My wife and I have been married for 10 years, divorced for 1 year, and remarried for 4 years. This, of course, is to each other. Ours is a marriage that has been put back together after the divorce.
You may ask, how is it the second time around? It’s absolutely marvelous. We never argue, never say the wrong things to each other, and we are always happy. If only it were so! No, we do argue, and we do miscommunicate with each other. We are not always happy. But that’s all part of having a successful marriage.
First Marriage
In our first marriage God was not a part of it. I rejected God and was the most inconsiderate man that any woman could ever have been married to. I was an alcoholic and a drug addict. Eventually I became a gangster. My wife had to live ten years of absolute hell with me.
She, however, loved me. She told me continually that the reason she stayed with me was because she believed the man that she had met 10 years before would return. Despite all the ways I hurt my wife, she did not divorce me. I left her for a younger girl and divorced her.
It was my six year old daughter who was the one who helped to bring us back together. She had never been into a church, nor did she know much about spiritual things. But one day she found out from her teacher that she should pray for God to bring her daddy back. God answered her prayer.
Lastly, I want to say that if you are having marriage problems and want to get divorced, I don’t recommend it. I believe with God any marriage can be successful. To sum it all up, success in marriage depends how much you are prepared to sacrifice. My precious wife was prepared to sacrifice everything to keep our marriage together. I thank God for her.
This is a true testimony given to us from a subscriber from South Africa.
(U.S) I have been divorced 2 1/2 years after 18 years of marriage. I love him more now than ever. He loves me, but is encouraged by friends to date friends of theirs. I pray hard for a remarriage… but with God at the center this time. Your prayers are appreciated also.
(UNITED STATES) My husband and I were church goers; he had been saved within a year of our almost 6 years of marriage. We had started attending regularly at a spirit filled church. He started an affair and left me to move in with another woman after knowing her for two months. The church refused to council us together anymore, because he was living with the other woman. My hopes were crushed, even though had I had any encouragement, I would have held on.
I was praying at the altar one Sunday and felt a hand on my back. I turned around and it was him. He said he was so sorry for hurting me and wanted to come home. I took him back and the next day, to my husband’s disappointment, I made him return with me for council at the church. Within a week he had returned to the other woman, (she kept calling him). The church again said no more council, and at that time recommended I file for divorce as my husband had threatened in a fit of rage to sell everything to pay for the divorce if I did not and said it had gone too far. I forgave him, but did as he asked, the most bitter pill I had to swallow and divorced him, because I could not bear being married to a man living with another woman.
We kept in touch and the divorce was final within 2 months. I continued to pray for him, but started dating other men after the final. My husband asked to come back after I gave him the papers, but I told him to make sure that he was over her. They were back and forth a couple of times and he always stayed in touch until a few months ago and would see me from time to time. She caught him talking to me and threatened the two of us and forced him to block my number and tell me to never call again. It was the most devastating experience of my life. I could not even hear from him.
I have stood in faith to hear from him and prayed many prayers to get rid of the other woman in his life and restore our marriage. I will always love him. I got a text message the other day, asking me to forgive him, if I could. I told him that I always forgave him and he could call me again. He said he would like to visit some time and see the dogs and me. That was 3 days ago. I do not know what his living situation is and I do not care. The devil, through this woman stole my husband and Christian marriage. The woman had continually come to his work and talked against our marriage. I am standing in faith for restoration of our marriage, in spite of family or friends who stand in judgement of this woman who has chosen evil.
I know that my husband loves me and is so confused and guilty for his choices. He was weak and used and sometimes has punished himself by staying with her. We have been divorced almost a year and he has been in sin with her for about 16 months. I believe in spite of the circumstances, that he still loves me and is coming home to restore our marriage. I asked God to forgive me for my lack of faith and relationships with other men after he divorced me. If I could have stayed strong and fought the loneliness, he could have restored earlier, but under the advice of those who knew less than me, I tried to continue on with my life and date others. He even told me to go find someone else in that horrible phone call with her on the line. I blame no one but myself at this point, I knew better than to sin and justified it with rejection and loneliness, but God forgives all of those in Christ Jesus and knew my heart. I stand in faith for his return and filing of the Holy Spirit and I stand in faith with all of you women who are standing for your husband to come back. What God ordains, let no man put asunder.
(US) Susannah you are a woman of humble faith. I am praying and believing with you that God will soften your husband’s heart & minister to him about the whole situation. I am going through a similar thing, as my husband walked out on me almost a week ago to live with another married woman right in front of my children & myself. The house they are living in is our rent house, but they are living in it together. It is at the front of our property, I am in the back.
Just always remember that God is a God of restoration & reconciliation, and God hates divorce. The devil is leading your husband, & he is deceived. I don’t think getting advice from the unGodly is all that great; Christian advice is so much better. I will be praying for you and your husband to find your way back together, as I know it is possible with God. Where any two or more are gathered together, believing on any one thing God said he would bless those prayers. He is a miracle worker! Please pray for us as well!
(UNITED STATES) I’m very glad that God let me find this site. The stories of reconciliation encourage me.
My wife filed 4 weeks ago after almost 9 years of marriage. Our marriage is more like 2 marriages. For the first 3 1/2 years, I was not the best husband. I brought an addiction to porn into the marriage, which manifested itself into an inappropriate relationship with a woman at work. I didn’t have a physical affair with her, but that was all that I didn’t do toward her. With God’s work, I was freed from the porn and the affair, and my life changed. The next 3 1/2 years, I was different, but I still wasn’t the man that I should have been. I wasn’t unfaithful, even mentally, but I didn’t show her the love that she craved.
In February of 2009, we had an argument that began the “second” marriage where I was the one in love with her, working on the relationship, and she checked out of the marriage emotionally, physically, and mentally.
I am a believer that if you love God, all things can work together for good. I began to read books on relationships and God began a work in me to make me who I should be.
She met a man 6 weeks ago, and actually went on a date with him within 48 hours of meeting him. Since then, they have spent almost all of their waking hours together. When she filed, I moved out, into an extended stay hotel close to where I work.
On one hand, I HATE being in this position. On the other, God has used this time to build me into a man modeled after Jesus. I am not who I was when she filed, and I am not who I am going to be when the divorce is final. Every day brings new blessings and lessons from my Lord.
I believe that she is struggling between her flesh and her spirit. She has always told me that she wanted a spiritual leader, and I never truly understood how to be that. I do now. The man she’s dating obviously isn’t one either.
I know that God can soften her heart, and that is what I’m praying for. There are times that I have total peace that we will be reconciled, and other times… not so much.
I am not being idle while I wait: I’m losing weight through diet and exercise, I’m involved in a Divorce Care group, I’m going to Haiti on a missions trip the end of September, and God has brought people into my path to minister to. If she allows Him to work in her life and we reconcile, greater the rejoicing. If she refuses and marries the man she’s dating, which they have talked about, then I know He has something for me. Either way, the whole situation is in His hands.
(INDIA) HI, I am Mervin. I had some issues with my brother-in-law. But my wife put a divorce case against me because of this. Please pray for my wife and me.
(UNITED STATES) Hi, my name is Antionette. My husband left me 3 years ago for another woman. He said he wasn’t happy. We were separated 3 yrs and together 8. We have been divorced since March of this year. It was something he wanted. I pray every day for my family to be together again. We have a 11 year old son and it’s so hard on us both cause we love him dearly.
(USA) My husband and I separated 5 months ago. He felt like we needed a break and he was cheating. Trying to get over him, I cheated and he asked me to leave. I left town and we have had a lot of bad things come between us since then. We argued if we spoke but mainly didn’t speak at all. Today he told me he would like to work on our marriage and he was ready to be a husband. He hit me a few times toward the end and I hit him first usually.
We had a lot of anger toward each other from our issues, but today when we talked it was fun. We laughed and jokes were made… we disagreed but when it got to be too much we laughed it off. My family and friends say not to go back to him. They think he would hit me again. I don’t think he would. It wasn’t normal for him, just something that happened in the end. In my heart I love him so much and want to try again! I need advice!
(UNITED STATES) Let me begin by saying that I believe, with God, all things are possible. I do believe that God can fix anything and that Love Never Fails. This is one situation that I need him and prayers most. I have been with my husband for 3.5 years, I’m 21, and he is 26. I fell in love with him when I was 18. At the age of 20, we had a beautiful baby girl. When I turned 21, is when it all fell apart. I lost my job shortly after I got back from maternity leave, and he went to the Navy. Sadly, that did not work out and I began to put no effort into the marriage at all. I did not help around the house, I was over-weight, and I did have some infidel moments. So after realizing that I wasn’t putting effort into our marriage, I thought that I could fix things, and I did the stupidest thing I could do… I signed a divorce paper, and pawned my wedding rings. He begged me for 3 months not to leave, and not to do it, but I thought it could help. I was blinded for whatever reason.
So here I am, in Montana at Job Corps (it’s like a vocational school) and I found out that he had signed the papers as well. Of course, I am confused about it because he was not torn up or upset about it at all, and it sounds like he is testing me. He said that he would give me a second chance when I got up here, but now he says there is no way we can reconcile, “He doesn’t want it.” “He cant do it.” I have done too much “damage” and if I really loved him, I would let him go. So this all confuses me, of course. He also said we can be just friends… of course, I do not know if he did sign them, but I still wear a band on my left hand to remind me to stay faithful as to not mess things up more.
I cannot let him go, I realize what I did and now I am willing to take responsibility for everything I have done. I have been getting a lot of counseling from my pastor at my church. I can’t do anything about it currently though, as I am 800 miles away (originally from Colorado). So he says I should just leave the situation in God’s hands and see him and try and reconcile when I go home for Christmas break. It is so hard though, I love him, and I want him back, I need prayers. Please pray for us to reconcile and get our lives back. Thank you and God Bless. :)
(USA) My husband left me and divorced me because “he was miserable, had been miserable for years.” I begged him not to divorce, that it was not the answer. I begged him to go to counseling, to try to work things out, but the only thing he wanted was out of the marriage. I prayed and begged God to intervene and stop the divorce, but that did not happen. It was probably the quickest and most civil divorce in history; I tried to contest the divorce, but because of the divorce laws in my state, I had no choice but to “accept” the divorce. I had not discovered the idea of praying for marriage restoration until after the divorce was final.
As part of the settlement, I had my maiden name restored. There is no contact whatsoever between my husband and me, but I pray for God to restore a right relationship with my husband and return him to me and restore our marriage. I don’t tell many friends about my stand, because the few that I did tell said, “I hope you’re not setting yourself up to get hurt again.” It’s very hard to stand for my marriage, especially when you see no results, and I am very impatient. I don’t know how long I’ll be able to stand but I ask God daily to help me stand firm and pray for my husband and our restored marriage.
(USA) I was married for 17 1/2 years and my divorce was final in September 2010. I chose to move closer to family thinking that it would be better for my kids but in the mean time I lost everything I had, my sweet husband. Even though our marriage wasn’t perfect and we fought a lot, I regret so much giving up my marriage for my kids to be closer to their cousins.
I want more than anything to put my marriage back together and to make it ten times better. I just wish I knew how to do that. My husband tells me that we need to date and find out what we lost over the 17 years but I don’t know how to do that when we don’t live in the same state anymore. I love him so much and I want so badly to be with my husband again and to make our lives better. If anyone has any suggestions on how I can do this it would be great. I need him and my family to be together forever.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Hi dear, I’m a true believer in Christ, and hold to God. I understand what you must be going through. I’m not married but have had a boyfriend of 4 years, who dumped me for no apparent reason.
I kept asking God to bring him into my life again. I had faith this would happen. Well, after three months he returned to me, and apologized. We have been together ever since.
Trust in God and let him decide, if things don’t go as you thought they would, please ask God for strength and courage. I will also pray for you and your husband. I wish you all the best in this journey, and I’ll keep you both in my prayers. Wish you well. God bless.
(USA) I believed in the sanctity of marriage and God’s love and took my marriage vows seriously. My wife dumped me for someone else three years ago after 25 years of marriage. I never strayed, never tempted, 5 children and set an example for them. I clung to hope. He moved in and they shared the same bed in front of our children. Today she served me papers.
Hope? No way. Belief in a loving God? No way. She sins, I repent and my marriage is over. Miserable three years, haven’t seen my children in 1 1/2 years. She and he fled to another state. You can have your imaginary God. To me, all of that teaching was hogwash.
(USA) I, too, am in the midst of a falling marriage… and I struggle to keep my faith, but I know I must. Even if my marriage cannot be saved, I have to remember that I am.
(USA) William, Remember, God still lets people CHOOSE. I know you are hurting. I don’t say these things out of insincerity. My wife also filed for divorce and my marriage is over. I also have 5 kids with her. But God has another plan. Another man moved into our home A WEEK after the divorce was finalized.
Let go of this and let God do what He wants to do. STAND on His Word!! His Word promises to us that if we draw unto Him, HE WILL DRAW UNTO US. I promise you that if you do so, He will meet you in a REAL way. Don’t thump her over the head with it, just trust for yourself. Work hard on changing YOU. You are the only one you can control.
Her relationship is empty with this man and will NEVER be blessed. You entered a covenant relationship under God. You and your wife became ONE FLESH. When that one flesh is torn apart, it doesn’t tear cleanly. Part of you is in her and part of her is in you. The Bible says that Satan roams the earth seeking whom he may devour. But, if you are a follower of Christ, “Greater is Jesus IN YOU than the devil who is in the world.” But is Jesus IN YOU? Have you yielded CONTROL of your ACTIONS to Him? Talk is cheap.
The Word NEVER returns void. The book of Hosea lays out a story of a prophet told by God to marry a PROSTITUTE, or promiscuous woman. Huh? That doesn’t make sense. But that’s what God told him to do. Then, once she had left him, she found herself as a slave. God told Hosea to go back and buy her and bring her back home. She realized that she was much better off where she was than where she found herself now with her new man.
She has to learn from her mistakes. You have to let her learn. I know it’s hard for you to do this because it has been INCREDIBLY HARD for me. My situation may be different from yours, as my wife suffers from a mentall illness condition. It wasn’t revealed until this situation started last spring. I am THANKFUL to God for what He has shown me and how I have grown because of this. Now I am in the position to help others. Another thing that helps to bring about change is helping others. Isaiah 58 speaks of fasting and giving and helping those less fortunate. When we do these things with the RIGHT ATTITUDE, “Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear; then your righteousness[a] will go before you, and the glory of the LORD will be your rear guard. Then you will call, and the LORD will answer; you will cry for help, and he will say: Here am I.”
That’s the other key, BE THANKFUL. Sounds impossible, considering what you’re going thru, right? Phillipians 4:6-7 says “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
There is ALWAYS hope!! ALWAYS. God knew this was going to happen to you. I am not saying that your situation will absolutely turn around. But I do know that if you don’t speak to the mountain, it WON’T. Remember, it’s not the SIZE of your faith, it is WHO YOUR FAITH IS IN!!
Even if she never comes back, she is not worth your soul. If she has committed adultery, you are free to remarry. Make sure you go forward with a clear conscience and a strong relationship with Christ.
(USA) Ken, Praise God! Thank you for pointing out the Lord’s word! My husband is leaving after thirty years to find his personal happiness. He told me not to have hope or pray and that God is telling him to do this. He says he loves me and will always love me. He does have free will. He is also a recovering alcoholic. I believe he needs prayers for discernment. For me, I will trust in the Lord and pray. I love God and my beloved husband.
(USA) Dear William, I am very sorry for what you are going through. I do understand your frustration and feel your pain. However, if you blame God or disavow knowledge of him or even are frustrated and bitter and angry at your wife it is only going to hurt you and your children and make healing impossible for all of you. God is what makes the forgiving and the healing possible.
Your wife has sinned. There is no doubt of that. If you read the Bible then what she has done is a terrible, terrible thing in the eyes of God. But if you let go of what she has done and forgive her then you can accept the promise that God gives you for a heart of Flesh instead of a hardened heart, and you will be able to be happier. If you stay angry then you will never be happy no matter who you are with or if you are alone. God is the only hope.
Just because bad things happen or people do bad things we must never turn away from God. He does good things in our lives and works miracles in our lives everyday. Many marriages have been restored and even thrived and been better after going through similar stories as yours.
Because the stander for the marriage kept faith, and after the prodigal spouse came home, the couple were joined in God together. Do not give up. Find God, so there is hope for you and Faith. There is a God and he loves you and he is ready to welcome you into his arms and heal your pain. Again, I am sorry for what has happened. I hope this helps. Freida
(USA) William: What happened to you surely wasn’t fair and is impossible to understand. Your pain and frustration actually brings tears to my eyes. I am also divorced and hurt, etc. My faith also has been tested and I too am full of more doubt than faith but I do have faith. It may be small, but it is faith just the same. Please Lord, forget me and my troubles, I brought them onto myself.
PLEASE, heal William’s heart and bring him a miracle that not even he will be able to comprehend after it comes to pass. Please forgive him for his harsh words. He is human and almost anyone else who had gone through what Will has gone through would say and feel the same. He trusted you Lord and he feels let down. We are all taught that Satan is the ruler of this world but we who believe rely on you to protect us and the ones we love. I’m asking you Lord, be there for him. Not tomorow, not a month from now, not years from now but at this moment.
He sounds like he was a faithful man. Please lift him up and let the eventual miracle of his testimony serve as a testimony to us all of your power. Don’t leave him stranded and please, no excuse about “in Your time”. He needs you now. Not tomorrow, not next year but NOW. Defend your faithful son Will and “punish satan for what we believe he let happen. If it is Your will to bring his wife back, then please provide Will the forgiveness he needs. But in my humble opinion, she doesn’t deserve him. Restore him like you restored Job. Please bring him a peace and happiness even William can’t imagine at this time. I’m asking this not only for William but for all of us who lean on you. We lean on you no matter what, and accept the results, although you possess the power to move mountains.
Please move a mountain for William. Not only would he appreciate it but so too will everyone who puts their faith in you. I don’t know you Will and we will probably never meet, but I love you bro and I’m saddened by your pain. For your sake and mine, I am going to have faith that your life will improve immediately. Why, because the Lord said “ask anything (in reason) and it will be given. My request is within reason. I’m also going to thank you Lord in advance and praise you for what you will do for William.
(USA) The pain you’re in breaks my heart. It is a pain like no other. I have been where you are for 4 yrs. I too lost my home, marriage, everything I loved. I was angry at God for not answering my prayers. I prayed 24/7. Still nothing. My husband took the house we built after moving me out and moved his g’friend in the next day. They got married later.
After a couple of years I stopped praying and believing. I thought God had forgotten me so I forgot Him and my husband. Yes, I was bitter and had given up. A couple of months ago I got a call from my husband. His new (woman) has moved back home and left him. My husband said everything I had been praying for all these years and then some. We aren’t living together but the connection we once had is
still there. He calls almost everyday and is the man I begged God for.
There is only one explanation for the call I got from my husband and that is GOD. Our time is not His time. He promises to answer us. He did in my case and will in yours.
God bless,jd
(BARBADOS) My name is Crystal and I’m here to let you know that with man it may seem impossible… but with Almighty God… NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE.
I made a promise to God and to myself that WHEN he restored my marriage, I would testify and tell the world… I would share EVERY single detail no matter how shameful and embarrassing it would be, in the hope and knowledge that I would someday be able to bring some kind of hope for a hurting wife or husband who would’ve been going through what I once was.
I’ll try to be as brief as possible but I really don’t want to leave any detail out… no matter how small, because it may be the very thing God wants to use to inspire and encourage a stander or prodigal spouse. I don’t want to apportion blame too much here but suffice it to say we had some in-law issues which contributed greatly to our demise… but that is another story and I want to concentrate on how God showed up and showed off in the mist of my situation.
Today is January 19th 2011… My husband of 1 year and 5 months left me on November 30th 2010… BUT….all thanks and all praise be to Almighty God, he is now back home and we are rebuilding a marriage that, from all accounts and to the naked eye in the natural realm, was dead.
As far as I could see we were the perfect couple… went out together, stayed home together, laughed, joked… we were like two peas in a pod. Of course, we had our regular marital problems… no marriage is perfect. In addition to the above we also argued and sometimes told each other some harsh words LIKE EVERY OTHER COUPLE. It isn’t right but it happens.
In spite of all this, I believed he loved me just as much as I loved him. You could imagine my surprise and heart break, when one day after a short disagreement, and I mean short, lasting no more that a few minutes… my beloved husband packed his clothes and walked out of my life.
All this happened on Nov 30th 2010. I held off from calling him because I was still upset and I figured I didn’t do him any harm… he was the one that stepped out in our marriage and on our marriage… ours wasn’t a physical stepping as in outside sex. It was an on-going 5 month relationship on the internet, with someone he had been previously involved with.
The days went by and he didn’t call so on December 5th 2010, I called him. He refused to take my calls so I texted him only to be told that he wasn’t interested in me and I should go on with my life… that I should never call or text him again. That was like a dagger through my heart. I felt as though someone had literally run a knife straight through my stomach and was twisting it repeatedly… but that isn’t the worse.
Yet… I persisted in calling him that same day and eventually he picked up the phone. He was as cold as ice… I felt frightened even listening to him. He told me… I NEVER LOVED YOU… I AM SORRY WE GOT MARRIED… I FELT TRAPPED IN THIS MARRIAGE… I DON’T LOVE YOU LIKE A MAN SHOULD LOVE A WOMAN… THE FEELINGS I HAVE FOR YOU IS THAT OF A “GOOD” FRIEND. I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND YOU SHOULD GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. I’M NOT COMING BACK. I have never felt pain like I did then, in my entire life. It is amazing when you are down how quickly you remember that GOD does exists.
I was a regular church goer and I tithed but I still didn’t have that personal relationship with God. Well, God has a way of getting our attention in ways unimaginable… and he got mine.
I cried DAILY AND HOURLY. I felt all hope was gone… I mean how do you get someone to love you again when that person is saying I never loved you at all? YOU CANT… BUT GOD CAN.
I had built my life around my husband and now he was gone. I felt like I lost the better part of me. I couldn’t eat; I couldn’t sleep. I didn’t want to socialize and I forced myself to go to work. But God had a plan. Even though all seemed lost, God was turning my situation around even as I was hurting. What the devil meant for evil God was turning around for good.
I enlisted the help of three persons… a Prophetess, an Apostle, and a church Pastor. These were all spiritual people I knew, and strong men and women of God. I knew I wasn’t strong in my spirit and my faith was way less than even that of a mustard seed.
I still cried every day but I also engaged in some radical and spiritual warfare for my husband. I spoke the word of God over my marriage EVERYDAY and I prayed hedges of thorns around my husband EVERYDAY. I pleaded the blood of Jesus over him and claimed my marriage in the name of Jesus.
Remember I wasn’t rooted in God so my prayers weren’t as flowing as other people’s, but everyday I gained more and more strength and my faith began to soar. I prayed that God would soften my husband’s heart and remind him of the love we once shared. I asked God to send Godly people into his life to speak to him even when I couldn’t and God heard me.
I think I either bought or borrowed every book on marriage… warfare… prayer… you name it, and I just wrapped my husband up and prayed whatever prayer I could, even verbatim from some of those same books. I became like a one man army.
At times the devil whispered in my ears and unbelief and doubt settled in. I would call my pray warriors for encouragement and go to God crying and in a few hours I would be right as rain and ready again to go up against the gates of hell for my marriage.
To make a long story short, Sunday January 16th 2011, I got a text from my husband… who accidently had AGAIN on the 14th January 2011, told me he felt the same way and I should go on with my life. He said he wanted to talk and wanted to know if he could come by the house. He wanted to know if I could forgive him for what he did and for us to try again at our marriage.
I had released my husband and my marriage to God and I knew God was going to do something. But I thought it would be perhaps a “Hi, hello… how are you” …or perhaps a few weeks down the line he might drop in a call or something. I had no idea that MY GOD was bringing my husband home that day… that instant.
He told me that after he spoke to me on Thursday, he went to God himself and talked to him and asked him to speak and show him what he should do. He said that from the time he said that, everything just went crazy. Everything he saw reminded him of me… when he went to sleep his dreams were constant replays of our life together. He started thinking about stuff that happened before and after our marriage that were nothing short of miraculous.
In short… God was speaking to him all along but he was too proud to just walk back and admit that he was wrong but he wanted to so much. He wanted to give our marriage a chance and he loved me and wanted to be with ME.
I give all the thanks and praise to God for what he did. It doesn’t matter what your situation looks like… It doesn’t matter how impossible and dead it seems… It doesn’t matter what your husband or wife is planning. We plan but God is also planning and he works EVERYTHING out together for those that love the LORD. DO NOT GIVE UP… THE DEVIL AND EVEN YOUR OWN MIND IS GOING TO TRY TO TELL YOU TO MOVE ON… LEAVE HIM/HER ALONE… HE/SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU… THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO… THERE IS NO ONE THAT CAN HELP YOU NOW. DO NOT LISTEN… even in your tears, cry out to God… when you don’t know what to say… just say JESUS… nothing more. Tears is a language God understands and he is going to work it out.
This isn’t every single detail of what happened. There are parts missing… but my short journey has been nothing but incredible and miraculous. I want you to know that with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE… Be encouraged
(USA) Crystal, what an inspirational story. Thank you so much for sharing. It is exactly what God wanted to confirm to me. I get weak on some days, but I know God is working on everything… just as you said. I am excited to watch how he works things out. I can only imagine the miracles he may use with her.
(USA) Crystal, I needed this!! I decided yesterday to quit standing because my ex-husband, whom I was married to for 20 yrs, told me to stop signing e-mails LOVE, DENISE because it was disrespectful to he and his fiancee. He’s stationed in Iraq and I think she’s somewhere in the south of the states. I have been taking Xanax trying to block out the pain.
I usually skip over postings of those who haven’t been married long but it was something about yours that made me read the entire thing. I wanted to jump for joy as I saw your miraculous ending and I said, Lord if you will do it for her, you’ll surely do it for all of us standing. I was once the prodigal and my ex is a good man and I deal with the guilt of leaving him for a married man, but I have known for 14 months that I want my husband back and he refuses to have his heart softened. I realize that if God can turn my heart around, and I know my husband is not saved, that God will reunite our covenant because I am a Christian and my prayers shouldn’t be blocked.
This morning I had made up my mind to give up my stand and I read your blog and my entire outlook has changed. Thank you and God bless us all who are standing, fighting and praying for reconciliation with our prodigals.
(USA) Dear Lord, I am praying for the restoration of my marriage to Tony. I pray for patience and guidance for myself during this difficult time. I pray you will speak to Tony’s heart and soften it, and restore our marriage and bring Tony home. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.
(UNITED STATES) We have been married for 5 years now. We had a child together and things were going great. We hardly ever argued and were doing really good. Back in November we got into a argument and she left and took our kid with her. My 3 kids were so sad about it. She was so great with them and called them her own.
My ex wife was out of the kids lives the first 4 years of my new marriage. But recently has came back in and takes the kids every other weekend. My wife moved back in with her parents and we hardly ever talk. I would email her and she would email back that she needs space and time to figure out what she wants to do. I would beg her to come back because our marriage was great and we were perfect for each other. I got int a car accident like 3 weeks after she left. I called her parents house at the scene and told them I was being rushed to the hospital. She flipped out and said she was on her way. She stayed up there until I was discharged.
I don’t get to get our baby that much because I’m working and it’s hard for me to find a sitter for her because she’s not in school yet. I call my daughter almost every night and talk to her.
My wife was so close to my 3 kids and when she would drop my daughter off they would be all over her. They would grab my wife and hug all over her and follow her wherever she goes. Now my wife doesn’t even talk to my kids. My oldest will text her asking her to come home and get no response. She was so close to them and now it seems like she’s trying to forget them. They are all very sad and miss her and my daughter a lot. My oldest was a straight A student all through school, and is now failing 4 classes. She asks me everyday if my wife is coming home and I don’t know what to say.
My wife at first would say she doesn’t know what she wants to do and she needs to breathe. Now she’s saying she wants a divorce and that if me and her are meant to be it will happen. She’s told me since day one of her leaving that she doesn’t miss me. Is that possible when we were so in love our whole marriage? My family loved her to death. At first they were a little worried about her being young and having 3 kids in her life already, but she proved everyone wrong. She doesn’t talk to anyone of my family since leaving and she used to everyday. It’s like she’s trying to forget them too. Everyone is shocked that were separated because we were doing so good (including me). We hardly ever talk now and I don’t want a divorce. Sometimes when I call my daughter I’ll talk to her parents and they’ll say she misses me and loves me but she doesn’t want to talk about it. They say all she does is stay home and watch tv or sleep.
I don’t know what to do because I love her very much. Since she left I’m gonna lose my house. I’ve mentioned this to her and she acts like she doesn’t care. My kids are heartbrokem and I try talking to them, telling them I’m always gonna be here but it doesn’t work.
Since this happened, my ex wife wants to fight me for custody of my children. I’m so worried that she will some how win and I’ll lose them. She was absent a lot of their lives and now that I’m down she wants to kick me.
I’ve lost 45 pounds since this happenend and I’m a wreck. I love my wife but I think me begging her pushed her away. She still has pics of me and the kids on her facebook page but doesn’t call them that much. Is it easier that way for her not to talk to them or is she trying to forget them? I want my wife back but I know she’s done. Please give me some advice on what I should and shouldn’t have done .I pray to God every night, but I feel bad for doing so because other people have worst problems then me. I just want my family back. We were so good together; now it seems like she doesn’t care. I have hope that God will bring us back together.
(UNITED STATES) I am in the same boat as many of you. Circumstances look bleak to outsiders and society. Anything and everything that the enemy could use to tear our family apart he has. But we have to remember that “greater is He who is in us than he who is in this world”. No matter what I will NEVER give up on standing for my marriage as long as I breathe.
Sometimes I have to remind myself of the fact that God chose me to stand in the gap for my marriage and my husband’s salvation. This is my assignment and if I disobey God then I will have to face God… I don’t know about the rest of you but when I get to those gates I want to know that I followed Him even when everything in me wants to give up because it “seems” easier.
However, we must not take the easy way out. THIS IS OUR ASSIGNMENT… our covenant marriages with the spouses of our youth. Please stand in agreement with me and I shall do the same for you. In Jesus’ name I claim the blood of the Lamb on all our marriages and families! Satan… listen up… YOU CAN’T HAVE US!
(USA) I love my ex-husband so much. Just writing this comment makes me smile. When we divorced 2 years ago, it seemed liked the right thing to do. Now that we are friends I realize that the love is still there. He has a child by another ‘younger woman’ whom he’s not with any more.
Every time I see or talk to him he seems so sad. I hate that, I know he’s going through something. I pray to God that he his soul be saved. My ex-husband doesn’t have a relationship with Jesus that’s why I can’t get in the way. I’m letting God handle this situation. But I have faith that everything is going to be okay. My God hasn’t failed me yet.