The Bible says in Hebrews 12, “Make every effort to live in peace with all men (which would include your spouse) and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows Read More…
Have you fallen into the marital trap of unquieted anger? When it occurs, we let loose. Sometimes it surprises even us. I sadly confess that I’ve been there and have done that myself. It’s not something I’m proud of. How I wish I would have worked on my triggered anger Read More…
It’s something we learned a long time ago —don’t pile up grievances against each other. Make sure your grievance “accounts” are short lived so you don’t get buried under the weight of it all. We’ve seen spouses who keep piling one gripe on top of another until it eventually gets Read More…
Below are Bible verses that deal with bitterness and forgiveness. May the Lord inspire you, as you prayerfully read what God has provided for guidance. Bible Verses on Bitterness and Forgiveness: • Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as Read More…
What do you look for in marriage? Are you looking to live your life with your soul mate? “An enduring marriage requires possibility thinking, elasticity, and resilience. It needs continual attention and adaptation. It requires a shift in interest as our partner’s interests shift. Marriage, to remain good, involves a Read More…
“Marriage becomes a series of surprises for most of us, and one of them is how frequently we need to forgive and be forgiven.” (From the book, “The First Years of Forever” by Dr Ed Wheat) In our many years of marriage we’ve had to give the gift of forgiveness Read More…
“The difference between holding on to a hurt or releasing it with forgiveness is like the difference between laying your head down at night on a pillow filled with thorns or a pillow filled with rose petals.” (Loren Fincher –More Stories from the Heart) To forgive infidelity, though, is especially thorny Read More…
“Unless couples CREATE compatibility THROUGHOUT their marriage, the compatibility they had at the time of their wedding will be destroyed.” (Willard Harley) And this includes giving forgiveness in marriage. Compatibility has to be continually worked on so it isn’t destroyed by the hassles that barge into our lives everyday. “The rigors Read More…
When we’ve been hurt by our spouse (or anyone else) our first tendency is to protect ourselves from ever being hurt like that again. That can be a good instinct. But then temptation enters in to become bitter, and wallow in unforgiveness because of the victimization we feel. Sometimes bitterness Read More…
The following is a story we could all learn from on letting go of resentment. Ultimately, letting go brings about freedom from resentment. Author Richard Walters, in the book, Forgive and Be Free, tells the testimonial of Tom Norris who had become an extremely bitter man after his wife Bette Read More…
