My parents were having some marital problems, but that didn’t seem abnormal to us. Most couples go through times of turmoil. But one day my dad announced to my mom that he no longer loved her and was leaving her. When she pressed him over it, he finally broke down and told her that he was in love with someone else.
There were HUGE fights that followed the next several days before he finally left. My dad told my mom that he hadn’t loved her for a long time —and wasn’t sure if he ever loved her, and that this woman was the most wonderful thing to ever come into his life. He intended to leave all of us (there were 4 of us children involved —I was the oldest being a teenager at the time).
When my mom pressed him about having four children to take care of and that this woman was a home-wrecker, he got extremely angry and told her that this woman was of sterling character (even though she was also married) and that my mom wasn’t even worthy of washing this woman’s shoes. It was really nasty!
He up and left all of us. He came into my room telling me what was going on and that he still loved me and my brothers and sister but that this was best for all. My brother came into the room at the time and we both cried and pleaded and tried to convince him otherwise. Eventually, we both grabbed onto each of his legs to prevent him from leaving us and he dragged us along the ground as he went out to the car. He then pried our hands away from him and left.
A few days later we found out that he immediately emptied their checking account and savings account of every penny and left us destitute, without even the money for that week’s groceries or that month’s house payment. He then left the state with the other woman, leaving no forwarding address. We didn’t know if he was dead or alive for months on end. But to us he was dead to our spirits because of what he did to our family.
We almost lost our home, and everything else. It was horrible. My baby sister (who was 3 at the time) had to go to live with an aunt so my mom could work full-time. I could help by watching my younger brothers after school but I couldn’t take care of my sister during the day and my mom couldn’t afford to hire a baby sitter so that’s what had to be done to survive. It was devastating to be split apart as a family but there was no other option available to us to be able to survive.
After about 6 months of no contact with my dad he sent us cards and (belated) Christmas presents. We hated his presents and didn’t care if we ever would have seen him again. He surfaced a month later telling my mom how sorry he was and that he wanted to get back together again. It was a mess!
I hated my dad (someone who I had loved so very much before all of that happened). We were all hurting. Through a long string of events where my parents started going to counseling, etc… My parents eventually reconciled. It took me several more years to work through my bitterness. A lot of things went dead in my heart and emotions and I didn’t care that they had “worked things out.”
Eventually, I received Christ as my savior and the Lord helped me work through the issues I needed to and eventually I forgave my dad. My mom, sometime later, accepted Christ as her savior and over a period of time also worked through her bitterness and forgave my dad and fell in love with him again. They eventually grew their marriage to be strong and loving again.
My mom died several years ago and will always be my hero for how she stepped up to the plate and got us through those times and eventually forgave my dad and rebuilt a good life together —free from bitterness. It was truly a miracle because when my dad left all of us he had NO intention of ever coming back. I now have a good relationship with my dad and God has shown me that He is still in the miracle-working business of redeeming that which seems hopeless.
The above testimony is true. We personally know the person who lived this and they praise God to this day of the miracles that God performed in their family.
(USA) A very sad story but worth the read. I am struggling now as my husband has lost his love for me. I have children and I am asking God to help me to restore my marriage. I am asking God to perform a miracle. I love my husband and my family and would do anything for them. Please pray for me. I pray to God to forgive my shortcomings and please to restore my marriage.
(MALTA) I too, am going through the same as you. My husband left me after 13 yrs of marriage. Me and my children are devastated. Never would I have thought that he could leave our daughters. My husband has definitely lost his way. I will pray for the restoration of your marriage. May God, the divine mercy, Mary our immaculate mother and queen of the holy rosary and all the angels heal your suffering and restore love and harmony in your marriage.
(S.AFRICA) Afternoon All, I really need your help. It has now been almost three months since my wife filed for divorce. Does not matter what I do she is not willing to reconsider or even talk about it. I don’t know how much longer I can take this pain and rejection. It hurts everytime I see her or speak to her over the phone.
I know I was a bad husband, because I pushed God out of my life and tried to do things on my own. I have changed so much in the last few months, but still my wife is set on getting divorced. What do I do??? God Bless all of you, Wayne
(USA) Wayne, Check out: http://www.divorcebusting.com. This site is for saving marriages on the brink or process of divorce, also for building up confidence and esteem in the face of imminent doom. There are hundreds of situations and many of them match what you are facing. There are some techniques done which aren’t completely straightforward, but may work for you. In the worst case, you build up some of your self-confidence even though you know your getting left by your wife.
(USA) Let go and let God. Just allow God to do it.
(USA) I am also struggling with my marriage. My wife has filed for divorce, but has said she did not sign yet. She has stated she does not love me anymore and more to the point she said she feels nothing. I believe God can heal our marriage and restore love. I just ask for pray to help me through this and to help my children. God said he hates divorce so I know he will work to save our marriage and soft my wife’s heart. I ask that you pray to God and ask for a quick restoration and that our marriage will glorify Him. The prayers of the righteous avail much. Praise the Lord. Amen.
(USA) My wife and I are both blind. She recently got a Protection From Abuse Order against me and a court hearing followed. I recently got my first job and will have to move my family to Louisiana, but she doesn’t want to move there. She is afraid for many reasons I won’t go into. It’s hard for blind people in the United States to get jobs.
She did not file for divorce, and I hope she doesn’t file for divorce. If she does then I refuse to sign. I hate divorce just like God hates divorce. I love her and forgive her fully for putting me through this hurt and pain. Please, Jesus, I’m asking you to restore my family and save my marriage. I love my wife and son and miss them so much.
(NIGERIA) I thank God for this testimony. I and my wife are presently separated and I strongly believe in the Resurrection Power that rose Jesus up from the dead to restore my marriage. As I give thank to God for this wonderful testimony of restoration in your marriage I tap into the grace of God upon your life and marriage relationship for the manifestation of his divine power over my marriage. In Jesus name, Amen.
(US) Brother, I am in Afghanistan finishing my 3rd tour with the ARMY, 37 months out of 67 of marriage, it has been rough and I’ve been very cold, selfish and addicted to porn. I am saved by the glory of God….right now she wants to separate and talking about splitting everything but my faith is in the Lord of Lords….he loves me and never gave up on me, I will never give up on my amazing wife and the blessed 5 yrd old twin girls we have together. I am in so much pain but I must trust Him and be patient, when you feel discouraged and feel like it won’t happen, read this bro, it helps me a lot! 1 Corinthians 13:4-13, LOVE CONQUERS ALL…How long are we willing to wait for our wives to come back: as long as God wants! Give us strength Father and patience to be moved in the spirit not in the flesh.
(USA) Thank you for your honesty. I am a woman whose marriage has been devastated by porn and extra marriage affairs. I too am waiting on the Lord to restore my marriage. If I must walk thru the fire to be transformed into the image of our Lord Jesus Christ then my prayer is “God carry me and hold me tight through it all.”
(PHILIPPINES) I am Aila, I am a Deaf. I need my prayer. I have a problem with my husband. We are separated. We are not together at HOME anymore. My husband’s mom commands me to separate. I am hurt, and my heart is broken. My husband doesn’t have love me anymore. I have one my son. Pray for my husband need to know Christ, to get back together at home, and that he won’t leave me and my son. I still love him so much. We need him badly. I can’t stop crying everyday & every night & everywhere. It’s hard for me. I am not good alone. I am nothing without my partner. I know my husband is weak, sensitive & mad. He is not kind to me. Pray for my husband for good fruit & for self control. Pray satan won’t control my husband. I know he knew his weakest areas. Please pray for my husband, for restoration of our marriage, and that together he will be with us and will come know to Christ.
(JAMAICA) Aila, do take comfort that you serve a Mighty God and with him all things are possible. Without your husband, you might feel like nothing, but remember that with God you are strong, you are majority. Continue to pray to God daily. He will take care of you. Remember that God hates divorce (Malachi 2). He has also said that what he has put together let no man put asunder. He has also said that He honors his word above his very name and that his word will never return without accomplishing what it was set out to do.
As long as your husband is your covenant husband (he was not married to another wife before you and that woman is still living), continue to pray to God for restoration. God specializes in restoring dead situations. Remember Lazarus? Jesus waited until he was dead before he came to his rescue. But he came and said Lazarus, come forth. And Lazarus who was dead for days, came forth bound in grave clothes. With God all things are possible. But we must have faith. We must beleive that God will answer our prayers.
Read the scriptures on a daily basis for you and your husband. Read the story of Hosea and his prostitute wife Gomer. Read the story of Job, particularly Job 33, where God whispers to sinners while they sleep and terrify them with a warning. Read Eziekel 36 where God removes the heart of stone and replace it with a heart of flesh. Read Psalms 51, 2 Samuel 11 & 12 and 2 Samuel 16. They all speak to David who committed adultry with Bathsheba -2 Samuel 11. In Psalms 51 David Cries out to God. In 2 Samuel 12, God sends a messenger to warn David of his sin and tells him the consequences that will befall him. In 2 Samuel 16, David suffers the consequences.
The answer is to pray to God daily, thank him for transforming you while he is transforming your husband. Speak positively and quit complaining no matter what. Most of all, be silent and know that God is God. He will see you through.
Also check out http://www.rejoiceministries.org. You will get great encouragement there and testimonies of what god is doing in similar situations.
I’ll pray for you and your husband. We have the same situation; my husband hasn’t love me for almost 2 years so I decided to bring my kids, and left him because he disrespected me in front of my kids. But I still love him, so I pray everyday, every night, and almost every hour to change him and me…
(USA) This story could’ve been written by me. My husband and I have been married for 22 years shy of two months. We have three children and yet he decided to leave me for a woman he worked with. She is ten years younger than us. Our divorce has been going on for 3 1/2 years. I just continue hoping that God will soften his heart and restore our marriage. The divorce is set to be final this next week.
I don’t know what is going to happen but I do know that I have given all this to God. I’m trying to be obedient and expecting restoration. If you read this please pray for my family. I hope to amend this post when God works this miracle in my life. Thank you for your prayers!