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HAVE YOU SEEN GOD REVIVE A DEAD OR DYING MARRIAGE? EXPLAIN.
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(USA) I have to be honest and say NO, I have never personally witnessed God revive a dead or dying marriage.
My first perspective was my own marriage. My former wife had an affair, moved out, took the kid, said she had to find herself, etc. It took me a couple of months to get the details that she was actually having an affair.
I was on my knees the moment she said she wanted to move out. I begged God to show me what, if anything I had done, and nothing came to me. I asked God to put the hedge of protection around our family, as Hosea did in his marriage with Gomer, yet my former wife apparently found comfort and whatever she was looking for in the arms of her married lover and not in her husband. I asked our church to address the situation, to intervene, not in a fashion to condemn her, but in the manner described in Matthew 18 to lovingly win a sinning member back to Christ, back to the body of Christ and back to her husband, and they refused.
I asked my former wife to share with me what she felt my failures where, where I had to improve, what I had done wrong, and while she promised to share this information in a letter to me after the divorce was final, not even that information was provided.
So time and time again, seeking to work on myself, seeking to understand, seeking God’s guidance to love and understand her as He did. Seeking to be transformed into the man that was so compelling of an excellent husband, far more valuable than the man who would abandon his family to have an affair, asking God to speak to her in a fashion that was compelling and unmistakable that it was Him speaking to her. Asking God to put roadblocks in the way of the affair, the divorce, asking for the hedge of protection, to make the affair and divorce more painful than doing the work to build a strong marriage, and on and on again.
Not one of those prayers was answered with a yes.
So if you were to ask me if God is concerned and active in saving marriages, I would say from my experience no.
Can He? Sure, I believe He can.
Will He? I think in most situations, no. In 40 some years of life, I cannot recall a case where I’ve personally witnessed God save a marriage either in my life, or the lives of those around me.
(USA) I think that God restores marriages but I feel like in my case it will not happen. I have tried to “let go and let God”, but it is hard because I want my marriage so bad. I must say that I have seen God work miracles in marriages so I would not say it will not happen. I just question if the miracle will be worked in my marriage before I decide to go through with a divorce. I know that I am getting tired and ready to give up.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Lisa do not give up on God. He is true to His promises. He works to fulfill His promises to those who believe Him and seek Him with all their hearts. Seek Him and His righteousness and He will give you your heart desires. God created marriage and if you have faith and remain patient, He will fulfill His promise to you that what God has put together let no man put asunder. My dear sister Jesus is alive and He is for you and not against you. Be encouraged.
(UNITED STATES) Love is about choice. If you feel you are losing love, pray that God will grow love where love has died. He is faithful to the faithful, and even when we are not faithful… He is faithful. If you are the one ready to leave, buy and pray the prayers in the book that talks about praying wives. It is a pink book… I can’t remember the exact title, but I know it is good. It helps hearts not be hardened and grows back love and kills off anger and bitterness. Have you tried the Love Dare? More importantly, give all your thoughts and feelings to God. Speak out loud to Him and just tell Him how you are feeling. God works… especially when we pair up with Him and listen to what He has to say. Anyway, be encouraged that God will take care of you and know that He loves you. God bless.
(USA) Wow!! That was beautiful. encouring, and so true. It was a word of God…
(USA) I too, have not witnessed God save a marriage yet. For as of right now I am still married but my wife is in a relationship with another man. She says she has not yet slept with him, but I know for a fact that that is a lie. I too want so badly for my marriage to be saved and I would take her back in a heart beat. I don’t care what she is doing or has done. I would accept her with open arms and a still loving heart. What a big fool I am, right?
I don’t know what to do. At this moment I am between a rock and a very hard place. My mind is telling me to divorce her and go on with my life, but my heart continues to say wait and trust in God because all things are possible. I have been talking begging, crying, screaming, pleading for him to help me save my marriage. Nothing has happened yet. Yes, patience is a virtue. But how much patience can I have when I am not the one in a relationship while I am married? Shame on me for holding on or shame on her for doing this to me, herself and our family.
So I say I haven’t yet seen it happen, but my heart grows weary, and have no more tears to shed.
(USA) God is capable of providing all things asked for in prayer or required to teach us his word and bring his children closer together. He created marriage and condemns divorce. If he has chosen not to show his grace over your marriage it is because you are a victim and he knows your spouse does not seek to repent or reconcile with him. The marriage is corrupt and beyond divine repair. He is truly blessing you by allowing you to grieve and reconcile this relationship so you can recover and be fulfilled in a partnership with someone exactly as youve been praying for.
(USA) Yes, I have. My own. I met my husband when we were 18, married at 25 and now we are 37/38 yrs old. The last 5 yrs were full of trials. 5 yrs of infertility reared its ugly head along with a destruction of finances and trust on his part. I cracked. I sought a shoulder to cry on and eventually another man came along. I fell for him.
But I didn’t leave. I tried to restore the marriage. He was not willing to change or take responsibility for his part in the marriage failing. We finally had our son. When he turned 2 we separated, moved into different apartments and I began a new relationship. He refused to file for divorce. I couldn’t bring myself to get the papers started either. I always kept going back in my head to being at the altar reciting my vows. How did we fall apart this way after 17 yrs, after we finally had the child we begged God for?
I once prayed to God that if he gave us our family that I didn’t need a house or car or anything… I just wanted to be a mother. Careful how you pray my fellow Christians. God answers prayers. I lost it all, lost the house, the job, the husband. But my husband wasn’t done. I broke up with the new boyfriend and moved back. Guess who was still there wanting to reconcile?
It has been 6 months. I can honestly say that my bitterness and resentment is gone. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. My son has his parents back together and I look at him and know that he deserves everything we can provide for him. He deserves a happy home. So we are giving it all we’ve got.
I feel God working in our marriage. We are both ready to try for more children. I see no one else in my future. I dated and despite all the mistakes my husband made NO ONE ELSE came close to loving me or my son like he did. I was a fool to seek it in others. He was a fool to let me slip from his grasp. But now we are holding on to one another. God can restore. If you feel ANY sense that it is NOT over, then keep fighting for it. I was at one point CERTAIN that I was DONE. Obviously I was not.
KeepsakeG, You have made our day in sharing your testimony! Thank you. And thank you God!!! I’m happy for you and for your husband and especially for your precious son. May God continue to give you and your husband added insight as to how to hold onto each other closer during the tough times, building your relationship during the better times so when those rough times come, you will cling TO each other rather than distance yourselves. Not only will your marriage benefit from this, but you are teaching your son what it takes to grow a healthy marriage.
I had just posted something on the Marriage Missions Facebook page today that kind of goes along with what you describe in your relationship. It was written by Ron R Lee, and reads: “People believe if they marry the person God intended, they’ll get the relationship they desire. They begin their marriage thinking their bond will remain strong from then on. The law of entropy (deterioration) says that won’t happen. Without the investment of new energy, any marriage will disintegrate. To prevent that, you need to adapt in some way –choose to change and do whatever you can to meet your mate’s needs.” (The “you” pertains to both of you.)
It shows that you and your husband needed to find ways to adapt TOGETHER in the circumstances –to find ways to choose each other, rather than allowing life, naive or mis-guided assumptions, and other people to get in between you. We all can get there, in various ways. And when we do, we need to do what it takes to reinvest in each other so our bond can stay strong and grow even stronger. It takes being pro-active and intentional in choosing each other every day in big and small ways. May God help and bless you in this mission.
(AUSTRALIA) I am a believer saved 2 years ago. My marriage to an unbeliever fell apart. My husband was seeing other women then left me to live with another. I remain in my home in the hope that he would return and I could nurture our relationship in our home. God gave me the Grace to submit to my husband but I didn’t because at the time I really thought I didn’t love him. I was forgiving but not forgetting. My problem was I hadn’t learnt to forget!
My friend had found out that her husband started having an affair, very distraught I tried to help her. I taught her to have faith in God and learn to forgive and forget and work on your marriage. It’s worth the fight after 20 years together. She went home after that night and God’s Grace came over her, a beautiful feeling of love & peace, she forgave her husband and God gave her the Grace to submit & sanctify her love for her husband. After that night she told me that God’s Grace gave her the courage to continue and renew her love for her husband. She feels different and says she has her husband back again just like they are newly weds.
From this I now learnt to forgive and forget and submit to my husband, as a sign he is completely forgiven just as Jesus completely forgives us. I am still waiting for that chance but I know God will give me the Grace I need when it’s time. I have witnessed God’s saving Grace. He has shown me He saves marriages as these marriages represent God’s love for His family & His church. I am working towards bringing my unbelieving husband back to Christ. Trust in the Lord.
(BARBADOS) God does restore marriages. Although I have been praying for almost a year now and mine is not fully restored yet, I trust God and know that he will. He will do it in his own time.
If you are praying and believing for marraige restoration and not seeing any progress, continue to trust God. Sometimes, it is in you that God wants to do a work. Perhaps you need to learn patience, forgiveness, trust, etc. Perhpas he has a Ministry for you in the area of “Impossible looking marriage restoration” and you have to go through this. Whatever it is, trust God.
Sure you are human and it is going to be hard, particularly with all the temptations out there. But remember that God is not slow concerning his promises and Malachi 2 he clearly states that he hates divorce. He has also stated repeatedly that he hates adultry and has outlined in his word what adultry is.
Hang on my brother and sisters, keep trusting with childlike faith. He will come through. Might not be today or tomorrow, might even be years, but hold on. Use the time to get close to God. Work in his vineyard while you wait. Help to encourae others who have marriage problems. Keep a good attitude and never give up. Also, click on the site http://www.rejoiceministries.org. You will see a lot of testimonies where God has restored marriages.
(UNITED STATES) Yes, God does restore marriages. I have experienced it my own life. After 17 years of marriage to a man who struggled with alcohol and drugs, he left me and moved in with another woman. I had often thought that I could handle the verbal abuse and bad marriage even though I cried myself to sleep so often because it hurt so much to be in such a bad marriage. But I would think that an affair I could and would never forgive. That would just be too much.
But when it did happen I just could not let go of the knowing that I was to fight for my marriage. There were times when I was hurting so much, people started saying I should go on meds. But instead I went to God. I cannot even explain the peace that I would get when I would go to him. He did not take away the pain because the pain is what drove me to Him. But he did give me peace and hope. I made up a necklace that said Believe on one side and his name on the other and I wore that necklace daily as a reminder that I believe that God can turn around what the devil meant for bad and give me something great.
After a month, my husband left the other woman and went into rehab. He was there 4 months and then came back to where we lived to work, not back into our home. After 5 months we started to date again and by 6 months we were back together. It’s now 2 years later and yes the pain of what he did still lingers and tries to pull me down at times. But my husband has been clean from all drugs and alcohol and is still faithfully going to counseling every other week. We still have some normal marriage arguments but our marriage is healing and things are still getting better all the time. We both strongly feel that God allowed us to go through this so that we can one day help others that are struggling in there marriage.
I also have two girl friends who both had affairs and their marriages were seemingly without hope. But their husbands forgave them and they decided to get help and work things out. God has restored both marriages to that point were they are more in love with their husbands now than ever before. One of them now travels the U.S. teaching others on marriage and the other helps her husband run a counseling center where my husband and I go for Godly counsel.
So yes, I have seen and felt the hand of God in my restored marriage.
Thank you Lisa, for sharing this. I have no doubt that it will give hope to many. May God continue to heal your marriage and give you and your husband and these other gals and their husbands the wisdom, insight, and tenacity to persevere through the difficult times of learning how to put your marriages together in healthy, loving ways. Each marriage is so different, because the dynamics of each person is so different. But God can help us as we look to Him to guide us. Our part is DOING what He shows us to do. We can have the best tools available and the best insights, but if we don’t pick them up and use them, they don’t do us much good. From what you write, it appears that you, your husband, and these other couples have been doing this. I hope you never stop going with God in building your marriage –it is a lifetime mission.
I sure wish I could see your necklace. What a great prayer reminder it had to be. While you had a prodigal husband, we have prodigal sons. Sometimes my heart literally hurts within my chest –the grief is so deep. But we have an amazing God. And while God will not MAKE our prodigal sons and husbands (daughters and wives for some) turn their lives around, it is comforting to know that some DO make the choice to do so. In the meantime and along the journey of the one who waits for the prodigal, God gives comfort as we lean upon Him. We cry, we pray, but we REJOICE and celebrate with you. Thank you SO much for sharing your testimony. May your story bless others in their journey!
(USA) I am in the same boat. My wife left 2 years ago.
(USA) My wjfe and I separated going on 2 years now, but I never stopped loving her. She stop loving me. I’ve been praying and fasting but still no answer. I don’t know where she is and have no form of contact info. It’s driving me crazy because I love my wife like how God loves his church. Please pray with me.
(USA) God! I hope I do not have to wait two years. My wife cut all communication with me on Sept. 15, 2012. I am praying over her wedding dress every day two sometimes three times a day.
(ZAMBIA) My husband dumped me four and half years ago. I have prayed and fasted but no way. I have gone to prayer warriors who have prophesied but no way. My husband has lost all the love. I just live alone with my 5 yr old kid. It’s terrible, it’s a nightmare, and it’s traumatizing. Will God ever save my marriage?
Dear Chimango, I’m so sorry for all that has gone on between you and your husband –truly. It’s got to be horribly painful, beyond anything anyone else could ever imagine. But please know that while God ultimately wants your marriage to be saved (He’s all about redemption), He won’t MAKE your husband do what he should. He won’t tie and gag him and make him treat you as he should by zapping him with little lightening bolts when he does wrong. And He won’t go in and do a brain transplant to numb him from the negative thoughts he allows to himself to grab onto. If God did that sort of thing, we’d all be walking around like robots. God gives us a free will, and with that freedom, sometimes we don’t go the way that God wants us to go or do what we should.
Yes, God will work in different ways in our lives to show us the right path, but ultimately, we have the ability to make decisions –right or wrong. So when you ask, “will God ever save my marriage” the answer is that He will work FOR your marriage and speak to your husband in ways He knows he needs, when we ask, but He won’t MAKE your husband come back to you. It’s possible that he could come back to you and your child in the future, but then again, when free will is involved (just like you have a free will), it’s difficult to say that will happen. I’ve seen dead marriages revived and raised from the dead and I’ve seen them stay dead. God gives us the ability to obey or not. I just know that with God, all things are possible.
What God WILL do is give you help and hope –sometimes just a glimmer, and sometimes more, as we lean upon Him and line our will up with His. He loves you Chimango, and He loves your 5 year old child. He doesn’t want you and your child to live in a perpetual “nightmare.” But you need to look to Him to help you, as best as you’re able. Four and a half years is a long time to live in a miserable waiting room. There is still life that needs to be experienced and grabbed onto and ministry that can happen with our participation while we’re waiting. You and your child deserve no less. And I have no doubt that God is waiting for you to help you with this.
I once heard something that Bible teacher Beth Moore said, “We will lose our strength when we wait upon an event, but our strength will be renewed when we look upon the Lord.” She also said, “We can find our significance and satisfaction in the shelter of the Most High.” And it’s true. I know many, many people –both women and men who have been abandoned by their spouses and parents whose prodigal children have in essence divorced them, and they can testify that while the horror of it all can’t be described, there IS life afterward, especially as you look to the Lord to be your refuge and your guide. God CAN bring you to a place of goodness and peace again.
I’m not going to say that this will be easy; it’s not. But you and your son need to somehow learn to find a “new normal” as hard as that will be. I’m also not going to say that your husband might not change his mind in the future. Perhaps he will, perhaps he won’t. But you can’t put your life on complete hold to wait and see. You need to look for little pinpoints of light here and there –ways in which you can put smiles and hope onto your face and your child’s face. And as you participate in looking for the light God can bring, more and more of your path will be revealed. God wants to abide with you and help you, but you need to look to Him to help you walk in His light rather than trembling in the darkness of this nightmare. Don’t put your focus upon your husband and what he did and will do, but upon what God can and is wanting to do in you… let God take care of your husband, look to the Lord to help you to take care of you and your son. When you do, who knows what it will lead to. Your hope is to be in the Lord, not the actions of your husband. When you put your hope in the Lord, I have no doubt that you will do much, much better. I hope that for you and pray for you. “The LORD is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on Him in truth.” (Psalm 145:18)
(USA) Why prayers do not get answered and why SOME marriages do not get restored is because our human nature tends to make us doubt, question, want it now, and thus try to do it ourselves and mess it up more. People pray and when they don’t get instant results they give up. WRONG MOVE. Prayers get answered, even marriages restored when people who are standing for their marriage ask God to do it for them, but then they worry, doubt etc… you can’t do that, you must have tremendous faith that it will be done, anything else is saying God is a liar.
He says if you seek Him first ALL will be added unto you, He says with God ALL is possible. If you are praying in His will and then asking for real forgiveness of YOUR sins (this means that YOUR heart and mind are free of anger, resentment etc.. toward your husband and ANYONE else!), and come to Him with a clean heart, then you must leave it with Him, He is working on your behalf, you may not see it, but He is doing it, and YOU must stay in prayer, seek His Word, and mainly TRUST AND BELIEVE it will be done in HIS time, not yours! That is the hard part.
We are human, and we let the devil put negative thoughts in our minds, we must conquer those with God’s Word in our minds. When you ask God to help, Satan fires those darts, and keeps firing them. God uses things to make us strong, to bring US to HIM. He also will allow Satan to do things to accomplish GOD’S WORK. Sometimes drastic measures are needed (Read Jonah and Luke 15-(prodigal son)–those who perserveres will overcome, God will return to you what was lost and in a huge way. DO NOT GIVE UP!
The writer of this blog is WRONG! It may not have worked for that person because HE may have had something left in HIS life that he has yet to conquer. Get yourselves to that place of total trust in God. I have finally gotten there, it is a different place! It is total trust and belief, no doubts, no worries–just know HE is working on it. Be steadfast! Do not let anyone steer you off course, Satan will use others to bring you down and make you doubt.
God wants people who BELIEVE, not just believe He died on the cross, even Satan believes that, No, God wants us to believe HE CAN DO ANYTHING, as long as you are asking for things in His will, He will do as promised! TRUST-get yourselves there for real blessings from God! I am there. I got there through my tithing–I tusted God to give me what I need as He promises us, and IT IS TRUE!!!! People have that doubt when they give money, when you give it and TRUST that God will give back even more than you gave, HE DOES DO IT 100 FOLD! I will pray for all those standing on God’s promises for marriage, Please pray for my separation also. Thanks! God bless!
(USA) Hi Kris, Thank God for that spirit of encouragement. Life seems to get harder and harder and we want to let ourselves go when we think God is not responding. We should know better than that. Its more painful out of faith than in it.
For anyone struggling with doubt, there is one thing that works all the time. Read the Bible regularly and it transforms you effortlessly. It becomes your reality. Thank you Kris. Stay in the will of God.
(USA) Hi Kris, A double Amen to your commentary. Everything you’ve written is So, So, true. He DOES answer the deepest desires of our heart (Psalm 37) IF we delight in Him AND are committed to Him AND trust Him. As you pointed out, however, many people want what they want immediately. Have they led an obedient life which is pleasing to the Lord, and do they delight in Him; that is, His way of doing things?
My observation has been that, for many people, it’s a one sided relationship and so, they pray asking that their desires be answered and when they do not receive an immediate answer, they are a witness that God’s word isn’t true which, in essence, is calling God a liar. I consider that to be a serious sin. As it is written, “it is IMPOSSIBLE to please God without faith.” And, in the book of James we know that a double-minded person can accept nothing from the Lord. Well, I was SO encouraged by your words, Kris, and deeply touched by your faith. -Suzi
(USA) There is a great difference between believing God can do anything, as I’ve always believed that. The question is WILL God do anything? The answer in many/most cases is no. Especially if one of the two spouses doesn’t allow God to act in their life.
Can God act? Sure He can. However, God doesn’t force Himself on anyone else. His offer of salvation through grace is that, an offer. If it’s not accepted, then you are not saved. Doesn’t mean God can’t save you. It means you won’t accept salvation and God respects your decision.
The same is true with respect to the saving of a marriage. The betrayed spouse can have the greatest faith in God’s ability to act and prevail. Yet God will not force the unfaithful spouse to change, to drop their divorce, to end their affair, etc.
Romans 1:18-32 “The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.
For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.
Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.
Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.”
So apparently, even if something is the will of God and you or anyone has faith God can act, folks can reject God and God will give them up to their own desires. So is the lack of faith some are citing the lack of faith by the betrayed spouse or the lack of faith demonstrated by the unfaithful spouse.
I believe it is a lack of faith. However, to blame the betrayed spouse is to be out of touch with reality. It is the lack of faith demonstrated by the unfaithful spouse that is the problem.
No amount of faith displayed by the betrayed spouse can make up for the faithlessness of the unfaithful spouse. As long as the unfaithful spouse fails to put her faith in God, God’s powers really don’t matter with respect to saving the marriage.
The unfaithful spouse has to allow God to save her marriage. If she doesn’t, God will respect her choice and as we read in Romans, will give her over to her sinful desires to end the marriage.
(USA) I know this is a late response (some three years later) but I do not think this is 100% true. God does not force His will on people to serve Him, to honor Him, to love Him. No. He wants us to exercise our freedom of choice to choose to serve Him. “Choose you this day whom ye will serve” said Joshua. No parent or spouse wants to force their child/spouse to love them.
But….God does exercise His power to change the plans, thoughts, and hearts of man as it pertains to other things. The wise man said, “The king’s heart is in the hands of the Lord and as the rivers of water He turneth it whithersoever He will.” This means, God can and will change the minds of people who are determined to do something that He does or does not want them to do, i.e., Jonah, who was dead set against going to Ninevah. God changed his mind. Pharaoh, who was dead set against letting Israel go; God changed his mind. There have been things that I was dead set on doing and were it not for a praying mother, I would have done it, but God changed my mind and I ended up doing the very same thing I said I would never do. Balaam! He set out to curse Israel. God took control of his will and his tongue and made Him speak the words He wanted Him to speak.
So I do not buy into the notion that God cannot or will not. God will do whatever it is He chooses. He can and will change my wife’s heart and mind and have her back home. Now it would be up to me, through the power of His spirit to nurture and care for her, show her the love of Christ so that she stays home. But don’t tell me God won’t make her an offer she can’t refuse to where once she was dead set on not coming home, she wakes up one morning and RUNS home because God rearranged the elements, took control of circumstances, and set things in place to make her change her own mind. God is just that powerful! He will do it for me. My wife is saying she will never come home. My wife is saying she will divorce me. But my God is saying, she will be back home. Who do you think wins?
My wife is coming home.
(USA) Kris, your comments are words straight from Heaven. You are absolutely, positively correct in everything you said! I have read over and over of spouses that “stand” for their marriages and their spouses do return to them, and their marriages are greater than before.
My wife is within weeks of walking out, but God himself has told me this was going to happen. He is working with me on my faults and helping to grow closer and stronger in him. I must trust with all my heart, that His plan is in place and he has given me insight that he is allowing the seperation to work with her heart.
God Bless all those that are “standing”. It will be done, but in his time frame…God has told me several times to Wait on him! That is what I must do. Kris, I pray that your spouse has since came back to where they belong!!
(ENGLAND) I have seen the power of the Word of God restore a marriage where the two spouses had actually married other people. Then after 14 years of divorce, the Lord brought them back together. Praise God!
(ENGLAND) Hi Kris, I thank God for your life in the Name of Jesus, Amen. I will stand with you for your own restoration. Stand on God’s Written Word. Confess aloud, regardless of what you See, Feel or Hear in the natural, that you choose to believe God, Amen. When God opens a door no one can close it, Amen. He IS the Author & the finisher of your life. God Bless You! Angel x
ps Please go online to. . . Rejoicemarriageministries.org; Spirit of hosea.com & Biblecities.com. I believe these sites will bless & encourage you, Amen.
(USA) I was wondering to see if your separation was restored? Your words impacted me greatly!! ;-)
(USA) Amen… amen… All the above you mentioned is accurate and true. When God restores your marriage I pray that you send it out to the masses so I God, can get the glory and know that marriages can and will be restored for those that follow and receive the above the things that you stated. May you continue to be blessed in all things, encouraged, and continue to have that unwavering faith that refused to be moved, shaken, or disturbed. You are a blessing!!!
Books I would recommend for those going through separation and looking for reconciliation for their marriage:
by Stormie Omartian
by Stormie Omartian
By Ed Wheat, M.D.
– The Power of a Praying Wife
– The Power of a Praying® Husband Deluxe Edition
– Prodigals Do Come Home by Robert T. Steinkamp
– Standing after the prodigal returns
– After the Prodigal Returns and Standing After the Prodigal Returns
– How to Save Your Marriage Alone
There are also great websites that are extremely helpful in standing, that support it with scripture, prayers, etc.:
– marriagemissions.com
– annointednet.com
– rejoiceministries.com
– faithandmarriageministries.org
All you have to do is Google marriage restoration or reconciliation and you be surprised at all the sites that support your stand and provide God’s truth with scriptures and live testimonies of those whose spouses have returned.
(USA) Praise the Lord Lisa, you’re right on, on this matter. The devil will come at you however he can. I do believe that God allows the devil to do his work. Read the scriptures about Job. He had everything. God told Satan, have you considered my faithful servant Job? Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto your own understanding acknowledge him in all thy ways and he will direct your paths.
The hardest thing to do when it comes to seeking God for answers you have to ask God to show you you if there is any unforgiveness in your heart and call on the name of JESUS and ask for forgiveness. Repent and confess your sins to God. God wants his children to be real with him God can restore everything that the devil has taken from you. You can find in the Bible in in Joel 2:25 there is a song we sing in the choir, “Create in me a clean heart; renew in me the right spirit.”
I am going through the same thing about my marriage and God told me some things about myself. I have had many of sleepless, lonely, crying nights. Yes, my husband has had an affair and yes I am a child of God and I trust that God would restore and heal what was wrong in my marriage. But you will have to go through some things. I have wanted to give up and throw in the towel; that’s what the devil wanted me to do.
God hates divorce and he honors marriage. I felt like God had deserted me and I said to God, “Why me Lord? He is the one committing adultery.” And God said, “You knew about him and his ways and you did not honor your husband.” I didn’t realize this until God had shown me the things that were not pleasing to the Lord that had hurt me to the depths of my soul.
The Lord had also told me to wait on Him; you can find that scripture in Isaiah 40:31, “Weeping may endure for the night, but joy comes in the morning.” God is asking you to “seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you (MATTHEW 6:33).”
I had also said to God, “Lord, why are you letting him get away with what he is doing?” Guess what God had said to me? “Wage against sin =death, vengeance is mine said the Lord. I will be the one who will pay him back.” So, what that means is that we may be thinking that they are getting away with what they had done to you, but trust God when he says he is going to do something – and he will. We may not see what is going on but God is at work and yes their sins will be forgiven as long as they confess and repent and not sin against God anymore.
So, I have really been praying for my husband even through he had caused me so much pain. I do not want to see his soul going to hell. When you are married you become 1; that means everything your spouse does it falls on you too. So what I am saying is please don’t run to God because you want him to fix something and once he blesses you you turn your back on him. Stay with God. He is so faithful and he will give you the desires of your heart. The book someone said that they had read is called, “The Power of a Praying Wife” by STORMIE Omartian. ALL OF HER BOOKS ARE GOOD AND YES SHE DOES HAVE THE BOOK FOR “THE POWER OF THE PRAYING HUSBAND AND CHILDREN.”
If you want your marriage to work give it to God and watch and see what he will do and yes while he is working on you he will be working on your husband as well. God doesn’t do a so so job. He does everything perfect to each and everyone who is praying to God for something. May the lord bless each and everyone of your marriages and hold on to God’s unchanging hands be blessed everyone.
(U.S.) Hi Kimberley, I thank God for your testimony and your inspirational words. My hubsand and I are seperated as we have been many times before. I kept asking the Lord “Why am I constantly going through this? this is not what you promised me”. He always wants to be right and never wrong. We are both Ministers of the gospel, so I thought that when we got married, we would live happily after ever. Wow! I got a rude awakening. The devil has been working over time. This man never displays his feeling at all. He still gets up every Sunday, and preaches the word like everything is peachie king. Last week, I had given up and gone to see a lawyer,and paid him in full. The Lord delt with me, and told me that I was operating out of my flesh. I too was shown some things about myself from the Lord. I went away this weekend on sabbatical to hear even more clearly from the Lord. After what he has shown me, (my husband never got love from his mom)to make a long story short, I dismissed the lawyer and I’m coming back devil to get my stuff!!!
(UNITED STATES OF AMERICA) I am trusting God For my family. To stay together…
(USA) AMEN Kris and Mrs. Rhone! I am currently separated, but since I have been standing on the Word, God has breathed new life into my marriage. Remember, God works in his own time and his own way, but he provides promises to those who believe.
Isaiah 55:8-9 For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways, says the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts.
Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is the assurance (the confirmation, [a]the title deed) of the things [we] hope for, being the proof of things [we] do not see and the conviction of their reality [faith perceiving as real fact what is not revealed to the senses].
Psalm 37:4-8 Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord [roll and repose each care of your load on Him]; trust (lean on, rely on, and be confident) also in Him and He WILL BRING IT TO PASS. And He will make your uprightness and right standing with God go forth as the light, and your justice and right as [the shining sun of] the noonday. Be still and rest in the Lord; wait for Him and patiently lean yourself upon Him; fret not yourself because of him who prospers in his way, because of the man who brings wicked devices to pass. Cease from anger and forsake wrath; fret not yourself—it tends only to evildoing.
Galatians 6:9 And let us not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen and relax our courage and faint.
God can and will do what we stand on the Word for. He will make the crooked places straight. He will resrore our souls.
Matthew 19:26 But Jesus looked at them and said, With men this is impossible, but all things are possible with God.
Mrs. Rhone said: “Books I would recommend for those going through separation and looking for reconciliation for their marriage:
by Stormie Omartian
by Stormie Omartian”
– The Power of a Praying Wife
– The Power of a Praying® Husband Deluxe Edition
I completely agree and have The Power of a Praying Wife
and it is wonderful. I also recommend Cindy Trimm’s Commanding Your Morning
. It’s filled with faith affirmations and warns us about the power of the spoken word. I recommend this for anyone who feels their life and marriage is spiraling out of control.
On a last note: 2 Corinthians 5:7 For we walk by faith [we [a]regulate our lives and conduct ourselves by our conviction or belief respecting man’s relationship to God and divine things, with trust and holy fervor; thus we walk] not by sight or appearance.
(USA) Kris, you hit the mark. I am actually walking out, in humble submission and faith, the restoration of my marriage. The key surely is letting go of everything, acknowledging that God nor His universe owe me anything. My spirit, life, body, mind, energy, personality, health, etc down to my next breath are all gifts, and God is so wonderful to even have had me in mind and allow me to exist and experience life as he prepares me for eternity with HIM.
In heaven my wife, kids, parents, etc will cease to be anymore special to me than our whole spiritual family in heaven will be and God (all three persons) will still be the main attraction. As I let go of all and cling only to Him trusting that He loves me Unconditionally, then I trust Him, ask and believe for Him to bring whatever He wants to in my life. Because I trust Him (for real, inside) I trust whatever he wants or doesn’t want me to have. I was willing to let go of my marriage if He wanted me to and I believe once He saw I was at that right position, HE began to send instruction and confirmation of wanting me to stand and wait for my marriage. The confirmation came through two people I hadn’t spoken about anything personal at all let alone my marriage situation. The central message from both people was to not try make anything happen, stay in God’s house, renew my mind to know and believe His Word, and to become more like HIM (by seeking His grace, crying out for Him to give me grace to change).
It’s not happening at once but noticeable changes are occuring between my wife and I after being seperated for 6 years. The father has such a sense of humor I wouldn’t be suprised If the full restoration manifests in the “7”th year… but I’m cool with whenever He allows as long as HE doesn’t leave or withdraw His presence, I’ll be ok.
(USA) Thanks, I needed that.
(USA) What do you do when you do believe in Gods promises, and you’ve prayed and prayed and prayed some more…but you are living with a husband who doesn’t want you and sleeps around? Then what? It’s been four years and I don’t know if I am a fool or if I should just keep trusting God to move and heal our union. I am trying so hard to not be discouraged. And I have soooo many Bible verses to lean on but I am also human and I’m hurting and I don’t know what to do. Please someone help me or lift me up in prayer…..
(USA) Never give up. Faith pleases God. Your timetable is not always God’s…seek Him and declare His word over your situation. God can do anything- NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD. Have faith…:)
(US) I’m sorry I must comment on this last post. I cannot believe that you just generalized why some people have restored marriages and some don’t. Moreover to blame the stander for not enough having faith! They have gone through enough, now to have someone come along to blame them for the un-restored marriage. The reality is this!!! God does not override someone’s will to be disobedient. You have to trust God with your life as you are submitted unto Him. God does most assuredly answer prayers, and he also states in His word that if the unbeliever leaves let him/her go.
Pray for them yes, more important give the Lord your petitions and close in saying, nevertheless not my will, but thine will be done. Each individual case is different! When someone turns away from God, at times they don’t go to far, wherein others go too far and lose everything; even their families and God will restore the standing spouse and bless their lives going forward. He will also restore the sinning spouse once they have sorrowfully repented.
Please don’t blame these hurting sisters and brothers for wavering. Pray for them that they are strong in the Lord; trusting the Lord to do what is best for them.
I am well acquainted with the pain that is unspeakable! I was there 21 yrs married, 4 yrs separated. Lost my very very best friend, boyfriend husband, priest of my home. Great marriage -midlife crises. Total stranger!!! Waited and prayed was/am good to my husband and his words to me were simply this; I am not willing!!! Can God change his heart? of course he can; if he will humble himself. I love my husband always, but He is not God and my life does not stop because he decided to return to his vomit. I will always love him and pray for him and be good to him. I had to go through the grieving process to get here, let me tell you. But God in his faithfulness to heal, peace, comfort, deliver!!! OMGOODNESS I couldn’t have said this to anyone a year ago, trust me. I know where some of you are. Hold on to your faith and trust God and I promise you he will never disappoint. His answer may not be what you wanted, but I guarantee it is what you need.
I know that I am speaking a little strong, but please don’t kick a soldier when their already down. Pray for them. Don’t blame them for the choices of their spouses. I love God more now then I ever have and our young men are serving God; just like they did before dad left.
Be encouraged that the pain does not last always, it dulls a bit. The journey is indeed grueling at times. But God is near to the downtrodden and the brokenhearted to encourage, strengthen, and comfort. He is an ‘everpresent’ help in times of trouble! Remain hopeful in the Lord, not your spouse. Some of your spouses may return, maybe some won’t. Stay focused on God’s goodness and always trust and rest in HIS faithfulness. I’m thankful!!! Glory to God
(S.AFRICA) Thank you Trish. Amen to that
(UNITED KINGDOM) Hi Trish, I am 68, recently retired from the US and left a job I really loved. My wife, for whom I moved to the UK. wants me to hurry up and detach from my American roots (I still love America, my Americian friends, and hobbies) and fall in love with England. This would be a reasonable request except that I am very lonely in the marriage and have not been intimate for over two years.
My wife sees my difficulty in letting go of America as a lack of commitment to her. I am all for doing all the things in the
(I loved the movie Fireproof
) but there is a Biblical mandate for the man to be the spiritual leader in his home. Even to move toward to equality in my marriage would be a huge step in the right direction. I do not want to ride roughshod over my wifes desires. However I desire to overcome my earlier passivity in leadership by offering compromises and seeking win-win solutions. But my wife insists on doing things her way. She does not want to change the way she has been doing things. Apart from God’s help, I could be in this dead marriage for years, but I will not abandon my two 18 year old twin girls and my 8 year old grandson.
The Love Dare
A friend of mine described me as being in Plato’s Cave. The only reason I am in the UK is for my family. Those in Plato’s cave are in the cave but not intrinsically a part of it. Some day they will get to leave the cave, but only in God’s time. Whether I ever get to return permanently to America or not, I must believe that there is a better Country (in Hebrews) than either England or America. I am seeking to bond with other Christian men and encourage them in their struggles as I, pray, study the Word, and wait on the Lord to discipline us as a couple and bring us back closer to Him. What else can I do to regain my spouses trust? (Thank God affairs do not factor into our marrage). Thoughts, Opinions welcome. Steve
(USA) I am currently trying to get my life right with God. My husband filed for a divorce two weeks ago right before our 25th anniversary. I turned to another man 15 years ago and have taken responsibility and repented. My husband says that I stayed for the children and that his commitment to God was 25 years and that if he was not happy that he would divorce me. It was such a shock. I mean we have had a troubled marriage because he has never let me forget what I have done and blames me for everything that has ever been wrong in our marriage, finances and with the kids.
I suffer from depression and have learned from classes at church that I have been dealing with inadequacy for a very long time. I have had bitterness, shame and guilt get in the way of being a gentle, kind wife. So although I can’t blame my husband for wanting to leave I strongly believe that God brought me to this point of break down in order to change me. I believe that God wants us together. And I know I have to give him control. One day I feel strongly in that then the next day my husband tells me to start looking for where I am going to live and to change bank accounts. And I get crushed all over again. Help me please. I believe God wants us together but am also scared that maybe God does want someone better for my husband.
(UK) Tony, I am sad to hear that you didn’t have the support or the encouragement needed at the time of your marriage challenges. I have witnessed for myself many marriage restorations, even one after both parties had married other people, then one of the spouses became a Christian & started to desire God’s will for her life. God is an awesome God, it’s not his will that any should perish, Amen.
Tony, here are some site’s that I believe will bless and encourage you in your stand. Rejoicemarriageministries.org Spirit of hosea.com This next site is to encourage you in your prayer life… awmi.net. Blessings, Angel x
(NIGERIA) Please Thoni, I really want you to hold on to your faith and allow God to do his work for you. He will surely answer you if you don’t destroy your prayers with doubt. He is a God of the future. He created you in his image and after his likeness. Of course He has a purpose for you, and he also has a reason for allowing what had happened in your life, so don’t question Him. He is a God that works in mysterious ways; be yourself and just believe in Him.
(USA) My husband and I worked with Marriage Ministries International for many years as a way to bring marriage healing to several nations here in the South Pacific.
You are probably aware that they teach that remarriage is sin and that God has a path for restoration. Although they have some differences from your ministry, it was anointed and changed many lives. We were also involved with Covenant Keepers and participated in Family Foundations. Marriage is our life.
We taught the course with them from 1983 to 1999/2000. We grew in our own marriage and learned so much revelation about marriage in the Word. Thirteen years ago our eldest son was married but it fell apart after 5 years. Although we tried to counsel them, we were too close and found it impossible. So even after some attempts at Christian counsel, our daughter-in-law divorced our son. It was devastating for him. He, as the eldest, felt like a failure and was very embarrassed to be in the situation. He tried to stand for the marriage but didn’t seem to “get it”.
After a few years, he decided to just live his own life. We wanted him to follow God and work to restore his marriage but it never worked. Many confrontations and talks did nothing to help him see where he was headed. Our son was very “happy”, finally ended up with a girlfriend, a new job and a car which was paid off. All looked great to him. (but not in His heart)
Throughout the years we had been praying for them but last October God clearly told us to start praying fervently, daily and aggressively. So we did. It quickly resulted in God talking to our son in dreams and him telling his girlfriend that he was already married and they could have no future together. The prodigal returned late Nov., repentant. Then our son wanted to know if our daughter-in-law was still alive and flippantly asked God to tell him what to do…it took 2 days for an answer.
Through a very amazing supernatural story including dreams, visions, and open encounters with God…after 8 years of no contact… our daughter-in-law contacted our son’s sister-in-law via Facebook.
From that contact, she eventually talked to our son’s, us, and each member of the family….to ask for forgiveness. They ended up with a $900 phone bill that month, then she came to visit. They went for their first restoration “date” and decided that they needed to obey God and get back together. They have been working on many heart issues. That was February.
Tomorrow is July 4. (our son was a US Marine.) They chose the day to reaffirm their marriage covenant. We are awed. The day belongs to God!!! Throughout the last 6 months, it has been surreal… yet naturally supernatural watching God restore them. What an amazing miracle! However, they as individuals were both prodigal. She had been in an adulterous marriage and subsequent divorce. He had dated and was drinking heavily to numb the pain. Neither of them was looking for restoration. Yet God in His mercy… WOW!
We believe that we had the prayer clout because we had witnessed the marriage covenant ceremony and would not let it go. God had not let it go. He knew when to move and allowed us to be a part of His plan for them. Wow!
What an awesome God we serve! Thank you for your material..teaching God’s plan for marriage..God wants marriage to reflect Him and His Love and desire for intimacy. Awesome!!
Taken from: http://www.cpr-ministries.org/newsletter/new.htm
http://www.cadz.net/mdr.html
(USA) Please pray for me and my husband who has an affair. He refuses to stop the affair because of soul tie materials that the girl gives him. It is very difficult situation for my daughters and me. But I trust the almighty God who has a grand plan for each of us, besides, God hates divorce. I am waiting for God to rescue and restore our marriage to bring His glory back. Please how do you pray like you? Thank you.
(USA) If you find the time sometime… could you please pray for my wife and I and our little girl? We are going through a very difficult time right now… It would mean a lot to me.
(USA) Derek, I am praying for you!
(USA) My name is Juston. I’m 22 years old and my wife wants to divorce me. In the past I was so mean to her and she said I’m not a man; I can’t satisfy her needs. She still has love for me. She said it’s because I’m the father of our son. God has been changing me and I love her so much, I cry every day. I’m so sorry for how I treated her.
I will pray for you right now. Please pray for me too. I will always love her. When I was young, about 14 or 15, I prayed God would send me someone to love and to love me. My childhood was confusing. I grew up in a fast pace. One day my uncle’s friend brought his youngest girl to my grandfather’s house. She was 15; I was 16. I remember years before that when he said his daughter was coming out to see him and he hadn’t seen her in a long time, at that time my heart felt empty. I would daydream about her. I had never even seen her, yet I daydreamed about her all the time.
When she came to my grandpa’s house I was older (16). I didn’t know she was coming. But when I saw her I knew God had answered my prayers. She was my dream, so beautiful, glowing in the sun. She said she was a lesbian but I had to try. I loved her even before I met her. After a while we started going out.
She thought I was upset when she got mad at me. I could not leave it that way. I looked for her. She left after living there for a while and I was broken. But she came back soon.
After we were together again she said she was still a lesbian. She had a girlfriend. I wanted her to choose. She chose her. I tried to kill myself. After that we were so close but she wasn’t happy. We were so young and I was so pushy. She said she loved me and the next day she was gone. I thought my life was over. I got involved in drugs and I wasn’t the same. I was so mean; I didn’t care about my life.
After a long while she came back. I got off drugs and we got back together. She always came back to me but I wasn’t the same. I cheated on her and my mind couldn’t handle it. I got abusive, started drinking, and was so mean. She got pregnant with my son and we got married. We were ok for a while but after he was born I developed very bad anxiety for the way I was to her. My anger was horrible. I quit my job. I worked nights. She was lonely. After a while she said she fell in love with a girl and she still is.
When she left me everything in me changed. I didn’t want to be the old me. I moved to Colorado where she was and I’m still here. Its been three months. She said I can’t provide for our family, I can’t find a job, I don’t have a car, and have almost no money. I want to be a real man for her. I never was. She said she wants me gone. I want to be what God wants me to be for my family. I need them.
I prayed for this gift and God gave it to me and I am losing his gift because of me. I need to take care of what he gives me. I love him for this too. He is so wonderful. He made her and my son and me. He brought us together. Please pray that he keeps us together and he changes us and makes our marriage what it is supposed to be. I want us to grow together in him and be close again. She is a gift. I give God the glory.
(PHILIPPINES) I’m touched when you said that remarriage is a sin. I’m also touched with the story about your son. I was a prodigal wife. I was disappointed that my husband is not able to make me happy, physically, mentally and emotionally. We have a lot of differences. I ended up breaking up with him and left our two daughters with him. I knew I did everything to survive the marriage but I felt like a failure.
I have had a lot of relationships after that but I end up being used and destroyed. I had my last affair and we had a child. We are now separated because we are not understanding each other. Might be because he is not a Christian. I think now that I am wrong praying for us to be reconciled for our child’s sake, since I was married before, even though we are already annulled. I’m a bit confused. Please pray for me.
(USA) Books I would recommend for those going through separation and looking for reconciliation for their marriage:
by Stormie Omartian
by Stormie Omartian
By Ed Wheat, M.D.
– The Power of a Praying Wife
– The Power of a Praying® Husband Deluxe Edition
– Prodigals Do Come Home by Robert T. Steinkamp
– Standing after the prodigal returns
– After the Prodigal Returns and Standing After the Prodigal Returns
– How to Save Your Marriage Alone
There are also great websites that are extremely helpful in standing, that support it with scripture, prayers, etc.:
– marriagemissions.com
– annointednet.com
– rejoiceministries.com
– faithandmarriageministries.org
All you have to do is Google marriage restoration or reconciliation and you be surprised at all the sites that support your stand and provide God’s truth with scriptures and live testimonies of those whose spouses have returned.
(USA) If your wife is not worthy then no! God won’t save it! He has a new plan for your life! A new person in mind that’s suited for you! And sometimes God will let your life fall apart until you become born again! He wants you to seek him and have a personal relationship with Him!
If you’re not going to church then your missing out on your new wife thats sitting there waiting for you! God knows everything we do and He knows what your wife was doing and thinking; if she dosen’t believe in God then He really won’t save it! Also keep in mind that your wife will never be happy and will be under constant torment. God won’t protect her and He will let the demons torment her!
I know this is an old post and I wish I knew the outcome. Cheating wives some times try to come back and I hope you didn’t accept her back. Your supposed to surrender to God and He will set you up with a new love; someone He knows is better for you. You have to know God and how He works to really understand what He wants you to do and what His plans are. Please respond if you read this, I know its an old post.
(USA) It is disturbing the amount of un-scriptural advice found online. How can you say that God would bring you a new person when HIS WORD says in Luke 16:18 that “Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries one who is divorced from a husband commits adultery.” http://bible.cc/luke/16-18.htm There are more: Mark 10:11-12, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 1 Corinthians 7:39 says a wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. Romans 7:1-3
That would contradict Scripture. Why would God bring you another “better” person to make you commit adultery? The only way you can BIBLICALLY “REMARRY” is the death of a spouse. There are reasons MOSES (NOT GOD) gave for divorce or separation, but none free you to remarry. And it is clear in Deuteronomy 24:1-4 that the second marriage DEFILES the wife. The grace and power of God are promised and sufficient to enable a trusting, divorced Christian to be single all this earthly life if necessary (Matthew 19:10-12,26; 1 Corinthians 10:13). I think it is better to read the WORD and let the Spirit open your heart to the truth rather than what you think will make you HAPPY.
My wife left me a year and a half ago with our children. I pray for her daily, I pray for reconciliation, I pray for illumination of all the ways I have failed her and God for this to happen. He is faithful and I see clearly now so much of my contribution to the mess that I never saw before. God works all things together for GOOD of those who LOVE Him. We may not understand it… But it is TRUTH. Walk in Truth and not for happiness.
(USA) This post is several years old but I can personally say that I have seen God move in marriages of very close friends (sisters). God restored a marriage of one where the husband had filed for divorce. The wife stood firm in the Lord, never letting go of her faith in God and God begin to move. God does everything in His time. After almost two years the husband returned home and they begin to grow together in Christ.
The second, God moved and is continuing to move in there lives. This has always been a stormy relationship with separations here and there but yet God is still faithful. Because this couple have been living for the Lord for the last two years and whether the different storms they encounter through Christ.
No one is perfect but through Christ all things are possible if we only believe. So these women have been a support system for me as I go through a time of separation in my marriage. Notice I said a time of separation because I know that during this time God is make me a better servant, better wife and better mother and He is doing the same for my husband. Things will no longer be the same but better when we (my husband and I) receive the manifestation of His reconciliation in our marriage.
Remember God is always in control, if you let Him. So be encouraged that as long as Jesus is alive there is HOPE.
(U.S.) I can personally say I have seen God restore a marriage that I myself didn’t want saved. It was my sister. My brother-in-law really took advantage of my sister who was a very good mom and wife. The infidelity almost destroyed her. That wasn’t good enough, he also went to federal prison for stealing money from the government. There he served 3 years. Upon getting out my sister decided she would take him back because of the boys. She went through hell.
In the end she decided to leave but not before she met a couple who had been through something similar and their marriage had been restored with plenty of work. They told her about a 12 week class called Radical Love by Pastor Tony and Kim Moore. They shared with them that in this church that in 10 years there had not been one divorce. My sister decided to give it one more try. Today they are now happily married. It wasn’t an easy journey but with help from Pastor Tony and His wife they showed them that they were not each other’s problem, but that the problem lied in their relationship with God.
(PHILIPPINES) All things work for good to those who trust in the Lord. He may not have answered your prayers regarding your marriage, but it is not because He loves you less. It is because He has better plans in store for you. God, in His infinite wisdom has wonderful plans for you. In Jeremiah, he said: “FOR I KNOW THE PLANS I HAVE FOR YOU, PLAN TO PROSPER YOU AND NOT TO HARM YOU AND PLAN TO GIVE YOU A HOPE AND A FUTURE.
(USA) Go to the website “Lord heal my marriage and my unbelieving spouse”. You will find faithful people who had their marriages restored and faithful people who know that GOD will restore their broken marriages.
(USA) Hi Tony, I’m so sorry for the pain you experienced with your first wife. I have no doubt that this was a devastating experience for you — like a horrible amputation without anesthetic. The pain is excruciating. I lived through it in my parent’s home and it was horrible. It changes who you are and how you approach life forever. I grieve with you over the hurt you have lived through. No one should ever have to be subjected to this type of pain. I’m so sorry.
But I’m also glad that you have found someone else to enter into marriage with, and prayerfully she will be your partner for life. I pray so.
As far as never knowing anyone who saw or was part of the revival of a dead or dying marriage, I’m so sorry that this has been your experience. But I want to know that it does happen. I want to point you to the “Testimony” parts of the “Save My Marriage” section — because we know at least one of the partners in each of the testimonies that we have posted. Some of them now have ministries that God has raised up for them from the ash heap experiences they lived through. We also know several of the couples in the “Surviving Infidelity” testimony section as well as the “Extra-marital Affairs” testimonies. They are vibrant, wonderfully alive and in love couples now.
Linda W. Rooks is another person we know, that saw God raise up what appeared to be their dead marriage. They were separated 3 years. She has a book that we feature in the “Separation and Divorce” section. It is titled “Broken Heart on Hold.” God is using her in miraculous ways to minister to those who are trying to survive separation.
Clint and Penny Bragg were divorced for 11 years and God brought them together in a miraculous way! We know them personally. They now head up Inverse Ministries and they are the most precious couple you could ever meet who absolutely love each other and who have their feet on the ground to help other struggling couples.
My husband and I are another example. We were also on the brink of divorce and God intervened and brought us back together and has been helping us ever since to build a solid, healthy, loving marital relationship ever since. My husband is my best friend and I love him more than I could ever describe. That’s pretty miraculous, given that I had no feelings for him whatsoever at one point in our marriage. That’s part of the reason we have such a passion to help others who feel helpless and hopeless. We’ve participated with God in a miracle in our own marriage. God still works in the lives of those who will listen and turn their hearts and lives back in His direction.
I could go on and on about all the couples we know who had dead or dying marriages who now have GREAT ones. They aren’t perfect, but who, other than Jesus Christ is? But they keep working with the Lord and are now doing great — growing stronger every day.
We were just at a conference for marriage and family ministries last month and we met at least another dozen couples who were at one point (or several points), either on the brink of divorce or had divorced. And yet they were there happily married again, ministering together to help other couples in trouble.
So while I grieve with you that your first wife never turned back to give your marriage a second chance, I want to assure you that there are many others who are back together and are walking miracles. Praise God!
I rejoice with you because of your present marriage and pray you will both grow closer and closer to each other and to Christ every day for the rest of your lives. May God bless your lives abundantly!!!
(USA) Cindy et al. It was a crisis of faith. You see, I believed God WOULD save my marriage, and when He didn’t, when he allowed the marriage to end, the divorce to be final, the affair to continue, etc, I wondered if God was real or who He said he was.
After all, look at all the miracles in scripture. Now imagine trying to reconcile this with what was evident in my own life. Could it be, that the skeptics were right and the Bible is nothing more than myth?
If God and His church are so focused on families, how could they all sit back and do nothing while yet another family was being destroyed?
To read the stories of others is NOT the same as personally experiencing something. I took the question to mean actually seeing, not just reading the accounts of others, but actually seeing God revive a marriage.
Personally, in my life and the lives of others, no I’ve not seen it happen.
Do I think it can happen? Yes. Do I think it happens? Yes. Do I think it’s the typical outcome? No.
Now some may criticize me for an apparent defeatist attitude and/or lack of faith. I’d like to remind those critics that we are called to be honest. Honestly, it’s rare for this to occur. It’s wonderful when it does, but that doesn’t change the fact that it’s a rare occurrence.
The fact that I had so much faith, and it seemed misplaced, nearly destroyed my faith in God. Therefore, I think it’s key to be honest about how often it does happen in the population of those who are believing God will work a miracle in their marriage.
It’s my opinion that most times He doesn’t. God doesn’t force Himself on the unwilling spouse. If BOTH are willing, I think God chooses to work. But God seldom, if ever, forces His will upon the reluctant spouse.
It doesn’t mean He can’t. He simply doesn’t.
We know that most folks will reject God. We are taught that the road to Hell is wide, meaning most will choose that "easy" path, rather than the more difficult path of seeking God and His ways.
This is just as true for marriage.
I don’t say this to discourage anyone, as I believe I was blessed for my efforts to address my issues. I simply don’t want others to abandon their faith because they expected God to revive their marriage and God doesn’t act on that expectation.
One may be protected from an abusive or hurtful partner, and God is letting them go. I don’t think God wants divorce, but I don’t think He wants one to be abused or betrayed or abandoned either.
We are told that if the unbeliever wants to go, we are to let them go. If they will not turn from their sin, then we are to consider them to be like the unbeliever, we are to let them go. (Matthew 18)
We certainly cannot change them. I believe God will change a reluctant spouse if they surrender to God. But there is no guarantee they will surrender, and I think scripture calls for us to leave them to him, and leave the outcome to him.
It may be considered like a heresy to say this here, but your unfaithful spouse leaving may turn out to be the greatest blessing you’ve ever witnessed in your life. You will certainly learn who your friends are, you will learn if your church really believes what they profess, and you will either have a stronger faith on the other side, or what you thought was faith will be totally destroyed.
I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Yet I would not be the man I am today, the father I am today, nor the husband I am today had I not gone through that trial.
So just because God doesn’t force an unwilling or unfaithful spouse to come home, that doesn’t mean your life will not be filled with blessings.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Fortunately I can say that I have personally experienced God reviving a dead marriage. Mine! I have been married 17 years now and I am only 38 years old.
My wife B and I met when I had just turned 20 and she was nearly 19 years old. We were physically attracted to each other but had really nothing much else in common, we were from extremely different backgrounds, we never enjoyed any of the same things and were both really bad communicators. The relationship was really poor and we were both unhappy and probably about to end the relationship. But 8 months after we had met B fell pregnant… one month before our daughter was born we reluctantly got married.
At that stage God was being kept at a distance and we were battling this out on our own. We did this for 9 years. It was 9 years of hell! I was filled with resentment and hatred towards my wife, I became super cynical and used my mouth to destroy, I hated marriage and I was in and out of many relationships with other woman until I eventually met someone that I really enjoyed being around and felt that I had met my ‘soul mate’.
During this period I began pushing B for a divorce, she joined some friends at a local church and began her relationship with God. After some months at this church they had a guest speaker that gave my wife a prophetic word (we still have the recording on tape). God promised that he would turn our marriage around. It sounded absurd because I was not even at home most of the time and we hadn’t really even connected for months, but B held onto Gods promise that he would restore our marriage!
From the outside I could see that B was changing and that something was different about her. She became a softer person and tried to just love me even though it was one way. I remember thinking that I hated her being nice to me because it made it more difficult for me to justify hating her! Crazy. She just continued drawing her strength from God and believed that He could do what He promised – even after she found out about my then current affair.
One day I was at home alone in our bedroom reading a Christian book that B had left lying around. While I was reading – something in me broke (B’s prophetic word said that I would have a Damascus Road experience). For the first time I saw what I was doing to my wife, my daughter, friends and family. God opened my eyes and I began to cry uncontrollably like a baby (not me!).
B walked into the bedroom to see what was going on, I was trying to cry into the pillow so no one would hear but I guess it was still too loud. When I calmed down a bit we chatted and I agreed to go church with her. This was one year after she originally started going. The transformation in our lives from then on has been unbelievable.
To cut long story short… that event took place 8 years ago and since then God has been instrumental in re-building our characters and our relationship. We are radically different people now and have a deep love for each other and a passion for God and His Church.
We work hard in making time to talk and to understand where we are and what we are really saying to each other. We still have our ups and our downs but in those down times we know that it will pass and that our commitment to each other remains for life.
We are also the proud parents of 2 more children that were born 11 years after our daughter was born. We are truly blessed and so grateful that God gave us his blueprint for marriage and the ongoing faith and courage to follow it through.
(UK) This is giving me power to pray for restoration of my marriage. My husband left me 7 months ago but I still feel like I can’t let it go. He assured me that he will never come back home (he has been here only 3 times to see the kids). God has promised me that he will bring him back using his Holy Spirit. Your testimony gives me strength. May God keep on blessing your marriage.
(USA) But, both parties were willing to change and work on it. The hopelessness for the rest of us is when the other person is not willing to change. Then, we feel God’s promises and answered prayers are for others, not us. The question…if we don’t want to divorce, how can we live with some measure of joy? I have no joy and no hope of future joy…at least on earth. My life is a waste.
(USA) If you trust and have faith God will restore… The Bible says “what God has put together let NO MAN put asunder.” When you pray and allow God to take control of the situation, the other party DOES NOT have to be willing. That’s God’s job. He did it for Hosea, Gomer was not willing, but as Hosea prayed the Hedge of Thorn around her, her lovers lost interest and left.
I too am praying for my prodigal. In the last 4 months, I can testify that God has truly been working in my life. I was going to church before. Now, I am under a ministry where I am covered. I have surrendered to God my life, prodigal husband and daughter, job, everything I own totally. Dec or January, I began to fast 3 days a week with my friend and pray daily with my friend –no longer was I asking God to bring my prodigal home, but to save his soul and let God will be done. I began to send scriptures to my prodigal (daugher and husband) and friend. I asked God to cleanse me from any sins still lurking about me, for forgiveness and for a receiving heart so when He does return my prodigal spouse, I will not remind him of his unfaithfulness (adultery affair), harsh words, but to accept him as the husband God provided to me 16 years ago.
As I grow closer to God, I am now studying for the ministry. I have given my spouse words God has given me in my dreams, which have come to pass. I pray, study, worship God ALL day and stay in His presence constantly. My prodigal and I began to communicate more and more in January. I saw God working in his life, but I recognize the attack of satan; therefore, I began to pray against the attacks on his life and fasting more. My church went on a corporate fast the 1 Feb 12-29 Feb 12. I still didn’t see in the natural where my marriage will be restored, but God spoke to me and said STAND. It is hard to stand when you know your spoke is living with another person. But, God said STAND.
When you truly have a personal relationship He will speak to you when others are telling you to move on. I told God I wanted my prodigals soul saved, him brought to conviction for his sins, the other woman’s soul to be saved, but also, he would place a man in her life to give her what she needs and not my husband.
Feb 16, 2012; I received a text from my prodigal stating he wanted to be saved and he has been praying and having other people to pray for him. I immediately thought he was suicidal (satan planted the thought). I recognized that after a few minutes and began to pray vigorously. I went to my Apostle (which I have never involved in my personal) we prayed again.
Sunday, Feb 19, 2012, my prodigal called me at 8 pm we talked until 10:30 pm. He begin to tell me things about him and the things he did while we were together. But, I thank the Holy Spirit becasue it was NO surprise becasue God had already showed and told me, even in my mess. He also said everyday he would try to talk to me I would fall asleep; he took that as I did not want to save our marriage. But, God understood that everytime we talked he would accuse me of things he was doing, causing us to argue. He put me to sleep and did not allowed me speak.
As we spoke, he understood surprisingly –he told me how the other woman overheard us arguing. But I also know he had been telling her of our arguments so she set it up to take him (which he was a willing participant). This was a hurtful conversation, but a needed conversation. God had already told me we would have this conversation, but didn’t tell me when. Not until he confessed he needed God to save him, NOW.
We continue to communicate everyday -we forgave one another for the hurtful things we did to each other. Our daughter invited him to church to see her dance. I asked him to come help with the security since this is his profession. Days leading to him coming, he came with many excuses… the other woman wanted to go to church –which they hardly do anymore. Then they had to pack to move again. I continue to pray and put it in God’s hand.
He did come to church. Not only did he go to church with us, the Spirit of God came upon of him and our daughter. The other woman text and called him the entire time, but God was working that out. The speaker spoke over his life and everything I had told him in previous weeks, was the same thing the visiting Apostle said to him. The Apostle was not aware we were married, but spoke over our life. We sow an offering as a family. Although it looked impossible, God said STAND. When my faith begins to dwindle, I start to pray. I am waiting for God’s season and NOT mine. I had to let go.
Not only was I praying for my spouse, I no longer am I looking at him as my prodigal, but as my spouse/husband/man of God, but other marriages that needed healing. Other families, people I didn’t know. I put me on the back burner. I became an intercessor for others. What we see in the natural, God is working it out in the spiritual. He said, if God brings him home he will not fight it. I smile and said YOU CAN’T …he received the ANOITNING and on yesterday, he said, he wanted God to remove the spirit of lust, pride, love of money and save him.
I am his covenant wife and I am praying more and more for him. I am also praying that God continue to save the other woman and removes the spirit of witchcraft from her. If you don’t see it happening now, stop looking in the natural and ask God to show you in the spiritual.
My marriage will be healed and restored March 2012. God has already told me and I believe. I am praying with you and for spouses healing, restoration, reconciliation, forgiveness, salvation and repentance. As long as God is in control the other party do not have to be willing, God can move in the impossible… I am seeing it manifest before my eyes. I have a daily testimony. We would have beed separated 2 years march 16, 2012; but God is working it out and he will be home soon. What was to be for our bad, God got the glory and souls saved. We are no longer serving religion, but we are in Kingdom Building business. I give Him all the glory, honor and praise.
(USA) Kimberly, it touched me when I read about your victory. My husband and I have been separated for almost 2 yrs. What makes my story different is that I work in the same facility with my husband. I work in a vented that care for drug abusers and alcoholics. I take care of them.
My husband is in an affair with a coworker, which no longer works there. Thank God but for me, it has been a constant hurt and mistrust of most of the employees at the vented. Seeing my husband ignoring me as a friend and especially as his wife is SO painful. I have turned to God since it happened but I have not seen any changes. My husband does not talk to me at all. He comes every Saturday to see our 2 young girls while I leave the house to go to work. He comes and I leave & vice versa.
I am fasting at this time and praying that God guides me, forgives me, opens the eyes of my husband towards God and his family. I have to keep my eyes on Jesus. Every time I go to work, it is a constant spiritual battle when I see my husband in the hallway as also there are so many broken marriages among my coworkers and everyone is encouraging each other to destroy marriages. That is why, I feel so alone as no one understands why I still love my husband while I am in the mist of this storm. The children and I miss him very much. I am always happy when I see God’s victory in marriages just like yours, Kimberly. Please pray for us that God comes in & restores our communication, our hearts and our marriage. Thank you and God bless!
(CANADA) Hi Kimberly, My name is Angela. I too am experiencing the same thing as you. My husband left me after 18 years of marriage. He moved directly into his girlfriend’s house. He moved out two months ago and I am completely heartbroken. I, like you, am continuously praying and seeing no results. Can you please say some special prayers for me and my spouse(R)? I would appreciate all the help I can get. Thank you and God bless you and your spouse.
(NIGERIA) I thank you so much for your write up. It has helped a great deal in building my faith. I am believing in God for the Resurrection of my dad. May the Lord bless you tremendously. I hope you will join us in prayer. Thank you.
(BARBADOS) Hi Kimberley,There are so many similarities between your story and mine. My husband left In February 2012, just about the time when you were fasting and praying for yours. He also is in the same line of work as your husband.
We used to go to church together but he stopped. It also appears that witchcraft is involved on the part of the other woman that he is involved with.
I have been praying the same type of prayers that you have been praying. God has instructed me to stand and the word has been spoken over him that he is going to be a warrior to be used by God. The word has been spoken that we will be restored.
It is almost one year now and he has been coming and going to and fro from our house. I still continue to pray first and foremost for his confession, repentance and salvation. I know it will happen and wiat for it with joyful expectation. God bless.
(USA) I hope that my husband can experience your journey to see how much he hurts his family. He did the same thing as you did to your wife and daughter. I pray to God that He will open his eyes and see the truth. It is not easy to be in the position as your wife. You are a lucky man. Treat her well. She deserves all the best. I hope my husband can read your story and really understand the value of having a family and a faithful wife. Take care.
(USA) You will never know the encouragement that these kinds of stories give me… at a time when I need it the most.. Please pray for my wife, my little girl, and me… We could use that help most of all!
(USA) I will pray for you Derek.
(USA) Nicholas, Your sharing has really inspired me in my prayers for my marraige. I have been married for 8 years and we have two wonderful children. Two months ago I left our marital home as I felt we needed some space because we were extremely unhappy and argued almost everyday.
Three weeks after I left my husband moved another woman into my house and now (2 months later) I understand that she may be pregnant. I am praying for my marraige and my family. The thing is my husband is an atheist. I pray that GOD will reveal his power to Him and change him. But will GOD force himself on someone who does not want to accept him? I believe He can do anything am I wrong to think that?
(U.S.) Kathy, God will not force himself on anyone. However; he has been known to show Himself in ways that are unexpected and this has effected some conversions. The real question is whether your husband will be in a frame of mind to be receptive to God’s calling. God desires all, but not all desire Him. St. Monica prayed over 20 years for her son to become a Christian. That son, one day, became St. Augustine. Yes, Kathy, it can happen… but it cannot be forced.
(USA) I believe if God chooses to step in he will. He HAS a way to intercede without violating free will (Prov 12:1). He CAN change a man’s heart, God is almighty, nothing is too hard or impossible for him. I persistently pray for my relationship to be restored and I know for sure it is possible, (God). I also believe God truly does give one the true desires of their heart, especially when God is the one who brought them together 12 yrs ago. Don’t give up on God, he can suddenly turn things around, it is by Faith, no wavering. Do this and wait patiently and at his set time it will come to pass. Satan wants you to give up on God, I for one won’t do that. God Bless you, I pray for your marriages/relationships be restored in complete happiness!
(USA) This is not true, and not biblical. God is GOD! He can do whatever He wants, whenever He wants. There are plenty of biblical examples of Him forcing His will on a variety of subjects. Saul of Tarsus, Baalam, Nebuchanezzer, etc. I am not sure where the idea that God will not go against man’s will came from, but it is not biblical.
(PHILIPPINES) This is really what I wanted to hear. I have no friends to talk to about this. He is my current partner and we are in a sort of living separated house because of a big fight. I can’t take another failed relationship. He asked for a child and I gave him a child. But along the way we found out that we are not on the same page in so many ways. Now that we are separated but we still see each other and still sleep together at times, I’m still thinking that there is still hope.
I ate my pride, and instead of making him know that I can live without him, I prayed and prayed that God will change me and him. I wanted this relationship to work since we have a new baby. We both came from a failed marriage. I want this time to work but it’s so hard knowing that we are not understanding each other and we are unhappy now together. I don’t know what else to do but to lift it up to God to change me and make the person he wanted to be with. Change me and give me the strength to be cool and just support him in all his endeavor.
I hope that he will come back to me and love me even more. I asked that I will understand his ways and his mind, that I will be able to repond appropriately. I wanted this to work, but I don’t know if this is God’s will. I was married to another man and we got annulled already. WE have 2 daughters who are teenagers already. Me and my current partner are not married. We just lived together for more than a year. We got separated a month or two after I gave birth because we have been fighting during the time that we are together. I felt he is unfair to me and my kids, he is expecting too much of me for his kids, he felt I am not understanding him that he’s not earning at this time.
I’m trying to be happy despite our despair. I’m trying to create a happy environment but he sees expense on it. He’s so down, I was trying to lift him up and everyone but he doesn’t see it that way. I was also strict about his relationships with other women and we fight about it because he is a politician and he said that I can’t do it to him. What I’m doing now is letting him do what he wants and I’ll be happy with the little time that he had for us… though I know he is finding himself, I’m trying to change my attitude towards him and I’m praying for grace to be happy all the time and not act like childish to him. It lifts me up to hear your story. I hope that I will make him back to me too.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Nicholas thank you for your encouraging testimony. What a mighty God we serve. I admire your wife and her faith, she is truly a woman of God. We serve a living God who is able to do exceedingly and abundantly more than we can ever ask for or think… PRAISE GOD!!!!!!
(USA) I have been married for 25 years and my wife has been seeing a trauma specialist for 3 years. We have not been intimate for 3 years. I have been deceived and been tormented by a soul tie of the past believing that I have married the wrong woman. I need help believing that God can recreate love for her and revive the marriage. The latter must be greater than the former. Help, I need oxygen……….
(UGANDA) Thanks Nicholas for your encouraging testimony. My marriage has been dead for I don’t know how long. My husband says for all the six years we have been together it has been dead, and I have felt it for the past two years. The worst has been in the past 17 months. Previously I was searching for a child and when God miraculously gave me two children 2 and 11 months, I resorted to them and neglected my husband and God. I have been praying, but not as much as I could.
For the past months I have been suspecting that he had an affair but was not sure. But recently he went away with his lover on a Valentine’s weekend and I got to know about it. I am hurting too much and yet he has for the first time apologized to me for the wrong, although it comes with “buts.”
I was getting a bit discouraged whether God would answer my prayers and would restore my marriage, especially when I think of my husband’s affair and feel a poison run through my body. But with your testimony I am very positive that God is going to revive my marriage, and I too will very soon have a testimony like yours to tell.
(UNITED STATES) Does God Restore Marriages? YES, I hear about one almost every week. The other day my daughter told me of a woman who works with her who said she was divorced from her husband for 2 1/2 years, then they were remarried.
Two weeks ago, while I was at a school activity, a couple came up front and said that last night they were just remarried and their 16 year old son was there and he was just beaming with joy!
In the ‘Readers Digest’, I read about a remarriage, 17 years after a divorce. Then on the ‘Today Show’ I heard about a remarriage after 7 years of divorce.
Wherever I go or whenever I listen to the radio or read a magazine, God always allows me to hear or see or read about another marriage being put back together after a divorce. I have heard of it happening after 10 years of divorce, 2 1/2 years, 8 years, etc. etc. etc. So yes, God restores marriages everyday!
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(SINGAPORE) I am lost and I need some direction. I am a divorced because my ex-wife left me for another man and she had to ask for an abridgment of time to end the marriage because she was then pregnant. During the process of my divorce, I got to know a girl (my ex-girlfriend) who was also going through a similar experience as me. She was a mistress of a rich man and she bore him a son. It was a seven year relationship and that guy promised her that he would divorce his wife after 7 years but he did not.
My ex was devastated and decided to leave that man and we we’re together based on a contract. I needed a family and she needed a father for her son, so we cohabited for a year. But her heart was with her son’s father though her body was with me. Our lifestyle does not fit and we had constant quarrels. In the process I fell in love with her and got possessive when I could not feel her love.
We broke up for half a year. I cried out to God day and night and in my desperation to save the relationship, I went to seek the help of a Chinese Taoist Medium and he told me that Buddha said that we will be good friends but there is no chance that she would be back. I went back home and I cried out to Jesus in my tears that if He would bring my girlfriend back I will not only go back to church but also go back to serve Him.
Only after a few days, I dreamt that I was a guest in her house and I saw her son playing with his toys and she was on the phone. I saw myself walking around in the living room. Then I heard her saying “come son, daddy is on the phone…” Then I woke up from my dream feeling sad. It seems she must have found a boyfriend and I will give her my blessings. She called me on my phone and she told me all her painful encounters. We went out on that day and I told her all my bottled feelings for her and she gave me another chance and we patched up.
I told her what I told Jesus and how He revived our relationship. Not long after she became a Christian and we have never felt so in tune and connected with each other. But in my heart I felt I am indebted to God and I am still cohabiting with her. I told her about the Bible teaching and asked her for marriage. But due to some circumstances she can’t marry me in Singapore. At the end we decided to marry abroad.
We prayed together and saw a verse in Matthew that admonishes our sins for adultery and premarital sex and we also saw the same vision of the same beautiful conical roof castle. Later due to her insecurities and problems of soul ties, we broke up again. She left me for 3 months. The church called to reconcile. We got back together 3 months back and now we broke up again because of a misunderstanding.
My heart is totally broken. I have never loved a woman so much in my life, not even my ex wife. I really wonder what is God’s will? Is she the one for me? If not, why would God bring her back and why would we keep breaking up? She is the woman I long to marry in my life. Am I to abide with whatever God’s plan is for me? I need direction and I am going in circles. I am very tired.
I told my pastor that I am groping in the dark as there are no answers in my prayer. I really need direction and I don’t want to go in circles. Recently I flipped to my Bible again and in a verse it says “to have a virtuous wife you have the blessing from God…” I am living in loneliness and I know God is using my loneliness to build my character. I really hope God will grant me a virtuous wife. I hope God will revive my relationship with my ex. Her name is Ya Ya. Please remember us in your prayer.
(USA) Roy, Your relationship with this girl is wrong because you are already joined to another in the sight of God… your “ex” wife. If you were her 1st husband, she is your covenant wife. You say you read Matthew 19 … Please read Mark 10:10-12; Luke 16:16-18; Rom. 7:2-3; I Corinthians 7:39, etc. In those passages you will see that your wife finding another man did not dissolve your union to her. She is now an adulteress. THAT is the woman you should be praying for as her rightful husband. Please meditate deeply on the role of a husband in Ephesians 5. Blessings as you seek His Face and do His Will.
(USA) I have been divorced from my covenant wife now for 32 years and yes remarried and divorced twice since. God has spoken to me that it is my wife of my youth that I married He wants to restore… but He will do it in His time and not mine. So until it happens I live for Christ and find joy in life around me and tend to the ministry that God has called me to. I have no idea how He will do it… I don’t need to know, I just know that God is more than able… and yes we all have free will but it amazes me how our free will never gets in the way of God’s plans for us… Amen to that… Dave
(USA) Malachi 2 :16 For the Lord God of Israel says that he hates divorce… Again the devil is the thief that has stolen your marriages. I could give you scriptures after scriptures about marriage and how God views a covenant marriage. However, I will not debate on God word. Read, study the Holy word of God (The Bible) and the Holy spirit will talk to you.
Also an individual must make sure that they are not in covenant with another person, husband or wife. You have to make sure that this is your covenant partner that is ordained by God and his word. It is okay to get encouragement from this type of email or internet. But make sure that you are believing God for your covenant marriage in faith in his word. I will tell you that if you get into the word and believe God for you marriage and be patient, wait for God timing, God will restore your marriage. It brings him glory while you are being blessed with a restored marriage.
So many people have entered into a non-covenant marriage (adultery) and one of those spouses stood on the word of God for their marriage. God honors his word, their faith, and restores the marriage. That’s why other marriages do not last, (while their spouses are still living), even after a divorce and after their spouses enter in a non-covenant marriage.
If you believe God and Jesus, then read and study the word. Do not be afraid of the truth. When you know the truth, the truth will make you free. Listen to God and not the lies of the devil. Remember God loves everyone. What God hates is sin, so hate what he hates — sin, not people. http://www.rejoiceministries.org is for husbands and wives (men and women). May God bless you with truth.
(USA) To who it may concern. Ye of little faith. It there anything too hard for God? Nothing is impossible with God. I just want to encourage anyone who feels that God cannot restore a marriage. The devil wants you to believe a lie. Do not be in agreement with him. The devil is the one who stole your marriage. Get in agreement with God and his word. First, forgive spouses who may have left. Then I hope you allow the Holy Spirit to heal you. In addition, there is a ministry called Rejoice Marriage Ministry that believes and knows God can and will restore a dead marriage according to the word of God and God’s timing. Whoever you are, please do not give up on God and his word. Get spiritual support and stay connected to a ministry that believes the word of God. God does not go against his word, therefore, God does heal hurting marriages even after a divorce and more. In Jesus name.
(USA) Rejoice Marriage Ministry, if I recall correctly no longer works with men. (I may be thinking of another, so I reserve the right to be wrong.) I do recall working with them, but nothing fruitful came out of it when my ex-wife left years ago.
So while it’s true they are out there. I can honestly say I didn’t find them to be of much help. Maybe others will, but my experience was not positive.
(USA) Well I guess I’m here to ask for prayers from you guys. I’m not married but engaged to be. Our relationship though is almost breaking down. He loves me and I love him but I guess we are not good communicators. He tears me up with his words sometimes and disrespects me by not respecting my culture. He doesn’t like my parents coz my parents are controlling though. And when I’m hurt then yes, sometimes I do say things that hurts him. I just don’t agree with him most of the time… even though what he thinks is not bad. Example… he would rather save up money for buying a car for us instead of flying to see me and tell my parents formally about the wedding. (Yes we have long distance relationship.) And he usually thinks that his decisions are right and best for our future even though it hurts me. Anyway, it’s so long of a story. But I don’t only love him… I believe he was God’s answer when I prayed for a spouse. Coz he does demonstrate the traits I prayed for… but just didnt know all this other stuff that comes with it lol. Anyway, I’m tired trying to make this work out. Please pray for us.
(IRELAND) My wife and I have been together 9 years, married for five. We have a 3 years old daughter who we both love dearly. We have had our ups and down but this year has been the worst. We separated for a brief period but through the grace of God worked things out.
For the last one month, we have had arguements almost everyday about nothing and everything. 10 days ago, she said she doesn’t love me anymore, doesn’t want to see me anymore. I tried to reason with her but when I saw am getting nowhere, packed my things and left. I have not seen her or my daughter since then and my calls go unanswered. In three days we are going to court to work out custody of our daughter and what have you.
To cut a long story short, she wants us to divorce but I want us to work on our marriage. I believe God will intercede and I hope to come back on this forum and say that God did help save my marriage. All I am asking from all of you is your prayers. Be blessed
(S.AFRICA) Thank you Kris you words are so true.