Please answer the following question. It could greatly encourage others if you have experience in this area of marriage. This question concerns God reviving a dead or dying marriage:
HAVE YOU SEEN GOD REVIVE A DEAD OR DYING MARRIAGE? EXPLAIN.
Please answer this question by leaving a comment below
(To see previous questions, visit our ARCHIVE)
Filed under: Question of the Month
(NIGERIA) So many people are going through a lot in their marriage. The challenges are enormous and can be distracting. They sometimes overwhelm to the point that you are no longer in tune with God. We need to keep on believing God for his promises, he will restores according to his timing not ours. Stay blessed.
(USA) Tony, I understand fully where you are coming from. I know God can restore my marriage, but will He? How much control do we have? I’ve fasted, cried, prayed, knocked, sought, for over 2 years. I’ve lived in fear of falling off the tight rope of faith.
I’ve seen miracles during this time, so I know God sees me and hears me. He just has not brought my ex back. Is the ball in my court or in His? I am confused at times.
I used to think that if I knocked hard and long enough that LUKE 18:1 would happen. I had no peace. My ex was always on my mind.
You got to give the results over to God or you will drive yourself and everyone around you crazy. Also, be careful what you pray for because you might just get it. It is always better to pray “Thy will be done”.
(USA) Have you seen God revive a dead or dying marriage? Yes–Read the testimony below:
http://www.cadz.net/tony.html
(USA) There seems to be a bit of confusion here between two states, one is Biblical and one is not. To be more specific, when we refer to “giving or marriage to God”, does not mean that God possess your body and overrides your free-will. There is NO Biblical precedence for this. As Christians, we frequently hurl Christian-eez without the process of thinking things through in conjunction to actual Biblical teachings. When one prays for their marriage, God will not take over the husband and wife and force them into a different pattern of behavior, against their will. God, through His word, has provided a blueprint for us to follow in conjunction to how we love one-another.
If I were to ask most Christians if they have studied the Song of Solomon and applied it to their lives; they will respond “no”. In fact, most have never read it. The churches are so infiltrated with psychology, myths, Victorianism, etc. it is no wonder that Christians have no idea what a truly Christian marriage is. The Biblical part, or second state, is this; we must apply God’s word. We must study the ENTIRE word of God in terms of understanding God’s blueprint for marital love – not just Ephesians chapter 5. We MUST emulate his teachings by choosing His ways, not ours. This applies to BOTH the WIFE and the HUSBAND. We must dump the ignorance of psychologists and embrace and implement God’s word. Remember this truth, God will not override your will; you must submit your will to God’s will.
(USA) We found a great article posted at Crosswalk.com, which gives testimony to the fact that yes, God CAN and DOES revive dead marriages. It is titled, God Can Resurrect Your Marriage From the ashes, which you can find at: http://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/god-can-resurrect-your-marriage-from-the-ashes-1338980.html We encourage you to read it.
(AFRICA) Wow! I have just read “God Can Resurrect Your Marriage from Ashes”. It made me shed a tear. I was almost giving up.
Just like Tony, I have been praying but couldn’t see any positive results. It’s like the more I try to be godly, the more my husband shuns me. He can’t take my calls, he can’t talk to me, he seems to hate me so much. I reached a point where I could not take it anymore.
I guess I have to keep on praying for the restoration of my marriage. It has been 4 months since we separated and my husband has nothing to do with me. He pointed it out that he does not want to have anything to do with me right in the court room. The divorce is not yet final, the court gave us up to May 1 to try to sort out issues between us. If all fails, divorce will be granted.
I dont want a divorce. I need restoration of my marriage. If God can restore Don and Jona’s marriage, I believe he can restore any marriage, no matter what the situation is. I believe the D date was changed from 1 April to 1 May for a purpose. Let God’s will prevail, he is the right Judge.
(S.AFRICA) I am not sure if you have read all my previous posts and witnessed my hurt and pleas to God. I had not seen my husband for 18 months as he had moved overseas and was having an affair with an ex-school girl/neighbor he knew 40 years ago. They met again on “face book” and the affair took off from there. We have been married for 36 years and divorce proceedings up until a few days ago were in progress.
I do believe God is working and is in control. My husband phoned me this week. He is back in S. Africa and wants to come home. I was so stunned I could hardly talk. I agreed to meet him for lunch and was overcome and in tears just to see him again. You may all be saying “praise the Lord for answered prayers” but I am shocked at myself for the doubt in my mind. So much has happened and I have conditioned myself to the fact that he was gone for good. He clearly is still in love with her but she has ended it. I feel as if I am “second best” in his life and that although I have forgiven him that I just cannot remove this wall of protection I have built around my heart. I just would not be able to endure any more hurt. I am scared.
He clearly “cares” for me but seems unable to commit and be open and honest with me. I do not want to chase him away by negativity. Will he learn to love ME again? I have agreed for him to start dating me again and until such time as we both feel confident in our relationship he is to stay in a place of his own. Once again our future is in God’s hands and I trust him to lead and guide me in everything I do and say. Please pray for us and this marriage. I would love to hear from you, Cindy.
(USA) Dear Rose, I am praying wisdom for you Rose. From what I have read, you appear to be approaching this matter in a very gracious and wise way. Your husband is not to be using your home or your heart as a revolving door for his whims. If he will not participate with you in exclusively loving and caring for you, then you must protect your heart from him. If he repents, that is one thing, but if he is looking to come back home as a “back up plan” because he was rejected by this other woman, then you will just be enabling him to hurt you further, which he will no doubt do.
Sometimes by denying someone, their eyes are opened to what they are missing out on — a golden relationship. Keep praying and releasing yourself from bitterness. Look to God to be the husband that your husband is now refusing to be. It may be that God will open his eyes and he will see clearly that he has made a horrible mistake. I pray so. I pray for you. Keep your eyes on the Lord and He will “keep your path straight.”
(BAHAMAS) I have been married for a long time and have only been happy in that marriage for 2 years. My husband was never into holding hands and all that romantic stuff and now after being out of my life and our children’s life for 2 years he just came to get our children for the summer after 2 years. In that time he had not sent any money. He came over here with a few dollars in his pockets and expected me to be the loving wife.
He has his hair braided and is still drinking and smoking and there is no change. And now he wants me to just hold his hands, which I am not into anymore because he changed me. He says that he did not support the children cause I did not do what he wanted. That is no excuse, the children still have to be taken cared of. He calls me names and tells me I have have demons. I have allowed him to stay at the house, which he did not provide for. (I got the home after being homeless for months.) I told him that things take time and he told me that even if he stayed away for 10 years I should still do my wifely duties, which I think is not right.
I have not been with anyone else. I have always been faithful, which he cannot say. What should I now do? I really only want him to grow up and be a father to his children, take care of all their needs, and be a good example for them to look up to. But as far as we are concerned I do not want to be bothered. I am just satisfied to be single and sold out to God. I think over 20 years is long enough!!!
(USA) I pray that God restores the relationship of me and my exboyfriend. It’s been 3 months since we broke up and I’ve been praying ever since.
Lord, I pray for the restoration of me and my ex. Let him be an ex no more. To have God open my ex’s eyes and realize that a relationship with me can and will be the happiest thing in both of our lives. I want us to be together forever more; me and him talked about marriage and our future once he gets out of the Marine Corps and I want those dreams to come true. I have no one else to turn to but God and I cannot do this by myself. Even though this was my first relationship, I want this to be my first and last.
People say your first love will NEVER be your last, but I know there are many people who have the first loves be their only loves. This is a realization that makes my faith go upward. I pray for the restoration and the forever-bond that me and my ex will have in the future.
I have received more signs of this prayer being answered (of me getting back together with him as a couple again) this week (even one from a dream from my own father!) so I shall continue my prayers, as my faith as gotten even stronger than ever, knowing that this prayer will be answered.
(USA) My mother and fathers marriage was very rocky over the years, mostly because of my fathers sex addiction and porn addiction. My mom caught him with some inappropriate text messages from another woman, and then everything came out of the closet.
I can say that my mom and dads marriage after a year of counseling has never been better. My dad is a completely new man, and my mom will tell you that God spoke to her directly to stay with my father and keep loving him. God does restore.
(USA) Please pray for my wife and I. We need God so bad to intervene in our marriage. Thank you!
(USA) I have been standing on God’s word for 9 months, believeing God will restore my marriage with Leslie. My wife decided to leave the children and me for a man she met at a bar. She demanded a divorce which was final 3 months ago, on the month of our anniversary.
Since she has left she had a car reposed, our home foreclosed, and other tests of my faith. I have told her I forgive her and love her unconditionally. I refuse to believe that God can’t restore my marriage and family. God is faithful and I tell my kids that He has never failed anyone. I know that when I have come through this trial God will get all the glory, because my hand will not have been able to make the restoration between Leslie and me. It can only happen because of God.
I have since heard that she is now going to to marry the guy she destroyed our marriage over. Please pray that my faith does not fail for I know that this will be the greatest testimony to God’s mercy and grace when he restores Leslie back to me and the children. I stand in agreement with all that are believing for restoration in your marriage. We serve a Mighty His who is able!!!
(AFRICA) YES. God restores troubled, breaking and broken marriages!!! There are several reasons for problems in marriages: the devil, wrong (ungodly)foundations, sin, wrong evironment, among other factors.
Please remember that the devil is in the business of destoying marriages so as to ashame God (God’s word). And he can use any of the above to accomplish it. The only thing the devil understands is warfare and is the only way we can protect our marriages.
Prayer is able to keep and restore marriages. God honors and protects marriages. BUT how much prayer is required to save a marriage? Very serious prayers. Any open doors allowing marriage attacks must be closed in prayer.
Recommended prayers: Targeted prayers + Fasting + prayed from midnight hour.
There is a lot to share – practical experience and testmonies … Prayer sample:
32 Prayers to Turn Troubled Marriage Relationships to Terrific Relationships
Tasteful Tips
• To restore love, joy and happiness in the home
• To spiritually insure your marriage against divorce and separation
• To build a spiritual fortress around your marriage forever
Is your marriage all that it could be? Do you know anyone who is going through the painful process of separation or divorce? You see, the major problem facing most couples today is the threat of separation and divorce. This is real – it doesn’t matter whether you’ve been married for 6 months or 60 years. But listen to what the Bible says in Matt. 19:6, “Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” That is the position of the Almighty concerning any marriage that has been consummated according to HIS will.
Praying for 21 Days – with fasting and from midnight – for quick results.
Start praying here… Begin by singing praises to the Lord… and worshipping Him… then make the confessions below and pray the prayer points. With the Scripture Ingredients – confess loudly.
Matt. 19:6: So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.
Rev 12:9-10: So the great dragon was cast out, that serpent of old, called the Devil and Satan, who deceives the whole world; he was cast to the earth, and his angels were cast out with him. Then I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, “Now salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of His Christ have come, for the accuser of our brethren, who accused them before our God day and night, has been cast down.”
…………………
Prayer Points – To be prayed loudly and aggressively: use the name of your spouse as applicable:
1. Thank God because He is going to intervene in your marriage through these prayers.
2. Let anything that wants to stand between me and answers to these prayers be destroyed in the name of Jesus.
3. Let the anointing to pray to the point of breakthrough in my marriage fall upon me now in Jesus’ name.
4. Lord Jesus, I invite you to come to my aid in every difficult situation in my marriage.
5. I paralyze every architect of conflict and hostility in my home, in the name of Jesus.
6. I withdraw my marriage from the hands of evil designers, in the name of Jesus.
7. Let every power trying to redraw the map of my marriage be put to shame in Jesus’ name.
8. Let all agents of household wickedness release my home, in Jesus’ name.
9. I receive deliverance from every evil plantations designed to bring me and my children into captivity, in Jesus’ name.
10. I paralyze the spirit of hostility and hatred targeted against my home in Jesus’ name.
11. I spoil and destabilize every evil plan against my home in Jesus’ name.
12. I deliver my marriage from the hands of home-destroyers.
13. I pursue, overtake and recover my marriage from the hands of marriage breakers.
14. Every evil effect of external interference in my marriage, be completely neutralized in Jesus’ name.
15. O Lord, dissolve and render to naught every evil counsel against my home in Jesus’ name.
16. Every power preventing me from accepting the headship of my husband, become paralyzed in the name of Jesus.
17. Let every imagination, thought, plan, decision, desire and expectation of separation and divorce against my home be nullified, in the name of Jesus.
18. Hear the word of the Lord, you home breakers, you will not break my marriage in the name of Jesus.
19. I bind all powers eating away the determination of my spouse to stay married to me, in Jesus name.
20. Let satanic birds eating away my love from the heart of my husband vomit it, in Jesus’ name.
21. (Pray in the spirit for at least 10 minutes).
22. Let all extra-marital relationships with other ‘partners’ collapse and die, in Jesus’ name.
23. I break every soul tie between my spouse and …. (mention the name if you know it) in Jesus’ name.
24. I deliver my spouse from the hands of evil seducers in Jesus’ name.
25. I break the hold of evil spiritual beings upon my spouse, in the name of Jesus.
26. I command failure, frustration and disappointment to come upon every strange relationship involving my spouse.
27. Let the angels of God chase away evil intruders into my marriage in Jesus’ name.
28. I refuse to be a single parent in Jesus’ name.
29. I break the power of every evil manipulation targeted against my home in Jesus’ name.
30. I paralyze every vagabond spirit working in the life of my spouse in Jesus’ name.
31. I pull down the stronghold of (pick from the under listed) working against my marriage, in the name of Jesus.
• Carelessness
• Pride
• Foolishness
• Lack of knowledge of the word of God
32. Begin to thank the Lord for everything He has done for you.
(USA) My soon to be ex wife was married before and this is my first marriage. We dated while she was separated and lived in sin for 6 years. We got married and immediately had a daughter… she has a daughter from her previous marriage as well.
Our marriage was always rocky, we never truly took time out for each other. The kids ruled the house and God, was on the shelf. We both USED God as an excuse for blaming but never utilized His power in our marriage.
We separated in 08 and I went on to be very, very sinful. She always wanted me back but it always came in the form of anger, yelling, judging, cursing, etc… and believe me, that my responses were no better. We always loved each other but just couldn’t work it out.
I continued in terrible sin for 3 years. Finally, she had enough and started dating someone else. I was beyond upset… through it all I always believed God would bring us back together. The problem was that I never gave God the chance to do His work because I was so busy pleasing myself. We signed our divorce papers a few months ago and I DO NOT want a divorce… we are waiting for our final decree.
She says we will never be back together again because she is afraid… which was my exact excuse for the last 3 years. It took another man to point out that I made a huge mistake. I should NEVER have moved out. I let my role of father, husband, leader fall apart because it was way too easy to do and the ‘world’ accepted that.
I have never cried so much in my entire life than this last year. I have turned my life back to God but am in so much desperation that I feel lost. Sometimes I doubt but realize that is Satan telling me that God is a liar.
God is breaking me down and though I may (never) get her back, I am STANDING for the restoration of this marriage and WHEN I get her back….NOTHING will ever break us apart again. God can do anything… it is our/my ego that has brought me to this point. I have a hard time letting go. I need to let go and let God. That is really the only way.
(USA) Bless everyone whos heart is broken. God loves us all, you and the those who hurt you. He loves the Christian of 5 minutes ago the same as the life long one. He doesn’t love the unbeliever any less than the believer. There is absolutely nothing we can do, no amount of prayer, no amount of charity or tithing that will make him love us on speck more than he does now. And there is absolutely nothing we can do to make him loves us any less. His love is without conditions and limits.
However, when we live for God and his will, the walls in our life that prevent us from enjoying God’s many gifts are torn down so we may recieve them, while the unbeliever with their walls may or may not receive them. Please pray for me and my wife. She has had a drug problem for many years. We have been married since 2005. I have spent thousands of dollars for program after program for drug abusers. They work for a while, but always in the end comes the slip up.
After years of lies, along with lots of happiness in between, I made her leave after the latest failed atempt. She has since moved in with another man who is an active drug user where she can now be herself and not worry about disappointing or hurting me anymore. I filed for divorce and it will be final Jan 4, 2012. I suppose she must truly love this new man, for he has nothing, no job, no home, no car, nor does she. She walks to and form wherever she needs to go. I guess for her to live this way must mean I meant very little to her.
I have rededicated my life to God a few months ago, but it still hurts me deeply. I worry for her and wonder if he is good to her, if she is warm, has enough food, clothes. I pray that he loves her enough to stop drugs himself, to get a job so he may take care of her. I suppose I failed God. I tried for so long to fix her, when one really must want to fix themselves. Instead I should have tried to lead her to Jesus, our savior.
I was so unhappy at times, wanted her to be drug free so badly, but loved her just the same. For she was so wonderful in all other things, loving, creative, and humble. Just the drugs. I guess now that she is with another man in a sexual way God would allow a divorce. I believe it says so in the Bible, that for that reason it can be granted. But still it hurts me and in my heart I wish God would fill her with his love, that she would accept him and through him she may be healed and given power over her addiction.
Even if she would never look upon me again, I would ask that he save her. I suppose she never thinks of me much now, as I have been so easily replaced with someone else. But still even now I would rather her hate me for tyring to help her, than have her love me because I could give her drugs.
Pray for me and her, that God protect her and keep her safe, and for me that someday my heart will stop hurting. I know God can do anything, but it seems it may not be his will to restore this marrige. Maybe he knows her addiction will only bring me great sorrow and that maybe I am meant for someone else. But I will still ask him, even though I see no way possible, and everything that man can give, clinics, detox, counselors, nothing could help her. I will ask him that if there is a way through him, that he help her and let her love me and I her and restore the marriage, if it be his will.