Money, it can be a blessing or a curse. It all depends upon the way you approach it. When you manage it well, it can be a blessing. But when you don’t or can’t, it certainly brings one to want to curse.
When it comes to money and marriage, the blessing and curse issue is applicable, as well. Money issues can bring out the best and it can bring out the worst in us.
There is one thing for sure:
“Money issues need to be talked about. Many people try to avoid subjects (or really anything) they don’t like or are afraid of. You have to face the giants. If your finances are a mess, you have to face up to the truth. How can you expect to move a mountain that you refuse to admit exists?” (Bob Lotich, from Christianpf.com article, Money and Marriage: 7 Lessons I Have Learned So Far)
Money issues can be mountainous in how they can divide and separate you in your marriage. It takes real teamwork to make your money work FOR you, rather than allow it to work against you and divide you.
In your marriage vows you promised to “love, honor, and cherish” each other, “for better or for worse, for richer or poorer.” But when you said those vows to each other and to God, you may not have fully realized that the “better and worse” of times would truly visit you, and it would cause so many problems. THAT’S one of the many times in your marriage when you need to come together and show teamwork. It isn’t a time when you should turn against each other.
“Money is one of the most common sources of conflict in a marriage. That’s true regardless of whether the couple has only a little money or a lot of money. The problem, Dr Gary Chapman explains, is not the amount of money that a couple has, but their attitude toward money and how they handle it.
“Most people fit into one of two categories when it comes to money. They are either spenders or savers by nature. And people tend to marry their opposite when it comes to attitudes toward money, Chapman says. However, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, if the two can balance each other.” (Belinda Elliott, from CBN.com article, The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted)
And truly, that is what marriage is about so much of the time. It’s a matter of balancing each other and finding ways to work together as a team. This should happen no matter what the issue is, and no matter what it is that can divide you.
That’s why we put this web site together, and why we have posted so many articles concerning finances. As a “cord of three strands” you and your spouse are to work within your marriage, with God. Money issues can be one of the biggest issues, you will have to work through.
So, to help you on this journey, below are a few links, which give scriptures dealing with money. Please read through them, and pray about how you can live together by the principles God presents in them. As the Bible says in Psalm 119:105, God’s Word can be a “lamp” to your feet and a “light” to your path.
May it be so, as you read:
It’s important to keep in mind something that Ron Blue stated in his book, Master Your Money:
“Every spending decision is a spiritual decision. There is nothing more spiritual than buying a car, taking a vacation, buying food, paying off debt, paying taxes, and so on. These are all uses of His resources. He owns all that I have … The Bible reveals many specific guidelines as to how the Owner wants His property used. As a steward, I have a great deal of latitude, but I am still responsible to the Owner. Someday I will give an accounting of how I used His property.”
We will all reach that place someday. It’s important that we deal with our finances in a way that the Lord would want us. To learn more, please read this Family Life Today article:
If you need additional help after reading the scriptures and article above, I encourage you to read other articles, Quotes, Testimonies, and Recommended Resources posted in the Finances in Marriage topic.
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