Pursuing a Marriage Worth Finding


Do you want to marry someday? Are you ready to marry someday? You might even wonder why you haven’t found “that special someone” yet, despite your thinking you’re ready for marriage and the fact that you’ve been praying about it (maybe for a long, long time).

To help you, as you pray, the following are a few articles posted on Boundless.org which could you could learn from (whether you are a woman praying for a husband or a man praying for a wife). Please click onto the following web site links to read:



“Why or why not?” might be the question on your mind and heart as to why your prayers aren’t being answered in the way you believe they should.

To be quite frank, the answer is not only a mystery today, but it’s one that you might not ever find out, this side of heaven. Maybe yes, and maybe no. But something that could be coming into play here is one that Bible teacher Beth Moore points out. She said, “If God puts a stay on things, you can figure that something is up … things in heaven are coming into play with things on earth.” That’s a good point. Who but God knows the complexities of your situation in light of all eternity? You might think this is the “perfect” time, but from God’s vantage point, you might not know about a lot of complicating circumstances that are holding things up.

Beth goes on to give another possibility: “God never hangs a veil over our understanding accidentally. He is intentional. There is a reason. And the reason may be that He is calling you to faith.”

So, it could be that things aren’t put into place quite yet for that “event” to happen and/or it could be that God is calling you to further trust Him. But author A.J. Kiesling gives one more insight that it would be good to consider:. He writes, “So you want to tie the knot —great! But before you start scanning dating profiles, make sure you’ve done the proper ‘housecleaning.'”

To learn more on what he’s talking about, please click onto the Crosswalk.com web site link to read:


After reading the previous article, you might want to argue with God concerning this matter as to your readiness, but God could be telling you (by the fact that it’s not happening) that it might not be wise at this particular time. Consider that: “There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death(Proverbs 16:25). And death in this case, it might pertain to a lot of information that you don’t know about at this time.

Possibly your reason(s) for marrying will lead to trouble. They make sense to you, but God might be protecting you from some type of “folly.” “It is not good to have zeal without knowledge, nor to be hasty and miss the way. A man’s own folly ruins his life, yet his heart rages against the LORD(Proverbs 19:2-3).

Author, Wayne Johnson points out a number of reasons that could be considered “folly” or “foolish” for marrying, ones that you it might be good to read about as you click onto the following web site article:


With that said, however, it is also “foolish” to think that because your reasons or motives may not be the best at this time, you will be denied by God, the “right” to be married. It doesn’t usually work that way. After-all, a lot of people marry —many of whom are “good” Christians, yet they marry when they shouldn’t (either now or ever, for some reason).

God gives us a free will and allows us to make mistakes. If you’re persistent enough, He might not stop you, but it’s something you also might live to regret.

It would be good to consider that if God has been revealing truths to you through this article, and/or through other ways, this could be the best time possible to step back and work on whatever issues you have, that should be dealt with before marrying.

But while you’re doing so, should you date? Julie Ferwerda addresses this important issue in the following Growthtrac.com article:


Also, the following is an article posted at Boundless.org that might help you to consider character qualities that can be important to work on developing. Suzanne Hadley “informally interviewed a dozen married couples to find out what drew them to their spouses and what made them stick around.” There are “10 characteristics rose to the top.” To learn more, please click to read:


God knows your needs. It’s not that He wants to deny you “the love of your life” but rather to guide you to partner with Him along the road you are to travel.

Suzanne Hadley Gosselin, wrote about this in a two part series featured in a webzine where she discusses the importance of trusting God with your relationships. She wrote:

“One foundational truth about my singleness is God sees my need. Moments after creation, God takes a personal interest in Adam’s lonely state. ‘It is not good for the man to be alone(Gen. 2:18). God did not create humans to live in isolation. He designed us to long for and experience companionship and love. And if He had compassion toward Adam’s loneliness, I can trust that He sees and understands mine.”

To learn more concerning God’s partnership with you in this area of your life, please click onto the Boundless.org web site link below to read:


Suzanne goes on to write:

“I often notice people becoming uptight when we begin discussing the issue of trusting God with relationships. This is because they equate trust in God with passivity. But since when did ‘trusting God’ mean ‘do nothing?’ We’re all rather attached to eating, right? But do we sit at home waiting for meals to come to us? No, we work to purchase food. Similarly, if you want the job, you apply for the job. If you want to get involved in your church, you show up at the small group. And if you want to get married, you take initiative with members of the opposite sex by building healthy relationships with them and either pursuing or being open to pursuit.”

To read more, please click onto the Boundless.org web site link below to read:


Trusting involves having faith. And faith, by its definition is: F.A.I.T.H. which means: Forsaking All I Trust Him. Faith involves trust that forsakes doing things your own “logical” way.

Part of the wait, might be that you’re looking for your “soul mate” in “your pursuit of a marriage worth finding.” If that’s so, you might consider what author Gary Thomas writes on this issue. As he says,

“In a biblical view, there is not ‘one right choice’ for marriage, but rather good and bad choices. We are encouraged to use wisdom, not destiny, as our guide when choosing a marital partner. There is no indication that God creates ‘one’ person for us to marry. This is because Christians believe that God brings the primary meaning into our lives. Marriage —though wonderful —is still secondary.

“…The reason it is so crucial to adopt the Bible’s view of “good and bad choices” over your destiny of finding ‘the one’ is that the former attitude allows you to objectively consider the person you marry. There is no objective measurement of ‘destiny.’ Powerful emotions can blind us to all sorts of clues; when we adopt the biblical attitude of making a ‘wise’ choice, we can use all that God has given us to arrive at a solid decision that should be based on a number of factors.”

To learn more, please click onto the Boundless.org web site link to read:


Please realize that:

“Whether or not you are being pursued, whether or not you have a boyfriend [or girlfriend], whether or not you are on the track to getting married, it does not define who you are or your value or what your purpose is here on earth. Remember that. Remember that you are created in God’s image. I’ll say it again: He made you in his image (Genesis 1:26-27). He sent his Son to earth for you (John 1:1-4). He has pursued you since the beginning of time and continues to constantly pursue YOU and wants relationship with you and desires to show you his love (Zephaniah 3:17).

“Believe that. Savor it. Hold on to it each and every time you feel frustrated and dejected” (Laura MacCorkle, from Crosswalk.com articleHe Said – She Said: What’s Wrong With Me?”).

This article was put together by Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International.

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One response to “Pursuing a Marriage Worth Finding

  1. It’s best to stay single. The problems of dealing with another individual is usually outweighed by someone’s passion which disillusions them from realities of marrying someone else. For me marriage isn’t worth the trouble or inherent problems. It’s best to remain single with no romantic relational involvements.