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HAVE YOU SEEN GOD REVIVE A DEAD OR DYING MARRIAGE? EXPLAIN.
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(USA) God restored my marriage. I have read through the letters. I understand how hard it is to “stand” for your marriage. When I turned to the Lord for his help, He clearly showed what I needed to do first and also gave me the things I needed to win back my husband. However, surprisingly, reading these letters, I see little about this. Remember, you must do your part, and then God can do his. Are you waiting for God? Or is HE waiting for you?
(PHILIPPINES) Please pray, pray, pray for me and my husband [J] to restore our marriage. I committed a sin against my husband and the church and am now suffering from all the pain and hurt I have caused. I am really sorry for what I have done and ask the Lord for forgiveness.
Before I thought all I wanted was my freedom. We have been married for 8 years but the last three years were full of lies. I could not take it anymore. He filled for a divorce last March 2012 but when I received the summons I felt my world was torn apart and turned 360 degrees. We have a son who is 7 years old, and is now starting to ask questions why we can’t be together. I dunno what to say to my son. Now all I want is my family back.
I am changed person. I believe in miracles and I believe that God will restore this marriage. I know we still love each other and I am trying to be the best woman for him and my son. I hope he would have a change of heart and give me one more chance to prove to myself to him and my son, that I am better than my past.
(USA) Hello everyone: I just wanted to say YES God can restore your marriage; he did it for me and my husband and I’m so grateful! To make a long story short, my marriage was completely dead it seemed–my husband moved away across the world to start new, but when I began to intercede and pray fervently and consistently God moved. Now I won’t say my journey of standing for my marriage was easy because it was not, but through God all things are possible; he will bring you through. Don’t give up…just when it seems its over it’s just begun. I understand what it’s like to just need an outlet to talk to someone who’s been there; I used to surf the web hours trying to find answers. God bless you all and your marriages.
(UNITED STATES) I’ve read all the comments and it has been a great blessing to me. My wife and I have been married 25 yrs, and she has left and we’ve been separated 5 months now. We both have had problems that have led to this, we didn’t let God have control of our marriage like we should have. As I said my wife has left with our daughter and feels like the only answer is a divorce, I’ve beeb going to a counselor alone and praying constantly that God will be able to heal the hurt that we have done to each other and our family. As of right now, if the Lord can’t change my wife’s heart, she is going to file for divorce. I want us to work this out but she is hurt and living an independent life and thinks a divorce will only make it better. I just want to ask everyone here to pray for us and our family and for reconciliation for our marriage. Thank you and God Bless you all; I pray now that God will restore all our marriages.
(SOUTH AFRICA) I am currently in the same situation with my fiancé. I pray everyday to God to save our relationship but it look like nothing is happening. I still believe God will save marriages that are built with his approval rather than materialistic. The difficult thing is we don’t know our partners intentions when they commit to us. I love my fiancé but it seems as if I will soon give up, as she always says she prays for guidance but does other things on the side. I hope God will answer my prayers before I give up as I am starting to lose hope.
(USA) Grace and Peace. My name is Charmaine and my ex husband’s name is Brent. We got a divorce in March. I am believing God to restore my marriage. About three weeks ago this women came into this life and now there is just so much hatred in him towards me. Last night he told me never to speak to him in my life again. In the last week when we would speak he would curse me. We have a 10 year old kid.
I am feeling very hurt and would like to pray for God to help and have his way in this situation to bring peace and forgiveness and SAVE my husband and restore his love for me and also to remove this person from his life if he has to. Thank you.
(USA) I must say I believe God in all things… but I cannot grab ahold of this. I work in healing rooms and see God show up with miracles. I am in a divorce after 15 years of marriage. I have done everything God has shown me, as well as the pastors and counselors. I have dreams almost every night of God showing me in great detail how he is bringing him to full conversion, and I have fasted and prayed and prayed and fasted.
I am to a point where I’m not so sure I care anymore. Too long… no fruit …nothing. Just dreams. It would be easy to give me a faith lecture… but don’t. It would be easy to say go on with my life …but can’t get too far with dreams every night of him and God working. But the whole thing is so painful… I want to shut down or have it all go away… or me go away. I’m so tired and worn, I care about nothing anymore. I love to see people healed …but everything else I can’t bear anymore. I am not angry with God …nor him. But I am so very tired of it all… I need an end.
(USA) My parents were separated for 13 years and one of them had three children during that period, but they still came back together and their marriage was saved by the grace of God. It was reported a couple of weeks ago that a couple got remarried in NY after 40 years of divorce. I advise those going through this problem to keep holding to God and he will come true for them.
(USA) Do you believe that God is who He says He is? If your answer to this question is “Yes” then the next question to you is “Then why worry?” “Therefore I say unto you, whatsoever things ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” Mark 11:24 God can save any marriage. The enemy would have us to believe that its not God’s will. That it’s not possible, because of the hardness of the other spouse’s heart or unwillingness to forgive, but I tell you that’s just the enemy trying to defeat you. That’s satan’s way of defeating the key to having your prayers answered… YOUR FAITH.
Read Paul’s testimony (1 Timothy 1:9-16). If God can save the “Chief of Sinners” then surely He is able to save your spouse and restore your marriage. God can change hearts (Ezekiel 11:18-20, Ezekiel 36:25-27). You must have unwavering faith in God to do the impossible in your life (James 1:6-7). What is impossible for man, is possible with God. No matter what the situation appears to be.
Maybe your spouse has moved out, is in an adulterous relationship, has filed for divorce or you may have already gone through the divorce process. Whatever the case, keep praying, keep fasting and keep believing God (1 Corinthians 15:58). You must believe even to this point, “Lord even if my marriage is not restored, I will continue to trust and believe that you are able to do it. If not for me then for someone else.” Keep trusting God to answer your prayers. Continue to pray for your spouse and continue to show love to them even when you receive none in return (Matthew 5:43-45). In the end, you will be blessed. May God bless and keep you.
(MAS) It’s very inspiring and encouraging Katie. Thanks. I will put all my trust and faith in God.
(USA) I have found your website to be incredibly inspirational. I have been separated from my husband since 1999 -a long time. Unfortunately, the initial separation was my fault as I initiated it. I was young and stupid, and did not understand the long term implications of my actions. This brought about much pain and anger which I feel terrible about.
My ex is with a much older, very controlling man and has detached himself for the most part from his previous friends, and even family to a great extent. Because of this my contact with him is only every six months or so. However, I’m praying for reconcilation and forgiveness after all this time, and would very much appreciate your prayers for us as well. I’ve been told that after this much time I should just get over it… but have been convicted that we were put together for a reason in the last five years, and that is what God’s plan and desire for our lives. I just hope this happens to him, as well. Thank you for your time and effort into this important ministry!
(MAS) It’s encouraging to read some of the comments above. But some are really confusing. I really want to work things out with my estranged husband. We’ve been seperated for 2 months and he’s been living with the other person. I’ve talked to him last month and what he told me is to wait for the lawyer’s letter about divorce. I haven’t contacted him since that. I am praying everyday that he will forgive me for being rude and neglecting him all this while.
I’m currently 5 months pregnant with our 2nd child. I read scriptures from the Bible and comments from all of you above how divorce is not permitted. I’m sticking and standing to that but at times I do feel discouraged thinking that I’m the only one who wanted to save this marriage. It seems like he’s happier with his single life now. I am trying to let go and let God and I tell myself everyday to forgive my husband and the other person as they are blinded by Satan.
As for the restored marriage, I’ve seen how God restored it. A friend of mine who went through the same situation as mine had her husband returned after 1 month of her delivery even though the situation seemed impossible. The easy part is that she gave up during the pregnancy. She didn’t hope for anything, and it was really a blessing when he returned because he really had abandoned the family. I pray that I am as lucky. If anyone has anymore encouraging scripture to keep me on believing and standing, please do share it here. Thanks.
(USA) Hello Ivana, I can relate to what you’re going through. I, after 21 years of marriage (knowing my husband for almost 29 years), 3 kids later and 1 grandchild and now another on the way (Praise God), find myself in the same situation you’re going through. Quite honestly, it’s so painful. I’m flooded with a lifetime of memories with him, both good and not so good. More good obviously although when you go through this it seems the bad ones pop out at you.
Just when I thought we had come through a time in our marriage where I can truly believe he loved me and would always be there with me (we’ve had our trials). I caught him on facebook (fake name used) with an old girlfriend on May 22, 2012. On May 27th, he moved out and left us all. Yes hon, I relate, it is very painful and devastating.
You’ll have your good days and bad alike but hold on to faith (as I must tell myself as well)… it seems hopeless when we look at our husbands and begin to take our eyes off of Jesus just like Peter, who began to sink in the water when he began to doubt Matt 14:22-33. Doubt is the enemy of your FAITH… don’t doubt but rather choose to believe!! Satan (our enemy) tries to bring doubt in me by filling my mind with making it seem impossible because I focus on who my husband has become and is rather than who God is. Focus (remember) on who God is because you know God can do it… He is the God of the impossible… He CAN do it! Understand that God will use a trial to refine you so embrace it as much as you can and know God loves you and wants the best for you. God can use this time to refine and polish you (us) like gold just as His word says.
Your husband has backslid and has given into his flesh. His condition is critical. Stand in the gap for him and stay faithful to prayer for him, you and your family. Pray for God’s wisdom and strength for yourself as well. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13 NKJV). Don’t isolate yourself, but rather seek out Godly support groups (and/or counsel) to help you through this time. We need our sisters (or brothers but you’re vulnerable so I encourage sisters) in Christ to encourage and uplift us in our walk with God and through our trials. God desires a closer relationship with you so hand in there and use this time (your trials) to submit to God’s desire for you and always remember you can Trust God. He has good plans for you. I know it’s easier said than done but God is faithful… you can count on that. Stay in His word and allow it to give you strength daily. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you… James 4:8 NKJV.
Your situation didn’t surprise God one bit. He was prepared for it! In fact, it’s written in Luke 22:31-32, that satan had to get permission from God to sift you like wheat just like he had to do when it came to Job. Therefore, TRUST that God has a plan. Allow this to Glorify His name. Allow this to shape and mold you. It is a battle but be of good cheer! God has defeated to enemy and the victory! I too don’t know how long my journey (trial) will be but I know God is Good and can TRUST HIM. Seek out what God wants to do in you. Is He trying to get your attention about something? Test your faith? Shape and mold you more into his image? Perhaps all the above and more. Seek Him and ask Him to reveal it to you.
It’s a spiritual battle we fight (daily). Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in heavenly places. Put on your whole armor of God Ephesians 6:10-18. Please read it.
This all doesn’t mean you won’t have your moments or days even but, if you keep focused (keep your eyes) on God, it helps a great deal. Because, then we can see the impossible, possible again… ahhh what a blessing! Mighty is He who has started a work in you and is faithful to finish it. Philippians 1:6 NKJV… “being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” You’ve got to make a conscious effort to focus your eyes on Him. but you’ll find your faith will grow. Draw your strength from God. It’s when we go through these painful times is when we become more like Christ IF you don’t give up. Pray using God’s word (scriptures)… even if you have to write them down to incorporate them in your prayer. God’s word doesn’t come up void. He shall stay faithful unto His word.
My dear sister, I will stand with you and remember to pray for you and the reconciliation of your marriage. Rejoice! God is hearing your prayers. Although I visited this site before, it popped up when I was trying to bring something else and then I felt led to turn to the last page to check recent postings. Be encouraged and know you’re loved and hears your prayers. Your sister in Christ for eternity… Blessings, Rose
(MAS) Hi Rose, thank you for your encouraging words and the scriptures. Day after day I feel much stronger as I learn to let go and let God. This doesn’t mean I give up, but I’m releasing my husband to God. I’m letting God carry this burden for me and I’ll support my husband through prayer. I know God hears my prayers and he will answer it in his own time. This scripture keeps me standing 1 Corinthians 10:13. I know I can handle anything with God beside me. Thanks again sis. I will pray that your marriage is also restored in HIS time. Amen.
(US) Here is a great page on Facebook… “Lord heal my broken marriage and save my unbelieving spouse” Another lady and myself moderates this page and have seen God restore dozens upon dozens of marriages. My marriage was also restored last month (August) after 3 years separation… GOD IS ABLE!!! Here is the link… http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Lord-heal-my-broken-marriage-and-save-my-unbelieving-spouse/143522102341553
(USA) My husband of 29 years left me for another woman. This is my first marriage, but my husband’s second. His first marriage was when he was twenty-two and lasted only three months. In all the years I was married I never thought of my marriage as an adulterous marriage, but now I am very confused. I want for God to restore my marriage. I love my husband, but I’m not sure this is right.
(USA) YES!!! God restored my marriage. After 16 years of being married to an alchoholic I found a place to start healing from the disfunction the disease does to a family. For five years I worked on my part of the disfunction and on becoming closer to God. My husband also chose to walk the path of recovery.
One year ago I found myself still angry at my husband even though he had not taken a drink in 5 years. After a disagreement that anger took over and I kicked him out of the bedroom. I knew I didn’t want a divorce, but I also knew I could no longer live with this anger. A couple of weeks after I kicked him out I was invited to a womens retreat. At this retreat we picked an envelope off of a board that held a word that we were supposed to meditate on over the weekend. My word was Forgiveness. That weekend changed my life. God put people, books, and Bible studies in my path that started me on a journey of true forgiveness. My husband and I slept apart for 4 months and during this time God healed that pain and restored my love for my husband by ten fold.
I love my husband today more fully, more honestly, and more completely then I did the day I married him. During that 4 months God also worked on my husband. That is his story to tell, and our marraige is amazing. Everyone around us can see it. My sons comment on it, my recovery group, friends and family. God can and will restore any relationship as long as we are willing. Willing to give up control, willing to do out part and are willing to trust God.
(USA) Dear Fellow Christ Followers… I’m glad I found this site. I see a lot of marital issues concerning adultery… but what about drugs or alcohol? I have been with my husband for 22 years we have 3 grown children but his love affair with alcohol is ruining our family.
I have been saved for 10 years and have been praying for his redemption. We just found out my daughter is going to have a baby and I cannot bear to have his anger, rage and violence exhibited to a third generation. I can’t think straight I feel abandoned by God and all alone. I’ve tried counseling they all say leave him and take care of yourself. I want to honor God even more than I love my husband. I want to do the right thing. But I’m so confused and full of hate after his last outburst.
I ask for everyone to pray for me and my family that God will give me direction and strength to endure. I only want my savior to be proud of me. Thank you all and my our Lord of Hosts comes soon that we may worship him for alllllll eternity!!!
(UGANDA) Praise God. I got married to my husband before I recieved salvation; I did not tell him that I had 2 children. It reached a time when I could not tell him because I feared divorce. He later learned about it through someone else, and divorced me. What forced me to stay quiet was the way I related with him and his relatives. I suffered a humiliation and rejection in my marriage which forced me to keep that secret. After I had a child with him, we separated and I stayed with all my 3 children. Now that I recieved salvation, I keep blaming myself for having kept that secret from him; I tried to apologize but he would not listen, and all the advice from his friends and relatives continued to keep us apart. I pray that God forgives me and restores my marriage because I still love my husband.