When Mental Illness is Affecting Your Spouse

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It’s a subject that isn’t often discussed in Christian circles, but what do you do if you find out that mental illness is affecting your spouse in some way?

It’s a scary thought but as author Jim Killam says:

“Look around you. At work, at church. Chances are very good you’ll see someone who’s battling mental illness. Maybe you only need to look as far as the other side of the bed. … or the mirror.

“Many Christians don’t figure that mental illness could affect their marriages. But it does-in about the same proportions as with the general population. Each year, more than one in five Americans suffers from a clearly diagnosable mental disorder. And, Christian therapists add, more couples need to confront the whole issue rather than assume it’s solely a spiritual problem.”

To read more of what Jim writes on this subject, we have provided a link so you can do just that. To do so, please click onto the link below:

• What’s Wrong With Him?

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Additional articles that you might find helpful can be read by clicking onto the following web site links (the first one isn’t a “Christian” web site, but the article is helpful):



WHEN GRACE AND REALITY COLLIDE: Dealing with Mental Illness (Part 1)

WHEN GRACE AND REALITY COLLIDE: Dealing with Mental Illness (Part 2)


To choose a booklet to read and print out (if you care to) on various psychological disorders, please click onto the following nfcliving.org web site link:


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60 responses to “When Mental Illness is Affecting Your Spouse

  1. WOW! Never thought I could google my problem. How weird. I’ve been married 45 yrs. I got born-again, filled with the HOLY SPIRIT 10 yrs into our marriage. In 1981 GOD literally transformed my life. I’ve been on fire ever since up and down. BUT, I thought God would’ve fixed my marriage by now. REALLY. My husband has a diagnosis of NO PHYSICAL HOPE. The doctors have given up on him. DEPRESSION IS hurting me and I have to bite my tongue. I’m on my knees in the WORD daily. Am I missing something here? I’m NOT giving up on my husband!!! But I’VE COME to a place where JESUS IS EITHER THE WAY AND THE TRUTH or NOT. Is HE WHAT HE CLAIMS TO BE?!!!

    1. Dear LoAnn, How my heart goes out to you! I can certainly understand why you are struggling with doubts –wondering if you have missed anything here, as far as having your prayers answered. I’ve been there many times (even though they have been under different circumstances). I have written several blogs on some of the things I’ve learned through these tough, tough times. One of them can be found at: https://marriagemissions.com/rejected-how-do-i-cope/. Through the tough times, I’ve learned that I can’t box God in, thinking He should answer my prayers the way I thought He should. That would make Him a Celestial Bellboy –One who does things my way, rather than me going the way that He sees best. God sure is complicated, isn’t He?

      LoAnn, I cry for you and pray and hope for you. I don’t know how God will help you, but I know He will. He may decide not to change the circumstances (although He may), but He will show you ways to cope and grow and get your smile back again. You just have to look to the person of Jesus Christ to give you the hope and help that He knows you need. I heard a 2-part radio broadcast by Andy Stanley that really brings all of this to light. It’s a Focus on the Family radio broadcast. I’ll give you the link here: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/media/daily-broadcast/who-is-the-author-of-your-faith-pt1. It will stay linked for a short time, but they change their links fairly often, so please listen to it soon, before it breaks. And then go up to the “All Episodes” link to listen to Part 2. Trust me… this broadcast is absolutely terrific. It puts our faith walk into perspective.

      I’ve learned through the years of walking with the Lord to have faith in Him, not my circumstances. FAITH is F.A.I.T.H. = Forsaking All I Trust Him! When I put my trust in Him –not the difficult circumstances I find myself in, as I live in this fallen world, I am able to find hope. Please listen to the broadcasts… pray and trust HIM that He will show you how to continue on day by day. God works miracles. Sometimes the miracles are seen on the outside; other times they come within us. I don’t know how God will do this for you, but I pray for it and for you and your husband. “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit!” (Romans 15:13)