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"Couples who are not careful with their communication in marriage can quickly become 'tone deaf.' When our words (even when truthful) are delivered with a negative tone, it triggers a different reaction than if we had used a positive tone. For example, the statement, 'We're going to be late' may be a factual one, but where that statement becomes ugly, hurtful, and primed-for-argument is when it’s spoken in a condescending tone. These words of truth, 'We are going to be late' can come out sounding like, 'We're going to be late and it’s all your fault and you do this all the time. I’m sick and tired of being late because you can’t get it together.' Six words of fact, and twenty-six words added by the recipient because of the tone. Tone matters." (Doug Fields)