Do you believe in miracles? How about marriage miracles? We do; we’re hoping you do too. Perhaps you need one of those marriage miracles to happen in your own marital relationship. Please don’t lose hope.
“Two thousand years ago, in the midst of a marriage, Jesus met an impossible need with His supernatural intervention. Today, the scene is set again with you and the one you have promised your life to. The couple, the need —the miracles that God can bring.” (Ron Hutchcraft)
Being in marriage ministry, Cindy and I find it interesting that Jesus chose to perform His first miracle at a wedding. His glory was revealed in marriage. (You can read about it in John 2:1-11.)
We believe that most marriages face times when they need a touch from God. We are certain, that if we had not “invited Christ” into our lives and marriage back in 1974, in all likelihood, we would be divorced by now. (And we’d certainly never be in marriage ministry.) Even today, many years later, we still depend on the Lord’s help to keep our marriage strong —one that reflects the heart of Christ.
Marriage Miracles
In his book, “Start Your Trip With A Full Tank” Ron Hutchcraft talks about “Marriage Miracles.” This can be an encouragement for all of us. He writes:
“Maybe your marriage could use a miracle right now. That day in Cana there was a change that no man or woman could make. Nobody can change water into wine, but Jesus did. Maybe right now some change is urgently needed in your home. There is a need that must be met if your relationship is going to be what it needs to be.
“Maybe it is time for Cana revisited —a marriage miracle. Right now there’s a strain, a distance, resentment, and frustration. Maybe there are thoughts of bitterness and giving up.
“Have you been to your knees yet? Have you prayed —pouring out your mess, your pain, and your dark feelings to the Lord —crying out together for Jesus’ healing in your marriage? The less you feel like doing it, the more you need to. And if your partner will not, don’t let that stop you.
Inviting Jesus
“This passage in John 2, says Jesus had been invited to this wedding, to this marriage. If you have not done so before, why not invite Him into your marriage? Close the door on quitting. Ask God to show you the HOPE FACTORS you can build upon. You have looked at the hopelessness factors long enough. Can you pray this? ‘Lord, we can’t make it work. And we/I don’t know how You would, but we beg You to help us to do what WE CAN’T, at this point in our marriage.'”
If both of you are followers of Christ, yet your unhappiness causes you to feel like giving up on your marriage, we urge you to empty yourselves of whatever agendas you may be clinging onto. Pray TOGETHER that God will pour out His Spirit of reconciliation upon you. Pray that the Lord will help you to see the hope factors. Learn how to become partners rather than adversaries, to the glory of God.
For the Glory of God
“If happiness is our primary goal, we’ll get a divorce as soon as happiness seems to wane. If receiving love is our primary goal, we’ll dump our spouse as soon as they seem to be less attentive. But if we marry for the glory of God, to model His love and commitment to our children, and reveal His witness to the world, divorce makes no sense.” (Gary Thomas)
Fred and Florence Littauer in their book, Daily Marriage Builders for Couples
“Is there any hope? Is there any possibility that change can be affected in your lives in the way you treat one another? Can you change the way you react to your mate when something unkind or cutting is said to you? Somehow on our own we are not able to control our own reactions to what we perceive to be hurtful negatives. But the Bible tells me I can do all things! Yes, we can do all things, but we must complete the verse: ‘I can do all things THROUGH CHRIST who strengthens me.‘
“There lies the answer. All my known resolutions will probably go for naught, but when I enlist the Lord Jesus to help me, to do what I cannot do on my own, amazing and rewarding changes can take place. We must not, however, forget the first part of that verse. It says, ‘I can do all things.‘ We are not directed to let Christ to do it for us. We must do it ourselves BUT with His help.”
Oswald Chambers wrote:
“We cannot do what God does and …God will not do what we can do. We cannot save ourselves nor sanctify ourselves, God does that; but God will not give us good habits. He will not give us character. He will not make us walk aright. We have to get into the habit of hearkening to God about everything, to form the habit of finding out what God says.”
Bible teacher, Beth Moore, who has worked through her share of marital problems, reminds us:
“Sometimes God works through miracles and other times through the individual.”
…”When we trust our lives to the unseen but ever-present God, He will write our lives into His story and every last one of them will turn out out be a great read, with a grand ending.”
But we must not lose sight of the ultimate “grand ending” we’re to aim for in our lives as followers of Jesus Christ. It’s is to one day hear the Lord tell us, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”
Paul Tripp, in his book, What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage
He wrote:
“Our desire is that our marriages would be the location of our comfort, ease, and enjoyment; we often have desires no bigger than this. But God’s purpose is that each of our marriages would be a tool for something that is way more miraculous and glorious than our tiny, little, self-focussed definition of happiness. He has designed marriage to be one of the most effective and efficient tools of personal holiness. He has designed your marriage to change you.”
Another reminder from Beth Moore may be good to consider:
“We lose our strength when we wait upon an event. But our strength will be renewed when we wait upon the Lord.”
Keep your eyes upon the Lord. Ask for HIS perspective, HIS strength, and HIS help in unraveling this thing. Ask Him to help you approach issues in your marriage in ways that reflect His heart. When you do, the results will be no less miraculous than when Jesus turned the water into wine.
“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ!“ (Romans 15:5-6)
Cindy and Steve Wright
Filed under: Marriage Messages
(SOUTH AFRIA) I need my husband back i cheated on my marrraige.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Please pray for me and my husband; his name is Joseph and I’m Finky. We had a miscarriage last year in Nov and are now trying to have our first child. This has put a lot of strain on our marriage. We are praying and trusting God for twins these year.
Please pray for us as this has made me very sad. I’m at a place where I feel like giving up or committing suicide. And we just got married last yer.
(UNITED STATES) Please pray for my marriage. I’ve been going through a really hard time. My husband really doesn’t want anything to do with our son and me, but I have a feeling we will get back together. Thank you.
I ask for your prayers and interceding prayers on behalf of my husband, who has asked me for a divorce. I love him and he still loves me, but our relationship has been strained recently and he is no longer sure that love is enough for us to make it. I have gone before the throne of God with prayer. But I am asking for you to pray also for my husband and I, that we can get back to the place/state where we first fell in love, communicate better, and renew our lifetime commitment to each other to a place where our relationship will never be threatened again. I feel like we need a miracle and I have faith in God to perform. I believe that the prayer of the righteous avails much and I believe that the institution of marriage is to be protected and fought for. Thank you in advance for your prayers and God bless!
Kesha, I’m praying for you and for your husband. You say that you both love each other. Do you both love the Lord and do both of you believe He can work miracles and resurrect that which is dead?
Please pray for my husband’s salvation and the restoration of our marriage. We have been married almost 8 years with 3 children. He no longer wishes to be married and has begun saying incredibly cruel things to me. I do not believe in divorce but I am a broken soul who cannot go any farther alone. I know God is with me. I am asking for prayers that he will soften my husband’s heart and turn him back to his family. I ask that his soul be filled with God’s love and that our family not be destroyed by bitterness, hatred and divorce.
Pray for no divorce for Cortney and Blake.
Please pray that God will send my wife home to me and our kids. I need a miracle. I am devastated. Thanks.
Please! Please! Pray for our marriage! It’s in Critical Condition! My husband filed for divorce. He’s been gone 2 years after he got a big inheritance. Today is our 34th wedding anniversary. Please pray as I miss him and want him to come home and stop divorce. He abandoned me after rededicating his life to the Lord then promising to grow old together, saying that he’d never do what he’s doing right now. I’m so depressed that I’ve seriously thought really bad thoughts. Although I’m far from perfect, my walk with Christ was strong when this happened. This makes me feel like a terrible person, but I know I was doing things right. Divorce is right around the corner so please pray for Glenn and Diane. We need probably the biggest marriage miracle ever!!! Today is our anniversary so his coming home would be the best gift ever in the history of our marriage!!! I’m devastated beyond belief. God help us.
My wife and I have been separated for over three months. Just recently the Holy Spirit overwhelmed me and broke me. I now am a follower of Jesus. My wife has a hard heart and is bitter right now. I need all the prayers we can get for the Holy Spirit to break through her hardened heart and get some light into the darkness. Please pray for us. We have a 7 and 8 year old that is being effected as well. Please pray that we can reconcile soon so the devil doesn’t do anymore damage.
Dear God, please help me heal my marriage and my husband. Please show me how to help heal the damage we have done with words that cut like daggers. Help me to heal the actions we took while in rage that tore our hearts apart. Please God I beg of you help me save my marriage. I forgive my husband, forgive wrongful actions and regret not forgiving him before. I pray it is not too late.
Please Lord forgive me for my wrongful actions I took when angry with my husband. Please soften his heart for me. Please open his heart and mind to me to be able to see the love I have for him and for him to see the error in his ways. I humbly beg of you God give me hope again.
I feel regret, guilt, despair, anxiety, heart ache, and loneliness… I am sorry Lord. Please, please, please forgive me. Please do not let my husband break our covenant of marriage. He has started the process and I need a miracle Lord. I need You to come to my need and answer my request. Marriage is sacred and is a special bond between who you designated us to be with and take our journey with.
Please Lord let my husband see he is making a mistake and a rash decision due to anger/hurt and pride. Please let him see and feel my love and please bring my husband back to me so we can reconcile this marriage before it is lost for good. Please Dear Lord I beg of you from the bottom if my heart to lend your blessing and hand this way. Amen
Please pray that God’s will, will be done in my marriage –that my husband would be saved and that he would be the head of the house as God called him to be, and that I would be a help meet for him. Pray that his love for me would be restored and if there be another woman that God would deliver him. Please pray my strength in the Lord.
Please pray for God to intervene in my marriage. My husband filed for divorce because I had an affair. I made a terrible mistake that is costing me everything. A lot was wrong leading up to it. I love my husband and still do. We have 2 little children 3 and 4. They need us. Please Lord, help us. Fill us with your love and strength to overcome all the obstacles we are facing. Need a miracle and prayers! Amanda and Jon
Pray for me, that my husband Samuel can love me again, come home, and we settle and look after our kid. Pray God will work a miracle for me because he left me with a young baby and I am not working.
I’m getting weak through fasting. I’ve never wanted anything or anyone as bad as I want my wife, my kid and marriage to work. My wife and I have been married for three years; we have a son who turned 3 yesterday. She left our matrimonial home to go stay with a friend. She says she wants a divorce. I’ve made a lot of mistakes but I love my family. She’s really not the praying type; please pray that the Lord touches her heart, please help. Thank you for your support.
God, you sent me on a very long journey. Taught me lessons of the heart and opened my eyes and soul to the blessings of my husband’ true love for me. I was so blind and selfish and I am so very grateful that you kept us all safe while I took this journey.
The thought now of living a day without my husband is unbearable. To think that I was ready to walk away, leave him and end our 14 year marriage. It is only by the grace of God that he opened his arms to me after all that I put him through. I pray that you continue to work miracles in our marriage and our family.
We were worlds apart, until God revealed to me the love that I still had in my heart for my husband did the light between us spark and burn warm each day thereafter.
For anyone who thinks their marriage is over and done, go to God and ask him to show you the way and if it is meant to be, trust me, he will show you the truth. You too will see that it is an absolute miracle that only our Father can bless us with. God Bless!