Going the Stupid Route

“Stupidity got me into this mess —why can’t it get me out?” We laughed at that line when we read it. And then we were also reminded of the all too familiar quote, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.” Actually, Read More…

Don’t Demand Forgiveness – MM #325

In the last Marriage Message we touched on the subject of going the extra mile in apologizing. (See: Apologizing: Going the Extra Mile – MM #324.) This time we’d like to explain more about apologizing and asking for forgiveness in marriage. In particular we’ll be talking about times when you Read More…

Apologizing: Going the Extra Mile – MM #324

Apologizing is a difficult thing to do the right way. You say: “I’ve already said I’m sorry, what more does she/he want from me?” Or, “I said I’m sorry once —that should be enough!” Or, “I give up! What more can a human being do to make him/her understand that Read More…

Six Powerful Words in Marriage – MM #192

On March 18th Cindy and I celebrated our wedding anniversary. I (Steve) was wondering how many times Cindy and I have told each other, “I love you” over the past 45+ years. We are both very expressive and open about our love for each other. Words we say to each Read More…

Gracefully Accept Apologies – MM #156

“A happy marriage is the union of two forgivers.” That’s what we’ve been told, and it’s really true. Being able to gracefully give and accept apologies is healthy interaction for spouses to exchange with each other. Who doesn’t do things that we shouldn’t sometimes? And when we do things we Read More…

Apologies That Make A Positive Difference

It’s important to know that apologies are not created equal. Just because you apologize, it doesn’t mean that the receiver feels you really “get it” as far as how much they have hurt you. As a result, they very well may reject your sincerity when you apologize. The following is Read More…