My wife and I have been married for 10 years, divorced for 1 year, and remarried for 4 years. This, of course, is to each other. Ours is a marriage that has been put back together after the divorce.
You may ask, how is it the second time around? It’s absolutely marvelous. We never argue, never say the wrong things to each other, and we are always happy. If only it were so! No, we do argue, and we do miscommunicate with each other. We are not always happy. But that’s all part of having a successful marriage.
First Marriage
In our first marriage God was not a part of it. I rejected God and was the most inconsiderate man that any woman could ever have been married to. I was an alcoholic and a drug addict. Eventually I became a gangster. My wife had to live ten years of absolute hell with me.
She, however, loved me. She told me continually that the reason she stayed with me was because she believed the man that she had met 10 years before would return. Despite all the ways I hurt my wife, she did not divorce me. I left her for a younger girl and divorced her.
It was my six year old daughter who was the one who helped to bring us back together. She had never been into a church, nor did she know much about spiritual things. But one day she found out from her teacher that she should pray for God to bring her daddy back. God answered her prayer.
Lastly, I want to say that if you are having marriage problems and want to get divorced, I don’t recommend it. I believe with God any marriage can be successful. To sum it all up, success in marriage depends how much you are prepared to sacrifice. My precious wife was prepared to sacrifice everything to keep our marriage together. I thank God for her.
This is a true testimony given to us from a subscriber from South Africa.
(UNITED STATES) 2 years ago my wife and I seperated for petty differences. We used to be in tune with god and at that time everything was great. After 9 months I realized she was who I’m supposed to be with. Things were great for a little while and we still never restored God to the forefront of our marriage. One year later it fell apart again. This time we went through with the divorce because all the worldly people were telling us it’s the right thing to do.
It crushed my wife. I acted as though I moved on. We talked All the time had dinner alot. I had had a girlfriend after the divorce and that simply crushed her. She felt as though I had already moved on. I really hadn’t I was just blinded to the woman Satan put in front of me. Me and that girl had a bad breakup that I took hard. Not because I really cared about that girl but more because I was actually mourning my wife. 6 months passed and my ex wife and I were good. A snow storm came and she had to stay at my house. During the time she was there I fought off feelings for her. I fought them off by being a huge jerk.
Two days before she left I decided she is the one I love and want to be with and our divorce was wrong. I sent her flowers and told her how much I loved her and that I wanted to do everything I needed to do. She informed me she met someone. I am now completely devastated. Through this my dad being a great Christian man told me, “son you need God in your life. He’s been trying to get your attention for a long time. He wants you to be together with her but you’re gonna have to do alot of work.” So that night was the first night in a long time I actually got down on my hands and knees and prayed. I rededicated my life to God that night. I have since prayed alot for God to just show me the path I need to go. That path keeps leading back to my wife. I love her with all of my heart. I asked God to light me a path to her heart in a birthday present.
I woke up in the middle of the night with an idea to write her a letter. I had already been making a video of me and her so I thought this is good. Before I wrote I asked god to use my hand to write his words. I don’t remember most of the letter but it was beautiful. I couldn’t believe I had wrote those words. I sent them to her and nothing for 4 days. I finally called and she said she had a boyfriend. But she still loves me and still says I’m her best friend. She is mine. This devastated me but I knew this was Satan still attacking me and her. So I went to our church family counselor. I prayed for God to just speak through the counselor. Assure me I’m on the right path. Well he did.
The counselor said this can be fixed. And he asked me to write her another letter. I did that and delivered it yesterday. Still no word from my wife. I can tell she has conflict when she talks to me and refuses to see me because she knows what’s right and wrong. She’s putting up a defensive front and trying to harden her heart to me. I have a good relationship with god now because of this and I really feel this is the path he wants me to take. Satan attacks my thoughts every single day all day long. All of these stories fill me with so much hope. I love my wife with all my heart and I’ll never let her go. But I’m dying a little more inside each day that goes by without her.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Hi, i am a 28 year old lady from Pretoria, South Africa. My husband has left me and we have a divorce court date on the 28th of March (in a few days). I love my husband with all that I have and am willing to sacrifice anything to have my marriage restored. I’ve spoken to him just last night and he doesn’t want to hear it. God knows that I love him and can’t see my life without him.
Please pray for me and my husband for God to work in our hearts and make us to see things the way He sees things. I want my son to have a normal family and be brought up in a family that trusts in God and for him to see God in us. I believe that God is listening to my prayers and I’m waiting for the miracle from him. Thanks
(USA) I am a 27 year old woman who was married to a 44 yr old man. Our age differnce seems huge but him and I got along like two peas in a pod. He had been married before and had two children. I too, had been in a relationship and have a son. We had the perfect blended family. We shared so many things in common. We had our regular petty fights like all married couples do. We loved each other and took his children like they were my own.
A year into the marriage, I got pregnant with our daughter. We were both excited in the begining but after a while, those petty problems we used to have, seemed too big to be discussed. My husband started to abuse me verbally. He called me every name you can think of. This had been going on from before I was pregnant and he always promised he would change, but it only became worse when I got pregnant.
I decided I had enough in Nov 2009 when I was in my first trimester. I packed my bags and left my matrimonial home. I didn’t leave because I wanted a divorce, I left because I wanted to cool things off and give him time to figure himself out. Boy was I wrong! My husband NEVER called me from the day I left. He never checked on me while I was pregnant. The only way I knew he was alive was I would find all the DR. bills paid.
The next time I saw my husband was the day our daughter was born in May. Even then, he seemed so cold towards me. After the baby was 3 months I decided to call him and have a talk about the way forward with our marriage. He said he loved me but was not sure he could get over me leaving him the way I did. He said that was so embarassing for him and that he was really hurt by it. For some reason, he says he can’t get over me packing and leaving. He says what guarantee does he have that this will not happen again?
Anyway, we have been apart since Nov 2009 and this is March 2011. We do not speak anymore and now he says he wants full custody of our little girl. I don’t know who this man is anymore. He could barely look at me when we went for our custody hearing. He is not the man I married. I love him and I have begged time and again for forgiveness but he told me he has finally moved on and he has found a new woman. I am heartbroken.
I have prayed for my marriage from the time I left. I don’t want to give up on my marriage. I don’t want my children to have a broken home. I pray for him; I pray for us to reconcile. To the human eye, it is a dead marriage, but God can resurrect the deadest of marriages if you simply believe. Please join me in praying to soften my husbands heart and that he may allow God to speak to his heart. I thankyou all in advance and I pray the same for you. Remember, ALL, not some, but All things are possible with God. Stay blessed.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Exactly a month ago, my husband told me that he is unhappy within our marriage. When I spoke to him he said that he is just confused and that I should give him time to think. He also assured me that he does not want to separate or divorce… and that there is no 3rd party involved. A week later he told me that he wants to divorce and it’s final; he has already made up his mind.
We’ve been together now for almost 11 years and married for 4 years. We have an almost 3 year old boy and I’m 32 weeks pregnant with a little girl.
I am a backslider, but I’m finding God again… I am standing for healing in my marriage.
About a week ago, he moved into the spare bedroom. I try to act like normal around him… but he walks around with an angry face all the time… I know that God has a plan for our lives and I know that this is something we need to go through right now (even though it is so difficult).
Please pray for healing in our marriage… I know that I have a few “issues” which I have to sort through and I know that God is busy helping me through this.
This testimony has given me hope… In this past month I’ve been able to “motivate” a few other people who seem to be going through the same… It seems that this is a time where marriages are being tested! But I know God is in control! Please pray for me and my family. (I see how this is affecting our son… and it really isn’t good!)
(SOUTH AFRICA) Reading your story brought tears to my eyes. I hope that my husband feels the same way you do in bringing his family together. I pray that God answers your prayer of sincerity and I pray that He answers mine. I love my husband, although he has deceived me. I wonder if I can ever move on in my life without him.
(USA) My husband and I have 5 children. My husband has been away in another state working and I have been home taking care of the children. He took me away for our wedding anniversary and asked me for a divorce and now is limiting his telephone calls to the children. He used to call every night and now they are lucky to get a phone call once or twice a week.
I have been praying for him and that God will soften his heart. I have reacted with love and without anger since I know that anger is not of God. I would appreciate prayer for our marriage and family. I know that he must be wrapped up in Satan’s sin at the moment. I just pray that God intervenes and brings him back to the light and to God and to our family. Prayers Please, Michelle
(KENYA) Please pray for me that God puts my family together. I’ve been separated and divorced from my husband for 4 years now. He had been indirectly asking me for a reconciliation from time to time but I didn’t take it serious. Recently I rang him because I had been thinking about my marriage a lot and he said that he had met somebody he was willing to give a chance and that I was a little late.
I was absolutely shocked and sank into a depression. I can’t motivate myself to do a thing. We have two love children and I am worried about raising them without a dad. He is not an easy person to live with and I am not sure he is willing to change especially since I am the one who asked for us to reconcile.
He now has a lady at his house who has met most of his family. I am very confused and have failed to ‘move on’ as I am very unsure about introducing my kids to a man that is not their Dad. Please pray for me to be strong. We married in the Catholic church and I am not sure he will be willing to remarry as he is a very stubborn and uncompromising person. Please advise.
(USA) Below is a beautiful story of Marriage Restoration after a divorce:
http://www.drjayandjulie.com/second-chances/
http://www.cadz.net/mdr.html
(USA) I have done many wrong things in the past. I was married to this lovely lady for 5 years. We got divorced and then got back together. Now after 5 or so more years we split again. I know that I have done some wrong things in my life and made it hard on my family. I would just love to make it work out.
I know that God has a plan for all of us in this life. Could someone please pray for my family and I will also pray for everyone else’s. I would love to bring God into my life and have him with me and my family. Thanks for all and I will keep posting updated. Steve
(USA) Steve,
I will pray for you and your family. I also ruined a 20 year marriage and would do anything to get it back but my ex of 2 1/2 years won’t even communicate with me. We have two college aged sons so he is able to communicate with them directly. I have been praying and just began a 40 day fast yesterday and have had 2 wonderful things happen just since yesterday!!! A garnishment was cancelled in court and my boss called me in today and gave me a raise!!! Glory be to God!! I have been struggling with guilt relentlessly and even turned to Xanax at a point just to escape my thoughts. I am fasting and praying for healing of my mind and that I grow closer to God because I still do things that I’m not proud of. Your family will be in my prayers and I believe that God will give us another chance.
(USA) Hello… I am currently going through the divorce process. It is very painful. I married my husband 16 yrs ago and all of a sudden it comes to an end. Unfortunately I became too occupied with going back to school ( i wanted to better our lives) and taking care our children. He found emotional support with a co-worker that in my mind I believe grew to something else. He denies any affair. He states it’s pure friendship. But once he began talking to her he filed for divorce.
All of a sudden I had all defects in this world. I was a bad mother, a bad wife, and I didn’t care for him. I am married through the Catholic church and I don’t believe in divorce. I begged and pleaded and i sought counseling but he didn’t care. I’ve talked to God everyday and I know he hears me. My kids are young and have had their hearts broken and it makes me feel like a failure for maybe not focusing on the family as much as i should have. I went to school to better myself to be able to provide for their future and at the end i contributed to my family falling apart.
I have improved my behavior and corrected my flaws and my husband noticed it but continued the divorce process. Please pray for us. My daughter prays to her angels and God and asks for her daddy back. If only I would have known, I could have avoided all this miserable pain– I hurt deep inside i feel crushed and shattered. All of our hopes and dreams vanished. Our goals of buying our 1st home and our dream of sitting on a swing on our porch 25 yrs from now when we hit our golden yrs is also over.
I feel we live our lives so fast that until something like this happens do you stop and realize how much you love your better half and how you regret every day you were too busy to say “I Love You.”. Thanks for reading my post. Please pray for us. I do believe in Jesus Christ and i believe in his miracles. I hope he helps us.
(USA) Everything comes down to faithfulness. Without faith it is impossible to please God. If you have divorced, one or both of you have been unfaithful to God. This unfaithfulness played out in your marriage through you attitude, or even adultery.
God is the only one who can heal unfaithfulness and it is process. But if you are the believing spouse you must be faithful. First to God get to know Him, develop a prayer life, pray for your spouse forgive your spouse and even if your physical separated do it in your heart. I can guarantee you will learn things about yourself and your ex.
Now-a-days many people call themselves Christian but really are living in the heart like an Egyptian wandering around in the wilderness faithless. Only the faithful receive promises.
One other helpful hint, do not medicate to take the pain away. I mean don’t drink, look for another relationship, fill your life with activities, but trust to God to give you understanding to overcome the pain don’t feed the flesh feed your spirit! Read Hoesa in the Bible and see how God is pained by unfaithfulness and learn the process of how God can make someone faithful. You may be the one standing in the gap for your spouse.
(INDIA) Hello… Me and my wife were married in 2008. We were living happily, but after some time some misunderstandings started to happen between us so that she has filed a case against me. I love her so much … Still 1 year has been passed. I pray to God that he changes her and returns her back into my life.
I know God never does bad with anyone. What he does is good for his children. I have left this with him, praying he sends her back into my life …Please pray for us.
(UNITED STATES) I am in a very similar situation right now. We were not married, but we have been together for almost 2 years. I love her so much! She left me last week because she said she loves me but at the same time she hates herself, for many reasons. She was married once before and they got a divorce because she cheated on him. She said after her divorce she wanted to get to know herself and love herself and forgive herself for what she did. When we started dating she loved me so much and wanted to get married.
Over the past 5 months I would say she has not been happy with herself, and has hurt me a few times. She doesn’t feel she deserves me and my love because she thinks she’s not worth it and hates herself. She can’t see in herself what I see in her. She says she loves me and wants to love me more, but can’t since she can’t love herself.
We both aren’t Christians and went about the relationship wrong, moved in together and had sex. She decided to leave me because she didn’t feel it was going to work with herself hating herself. She wants to love me more and said she thinks it would be amazing if we got back together after she figures herself out.
I have come to know the Lord in the past couple days. I have been praying for her to come to know the Lord. I believe we’re suppose to be together, but we went about the relationship all wrong the first time around. She does love me and doesn’t know what’s going to happen between us. I believe we can get back together through God, but I know she has to come to know the Lord.
She has an addiction to pot, and on depression meds, not a good mix. I love her so much! She’s so confused right now because the devil is just trying to kill her and how she thinks about herself. I have been praying for her and keep having faith we will be together again, but together through Christ the right way.
(UGANDA) We have been married for 5 yrs with two children we have had our share of ups and downs. Many times my husband has been unfaithful to me and as Christian I fogave him. But of recent I got to know that he was seeing some one else though he denied it. Right now I have lost all the love I had for him and am even tired of praying for our marriage. Actually I even suggested a separation, though he could not hear of it.
Deep down, I know divorce is wrong before God. But again, I do not want to live the rest of my life unhappy. My husband is a Christian too. Please advise and pray with us.