would end. But the devil is strong on him and I feel like he is never going to come out of this.

    I cannot believe he has become this person to me after all these years. He still tells me that he loves me but he doesn’t know if he can basically end it as it would be hard. He knows he created this destruction but is stuck somehow, which I feel is cake eating. I need strength now and I need God at least to ease my pain and fear. Please pray for my marriage.

  7. (US)  Please pray for my marriage TODAY. I am days away from a mindless, unbibilcal divorce. My husband filed 2 months ago and I am praying for a miracle. Without going into detail I know he is fighting God… he is a Christian man, very confused and he needs God to clear this cloud from his mind. Pray with me for a miracle.

  8. (USA)  God loves you Al, and will forever keep you in his favor. Trust your marriage to the Lord and allow the Lord’s will to be done. One person has the power to save a marriage even if the other does not want to continue the marriage. Please know that God is bigger than your marriage and the problems that had occurred in it. Give these problems to HIM for he is God all mighty, who can restore your marriage. Trust, Patience, and keeping faith through endurance will bring you marriage together.

    Do not lose hope… and even when your partner says “I don’t know if we could ever get back together again” it means that there is still hope. Trust your heart and aline your spirit with God, and call his presence in your life. Listen to his praises, and fellowship with his children. God will work on your behalf, just have faith and trust in his work. Let go and do not try to force God’s hand, for your efforts will not work. Let go and let God work.

    Most of all, pray for your partner. Pray for them that God’s will has been done in their life. Trust God. HE makes the impossible possible. God Bless you… Amen

  9. (USA)  My wife Amanda came over 4 weeks ago, and she said that she doesn’t want me to give up on her, and that she knows what she is doing is wrong. She said she doesn’t read the Bible or go to church anymore, so I gave her a Bible. I have not heard from her since.

    Please pray that the Holy Spirit lead her back to the Word, the Truth, and the Light. She is still living with the other man. Her employer has taken a very aggressive stance against me, and has assumed a controlling stance over my wife. Her mother has also always taken an aggressive stance against me, and has constantly whispered anti-marriage sentiments to my wife.

    Please pray the hedge of thorns around Amanda, that these ungodly influences in her life will lose interest and depart. I have been standing for 10 months. She left me in Jan 11. John

  10. (USA)  I need a miracle. My husband left 10 days ago. I want him back. He said he is mad and left and said he was never coming back. NO infidelity that I know about. I may have chased him away over time with words exchanged. I want him to return to fix the marriage and make it better and bring back love. I need a miracle. I need a blessing. I am desperately, hopelessly alone and in love and don’t want him gone. I need prayer. I want God to bless me with a miracle. Pray for me.

  11. (USA)  The effectual, fervent prayer of the righteous avails much. Pray for your husband and trust God to lead him home. Marriage is under attack and we must remember that we wrestle not with flesh and blood but spiritual wickedness. So, we must fight in the spirit.

    Repent for your part and receive God’s grace and mercy. Determine in your heart to honor your husband and God will defend you and your marriage. Be encouraged Joy, God is for you and love never fails stand on the word of God. Begin to thank God for leading you to prayer and praise Him for His love He is still in the miracle business if we believe. Continue to pray and believe God for guidance through His word and Godly counsel to be able to be a light and an instrument of His love in your marriage.

    Be blessed know that you are loved and you are not alone this indeed can be the best year of your life. Don’t focus on what you can see focus on God and let Him love you into wholeness and bring healing to your hoe and marriage.

  12. (USA) Please help me. I don’t know what to pray for anymore. I love my husband so much. I lied to him about money and debt. I have never cheated on him. I am so sorry I took him for granted. He wants a separation and I want to make this work. I feel so lost and empty without him.

    Please God help him forgive me and love me again. Help me be a better wife and give me another chance. Please bring our marriage back together before its too late. Come Holy Spirit come. Please God help us. I am so tired of feeling like such a failure. I need a miracle because he is no longer in love with me. I pray we both heal soon for the sake of our son. I miss being a family. The Lord is my shepard. Please God, we need your guidance QASAP!

  13. (UNITED STATES) My husband said he believes divorce is our only option. I am so afraid. We have both tried but never together. God, help us start over and have the relationship you want us to have together. I pray and trust in you but I am so afraid he has made up his mind. Lord Jesus, please touch his heart and mine and let us have a relationship that will glorify you. Please I ask this in your name, amen.

  14. (UNITED STATES) My name is jessica and I have had to put my wedding on hold. My fiancé, Carlos became abusive with drugs and destroyed everything. We were trying to form a family and now I’m DEVASTED and HEARTBROKEN. With legal issues pending and all my wedding plans on hold I’m sick to my.stomach with SADNESS. My whole life has been a nightmare. I atempted to FORM a FAMILY and I got HURT; now I’m soooo AFRAID to trust. He wants me back but I’m scared, hurt, and need URGENT prayer! GOD BLESS yoU. Will God restore, or does He want me to LET GO?

  15. My Tammy took off out of the blue while I was out of town. I pray that God opens her mind, eyes, and heart and fills them with positive thoughts of me. I pray that Tammy returns to our home safely.