Do you feel hopeless and helpless in trying to save your marriage? Do you long to read and view marriage testimonies where the couples come out on the good side, rather than the bad?
This goes along with something that Gary Thomas wrote:
“We need stories for couples who struggle, persevere, and come out on the other side; I recount a lot of those kinds of stories in Sacred Marriage. But we also need stories of couples who find the “sweet, happy spot” of marriage.” (From the book, “Cherish”)
We agree.
Save Marriage Testimonies Needed
“There can come a point in any marriage when you get fed up. You’ve lost patience with waiting to see some kind of change in your spouse. You’ve forgiven again and again; and you’re weary of the struggle. You’re through with trying to make things better. Additionally, you’re tired of being hurt over and over and waiting for a breakthrough that never comes.
“The years have taken their toll, and you subconsciously (or consciously) decide you are not going to try anymore. You no longer feel love for your husband (wife) the way you did, and you don’t even care about getting it back.
“This can happen in any marriage where one spouse is working to make things better and the other isn’t trying at all. Your heart can grow cold and hard like a stone; and it will seem as if the love you once had has died. But the good news is that God has the power to completely turn things around. He is the God of miracles and restoration who makes all things new. Jesus —the ultimate source of resurrection power —can resurrect love that has died and soften your heart toward your spouse. He can also bring your marriage to life again.” (Stormie Omartian, from the book, “Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage”)
And that is what we want to show you here in this topic. Marriages CAN be restored. We’re not saying that everyone’s marriage will be restored. But it gives hope. And with hope, faith, and following God’s lead, it’s amazing what can happen.
So, the following are “Real Life” testimonies from people who have fought to save their marriages who have experienced God’s special touch in their marriages and circumstances. We believe you will be encouraged and find hope for yourself through reading them.
Marriage Testimonies:
• WHY I STAYED: A Wife’s Focus on God Saves Her Marriage
• HOPE FOR THE HOPELESS MARRIAGE
• HER HUSBAND WOULDN’T SPEAK TO HER FOR 3 YEARS
Plus:
• I REALIZED I WAS WRONG AND THAT I WAS A BAD HUSBAND
• THE NIGHT MY MARRIAGE ALMOST ENDED
Also:
• GOD CAN RESURRECT YOUR MARRIAGE FROM THE ASHES
• MARRIAGE PUT BACK TOGETHER AFTER DIVORCE
• MARRIAGE RESTORED AND HUSBAND AND DAD FORGIVEN
In Addition:
• 3 COUPLES WHOSE MARRIAGES WERE SAVED
• HOW TRUSTING GOD HEALED MY MARRIAGE
• RESTORED MARRIAGE TESTIMONIES
Video Clips &/or Written of Testimonies of Marriages That Were Saved:
• FUNNY HOW GOD CAN CHANGE A MARRIAGE
• BOB AND CHARLYNE STEINKAMP: Testimony of Marriage Restoration – Part 1
• BOB AND CHARLYNE STEINKAMP: Testimony – Part 2
Additionally:
• THE ANDERSONS: Her Affair Destroyed (and Saved) Their Marriage
• THE STEWARTS: Re-Married, For Better or Worse
• SCORNED WIFE HOLDS UNFAITHFUL HUSBAND’S LIFE
And:
• THE AGOSTOS: A Marriage Revival
• ROSCO & AMY BACKUS: Striking Out at Home
• THE BRYANTS: A Christmas Miracle of Marriage Restoration
And There’s More:
• THE BUNSES: Once Upon a Broken Marriage
• DAVID CARON: Reality Check at Death’s Door
• THE FOREHANDS: Inside a Stained Glass Marriage
Plus:
• STEVE AND TERRY HAYES: Marriage Do-Over
• THE SCRUGGS: In Love with My Ex
And:
• THE HAPPOLDTS: Happily Married At Last!
• PAT and GAYLE: Warming a Cold Marriage With Hope
Lastly:
• BRANDIE AND DUSTIN: Finding Love in a Destroyed Marriage
• DAVE AND KIRSTEN: God Restored Our Marriage
If God has done a special work in your marriage that could encourage others, we want to hear from you. Please share your testimony with us by going to the CONTACT section. Click on “Contact Us” and write your testimony there.
(USA) I was wondering if anyone else has experienced a problem like mine? My wife and I have been married nearly two years now. She had 3 kids and so did I when we married. We had none between us. We have had a lot of problems with the blended marriage thing.
Back in November of 2008 she moved out. I know I’m to blame for half the problems we’ve had. I never wanted her to move out though. While she was gone I felt the Lord wanted me to really try hard to save the marriage, so I went all out for the Lord and the marriage.
So about Thanksgiving we got back together. She had told me a few days in advance she had been talking to other guys. I told her it’s ok I can deal with that. She promised she would not do it anymore. I had a hard time believing that was all they did was talk so I did some investigating on my own. Come to find out she was with at least 2 of the guys sexually. I’m not sure about the 3rd. This was all within a months time. What am I supposed to think of this woman; and is this called cheating or was it ok since she left thinking we were finished?
(UNITED STATES) Shawn, I really hate that you and your wife went through that and I can tell that you love her and I am so glad that you listened to our Lord and are trying and want your marriage to work. What I really hate is that your wife fell subject to other men while you two were apart.
When you get a chance go to 1 Corinthians, chapter7; actually I think that you and your wife should read chapters 6&7 together. But in essence, the 7th chapter verses 4-5 states that your body is not your own and not to deprive each other except for a time(her cycle, to fast.etc) and it must be a decision that the two of you agree upon. After fasting you get back together intimately to satisfy your flesh-and also to,remember because you are married the marriage bed is undefiled and you are used to sexual touches.
In being together in that manner after fasting it relieves the other partner from sin…Satan comes in between you because he knows the flesh is weak and it must die daily. When you and your wife separated (which you will find in that chapter that the Bible tells you not to separate) you and your wife set yourselves up for the enemy to come in. He knew that you two had a chance of getting back together again and he had to taint your marriage so to speak to make you have the feelings that you have now about your wife.
She is human and she was without your touch. Now don’t get me wrong, what she did WAS NOT RIGHT and I pray that she is truly sorry for it and repents quickly. But please do not hold this over your wife’s head. While you two were away from each other I am quite sure that you too were subject to temptation.
Does it make you any different? No..because the Bible also says if a man lusts in his heart so is he…and it is the same as what your wife did physically..she did not tell the truth because she was ashamed of what had happened and did not want you to find out. Please deal with this issue so that you two can work on what really counts…your marriage and how to avoid leaving each other out in the cold for Satan to sneak in and create any more damage than already has been done.
So your question is cheating ?? No…it was adultery and in that 6th chapter you will find that it is hard for an adulterer to enter the gates of heaven-but you can’t focus too much on her because like I said before in that same chapter if you lusted in your heart for any woman, meaning looked at a movie, a magazine, had a conversation with a woman that was out of line or made a comment to her, a commercial or a woman passing you in the grocery store and had a thought of her in a manner that should only be for your wife, that is adultery also.
Because those thoughts have entered your mind and heart it makes you no different from your lovely wife…so ask god to reveal to you any time you may have been in violation of your marriage and when he brings it to your remembrance repent and be genuine with it and you will be forgiven. In the meantime, as you are back together again…seek Christian counseling…put that in the past and press on to the future…love your wife and seek to never separate and put each other in evil’s way again…get in your Bibles TOGETHER and stay there …please.
(UNITED STATES) Christie, amen! you have touched me with your response. My husband left me Dec., 08 . He says he wants a divorce because he is tired of being a husband and having to change his schedule to fit me and that we have had too many financial problems and mishaps (I’ve lost 2 jobs and we lost a baby 6 years ago). And he says that I am too sickly and has also stated that because I am sick so much, I must be of the devil.
My husband is a wonderful man, don’t get me wrong. I have never seen him like this before…Satan has truly attacked us and who left the door open? We did. We were not on guard and rooted in the word like we needed to be. He is a minister and I have watched my husband be a minister outside of our home but bible study at home or praying together…was not done and I begged him to do that for us because it just could not be right to pray and minster for others but there is no prayer or word left for each other when we got home.
My husband is now seeing a woman from the church we had just placed membership in and the pastor there has not called us into his office to talk about anything. My husband is his associate minster and armor bearer, But I have also found out that the pastor is on his second marriage. I don’t know if that has a part to play or not.
I am sick of the same thing. I am hurting just like others here but I am concerned for my husband’s soul and his ministry. He is twisting scriptures to fit what he wants and doesn’t want to do what is right. He used to counsel many couples in many areas but it seems as if he can’t remember any of the things that he instructed them to do.
I love my husband dearly, and yes prayer is powerful..there is nothing that I can do now but pray. God is in control..but there are days and nights when the loneliness comes and when the anxiety of divorce comes across my heart and iI fall to my knees in prayer…I need prayer like never before. I am renting a room from a lady that I don’t know. My car is being repossessed because my husband has stopped paying everything.
From what I hear he has another job and is doing very well financially and he seems to be very happy. There are times when I wonder if God sees and why does it look like he is blessing my husband with the intentions that my husband has in his heart to divorce me. So I have to stay in my word.
Let us pray for each other…someone has to take a stand for our marriages…we as Christians are starting to look like the world and there is no reason why we (Christians) should be in such a struggle in our marriage and families as we are in today if we are picking up that Bible.
The bible says be ye not conformed to this word…that means the worldly aspect of divorce..that is a law of the land..of Moses..not of God.
(UNITED STATES) HI! Links are great and very helpful to choose topics related to Save Marriages. This site is interesting and very nice. Thanks
(ZAMBIA) I am so encouraged to read the posts on this site, a friend introduced me to this site after learning what am going through. My husband and I are on separation (not my wish) right now. He moved out of our matrimonial home about 5 months ago and is staying on his own and is also seeing another lady. In fact, she is the cause of our separation. We have 2 children together aged 7 and 3 yrs.
This is the toughest situation I’ve ever found myself in. Sometimes I fail to concentrate even on my work because I am always thinking about my problems. I have been encouraged by one of the posts saying that we should claim the Lord’s promises. God always wants us to be happy in our marriages but the devil has brought a lot of lies. He always wants to destroy whatever the God has blessed.
Please, pray for our marriage to be reconciled and that the Lord would remove the devil and his lies out of my life. I really need your prayers because sometimes I just feel like giving up.
(USA) Please pray for the marriage of Bill and Thelma, that God bring us back together, but stronger in the Lord, so that we can go out and help other marriages.
(SRI LANKA) My husband and I separated 2 1/2 months ago after 18 months of marriage- it was his decision and it has torn my world apart. I knew we had issues but never something so bad.
We have had adjustment issues and communications issues since we got married and I suppose there was a lot of immaturity on both sides. My mother in law was also a dominant force in the marriage and I could never accept that and my husband never put me or “us” first.
Funnily enough, my husband is the Catholic and I was Buddhist, but after the separation, I found great comfort in Jesus Christ and I believe that He is helping the restoration of my marriage.
My husband finally admitted to me that now that the anger and bitterness has left him, he sees how difficult the situation is but that he has no faith that we can make this marriage work and refuses to talk about our issues. It would be a shame to let this marriage go because we don’t have issues worthy of a divorce – I know some of you and other people have REAL problems, these are minor issues. I pray everyday that the Lord can touch my husband’s heart and make him see that He intended everything in life to have a meaning and purpose and that just like He will never abandon us, it is our faith and duty never to abandon what He has ordained.
I pray everyday for change and at least to see my husband. My family is pushing for me to divorce him saying that he is not worth it, but how can I walk away? I know that God has heard my prayer; it is only a matter of time – I pray.
(NIGERIA) My hubby moved to his parent’s house because of job location and since things have deteriorated in my marriage. Every little step I make to bring it back looks like it’s mile apart again. I am tired. It has led to physical abuse and I don’t know the way forward. Help me.
(UNITED STATES) I need some advice. I don’t know what to do. I’m now divorced, as of 12/29/08. Well, let’s see here. I married in May 07′ and was only married for 6 months before my husband started cheating on me. At the time, I was 6 1/2 months pregnant with our son when my husband abandoned me at a rodeo in Arizona in Oct 07′. I was devastated. I had no money, no place to stay for the night and my husband was no where to be found. He called me the next day and told me it was over and he was done with me. He never came back home. He just left me for another woman with 3 children.
Our house was in shambles because of a flood we had 3 months prior. There I was 6 1/2 months pregnant, the house was a mess w/no floors or carpeting. I was alone to care for our home, the horses, pets, vehicles and finances. Since the day he left me I’ve been praying almost everyday that God will restore my marriage or that somehow He will bring my husband back to our family. On 12/30/07, I gave birth to our son and his name is Cash. Also, since the day our son was born my ex-husband has not given me any financial or emotional support for our son.
A lot of people think I’m “crazy” to be praying for God to heal and restore our marriage/family. It has been 20 and 1/2 months and my ex-husband has not come back. He doesn’t call me to check on his son. He’s even gone as low to say that our son is not his. He wanted a paternity test done and naturally I refused because our son was conceived in wedlock and there is no question that our son is his. I think he was just trying to get out of paying child support to us.
Maybe I am crazy to think that he will change or come back to us. I don’t know what to do. Should I just keeping praying or do you think maybe it’s really over? I need some advice. Thanks a bunch. ~Arizona, USA~
(USA) Dear Jlong, Bless your heart! You have such a sweet, forgiving attitude in how you are trying to love your ex-husband despite the ways he has hurt you and your son. It’s so sad that he doesn’t realize the treasure he is trying to leave behind.
As for your plea for advice, I just want to say that I/we really can’t tell you what to do. That is not our place. But your ex has definitely broken covenant with you and biblically you DO have the right to let him go. But just because you have the “right” to do something, it doesn’t mean that you HAVE to or should do it. That is something you need to determine after a lot of prayer.
As far as being “crazy” to think that he would come back or to “be praying to God to heal and restore” your marriage, there is nothing crazy in believing God for a miracle. I know of miracles that have happened, and it’s not out of the realm of possibility for God to do this. But you need to realize it is unlikely because from what you have written it seems like his heart is hardened. You can’t MAKE a person do what they are determined NOT to do. And God won’t make him do it either. He can say no to doing what he should be doing, just like you have that right.
I would personally seek God’s heart on this. I would not listen to the nay-sayers, if I thought they could be wrong. If God has planted hope in your heart, then go with God. As you seek God’s heart, HE will tell you if what you are believing will happen and when (if ever) it is time to stop seeking reconciliation. If your husband does not do a complete turn-around in the way he is treating you and your son, then I would not take him back. I would also start to build a life without him. I would keep praying for him, but I would not reconcile unless I was sure that I was sure, that I was sure, that God had worked a miracle.
The thoughts that come to me as I pray, is for you to commit your ex-husband to God and turn your eyes upon God as your husband now. Leave the results of what happens to your husband with God and put your energies with Him and with building a good life for you and your son without your ex. Don’t try to keep him in your life at this point. Release him. If he will not claim your son and is not supportive, and is so mean-spirited, he would be a bad influence on your son anyway and would hurt your heart as well by his selfish behavior.
Don’t waste your energies trying to bring a person back who is determined to do what he shouldn’t. Pray but do not play with that notion. … at least that is my humble opinion, but again, pray about any human advice you would get. God CAN work miracles… prayer, as you live for God will reveal if He will. May God richly bless your efforts to following and living within God’s will. Our prayers are with you.
(SOUTH AFRICA) I really need prayers. Here is my story. I got married last year on the 26th April 2008. My husband was working outside of South Africa (in Kenya) before we got married. Then he stopped traveling thereafter. Towards the end of May 2008 I conceived our daughter, which I gave birth to her on the 20th of January 2009. After giving birth I went to stay with my mom in Eastern Cape to help me with the baby and also to heal the operation.
When I was at home I received a call from a stranger and the number was privatized. She told me my husband is having an affair and she’s aware I’m on maternity leave in Eastern Cape.
I asked my husband and he denied. Because I trusted him so much I believed him (foolishly).
My husband visited us end March and he told me that he doesn’t love me anymore. He met a girl who is 11 years younger than I am, and he wants a divorce so he can marry her.
That really broke my heart, I was torn apart. I tried to talk to him, and I asked people from church to help us. He refused and he said he’s made his decision and no one will tell him what to do.
I came back to Johannesburg beginning April. He moved out from our flat to stay with her.
That strange caller revealed herself and told me she’s the cousin to my husband’s girl friend. She told me that he has paid the lobola and they have started with the wedding preparations.
During all this time I didn’t stop praying to God hoping that He’ll do miracle to reconcile our marriage. Then through browsing the net I came across the Marriage Mission website. I was very uplifted by the testimonies about the marriages that have been saved through prayer. Also the advices about the marriages. I just thought I wish I had saw it earlier on.
Yesterday I was served with divorce papers. I told myself I’m not going to sign to them.
Also something happen yesterday. His girlfriend has sent herself an email saying it’s from me and showed it to my husband. I didn’t receive the email; I don’t know what it says. I don’t even know how she sent an email using my account.
My husband was very upset and he sent me a message saying he doesn’t want to see me ever again, and he’s completely done with me.
I haven’t stopped praying to God hoping for a miracle.
(USA) Sivu, please know that we stand with you in love and prayer. I can’t imagine how desperate this young woman must be to send herself an email from you to give to your husband… but I can imagine that kind of desperation, because she lives on a slippery slope in this relationship. Whenever you push another down to stand in their rightful place, you can never be secure that the same thing won’t happen to you. And it may.
I pray you are able to keep your head up, your eyes upon Jesus and live your life in integrity and the assurance that God will help you as you as you lean upon Him in Truth.
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6).
I pray blessings upon you and your precious child and conviction and unrest upon your husband and this woman who is invading your marriage with your husband’s permission. May they never know joy until they turn away from each other and from their sin!
I pray God will help you to take your eyes off of their lives and onto living each day in renewed hope. I pray God will redeem that which causes you so much pain and will strengthen you to raise your child as a person of integrity and joy in the Lord — with a continual smile for all to witness.
(COLOMBIA) HI, Thanks for this site. On July 7th, my husband sent me AN e-mail and he wants to divorce. I’m devastated and my heart is broken. I am living in Colombia right now because I am in immigration process and I’m waiting here for my green card and I thought I would be back with my husband soon.
The long distance is hard. My husband is in USA. Please help me to pray. I cannot find the right words for the Lord, and this separation doesn’t help. But I have faith for God doesn’t have the borders. Please stand with me and pray.
(SWAZILAND) My Heart goes out to all you women of God who are going through so much pain. We who are still not married are beginning to lose hope in marriage even though I believe that somehow marriages work. My parents are in separation right now and I know how painful it is. But I still believe God can restore their marriage, the question will He?
Ida, I’m praying for you. Cindy and Steve thank you for such great work. It is yielding results!
(USA) Never, ever give up on God to restore your marriage. God will do it… if you persevere and BELIEVE GOD that he can do the impossible. Your spouse who is gone… satan has his grip on him and he/she definitely needs your prayers and standing in the gap! LUKE 18:1 Don’t give up! God will do it!!