Scheduling Quiet Moments Together

Quiet moments Pixabay people-2604986_1920Do you and your spouse spend quiet moments together? Several years ago, Jill Brisco said something I believe to be true. She said, “We have lost the art of being quiet.” Look around… what do you think? I sure can see it in our very noisy world. It’s unusual to find couples spending quiet moments together, absent from the noise and destruction of the media world.

And since that time of being aware of the “lost art” of being quieter, I’ve tried to remember that important point. I’ve tried to apply it to my life, whenever I can. My life is enriched all the more when I take the time to be quiet and listen to what God might be trying to tell me. But I couldn’t hear Him over the noise I allowed to distract me sometimes (like the T.V. and radio, and such).

Spending Quiet Moments Together

I was reminded of this issue again when yesterday I was visiting a friend. In her dining room she had painted the following quote on the wall over the door to her patio:

“Make time for quiet moments
because God whispers
and the world is loud.”

The world is so loud. That is why sometimes we have to make the choice to find a place where we can be quiet so we can listen. That is because we can miss something important, otherwise.

Elijah found this out, all too well. He was looking for God to speak to him and he almost missed it. But we’re told in 1 Kings 19:11-13 that finally the Lord grabbed his attention. It was not in the way he thought it would come, but it came in a very powerful way, none-the-less.

We’re told in 1 Kings 19:11-13:

The Lord said, ‘Go out and stand on the mountain in the presence of the Lord, for the Lord is about to pass by.’ Then a great and powerful wind tore the mountains apart and shattered the rocks before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind. After the wind there was an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake. After the earthquake came a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire. And after the fire came a gentle whisper. When Elijah heard it, he pulled his cloak over his face and went out and stood at the mouth of the cave. Then a voice said to him, ‘What are you doing here, Elijah?’

Did you get it? Elijah almost missed hearing the voice of the Lord. It came through a whisper.

Please let me repeat the quote that my friend had posted because it makes an important point:

“Make time for quiet moments because God whispers and the world is loud.”

Now, I realize that we can’t always keep things quiet around us. Nor should most of us anyway, with children, friends, relatives, and such around us. But there are times when it’s important to be intentional in setting time aside for quiet moments.

Scheduling Quiet Moments

Perhaps you need to ask your spouse to help you with the kids so you can get away for a few quiet moments.

Or perhaps you can schedule a baby sitter, or have a friend or relative(s) watch your kids. This way you AND your spouse can spend some quiet moments together. It might even be that you make it a point to have a “Nap or a Rest Date” together. This is a time when you just sleep and cuddle together without distractions.

Perhaps you will schedule some quiet moments together after the kids go to bed. Or if you don’t have kids (even if you do), turn off the T.V. sometimes at whatever time. Then turn to each other and decide how you want to spend some quiet time together.

Steve and I take walks together, read together, and prayer walk together through the neighborhood. Sometimes we put a fire in the fireplace and cuddle. Or we have quiet meals out on our back patio and enjoy the flowers, birds, and fresh air together. Where we live, sometimes we have lizards, and quail that run through the yard. (We especially love the baby quail.) We also have lovebirds, bunnies and such that show up and it’s a real treat to quietly watch and enjoy! It’s so very pleasant!

Enjoying the Whispers of God

Often times I have to remind myself that I wasn’t created to be a human “doing.” I was created to be a human “being” —one who can enjoy the whispers of God. My problem is that I have to keep it in mind not to be so busy.

The same goes for married couples. “The world is loud.” But that doesn’t mean that we have to follow its pattern. There is “a time for everything under heaven.” And that includes being quiet together sometimes so you can hear God whispering to you. This will help you to “recharge” your spiritual, emotional, and physical batteries, so to speak.

I read something applicable to this principle written by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott in The One Year Love Talk Devotional for Couples. They wrote about a time that they were traveling through Europe. They had stopped to sit and enjoy the view of a beautiful cathedral sitting before them. It’s at that time that a man approached them asking them if they were recharging their batteries. Eventually in the conversation, they realized that they were sitting next to an outlet where people often stop to recharge their electronic devices.

They wrote:

“Our new friend was checking to see if we were doing the same thing. ‘No,’ said Les, ‘we’re just recharging our physical and spiritual batteries.’

“The man smiled, pressed the tips of his fingers together, and with a slight bow said, ‘As you should. Very good.’

“It is good, very good, for a couple to recharge their spiritual batteries. So many times we forget that an important part of marital communication is done in silence. It gives our souls time to catch up with each other simply by being present and at peace. Take time to pause in the midst of your daily fray and simply tune in to the present moment together.”

Here’s a related article to help you in this mission, as you read and apply what works for you:


Please don’t forget the important words of Jesus, despite all the busyness going on around you, and MAKE time to spend quiet time together with Him:

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.(Matthew 11:28-30)

This blog is written by Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International.

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