My wife and I have been married for 10 years, divorced for 1 year, and remarried for 4 years. This, of course, is to each other. Ours is a marriage that has been put back together after the divorce.
You may ask, how is it the second time around? It’s absolutely marvelous. We never argue, never say the wrong things to each other, and we are always happy. If only it were so! No, we do argue, and we do miscommunicate with each other. We are not always happy. But that’s all part of having a successful marriage.
First Marriage
In our first marriage God was not a part of it. I rejected God and was the most inconsiderate man that any woman could ever have been married to. I was an alcoholic and a drug addict. Eventually I became a gangster. My wife had to live ten years of absolute hell with me.
She, however, loved me. She told me continually that the reason she stayed with me was because she believed the man that she had met 10 years before would return. Despite all the ways I hurt my wife, she did not divorce me. I left her for a younger girl and divorced her.
It was my six year old daughter who was the one who helped to bring us back together. She had never been into a church, nor did she know much about spiritual things. But one day she found out from her teacher that she should pray for God to bring her daddy back. God answered her prayer.
Lastly, I want to say that if you are having marriage problems and want to get divorced, I don’t recommend it. I believe with God any marriage can be successful. To sum it all up, success in marriage depends how much you are prepared to sacrifice. My precious wife was prepared to sacrifice everything to keep our marriage together. I thank God for her.
This is a true testimony given to us from a subscriber from South Africa.
(USA) It seems that some of us have a misunderstanding according to the Word of God as it pertains to marriage. Firstly, God does not CHOOSE/PICK our mates. If God would not choose our salvation (which is eternal) then why would He choose our mate (which is temporary)? What God does is simply present people in front of us and WE choose whom we marry. So yes, it is possible to marry the WRONG person! Secondly, Jesus said, “Whatever God hath joined together…” (Matt 19:6) This suggests that not every marriage was joined by God. If two homosexuals were married and then divorced should we believe that God wants them to reconcile since He HATES divorce? Of course NOT! So it is very well to believe that not every marriage needs reconcilation especially those that go against his commandments in the first place.
Another example: Believers should not marry unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). So a marriage like this would not be one that “God hath joined together”. Now the bible does give specific rules for two unbelievers who marry (1 Corin. 7:10-15). The only way to get out of a marriage legally is either death (1 Corin. 7:39) or adultery (Matt 19:9) So if those two things happen, the widowed spouse or offended spouse can freely seek another partner. Now in the case of adultery the offended spouse still may want to be with that mate and that is understandable. We can and should pray for that spouse but we must realize that as a single individual again our primary focus should be on the Lord (1 Corin 7:32-34). We should grow in God and allow him to perfect those things in us that are not like him. Remember a marriage is only as good as the singles who make up the marriage.
God does NOT want us to be CONSUMED with pain, frustration, anger, rejection and offense. So praying everyday that he or she will come back to you is not wise plus it is selfish. Remember before he/she was your wife/husband, they were your brother or sister in Christ FIRST! So pray that God draws their heart to repentance back to HIM first NOT you. What good is it for that person to come back into your life with an unrepented heart and unrenewed mind? They will simply do the same thing over and over again. So while this is a very difficult time to go through remember that its not about you! We wrestle not against flesh and blood (Ephesians 6:12). Divorce is more spiritual than physical so use spiritual weapons such as prayer! I encourage you all to listen to Dr. Myles Munroe on youtube. He has great teachings about marriage that our life changing!
(UNITED STATES) My wife and I have been separated for one year now and our divorce will be final in a few days. I filed for divorce because she would not let me see my son. I realize now I should have prayed. Drinking was a problem for both of us but I have since stopped. We argued a lot, which still happens sometimes when we speak but I have stopped arguing. As well, I pray a lot and ask God to help me restore my marriage and make it better and stronger than it ever was. I also pray for God’s forgiveness.
Please pray for my wife, that God would help her see that she does not need alcohol to make her happy and to not be tempted. Please pray for us and our marriage and our son. Please pray that she will realize this is a big mistake and help to heal her heart and her mind.
(USA) As I read everyone’s pain and request’s, it’s times like this where our faith is tested. Out of everyone here, I probably have the least amount of faith and the least chance of God’s help in my situation. I do have enough faith though, to pray for each and everyone and your dire situations.
I have been divorced 2 years now and I imagined that she would always return. Please understand, most of the fault in my marriage was more of my doing. I would love, more than anything in the world, to once more be a family again. I prayed unceasingly each day and night for that second chance. I now pray for acceptance and the healing of my heart. I do believe in Christ and miracles, but I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m probably just not deserving of such a miracle.
I pray for each and everyone here to receive that miracle you so very much desire. If you get the chance, I’d appreciate the same. I don’t mind being the last request on your list. Just being on your prayer list at all would be appreciated. Mark 5:30-34
And WILLIAM, you will be first on my prayer list. The pain you describe brings tears to my eyes. Although we never and will never meet, I love and pray for you bro.
(USA) Excuse me. Mark 30-34
(KENYA) Dear Jesus, Lord I thank you for your faithfulness to us, even when we are faithless and unfaithful to you. Thank you for Your sacrifice on the cross, that has brought us forgiveness of ALL our sins, if we will believe and receive your sacrifice. Thank you Lord that because of your Sacrifice we can now come boldly before Your throne of grace, and obtain help in our time of need.
Father I lift Joseph in the USA up to you today, and ask that You remember him with tenderness and with your love. That you heal his broken heart because you have said in your word that You heal the broken hearted and bind up their wounds. Your word says that You will not break the bruised reed and that a broken and contrite heart you will not despise. So Lord I pray that you will encourage my brother Joseph, to pray unceasingly and not give up on his one-flesh covenant wife, neither they give up on the You the God of all mercy and grace, all power and dominion, for you are the God of restoration, and nothing is impossible with our God.
I pray you send your ministering angels to encourage your son Joseph today. In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen.
(USA) SHEBA, If anything, I thank God for sending an angel (you/Sheba) in my time of need. I’m not deserving of His mercy, but, in spite of what I feel, the Lord inspired you to send me comfort. I thank you Sheba and I love you.
Please Lord, I know I am not worthy of your mercy but please accept my humble prayers of health, happiness and true appreciation for the kind words and prayers of my sister, Sheba. Please let her know how fortunate she made me feel.
(UK) Joseph, you do deserve it and keep praying, even if the outcome you desire isn’t there right now. I feel quite similar to you. It’s so hard. Love is a gift and blessing and I blame myself for losing it. It absolutely kills me to see him with someone else and every day is a struggle – like all the lights have gone out and God has turned away. But I do still pray… and have just done so for you too.
(USA) Wow. Each day I come on this site in the hopes of reading a testimony or reading about the wonderful displays of love shared between people. People that may never meet but still share the same bond – their love for Christ. Today was different. Someone responded to my post and has given me hope. Thank you “M” for your prayers. I can’t tell you how happy I am that someone cared. “M” I will pray for you and your situation also… thank you “M”
(AUSTRALIA) My wife of 13 years had an affair and has now left. We share custody of our 2 children and it’s the most difficult season of my life. She is a believer and born again but is in the worst place of her life at the moment. I have forgiven her and she knows this but wants to live on her own. She is no longer with this other person and is alone.
She tells me she needs time alone and that only time will tell if we are ever to come back together. She also tells me that she knows that she needs to come back to God but is struggling to do so as she finds it so difficult to give up all this world has to offer (parties, clubs, the it’s all about me mentality). I believe she still loves me but I think that she’s still somehow connected to this other person. She has fallen into the trap that this world has set and that is to listen and follow your hearts desires and the word says that the heart is the most deceitful thing in us.
Last night I sat with my two little ones in their room reading the word and praying and I had to look into my little boys eyes to see him crying and asking me if our family would ever be reunited again and had to hear my little daughter ask me why is nothing happening when we have been asking our lord for breakthrough. This was one of the most painful and difficult moments of my life but I told them to have faith, ask in faith and God will answer in his time.
Please pray for me and my family for the lord to recreate the love and bond between my wife and I, to restore our marriage to new and greater heights and to reunite our family. Please, Please pray for us …we need a miracle!
(USA) (USA) Dear Lord I, along with countless others, pray for TOMMIE and the healing of his relationship. I also ask you Lord for the healing of CARLOS’S relationship. It’s tough enough when only a man or woman hurts over the loss of someone, but when children express their pain, as in CARLOS’S case, the sadness is deepened. Please heal the relationships of these 2 families along with everyone else here on this website.
I ask also, that before you are done Lord, that you might also think of me. I’m not deserving of a reconciliation, but a healing of my heart would be appreciated. I ask that you please watch over my 2 sons. Help them make the right decision’s, hold them up in their time of despair, keep them humble in their successes and give them the strength and fortitude to “fight back” when the world seems the be against them. I’m sorry I’m not what you expected me to be, but I thank you for the hope you give us all and the payment you made for us all as well. Please give me the strength and willingness to grow. Thanks Lord.
(USA) Please pray for me. My wife filed for divorce suddenly at the beginning of this year after 6 years of marriage. I had never cheated on her, but was back in school while she worked. She had been completely loyal and had been a believer, but I stopped spending time with her because of my studies and plans for med school. She was exposed to a lot of bad company. She said she wanted to enjoy her life. I’m still in love with my wife. I pray God will reunite us soon, and bring His peace into our lives, and shame Satan, in Jesus’ name. I pray for the salvation of my wife’s soul and trust to be restored.
(INDIA) All my blessing will always be with you… don’t lose the hope… try to give her love vibes. If you are touched by her, try to explain. Really, I know the pain. Please God, don’t be separated from them.
(INDIA) Hey friends, I’d like to ask you something… today is my daughter’s birthday… but I am not with her. I am separated from my family. But I love my wife and daughter. So today I sent her a flower bucket. She messaged me after a long time. She put the flowers in the dustbin and wrote so rude. But I love her. I am a positive person… but today I have a lot of pain and I am depressed. So I am confused friends, what should I do… continue? Sometimes it’s like madness. That’s what all the people said. So, do you have any ideas for me? I want my wife back. We are in not touch.
(USA) Indiana Governor Mitch Daniels’ Marital History: After fifteen years of marriage his wife Cheri divorced him, then left him and their four children behind in Indiana, and moved to southern California to marry a surgeon. Her conduct was not that of a sensible person; it was that of a wayward spouse who believed she had found her soulmate. She did not care what the impact her leaving would have on her family.
Daniels soldiered on, raising his four daughters, who at the time ranged in age from 8 to 14 and one day a few years later, his wife came back. He was waiting for her. They remarried in 1997 and have lived happily ever since.
When the Indianapolis Star asked about the episode, he replied, “If you like happy endings, you’ll love our story.”
Mitch Daniels did it right …he waited for his wife to come out of her adulterous relationship (remarriage). “Let everyone that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity.” 2 Timothy 2:19 “Lest ye repent, ye shall likewise perish.” ~Jesus
The simple fact is that according to God’s Word –a new “marriage” after a no fault divorce is an adulterous relationship as long as the first spouse remains alive. Romans 7:2-3. http://www.cadz.net/mdr.html
(USA) In the King James, divorce is allowed in the case of Adultery. Old and New testaments. Remarriage I would have to say use common sense. Why should anyone be double victimized for their spouse’s sin and have to remain alone forever? I just would not ask a Pastor to do it but go to the Magistrate. You can reference all of this easily in your Bible.
Adultery defiles the marriage bed, you cannot undo something defiled. In fact God says that the marriage bed IS undefiled. Not that it should remain undefiled but that it is making it no longer a marriage. To those that can and do survive, even more blessed. But it’s much harder than many would guess.
(USA) My ex and I were married for 15 years and we have one son that is 4. I had an affair and we divorced. I recently married the man I had the afffair with, after being divorce for only 2 months. I felt that I was doing the right thing. Because of all the sin I had done I thought marrying him would free me and set things right. Well, I still have a LOT of love left for my ex husband and I want to reconcile with him and he’s as confused as I am about things. He too has feelings of love, but can’t let the wall down for us to work things out. Is this possible?
We are both Christians that went through a hard time in our lives. I need prayer for what is right and for God to show both of us if we need to move on from each other or take a chance again. I can’t shake the feeling that the Holy Spirit is working on both of us. I want our family again. He and I have remained very close friends, and I think because of that we would work again.
(USA) When I got saved my husband resented me. I changed and he didn’t like it. He is a good man but has an alcohol problem and a huge pride issue. I stopped being his drinking partner, he started avoiding me because I would bring God in every conversation. He reconnected with an old girlfriend through Facebook. I found out of their relationship on 2/14. After the secret was disclosed he filed for divorced. I tried to reconcile, forgave, but he wanted out and so he did. The divorce was final last month. I say all this because even if all I see is failure, I believe in the God of the impossible. Would you pray for us? Pray for his salvation, God doesn’t want 99, He wants 100%. His name is Jose. God bless. Aida
(USA) I’m so sorry for your pain and all you’re going through but even of saved people God says there is none good- NO NOT ONE. By your own admission, your husband is mean, unsaved and an alcoholic and pride. Unfaithful, at least has been emtionally and now abandoning you? May I ask what makes him a good man in your eyes?
I will be praying for you, that God’s Will be done and you have peace and comfort. God bless you, Aida. Love and prayers to you.
(USA) I really was not expecting a response. Praise God and thank you for your prayers and for telling truth in love. It’s hard to recognize and accept people are not who they say they are, especially when you love them. I’m a little confused right now, but I just wanted to say thank you.
(CANADA) Hi there please pray for my partner and I. We have a baby and another on the way…we are not focusing on God the way we both want to be and it is ruining our relationship. We fight just about every day and need prayers to save our relationship. We are only focusing on the issues that lead to our fights and not on God but we both know we need to make God our first priority and then our relationship can be healed. Please pray that we will be closer to God and get our love and passion back in our relationship. I am praying for others too. God bless.
(USA) Doesn’t anyone have a testimony to share? Something positive?
(USA) I divorced my husband after 37 years together. Now I realize I really love him and that God brought us together. I need God’s help to get him back.
(AUSTRALIA) My family needs prayers. After 11 years my husband has asked for a separation because he doesn’t feel we are meant to be together. He has fallen out of love 3 years ago and I think now he has someone else. He has done some unpleasant things in the past which hurt our marriage and has realised that it is better he removed himself from the family so he doesnt hurt me anymore. He doesn’t realise that it is extremely hurting for my family right now.
My 2 young boys pray everday to touch daddy’s heart and bring him home. I pray too and have hope but there are days when I just sink. My family need prayers, so we all will be united. Thank you.
(USA) Well, I felt like I had to write my story on here, as I too am in desperate need on a miracle. I haven’t been a long term church goer, but at this point I am turning to my faith in order to get through an impending divorce. My wife and I have been married for 9 years, and have two beautiful children together.
In order to support my family I had to take a job in Australia for 12 months, and this ultimately is where my issues began. My wife began having an affair with her school principal, and when I arrived back to the U.S., she continued the affair until I discovered it in May 2012. We tried marriage counselling, but ultimately the pain, hurt and anguish over this resulted in a DV case being levelled against me. I am not usually a violent person, but this situation did get the best of me at the time.
We have been separated now for 5 weeks, and they have been the worst 5 weeks of my life. Not only do I miss my wife, but I also miss the kids immensely. I have been a regular attendee at church now (3 times a week) and am praying for her forgiveness and the opportunity to repent my sin. Please pray for me and the outcome that would best suit our family unit long term.