My wife and I have been married for 10 years, divorced for 1 year, and remarried for 4 years. This, of course, is to each other. Ours is a marriage that has been put back together after the divorce.
You may ask, how is it the second time around? It’s absolutely marvelous. We never argue, never say the wrong things to each other, and we are always happy. If only it were so! No, we do argue, and we do miscommunicate with each other. We are not always happy. But that’s all part of having a successful marriage.
First Marriage
In our first marriage God was not a part of it. I rejected God and was the most inconsiderate man that any woman could ever have been married to. I was an alcoholic and a drug addict. Eventually I became a gangster. My wife had to live ten years of absolute hell with me.
She, however, loved me. She told me continually that the reason she stayed with me was because she believed the man that she had met 10 years before would return. Despite all the ways I hurt my wife, she did not divorce me. I left her for a younger girl and divorced her.
It was my six year old daughter who was the one who helped to bring us back together. She had never been into a church, nor did she know much about spiritual things. But one day she found out from her teacher that she should pray for God to bring her daddy back. God answered her prayer.
Lastly, I want to say that if you are having marriage problems and want to get divorced, I don’t recommend it. I believe with God any marriage can be successful. To sum it all up, success in marriage depends how much you are prepared to sacrifice. My precious wife was prepared to sacrifice everything to keep our marriage together. I thank God for her.
This is a true testimony given to us from a subscriber from South Africa.
(UAE (INDIAN) I am a stander of my marriage restoration. I believe because Jesus lives, my marriage also will live. Wait patiently up on God, he will do his miracle in right time. Don’t worry about timing. He said what God has joined no man put asunder. It means you are standing with Jesus for your marriage restoration. If he said it he will do it indeed.
I would like to introduce one website which will lead you to help you in your stand and pray for your spouse… Don’t forget God will honor your stand because God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). You are a child of God, you also have to hate what your Heavenly Daddy hates… I believe the below site will help you in your stand… STAND STRONG WITH JESUS… VICTORY IS YOURS. http://www.rejoiceministries.org/
(ENGLAND) Many great story’s I hope somebody can give me a great advice.
(KENYA) I have been married for 9 years and have 4 children. I was in a good relationship with my husband for that long but I got surprised when I realized he has another relationship outside, whom they have sired a baby with. Since I noticed, my hubby has turned his heels on me. He has changed completely. One night he knocked me down till I was unconscious. He said I was not taking good care of the children, yet he comes home occasionally. He has started complaining too much and even said that he wished he hadn’t married me.
I am so frustrated that I almost committed suicide. (God forbid.) Nowadays he doesn’t come home. He has settled in with the other woman. He has also given her my house in rural areas, meaning that he doesn’t recognise me as his wife of 9 years. I seriously need your prayers. I need him back. He is my husband and father to my 4 children.
(UNITED ASTATES) My husband and I are in the process of divorce right now.I don’t want to divorce but he instigated it because of another woman.I am married for almost six years now.He told me last December that he doesn’t love me anymore because he already found a soulmate and he is divorcing me.He admitted that they had the affair for the past two years.I was shocked because I didn’t have an idea at all.He was able to hide it from me.I feel crushed and devastated.I still love him and I’m willing to forgive him.I am praying for him to reconsider and reconcile with me before the divorce will be finalize.I don’t want to lose him.
(USA) My husband and I were together 14 years, married what would have been 13 this June. My husband left me 8 months ago and in August of 2011 he told me he didn’t want to be married anymore and he said he loved me but he wasn’t in love with me. I was shocked that he even said this to me. He moved out that evening, and moved in with his parents where he still lives.
During our marriage he was a compulsive spender. He put us in bankruptcy and our home went into foreclosure. He filed for divorce and pushed me to sign the papers. I know he obviously wanted out of this marriage. I sure didn’t. I still do not to this day. I signed them eventually, but took my time doing it. He got verbally abusive saying he despised me and why won’t I let him go. I told him I didn’t want the divorce and how much I loved him. He didn’t want to hear it. I got suspicious of why he was in such a hurry, I asked him if there was someone else. He said no. He just wanted to be single. So I moved into an apartment with my nephew until I could find a place of my own.
On March 17 of this year I had texted him asking if wanted to get together. He said he already had plans. Ok, no worries, maybe some other time I told him. Then he texted me back and told me he was seeing someone. He said he just started seeing her. I was heartbroken. I cried for days, begging him to come back. We are still not together yet. Anyhow, I had a meeting with him and I confronted him about this girl. He lied to me and said he has been seeing her since he left me, not just recently. I was in tears. He told me he was in love with her and he was sleeping with her and he said he didn’t know where his future lies with her. I wanted another chance.
He said he didn’t know what he was going to do. He said he still cares about me and wanted to be friends and maybe someday try again. But until then he was in a relationship and I had to accept it. I still don’t know to this day, maybe I’m naive or stupid, I can’t still can’t understand why he left me and got into another relationship so quickly while I’m still deeply hurt and heartbroken. He is taking her on a cruise for his birthday. I yelled at him he never did this with me, why with her? He is treating her better and doing things he should have done with me and doing it with her!! He met this girl last April. Though I don’t have proof, I think he has been with her even longer than 8 months.
All I’m getting is lies. He said be didn’t want me to know because he hurt me so much he didn’t want to hurt me anymore than I already am. So I feel he has been unfaithful to me all this time and lied a out it until now. I felt do betrayed. I want him back so bad and will forgive him for what he did to me. I still love him unconditionally. I prayed to God to asked him to bring him back to me and get him away from her. I don’t believe in divorce and I never did, have or will betray him. Why did be do it to me when he openly admitted he had a good marriage and a good faithful wife??? I pray to the good Lord he will bring him back home to me and away from her! I really need prayer. God bless!
(USA) Trust in God. I’ve gone thru divorce and the only thing that keeps me going is God and His word (the Bible). Rejoice ministries is a site for this type of problems. It encourages me daily as I read their daily devotionals. Go and give it a try – rejoiceministries.org
(USA) I’ve been divorced for over 23 years. Not my will, but I believe God had a purpose. He knew I needed to change and heal so we can be reunited one day. Also, so I wouldn’t hurt (emotionally) my children or my wife. God has been drastically healing me and removed 2 of my addictions (pornography and gambling). He has also healed me of schizophrenia, Praise HIM!!! I’m not perfect yet, but I am well on my way to recovery.
God told me he will bring us back together and even give us 3 more children –and even gave me their names!!! I’m just believing and putting my whole trust in HIM. In the meantime, I’m doing everything in my power to make myself a whole, healthy, and well-balanced child of the living God!!!
(USA) Please pray for me and my husband as well! He left after 14 years of marriage. I have asked God to forgive me and to have my husband return to work on our marriage and put Christ at the head of our relationship. He is a Christian also but I know Satan is clouding his heart and mind. Please pray for continual healing in both of us that we can soon give God the glory for bringing us back together.
(SOUTH AFRICA) He told me yesterday that he doesn’t love me before going to church. He (my husband) always leaves me alone in the flat while he is socially happy. I’m also tired of being treated like a doormat. He acts like a victim always. I have to apologise always. I really don’t need prayer; I need to be alone. He emotionally abuses me. As much as he doesn’t love me well, the feeling is mutual. The problem is I do not know the grounds to terminate my marriage. Any suggestions?
Zama, I’m sorry that your husband leaves you alone and such, “socially.” He shouldn’t. That’s not what marriage is about. But this is not a web site to help you terminate your marriage. This is a web site to help marriages and pray for those who ask for it. Since you “don’t need prayer” you will have to find another web site to help you with the termination stuff. There are LOTS of web sites ready and willing for that. In the meantime, I’ll be praying for your husband and for you. You both need it in different ways (even though you don’t see the need any longer).
(UGANDA) I have gone thru a challenging marital experience after living ten happy years with my husband. A married woman came between us. I got shocked that my husband could really undermine our marriage with another man’s wife but the lesson learnt is if you are innocent, God fights your battle, so leave the battle to the Lord. Fill the gap your husband occupied in your heart with Christ. Total surrender means no confronting, no worrying, no fights coz yours is to pray and live your life. Avoid confrontations, just let go and let God handle matters. Forgive yourself and forgive the offender. Pray and pray and everything will sort itself out. The only thing you have to do is pray and follow the will of God. The devil is usually behind all these struggles and it’s always the loser. Just do your part. Be blessed.
(USA) Please pray for restoration after divorce for Tony and I. He became involved with younger woman in mixed AA meetings and we have been apart almost a year. He has been living with her.
(UGANDA) Namara’s experience is like mine only that the woman is not married. I just got information (this morning) that he is planning to introduce the lady, for most of this morning. I have been feeling lost and but I’m trying to regain my strength.
I knew about the affair. We have talked and quarreled about the same but to no avail. First they got a child, now introduction is being organized. I have read your post. All I can say is, I have gained some strength. I will not confront, but try to let go with deep prayer and strength in Christ Jesus. Pray for me, all of you who will read this post, I’m feeling like a shadow of death is over me!!!
(KENYA) Dear Lord, On behalf of Celine in Uganda, I make this prayer. You are her shepherd, she shall not want. You make her to lie down in green pastures, you lead her beside quiet streams, you restore her soul for your name’s sake. Though she walks through the valley of the shadow of death, she SHALL NOT FEAR, for You are with her. Your rod and staff, they comfort her. You prepare a table for her in the presence of her enemies, her cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall folow her all her days, and she will dwell in the house of the Lord forever!
As you have said in Your word that the power of life and death is in the tongue, I declare and speak LIFE into Celine in the name of Jesus. She shall not die, but live to declare the glory of the living God. No weapon that’s fashioned against her shall prosper and every tongue that rises up in condemnation against her she shall refute for this is the vindication of the lord for her. You Jehovah, are a faithful God. Give her inner strength to do your will in this difficult situation. In the name of Jesus I pray, Amen.
(PHILIPPINES) Hi! I’ve been separated for more than a month now. Me and my 3 kids left home because my husband has been telling us to leave. Last January he told me that he wasn’t happy anymore. And I prayed to God to reveal if he has another woman. Finally last March I found out thru his cellphone that my husband was having an affair for 3 months already. The girl left my husband after I talked to her.
But after their breakup our situation became worse. I did not handle the situation properly and so it led to my husband asking me and my kids to leave. He told me several times that he loves his girlfriend and that he doesn’t love me anymore. When I left him, God revealed every mistake I made as a wife and was given the opportunity to repent. And now I just found out that he’s dating someone new and I just couldn’t stand the pain. I don’t know what to pray for anymore. I want to forget him and start a new life but in my heart I know I will hurt God if I turn my back with my covenant with him when we got married. Is there really hope for my marriage or does God wants to remove my husband from my life?
(USA) “I want to forget him and start a new life but in my heart I know I will hurt God if I turn my back with my covenant with him when we got married.”
Karen when your husband cheated HE broke the covenant first. You are free to remarry someone else in the faith if you so choose. Do not let Satan trick you into condemnation! It is his tatic to use misplaced guilt! I know this will sound heavy but you must leave your husband alone and pray for his soul. Pray that he comes to repentance and turns back to God. I know finding out that he has moved on with another new person cuts soooo very deep but I’m going to give you a scripture the Holy Ghost gave me when I was in a similar situation. In Acts 5:38, the Pharisees and religious leaders were trying to kill the Apostles. Then one pharisee named Gamaliel stood up to give them advice and it is the same advice I will give to you:
“And now I say to you (Karen), keep away from (your husband and his girlfriend) and let them alone; for if this (relationship) is of (their flesh), it will come to nothing; but if it is of God (which it is not because he is out of the will of God), you cannot overthrow it–lest you even be found to fight against God.”
So do not worry Karen. Your husband’s relationship with these women WILL never bring about the righteousness God intends. Take a position of prayer and ask God to give you His peace that surpasses all understanding and to remove the burden and heaviness out of your heart. And trust he WILL do it! Use this time to seek God’s face so He can remove things out of you (such as the spirits of revenge and rejection) so that you can be WHOLE. Grace to you!
(UNITED STATES) Praise God from whom all blessings flow! I have been married for seven years to my husband. I am a born again Christian and he has accepted Christ but lately he has strayed because of his career and making more money. We have been separated on and off for the duration of our marriage. We usually always get back together. This time satan has a very sick stronghold on our marriage using others to try and destroy what God put together. I know no weapon formed against us shall prosper but I need prayer for strength and courage and patience to see my way to the restoration of my marriage.
We are not currently residing together and we have a son and I have a child from a previous relationship. My husband raised this child as well. Now he is acting like he doesn’t want anything to do with either of us. He won’t look me in the eye, hug or have sex with me; this has been going on for six months this time. We have both cheated on each other. I did it because he did it first, which still wasn’t any excuse. We repented to God and to each other and have somewhat overcome it, but adultery is a sin that can be forgiven but brings out a lot of suffering in the meantime.
I love my husband very much and I want God to restore my marriage because I know he joined us together. I pray that God leads us back to Jesus so we can learn to lean on him, and trust him first for our marriage to work out. I pray to God when he does restore our marriage that we do not become complacent and work hard to keep it together and be of one accord.
I just need some guidance on how to wait patiently and not let the devil tempt or destroy anything else around my family and I. What do you do when family doesn’t want to see us together or what do you do when your spouse is hurt and spiritually lost? Please help and pray for me. Thanks. God bless!
(USA) Grace and Peace, my husband and I got divorced in March and I was believing God to restore my marriage. About three weeks ago this women came into his life and now there is just so much hatred in him towards me; last night he told me never to speak to him in life again, and in the last week when we spoke, he would curse me and we have 10 year old kid. I am feeling very hurt and would like to pray for God to help and have his way in this situation to bring peace and forgivness; SAVE my husband and restore his love for me and remove this person from his life. Thank you.