My wife and I have been married for 10 years, divorced for 1 year, and remarried for 4 years. This, of course, is to each other. Ours is a marriage that has been put back together after the divorce.
You may ask, how is it the second time around? It’s absolutely marvelous. We never argue, never say the wrong things to each other, and we are always happy. If only it were so! No, we do argue, and we do miscommunicate with each other. We are not always happy. But that’s all part of having a successful marriage.
First Marriage
In our first marriage God was not a part of it. I rejected God and was the most inconsiderate man that any woman could ever have been married to. I was an alcoholic and a drug addict. Eventually I became a gangster. My wife had to live ten years of absolute hell with me.
She, however, loved me. She told me continually that the reason she stayed with me was because she believed the man that she had met 10 years before would return. Despite all the ways I hurt my wife, she did not divorce me. I left her for a younger girl and divorced her.
It was my six year old daughter who was the one who helped to bring us back together. She had never been into a church, nor did she know much about spiritual things. But one day she found out from her teacher that she should pray for God to bring her daddy back. God answered her prayer.
Lastly, I want to say that if you are having marriage problems and want to get divorced, I don’t recommend it. I believe with God any marriage can be successful. To sum it all up, success in marriage depends how much you are prepared to sacrifice. My precious wife was prepared to sacrifice everything to keep our marriage together. I thank God for her.
This is a true testimony given to us from a subscriber from South Africa.
(PHILIPPINES) We are now in the worst situation of a married life, but I do believe and trust God that he will fix and do miracles in our relationship. We have 5 kids who can pray w/me. Please pray for us too because with Him, there are no impossibilities. Amen
(USA) Abba Father, great and mighty God! Healer of hearts, souls, spirits!! Father we come to you now knowing of a hope, a confident expectancy, for your will to be established. Father, You said, “A man will leave his father and mother and the two shall become of one flesh!!” Father we believe in the permanent bond of this union. We come against Satan who is escalating the conflict and clouding hearts. We believe that You, O God, will put this marriage back together even better than before. We believe You will bring this wayward spouse back!!! Father it is in the pure holy matchless name of Jesus Christ we do pray and believe for the victory!!! I place the healing blood of Jesus upon this marriage. In Jesus Name, In Jesus Name, In Jesus Name, we pray! and we say Hallelujah and Amen!! Hallelujah and Amen!!! Hallelujah and Amen!!!!!!!
(USA) I would love to have others praying for my marriage as well… My husband told me almost a week ago that he hasn’t loved me for a couple of years, that he stayed for the kids. He told me he was leaving me & eventually file for a divorce. He also told me that there was another woman that he had been seeing & sexually active with for 4 months. I have known this woman & she was trying to be my friend, but with my husband the whole time.
My husband has known God, but is now obviously out of God’s will. I believe in miracles, & I am waiting for God to send him home. Please pray with me about my marriage, that God bring peace & unity to us & our children, with restoration of our marriage. God’s word says “Where any two are more are joined together, believing and asking on anything, they shall receive whqat it is they ask for.” So please pray and believe with me.
(AUSTRALIA) My wife of 13 years had an affair and has now left. We share custody of our 2 children and it’s the most difficult season of my life. She is a believer and born again but is in the worst place of her life at the moment. I have forgiven her and she knows this but wants to live on her own. She is no longer with this other person and is alone.
She tells me she needs time alone and that only time will tell if we are ever to come back together. She also tells me that she knows that she needs to come back to God but is struggling to do so as she finds it so difficult to give up all this world has to offer (parties, clubs, the it’s all about me mentality). I believe she still loves me but I think that she’s still somehow connected to this other person. She has fallen into the trap that this world has set and that is to listen and follow your hearts desires and the word says that the heart is the most deceitful thing in us.
Last night I sat with my two little ones in their room reading the word and praying and I had to look into my little boys eyes to see him crying and asking me if our family would ever be reunited again and had to hear my little daughter ask me why is nothing happening when we have been asking our lord for breakthrough. This was one of the most painful and difficult moments of my life but I told them to have faith, ask in faith and God will answer in his time.
Please pray for me and my family for the lord to recreate the love and bond between my wife and I, to restore our marriage to new and greater heights and to reunite our family. Please, Please pray for us …we need a miracle!
(USA) Dear Lord I, along with countless others, pray for TOMMIE and the healing of his relationship. I also ask you Lord for the healing of CARLOS’S relationship. It’s tough enough when only a man or woman hurts over the loss of someone, but when children express their pain, as in CARLOS’S case, the sadness is deepened.
Please heal the relationships of these 2 families along with everyone else here on this website.
I ask also, that before you are done Lord, that you might also think of me. I’m not deserving of a reconciliation, but a healing of my heart would be appreciated. I ask that you please watch over my 2 sons. Help them make the right decision’s, hold them up in their time of despair, keep them humble in their successes and give them the strength and fortitude to “fight back” when the world seems the be against them. I’m sorry I’m not what you expected me to be, but I thank you for the hope you give us all and the payment you made for us all as well. Please give me the strength and willingness to grow. Thanks Lord.
(USA) TOMMIE – That was one beautiful prayer. You have a gift and the couple you have prayed for will surely benefit of your request to our Lord.
(USA) Thank you… I’m believing this prayer for my marriage too. My strong Christian husband fell after 15 yrs of marriage. He’s been with another woman since Oct 2012, left me & our 2 children, & just filed for divorce. Everyone is in complete shock. We need a miracle. We’re in so much pain & trying to keep our faith. Thank you.
(U.S.) I pray that your marriage will be restored and give glory to God.
(UNITED KINGDOM) Please will you pray for my wife Ruth and I? We’ve been divorced for 2 years after 20 years of marriage. I used to pray non-stop and was shattered and broken hearted. We are still good friends and both still single. I have tried to move on and cannot. I love her so much it is breaking my heart in two. She says she wishes we could get back together but cannot trust me. I am prepared to do anything to restore my family. Both of us are Christians. I don’t know what to do. God bless, Kevin
(AZ) I am going through a very hard time. I’ve been married for 7 years and have been living together for 14 years. All of a sudden he decides to separate from me. I love him so much with all my heart. But he says that he is not in love with me, but cares for me. Please pray for us. I beg you in this time of need. I love him with all my heart.
(USA) My husband left me and I am standng for my marriage. For months after he left me, since he is an unbeliever I thought it was okay to divorce and move on. I never desired divorce, but I didn’t think there was any reason I should not move on if it happened. I’m familiar with the passages that talk about an unbeliever leaving and letting them leave. But God directly addressed me on this as I sought him and convicted me that I was not seeking his will. I was interpreting the passages as I desired instead of seeking God’s will. While the spouse should let the unbeliever depart, the following verses speak of how the spouse can win the unbelieiving spouse back for the Lord. The emphasis in the unbelieiving spouse departing is on “peace”, not on whether they are still married before the Lord. The Lord showed me that if I was looking at it without bringing my bias to the table, that the spouse who allows the unbeliever to depart does so because she is not bound to live in unpeCe with him. I couldn’t accept this teaching until I got to the very end of the chapter (1 Corinthians 7:39) which says, “A wife is married to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband dies, she is free to marry whomever she wishes. But this marriage must be acceptable to the Lord.”
It was hard to accept this verse. Paul would not be contradicting himself. 1 Corinthians 7:15, which says that if the spouse leaves she is not required to stay with him, consequently can’t be saying it’s okay for her to remarry, because that would contradict 1 Corinthians 7:39. Additionally, verse 16 says that a spouse can be converted through the wife’s Christian witness, and verse 17 says, “you must accept whatever situation the Lord put you in, and continue on as you were when God first called you.
Verse 30 of 1 Corinthians 7 says, “Happiness or sadness or wealth should not keep anyone from doing God’s work”. This is very hard to accept if we make happiness the number one goal of our lives. Why should I not give up on God’s plan for marriage (that it is till death and a covenant relationship) and do what I want, if I believe life is about my personal happiness? Am I really willing to be faithful even when my husband is not faithful, and to do it because I am a disciple of Christ and not because of whether I think my husband deserves it?
Doing what is right and noble and good should be done for the Lord. Life has never been as hard as it is now for me, but I am standing for my marriage and petitioning God for my husband’s salvation not because I like to make myself suffer or because I have a problem moving on. I have learned how to listen for the Lord’s voice and have heard him loud on clear on this… Frankly, I find it frustrating when others who do not have faith for others’ marriage restoration use verses or make comments to challenge whether marriage standers have heard the Lord correctly.
If some of you don’t have faith that can move a mountain, don’t, from your fear position, undermine those who have heard the Lord and most of all need edification in their walk. I know these are strong words. Don’t take your lack of faith of hat God can do to use it as a tool to weaken others’ faith. Don’t be a stumbling block. Our God conquered the grave and raised Lazarus from the dead, he can most surely resurrect a troubled covenant marriage. If we pray for healing of physical illness and God answers us, he can most surely heal sin conditions of the heart and save marriages. People can be prayed into the kingdom of God. It happens every day. As for myself, my faith is not in what I can see, but in the Lord, who is faitfhful to answer, hears the prayers of his people, and desires for not one to perish.
(USA) EXACTLY, Theo! I’ve read some discouragement on here, some subtle some not so subtle, and I agree with you. Our lack of faith should not become another stander’s burden. I’ve been through that so much, in the years I’ve stood and prayed for my marriage, I’ve stopped talking about my stand to anyone.
(USA) I will be going through a divorce soon. I don’t want to and I want to hang on with all my heart. I have cried out to the Lord several times to help me. Even if we do get divorced I want to wait for her. I am a new Christian and am learning to trust in God. She has another man now even though we are legally married. I have been married fourteen years and we have four kids together.
Problem is, in our marriage I cheated twice physically. I believe I did it because I was looking for love. When I left I didn’t believe I was in love but how was I wrong. I found my faith through this and really want to hang on for her. A lot of people tell me to move on too as it takes two people to be married which is why our marriage failed both of us. All I can say is that I don’t want to give up. If she marries the other guy would it still be right for me to wait?
(USA) I have to admit I acted stupidly. But I wonder how much of this was actually a result of frustration. I know I had the same common husband problems such as too much tv or internet and not spending enough time with the kids or even doing house chores. But, I did go to work every day and I never went out with friends. I was a homebody. I always knew my place was at home. I know most of all that I love my wife. And want nothing more than to be a happy family again.
(S. AFRICA) Good Day everyone. I need your help and advice on something. My wife filed for divorce in February and has on numerous occasions told me that she wants me out of her life. I fought tooth and nail for a long time, then she asked me to back off. I did just that, I did not contact her in any way. On Wednesday last week I recieved the summons, I phoned her to let her know that I would look through it and get it back to her a.s.a.p.
Then on Thursday she sent me an email wanting to know how it was going with the Divorce Care course I am doing and other stuff. On Thursday night I went to visit my son, they are both living with her Mom. She has one of those digital photo frames in the lounge that scrolls through the photos. For the last 4 months or so there have been only two photos of me on there, now there are photos of us on Honeymoon, photos that were on a CD packed away in a box. What I need to know is the following: Am I looking for something that is not there, or is my wife maybe having second thoughts about the divorce? I would really appreciate any advice you can give. Wayne
(S. AFRICA) Dear Wayne, It’s me again. I have not stopped praying for you. In actual fact I was going to just send you a “how are you doing” message tonight when I saw your post. Wayne, all I can say is never give up on God. He does answer prayers. My marriage is a witness to that. My divorce was in the 11th hour as well and God came through in His own timing and with perfection. I am not sure if the photos you saw indicate that your wife is having second thoughts but only that you are still very much part of her life and father to your precious son. Keep on telling her that you do not want to sign. God hates divorce. Ask for time for healing before making such a big decision, for both your sakes and of course your son. I pray that if your wife is having second thoughts that this will enable her to relax and give this more time and thought. God bless.
(S.AFRICA) Dear Rose. Thank you for praying for my wife and I, it really does mean a lot. I will keep praying and giving everything to God. I will not give up and will keep standing for healing in my marriage. I am so happy to hear that God has healed you marriage, it gives me hope that God will do the same for us. God Bless you, Wayne
(UNITED STATES) My husband has filed for a divorce. I have not been a good wife and I know it. I have recently been coming to Christ. I pray and I’m not sure what to do as there are all kinds of legal stuff involved, custody, a restraing order against him. He was violent with me one time although through our marriage he has incurred much abuse. I believe there has been infidelity amoungst both of us. I don’t know how to stop everything and feel like it is too late. I only pray that somehow God will save our marriage before more divorce proceedings go on. I feel like I’m in a nightmare and I am asking God to save our marriage. I have a court hearing on the 28th and just pray that somehow God saves our marriage.
(USA) I will pray for you and your wife, that your relationship to be put back together through the will of God. Remember what God put together let no man tear apart. Please pray for me and my husband to unite.
(USA) What you are asking for is and will be done. God will deliver you and give you rest from you stresses. He will renew, restore, repair and fix things up better than before. The God we serve is an awesome God. The Bible says if God is for us then who can be against us? Command satan to be thrown into the lake of fire where he belongs. Satan will be defeated; he was from the beginning and will forever be defeated. Keep praying and fast. God will supply your needs and heart’s desire within his will.
(MACON) Hi Nancy, I love your thought about satan being a defeated foe. Because right now I’m having a lot of problem in my marriage. My husband has left me and went back to his children’s mom. He is very confused about who and what he want to do. I don’t fault him for wanting to be a dad. But at the same time, he’s hurting me! He’s filed for a divorce. However, my prayer is for God to bring him back and save our marriage.
In the meantime, I’m very hurt, anxious and scared. Please come into agreement with me to have God bring him back home and do the right thing. Also, to get the other lady out of our lives and to stop sabotaging our marriage. I’ve been praying a lot and fasting.
(USA) RE, We cannot pray for your marriage if God called him to go back to his first wife. That is his covenant marriage not yours. I’m sorry RE. You need to read the Bible.
(USA) My husband and I are no longer together. We both have our faults in the marriage. I very much want to be with him until death do us part. My husband and I don’t even talk. He is currently in a relationship with another woman. I have prayed everyday for God to remove her out of our marriage and speak to my husband. I filed for divorce but have not completed the process. I ask the whoever reads this please pray for me and my marriage. I know the power of prayer will change all this. Thank you.
(FLORIDA) Hello. My husband divorced me after 20 years of marriage. One morning early, he told me that the fire is gone and he doesn’t love me anymore. It hurt my heart so bad. We have been divorced for 10 months now and it’s one of the hardest battles I have had to fight because I love him with all my heart. I never found out why he divorced me. I only know that he started seeing someone else. I believe that the devil has a strong hold on him at this time. So each and every night I pray for My Father in heaven to help him back home to his family. I love him in spite of the things that have happened. Please pray for the restoration of my marriage… In Jesus name, Amen.
(INDIA) Please bring my exhusband back to me. I was a fool to leave him. But unfortunately, for the sake of my sister I had to remarry. I am not happy with this marriage, I had sacrified my life for her. Please Jesus, please bring my ex-husband Ambi back to me. I love him sincerely, please reunite us. I wil go back to him if he calls me once. I am waiting for his call Jesus. Please have pity on me and my parents, as they are unhappy because of my unhappiness. Please fulfill my wishes. I TRUST YOU FATHER. Have mercy upon me. Amen. If you fulfill my wishes, I wil lit 100 of candles for you. Please Father, please, have mercy upon me. Amen.
(USA) My Wife and I are divorced for almost two years and yes, I was the one asking for the divorce and it was for selfish reasons. Little did I know that it was the biggest mistake of my life! But in the process I ruined a wonderful woman’s dreams, a beautiful marriage and I also ruined my Dad’s in the process. After agonizing in the process, I saw my wife last night. We’ve been friends even after the divorce and we forgive each other.
However, last night was different. I went to apologize and accept my responsibilities for my mistakes and told how deeply sorry I was for ruining our marriage and her life. I never felt so much pain in my entire life and I never loved anyone like I love her and still love her more today than the first day I met her. She still forgave me and appreciated that I took ownership and we are still friends. She said she will always have love for me.
I so badly wanted her to take me back but I don’t think that time is now. I have a lot to prove not only to her, my father and to myself. I never thought I was a bad person per se, however, I have caused so much pain and never wanted to hurt anyone in the process. I just finished talking with my father and he is so understanding and told me not worry about our situation. He said he was proud of me and told me whatever I do, not to give up and keep fighting for myself. He was also proud that I talked with my wife.
I have a the most wonderful father and a most wonderful ex wife. I hope that God will bring us back together, but first I need to take care of myself. I kindly ask that you pray for her and to God and that if I am deserving of her love again that maybe she’ll find it in her heart to love me like a husband once again.
To all the Men out there: I know we are not perfect and either our significant others. However, ask yourselves this, is it really worth throwing away your family and your wives? Most of them will take you back. That is a Godly gift that women possess that at times I believe we lack.
To Love of My Life, if you read this: I hope that one day you will consider taking me back. I am deeply sorry for all the pain I caused and I promise you that I will get the necessary help to help fix my personality issues. Please, I ask God and you to please pray that one day we will be back together. Even though we are not married anymore I still consider you as my wife and I want to let you know that I LOVE YOU MY WONDERFUL WIFE and I will always be there like God’s Guardian Angels are there for us. Thank You everyone and I pray that all of you find the peace and that your love’s come back to you as well! God Bless!
(SOUTH AFRICA) Steve, I really pray for you and pray that you get reunited with your family again. Please have faith and your prayers will be answered. We all in life want peace and harmony within ourselves. We want to be happy. This is not a bad calling, for no matter what wrong we may have done, the Lord never fails to reach out and help us. You are calling for help and calling with a sincere heart. Please have faith and your answers will be delivered. Take care.