A Soul Filled With God Relieves Pressure

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There is no doubt that a soul filled with God relieves pressure. God within us can change how we perceive and receive everything that comes our way.

One thing I ask of the LORD,
this is what I seek:
that I may dwell in the house of the LORD
all the days of my life,
to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD
and seek him in His temple.

(Psalm 27:4)

Personal worship is an absolute necessity for a strong marriage. It comes down to this: If I stop receiving from God, I start demanding from others. Instead of appreciating and loving and serving others, I become aware of her shortcomings. I take out my frustrations with a less-than-perfect life and somehow blame her for my lack of fulfillment.

God Relieves Pressure

But when my heart gets filled by God’s love and acceptance, I’m set free to love instead of worrying about being loved. I’m motivated to serve instead of becoming obsessed about whether I’m being served. I’m moved to cherish instead of feeling unappreciated.

Madeline complains about a lack of spiritual intimacy in her relationship with her husband, Martin. “He’s never been what you might call a spiritual leader,” she says. And this has become almost an obsession for her. It’s as though her own spiritual health depends on her husband suddenly becoming mature.

“Did Teresa of Avila have a spiritual leader?” I asked her. “Madame Guyon? Mother Teresa of Calcutta? What about the countless widows who now pursue God on their own? Were —and are —their lives empty simply because they aren’t married to a spiritually mature man?”

Fixated on Issue Rather Than God

Tim is upset because his wife never initiates physical intimacy. Like Madeleine, he’s become fixated on one issue of his marriage, so that he can hardly even pray. This makes him feel even more emotionally dependent on the sexual intimacy he’s not getting. “Tim,” I said, “I remember praying with a husband whose wife was in the last stages of severe multiple sclerosis. It had been years since they could enjoy anything even approximating normal sexual relations. Do you think God has wired this world in such a way that her husband has no chance to be happy and fulfilled because his wife can’t initiate —or even perform?”

Tim had expected me to preach only to his wife, not to him. “In fact,” I added “he found great joy in taking care of her. And that meant cleaning out a bedpan on a regular basis.”

Certainly, spiritual intimacy and sexual relations are legitimate desires. But you know what? Whenever I place my happiness in the hands of another human being, I’m virtually guaranteeing some degree of disappointment. It can be a frivolous as a barista not getting my chai at Starbucks just the way I like it, or it can be as profound as some pastor I really admire falling into sin.

God Relieves Pressure as We Worship

That’s why worship sets me free. It meets my most basic need —to rest in the fact that I am known and loved. It is to know that I have a purpose, and that my eternal destiny and delight are secure. That will mean lesser needs (including spiritual companionship and sexual desires) serve the role of an occasional dessert rather than my main meal.

It’s simply not fair to ask your spouse to fulfill you. No one can. If you expect your spouse to be God for you, your spouse will fail every day and on every account. Not only that, should your disappointment lead you to divorce, your second, third, and even fourth spouses will fail you too!

Only one can love you like God, with a perfect, constantly steady, and giving love. And that is God himself. When the “one thing” we seek is to dwell in God’s house, to gaze upon His beauty, and to seek Him in His temple, our soul’s sense of desperate need is met in our heavenly Father’s arms. Then we leave this temple and find tremendous joy in giving, and in loving. There’s joy in serving rather than in keeping close accounts as to whether we’re being loved or being served.

Fill Your Soul With God

Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve seen a constant formula at work in my life. The less I receive from God, the more I demand from my wife. The more I demand from my wife, the more I receive from God, and the more I am set free to give to my wife.

The best thing you can do for your marriage is to fill your soul with God. Start defining disappointment with your spouse as spiritual hunger. It’s a cosmic call to worship. Marriage is a wonderful institution, but it is limited. It can’t replace God. Don’t ask it to.

This article is one of the devotionals that you can find in the excellent book, Devotions for a Sacred Marriage: A Year of Weekly Devotions for Couples —written by Gary Thomas, published by Zondervan Publishing House. This is by far our favorite devotional book for married couples! It explores how God can reveal Himself to your through your marriage and help you to grow closer to Him as well as to your spouse. It has 52 devotions in it and even though it has mostly new material in it, it’s based on another of Gary Thomas’ books (which we highly recommend) Sacred Marriage and gives a different yet compatible perspective on this subject encouraging you to build your marriage around God’s priorities.

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5 responses to “A Soul Filled With God Relieves Pressure

  1. (SOUTH AFRICA)  Hi Cindy, this post is so true. God needs to be our everything. When your focus is on God you just simply forget what’s going on around you. You just know that the love of God will never fail you. Great post.

  2. (USA)  Wonderful post. I feared I was headed for divorce…for years my marriage suffered countless attacks from the enemy for the mere reason that I wasn’t making my relationship with the Lord my top priority. I was blaming my husband for my overall unhappiness and for neglecting our marriage. Only when I began to set my priorities straight and started focusing on my relationship with Jesus did things improve between my husband and me. No human being can be all things to another. Only God’s love meets our deepest longings.

    1. Thanks Holy Spirit, for taking me here on this site. It’s what I dream about.