Thankful and Peaceable Celebrating – MM #332

Peaceable celebrating Thank You... Thank You... Pixabay CanvaThe Bible tells us in all things to give thanks! At Marriage Missions, we have a LOT for which, we can be thankful! And being with you every week is just one of them! That is why we are engaged in thankful and a peaceable celebrating! We truthfully pray:

I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (Philippians 1:3-6)

Thankful and Peaceable Celebrating

A few days ago, we celebrated Thanksgiving Day —an official holiday where we pause to give God thanks for our many blessings. So in celebration, we’d like to pass along to you a few marriage tips to help make your upcoming Christmas season be a bit more peaceful. This gives you added reasons to be thankful, as you apply that, which the Lord shows you is important:

“First, tell [your spouse] how valuable they are to you. That’s so simple and obvious! You assume they already know it; but don’t assume. Like a bulb that doesn’t light due to a break in the electric circuit, a family member who isn’t told she [he] is valuable may never shine bright. Until you complete the circuit with your words, the light of honor may never glow in her [his] life.” (Dr Gary Smalley)

We’re told:

Be joyful always. Pray continually. Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)

Here’s a Tip:

“After being away from each other for a while, never meet again without an affectionate welcome. The 10 second kiss ‘rule’ is a great one for a happy marriage. It’s a great way to leave the house in the morning and to come home to in the evening. Also, we wouldn’t want to be ‘guilty’ of disobeying God’s word. See what Solomon says in Song of Solomon 1:2: Kiss me again and again, your love is sweeter than wine. Do yourself a favor. Try the 10 second kiss!” (Steve Wright, Marriage Missions)

“A kiss is definitely more than a kiss. Here are a few facts about smooching: A one minute kiss works off 26 calories. Our brains have special neurons that help us find our mate’s mouth in the dark. A passionate kiss quickens your heart rate to 100 beats per minute. Kissing reduces tooth decay because the extra saliva generated by a lip-lock cleans your teeth. Nine out of ten couples in happy relationships kiss before bed.” (Redbook, January 2006)

Here are some great tips:

Greet one another with a holy kiss. (Romans 16:16)

” Never discuss sensitive subjects when you’re hungry. On an empty stomach, we tend to be more irritable and cranky, compromising our ability to focus. If you need to discuss something serious with your mate, check his/her appetite first.” (Sheryl Kurland) Also, you might want to check out Marriage Message #320 – Timing Your Talks to read about the H.A.L.T. Theory.

Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him. (Proverbs 29:20)

“Eat marshmallows to improve communication. If you have a mouthful of marshmallows, the one thing you absolutely cannot do is ‘talk.’ That’s precisely the point. communication is more about listening than talking.” (Sheryl Kurland)

When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise” (Proverbs 10:19). “He who answers before listening —that is his folly and shame. (Proverbs 18:13)

“Family gatherings can be danger zones. Make a list of what not to talk about at these events.” (Sheryl Kurland, from article “Humorous Tips” Ezinearticles.com)

Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few. (Ecclesiastes 5:2)

“Married life teaches one valuable lesson: to think of things far enough ahead not to say them” (Jefferson Machamer).

Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him. (Proverbs 29:20)

Remember:

“When there’s a fork in the road … If there are two ways to interpret something your spouse said to you and one makes you unhappy or angry, pick the other one.” (Sheryl Kurland, from article “Humorous Tips”, Ezinearticles.com)

Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable —if anything is excellent or praiseworthy —think about such things. (Philippians 4:8)

“If you’re looking for an offense you’re going to find it. If you’re looking for the good in a situation, you will find that also. There is good and bad in every situation. Choose to look for the good and be a dispenser of grace whenever possible.”

Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out. (Proverbs 17:14)

You may want to:

“Mimic your kids. Give yourselves a ‘time-out’ when the ‘relationship’ is misbehaving. Time-outs work equally well for adults. When the two of you are in the heat of a disagreement, one person needs to say ‘stop.’ Set an alarm clock for 30 minutes. Go your separate ways. Cool off. Think about the problem. Re-focus. Regain your composure. When the alarm rings, sit down together and have a civil discussion, get to the root of the matter, find a resolution and move on.” (Sheryl Kurland, from article “Humorous Tips”, Ezinearticles.com)

I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle. Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. (Ephesians 4:1-3)

“Let [your husband] know that he’s your hero. Generally speaking, household tasks that women consider ordinary to do, such as loading and unloading the dishwasher, folding laundry, wiping down counter tops, vacuuming, etc., are quite EXTRAORDINARY for men. On a point scale of 1 to 100, for a wife they are worth about 2 points. To a husband, EACH is worth 99.9 points! Wives, find it in yourself to say ‘thank you,’ give him a big hug, tell him how much you appreciate what he did. You will get more in return than every imagined.” (Sheryl Kurland, from article “Humorous Tips” Ezinearticles.com)

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. (Colossians 3:15)

Make it a point to:

“Strive to out-please each other. Out-pleasing each other means putting your spouse’s happiness first —especially in the mundane moments of life. But don’t keep score. Marriage breaks down when you constantly compare your sacrifices to your mate’s. Concentrate on giving and you will become one.” (Jim Magruder)

May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. (Romans 15:5-6)

That is our hope for you —that you will glorify God through how you treat each other, both now, and in the years to come.

Cindy and Steve Wright.

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