I Don’t Even Like Him—How Can I Pray for Him?
Have you ever been so mad at your husband that the last thing you wanted to do was pray for him? So have I. It’s hard to pray for someone when you’re angry or he’s hurt you.
But that’s exactly what God wants us to do. If He asks us to pray for our enemies, how much more should we be praying for the person with whom we have become one and are supposed to love? But how do we get past the unforgiveness and critical attitude?
Honest with God
The first thing to do is be completely honest with God. In order to break down the walls in our hearts and smash the barriers that stop communication, we have to be totally up front with the Lord about our feelings. We don’t have to “pretty it up” for Him. He already knows the truth. He just wants to see if we’re willing to admit it and confess it as disobedience to His ways. If so, He then has a heart with which He can work.
Power of Praying Wife
If you’re angry at your husband, tell God. Don’t let it become a cancer that grows with each passing day. Don’t say, “I’m going to live my life and let him live his.” There’s a price to pay when we act entirely independently of one another. “Neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord” (1 Corinthians 11:11).
Instead say:
“Lord, nothing in me wants to pray for this man. I confess my anger, hurt, unforgiveness, disappointment, resentment, and hardness of heart toward him. Forgive me and create in me a clean heart and right spirit before You. Give me a new, positive, joyful, loving, forgiving attitude toward him. Where he has erred, reveal it to him and convict his heart about it. Lead him through the paths of repentance and deliverance. Help me not to hold myself apart from him emotionally, mentally, or physically because of unforgiveness. Where either of us needs to ask forgiveness of the other, help us to do so.
If there is something I’m not seeing that’s adding to this problem, reveal it to me and help me to understand it. Remove any wedge of confusion that has created misunderstanding or miscommunication. Where there is behavior that needs to change in either of us, I pray You would enable that change to happen. As much as I want to hang on to my anger toward him because I feel it’s justified, I want to do what You want. I release all those feelings to You. Give me a renewed sense of love for him and words to heal this situation.”
A Challenge
If you feel you’re able, try this little experiment and see what happens. Pray for your husband every day for a month using each one of the 30 areas of prayer I’ve included in this book. Pray a chapter a day. Ask God to pour out His blessings on him and fill you both with His love. See if your heart doesn’t soften toward him. Notice if his attitude toward you doesn’t change as well. Observe whether your relationship isn’t running more smoothly.
If you have trouble making that kind of prayer commitment, think of it from the Lord’s perspective. Seeing your husband through God’s eyes—not just as your husband, but as God’s child, a son whom the Lord loves —can be a great revelation. If someone called and asked you to pray for his or her son, you would do it, wouldn’t you? Well, God is asking.
There is a time for everything, as it says in the Bible. That’s never more true than in marriage, especially when it comes to the words we say. There is a time to speak and a time not to speak, and happy is the man whose wife can discern between the two.
Pray Rather Than Say
Anyone who has been married for any length of time realizes that there are things that are better left unsaid. A wife has the ability to hurt her husband more deeply than anyone else can, and he can do the same to her. No matter how much apology, the words cannot be erased. They can only be forgiven and that’s not always easy. Sometimes anything we say will only hinder the flow of what God wants to do, so it’s best to, well, shut up and pray.
This is an excerpt from, The Power of a Praying® Wife
— TO HELP YOUR FURTHER —
Below are linked articles to read to guide you to pray for your husband in different ways than you might have otherwise thought:
• 10 Things Praying for Your Husband Does for You (the Wife)
• 30 Days of Praying for Your Husband
Filed under: For Married Women Spiritual Matters
(SOUTH AFRICA [DURBAN]) Hello ladies, Firstly, I’d like to thank all of you for you input. I don’t know whether you’re all aware of it, but God is using each one of us through this magnificent website to carry His word through all the earth. The fact that we are sharing our experiences gives others in our situation courage to fight – even if all their strength is gone!
I must say, I mightn’t have met any of you, but I feel so close to all of you. I guess it’s that we’re all riding in the same storm. You have no idea how all of you have helped me through my struggle for my very young family. I’ve learned so much just from the messages you all post.
Last night, as I was praying and spending my quality time with God – I began reflecting on how far God had brought me! It’s actually strange how much I’ve grown spiritually. I must say, a lot of the messages have strengthened me. I also decided to commit myself to the Standers Affirmation [posted by LT a while ago]. Funnily enough, not even two hours later, the Pastor was preaching about standing up for your life – especially if you have nothing to lose!! I mean – talk about the working of the Holy Spirit! You see it was even more exciting because I’d prayed in the morning for God to speak to me concerning my marriage. And well – He was very faithful in assuring me that I was definitely doing the right thing!
It’s so hard to love the not-so-lovely, but ladies, I’ve found that the more you express and show that love to your spouse – the less selfish you become. Lately, I’ve been telling my man that I love him -no matter what. Although I haven’t been getting any response – I am not torn apart. Somewhere, somehow I know God is working.
I am so grateful for all of you. Leonie, please be strong. I know what you are going through – but you know what: "God will make a way, where there seems to be no way. He works in ways, we cannot see – He will make a way for you" [if you can, try and listen to that song -it’s absolutely phenomenal and true!]
To Andrea – I am praying for you and you husband. Did you check out the article on How to Save Your Marriage Alone? It can be done. Trust me, one day you will be telling millions of people about the POWER of God and how it transformed your marriage. LT and Lynne, thank you so much for all the advice -it seems like you speak from years of experience in this field! You both are a blessing in more ways than you realise.
Ladies, whenever the enemy tries to attack you with dark, gloomy and hopeless thoughts about your marriage, just remember:
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you."
See that – The LORD is near – take this and apply it to your situation. I love you all! In faith, Dineo
(CANADA) Hey all. Dineo thank you so much for that powerful message. You’re truly right, God has brought all of us together to be there for each, and for Him to speak to us through each other. I know what you’re going through as far as telling your husband that you love him and he doesn’t respond that’s the spirit to go with and don’t get discouraged.
It will all be worth it when God opens the doors in your marriage. I’ll encourage you to read SACRED INFLUENCE. It just shows what God expects of us wives and how to draw our husbands closer to Him through our behaviour. Honestly, I loved it. Satan does try to destroy what we are building. Like with me, the lies of the enemy are reminding of things that I shouldn’t be thinking of. I’m praying a lot and asking God to help me forgive completely. But satan won’t destroy me; I’m standing strong with God. I love you all too ladies. You’ve all been so amazing.
Leonie, thanks for your message to be strong. And remember, God loves you more than anybody else ever will. Trust Him and I’ll pray you get that place love you.
(USA) Hi Leonie, Thanks so much for the lovely Mother’s Day thoughts. How beautiful!! Wishing you all a happy mother’s day!!
Dineo, thanks for the response you gave me to one of the things I posted to you (I think it was on another page of the website). My only real significant thought/response to your situation was that you needed to tell some of the Christians in your church and/or your pastor about a woman right in their midst, committing adultery with your husband. Ick – I still get the creeps just thinking about that. I expect that of the world, but not of Christians. It’s one thing if the person is trying to overcome, but you said not only is she not trying to overcome or repent, she’s actually rejoicing in her sin. Yikes, I have to stop thinking about that – it really makes me ill. It "grieves me in my spirit," as the Bible says. (I think that was either Paul or Jesus, that those words were describing; that they felt that way at times).
Well, as you said, you already told some of the people in your church. So…..you’ve done your part. If they choose to turn a blind eye to it, then well that’s their sin. And it is a sin, but it’s possible they are doing so out of ignorance [of the scriptures] so I can’t judge (I don’t have the right to anyway). I would say that if you haven’t told your pastor, however, you should do that since God has charged him with the flock. If he knows, then my honest thought was (after reading your last post), find a new church. Because that just isn’t right for Christians to ignore something that grievous.
Did you read the verse I sent you about Paul talking to the Corinthian church? I mean, from the tone of that chapter, he sounded REALLY upset and disappointed. He was not taking that lightly. I had the same reaction when I read what you wrote about your situation.
Leonie – I’ve been praying very fervently about a new home for you. I hope this potential new house you have found, turns out to be the one. But even if it isn’t, I know God will work out something for you. I continue to pray for that for you.
My sisters, I continue to pray for all of you. May God keep us strong, encourage us (through the Holy Spirit and through each other) and bless us.
Well – that’s all I wanted to comment on. Hope you all enjoy the upcoming weekend! With love, LT
(SOUTH AFRICA (CAPE TOWN)) Hi All my friends and sisters in Christ, It is the weekend again. Please pray for my boys and me that we will have a peaceful weekend with no drunks around us. And pray for me, for strength on Monday.
Have a blessed Mother’s Day everyone. Enjoy your blessings that God gave you. They are special. I know my 3 kids are. I love you all very much and am praying for all of you too. Love Me…….xxxxxxx
(USA) Everyone, You all have a wonderful Mother’s Day as well. Those thoughts were very beautiful Leonie. How is the new home search going? Is this new place working out? and how are your boys doing?
Anne, How are you and Steve doing? Did you all get a chance to talk? I am doing so great thanks for asking. Things have just been so busy lately. My little guy has two teeth now and he’s not been feeling so good. The husband and I are squabbling a little bit tonight but not bad. We came to a compromise but neither one of us is extremely happy about it. We’re both stubborn. :) I really hope that you all are doing well.
Dineo, I don’t know about your situations but if what I gather is correct you discovered your husband having an affair with another member of your church? You should Look up Matthew 18:15-20. This is when someone sins against you. If you’ve already confronted your husband and this woman, and you’ve already brought two or three "wittinesses" (fellow believers) with you; (sounds like you have) then according to the Bible LT is right, you need to let this be known to your entire congregation. If you’ve already confronted this sin against you with now avail. Then the bible says to confront it openly with your church. If you’re afraid of what people will think… Don’t be. Fear comes from the devil and is of the devil. You have nothing to fear but fear (the devil) itself. GOD will protect you. GOD will make this right but you need His help and the help of fellow believers.
How easy it is to forget what is truly happening when fear is involved! Would you care what anyone thought if your husband was about to die and you had to do something embarrassing to save him? Would embarrassment stop you from saving his life? How about his soul? The devil is not humble and basks in the battles he wins, but his greatest arsenal is that people humble him. They do not accredit is horrible deeds to him and give him the element of surprise in their lives. You, being afraid, is the devil using that fear to stop you from doing something about him tearing apart your life. TRUST GOD. Announce that you know what the devil is doing and fight. GOD will protect you! Do not let embarrassment stop you from saving your marriage and Standing up for what is right.
When you stand up for what’s right you stand up in the name of the LORD. Do not let a LITTLE THING like fear stop you. It has not power compared to righteousness. Trust HIM! and your Fellow Christians will support you. Do not let fear stop you.
Andrea, I am so sorry I didn’t get back to you sooner. Please forgive me? Happy Mother’s day to you especially. You must be a really strong one.
I Love you all very much and I do appreciate all of your prayers for my anger problem. They are really happening and so many others have noticed a change in me, most don’t exactly know what changed but they can tell it’s something. I am happy to testify that is the LORD changing my heart. Happy Mom’s day! Love, Lynne
(USA) Hey everyone, Did everyone have a good Mother’s Day? Mine was fantastic. God truly has blessed me with a wonderful son and a wonderful mother. And yes, a wonderful husband as well. Praise be His.
Anne how are you doing? I haven’t heard from you in a while now. Are things going well?
Has anyone heard from Andrea? I’m really praying for ya girl, and I hope your doing ok.
I also have 2 prayer requests if no one minds. First KJ wrote a message on this site that really reminded me of how hopeless a victim of sexual abuse can get. Pray that she is reminded how much the Father loves her and that He heals her pain. Please also pray for my cousin. She has a dangerous addiction to alcohol and her life is out of control. Pray that she can come back to church with me and that the Lord give her the Want to be rid of her addiction. Thank you all. Love, LYNNE
(CANADA) Hey Lynne, I’m glad you had a great Mothers Day. I’m doing ok and things are getting better between my husband and me. I keep on praying for him and myself and thanking God for intervening and being so faithful. I know we have a lot to do and we are yet to talk, but I think we’ll do it when we go away this weekend. Please pray for us that the presence of the Holy Spirit will be with us and God will open our hearts to talk honestly and listen to each other. I still need to work on my anger towards the other woman because the thoughts do come and I pray about it. Just pray for me gal. I’ll remember your cousin in my prayers and also KJ. How you doing? Thanks a lot for all your prayers
(SOUTH AFRICA) Hi Everyone, Thanks Lynne, I am trusting God for my place. He has promised me a place and a place He will give me. My boys are ok, our divorce was finalized on Monday. We are not married anymore. I was at home yesterday as well because my baby of 3 was not so well. My husband, my ex, went for a job interview and left his girlfriend with his mother in the house. I live in a separate entrance in the back of the house. I went to the shop with my baby and came back to find her sitting there. And there she was the whole day with his mother.
God made me so peaceful, but I was worried about my eldest son, Kaino, because he was upset about it. When I was praying on Monday evening for him, the Holy Spirit showed me his heart. He has a lot of anger towards his father and this girl. I woke him up and the Holy Spirit spoke to him through me, telling him that he needs to tell his dad how he feels, to let go of his anger and forgive his dad. He told me he can’t forgive him for what he did. I am just praying constantly for my son.
God made me realise that we as parents don’t really see what we are doing to our kids. But I know exactly what he is going through because I also come from that situation with my parents, bless their souls. But God changed them and in the end my father took care of my dying mother. I made peace with my dad, but only as a adult when God lead me to do it.
I am so hurt for my boys, but I am praying constantly and reading the Word. God also showed me that my his mother wants to kill me with her curses and lies, but He gave me Deuteronomy 3:22 to read and I typed and pasted it on my wall in my room. I tell you girls that is the best thing I am doing now. I type scriptures and print it and paste it in my room, so that my boys can be exposed to the word all the time. My eldest son reads it all the time. Their father cannot handle it. The enemy cannot handle the scriptures that are pasted up in my room. Why I am saying that is that he asked me why I have all these things against my wall. I did not answer him. My salvation is personal and I don’t have to discuss it with the enemy. I am surrounded with the word all the time. I believe in God’s word, it is my hope and my everything.
Thank all of you for loving and supporting me and especially for praying for me and my boys. I love you all, and I keep on praying for all of you too.
(USA) Leonie, I just read your comment and what an awesome idea. Keep doing what your doing and I’ll be praying for your boys and their family as well. I am so happy that the Lord brought you peace. I love you to girl!
Anne, I am doing well thank you except for today I am angry with my husband. He’s been lazy the past couple of days and I don’t know how to handle myself. So I am just not answering my phone until I am ready to not be so angry. Please pray for me. Thank you and I’ll continue prying for your talk and that it may go well. Love ya, LYNNE
(SA) Morning Ladies, it’s been a while since I have written, but I have been reading what each of you have written.
My hubby and I have been through some very rough patches too, where we’ve been separated, although still living in the same house.
We’ve been back together for almost 3 months now, and things are different between us, in a good way. Praise God for that, as it is only through HIS power that HE made the transformation and through God’s grace and HIM transforming both of us and our marriage. (My husband is not a child of God, although he does believe in God – there is a HUGE difference, as I am sure you all know). I have been praying for God to soften his heart, so that he can turn to God — that the power of the Holy Spirit will work in his heart, mind, body and soul. But that hasn’t happened YET! But it will!
I have been struggling the last few days with very low-self esteem, and this is becoming evident to my husband too. Just after we got together again, my husband said that he could see a HUGE difference in me, and he liked it! But I feel (and he can see it) that I am slipping into the old emotional habits again (due to our past) and that will just drive him away again.
I have prayed that God will keep my husband faithful (as this was a huge area of concern to me, as he has been unfaithful in the past). Does any of this make sense to anyone? I have been praying that the Lord will strengthen me and that satan will not place negative thoughts in my mind. I am struggling to stay positive. Last night we (my husband and I) were talking about marriage, and what the promise means, the day one makes on your wedding day (we were talking about other people – and not necessarily about us). And I said that a person had to keep to their vows no matter what – except for abuse – and he views it as "what happens if it doesn’t work out? Do you stay unhappy for the rest of your life" to which I replied, that is was a choice one made to make it work.
I have been asking the Lord that HE would continue working within us and within our marriage. Please pray with me – as my husband sometimes gets a bee in his bonnet, and just wants to run from everything, and then packs up and leaves. Not that he has indicated in anyway that he has any intention of doing this, as this had been bound in Jesus Name. (It’s hard on the kids too.)
May God bless each and everyone of you, and may HIS light shine upon you.
(SA) Good day ladies. It’s been a while since I posted. I trust you’re all well. I have been through quite a couple of troubles, and it’s been very difficult to just trust. Also, hello to Sue. I’m so happy that you and your husband are sorting things out.
Leonie, I am glad that you’re beginning to find yourself and things are still going to be clearer for you! Now is the time to look up and look on. I am with you all the way (in prayers), although I would love to be in Cape Town right now. Hey, we’re in this together and all of us are holding thumbs for you. Don’t worry about a thing, remember that the husband you’ve gotten to know is so wealthy and He can supply ALL your needs!
Ladies, please pray for me. I am so drained! I was being attacked by the "why do I even bother" syndrome! I am constantly confiding in God about how hopeless I am feeling and how weak I am, and I can’t manage. Neither can I carry this marriage on my shoulder’s anymore.
However, PRAISE GOD because He is so faithful. He just reminded me of the passage in 2 Corinthians 4:7 – 11. I am so weak – but He really does sustain and strengthen me. A lot of people keep telling me that I am brave, courageous etc. And I just kinda look up and say “If only you knew what God had to go through just to convince me to trust Him!” He’s the brave one, because honestly, I was so stubborn and I didn’t want to surrender my marriage or my emotions etc to God.
I believe the trials I went through and am still going through were put in my life so that He could get my attention! And now He has it all! I am so happy that I serve such a caring God, who would rather see me suffer, and save my soul – than to see me do my own thing and lose out on eternal life (and the countless blessings of walking in His presence every day!). I know He knows that it’s not exactly easy for me to give up my own will to do His. If it was difficult for Jesus, how much more me?!
Oh, I feel like going on and on and on! But I won’t. God is really transforming our lives, please let’s not give up. We face all sorts of trials, but they make us better people, and they make us stronger women and mums. Most importantly, they bring us closer to God and that makes it all the more worthwhile. So even though things might not go the way we want them to, we should be confident that we did it His way, and we’ll be blessed just for that.
Have a fabulous day!! Love y’all.
(SA) morning Ladies, I am really down and out, as my husband is phoning old flames (ladies he’s messed around with in the past) again during the day. He left his job 2 weeks ago and can not stand his own company, and hates being at home alone. I’m at home, we’re together 24/7 and he never goes anywhere without me. He speaks to people on the phone in front of me (not these ladies though – just people in general). He’s loving, attentive and spoils me rotten.
What gets to me is, that he has to seek this excitement from these other women. He chats and flirts with them – or he did in the past – which hurts me a lot. I have asked God to take control of this situation, because nothing I say or do will stop him from doing this. I truly believed that the Lord had stopped this, but I found out today, that he phoned 3 of them this morning. It hurts and it upsets me! Why ? Why? Why? Why, did God stop it for a while only and not permanently? I believe that the Holy Spirit has the power to intervene in our lives, and that with God NOTHING is impossible, no matter how big or small the problem it is.
Please pray for us. I don’t want to go down this road AGAIN! I’m not good with words and expressing myself, but please let the Lord stop this, and remove these Jezebel’s from our lives, and that I won’t allow satan gain "this" in our lives! God brought us together for a reason, and satan will NOT get the pleasure of coming between us, no matter how much he tries. Great is the Lord, and greatly to be praised! HE is the KING and through HIM "this" will not be an issue in our lives.
Join me please in prayer, and that I will stand strong so that my husband can see that I am a child of GOD, and that the HOLY SPIRIT will enable my husband to see me with NEW eyes and visa versa. Thanks and enjoy your day!
Hi Dineo, I’m so sorry to hear of your exhaustion in all that you are encountering in your marriage. It sounds heart-breaking and so very difficult to endure. My heart truly hurts for you… and with you.
As I was reading your comment, the scripture verses kept coming to mind, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light” (Matthew 11:28). God has reminded me of these verses and the truth behind them often. I believe He wants you to remember them also and to live by these principles in what you are living through.
I remember when my husband Steve and I were going through such difficult times in our own marriage, that God first pointed these verses out to me. I also remember using them when someone who married into my extended family was causing SO many serious problems. I had a hard time coping with what was going on. I remember crying out to God that I couldn’t take what was happening to our family anymore and that this person was more than I could bear to be with, or ever forgive.
I remember crying in bed one night and the Lord reminded me of these verses and told me that this burden was not assigned for me to carry because the load was more than I was created to bear. He told me to think of every grievance I had against this person, and to think and mourn through everything this person had done which hurt me and my loved ones. He told me that as I grieved through each event, to put each one along with my tears in an invisible box… fill it to the top with all I could bring to mind. And then wrap it with a ribbon, tie it with a bow, and hand it to Him. It was my gift to Him (which seemed like a strange gift to give the Lord). He told me that even though it seemed strange, that I was to do it and then, and only then, would He would carry it for me and would deal with it. In exchange, He would hand me His peace (a pretty uneven exchange, if you ask me). But I did what He asked. And it worked. Afterwards, even though the circumstances hadn’t changed, I had renewed strength and hope for some reason beyond my understanding. I will always remember this exchange as one of the most loving and powerful examples of God’s love for me.
I’m also reminded of the time when my mom was dying of cancer. It was so heart-breaking. My Dad and I were taking turns caring for her 24 hours a day near the end. And the end was so horrible. How I wish that no human being would ever have to go through what we did! I remember crying out to the Lord and saying, “This is too much! I can’t do this anymore. I can’t handle the pain or the responsibility of this. The burden is too heavy.” God brought those verses to my mind. He also caused me to look up at a watercolor I had painted for my parents several years before. In that watercolor I had printed the scripture, “Thou will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee; because he trusts in thee” (Isaiah 26:3). The Lord let me know that even though the pain was so horrible, and I felt so weak, I was strong in Him as long as my mind was “stayed” on Him and not upon what I couldn’t do by my human strength.
I also remember when years before that, my sister was in labor with my niece. I was in the delivery room with her and my brother-in-law. When she was close to delivery, she had her husband rubbing her back to help ease her back labor, and she had me up close to her face coaching her. When the pain got so intense, the Lord prompted me to tell her to look into my eyes, that together we would get through this. We locked eyes and I coached her in breathing and in concentrating on what she needed to do. After my sweet niece was born, my sister said that it was amazing how when she looked into my eyes, it didn’t hurt as much. She saw the love and found the strength to push on. But she said that whenever she looked away, the pain became more than she could bear going through.
The Lord has used that illustration and the other truths I just shared, to get through some pretty tough spots. When I feel overwhelmed, I am to give my pain and burden to Him and to keep my mind and my focus “stayed” upon Him. In exchange, He will give me whatever strength and insight I need to make it through the situation. He has never failed me yet!
I hope you will pray and think about what I am saying. Open your Bible and pray through the scriptures He provides for you (The book of Psalms is especially good for this). Cry out to Him. Exchange your burden for His love, compassion, and strength. And keep listening for His guidance. He will help you to do that which He ordains for you to do. You can trust Him. He is faithful even when no one else is!
I pray God’s blessing, strength, love, guidance, and hope into your life! Your sister in Christ, Cindy
(CANADA) Hey ladies, I hope you’re all doing well. Cindy, thank you so much for your testimony. I needed those verses. I’m going through another battle. God has really been faithful and my marriage is honestly getting better and that is what satan doesn’t want. Sue, I know what you’re going through coz no matter what I told my husband about staying friends with the woman he cheated on me with, he just doesn’t get it.
He did say he would take care of it. I don’t know if he did coz we haven’t talked about it. But trust me, I know that pain and the frustration. Like you, I also wondered why isn’t God ending the friendship? As for me, that’s what satan is using against me. The thoughts I have are making me angry and the harder I pray the harder he attacks. I got so tired that I yelled at satan to leave me alone and that I will stand strong with God. I know God is helping me I just can’t see.
I’m praying for this girl to know God and for God to surround her with Christian friends who will direct her to God, and for God to protect her from the evil plans of the enemy. Sue, I would suggest that you pray for this women and for your husband to have the willpower to flee from the lies of the enemy. That’s the best thing you’ll do. I’m doing that everyday and I know God will make a way but it’s not easy. Pray for me please to be able to wrap this and hand it over to God and to release all this angry feelings to Him.
I’m reminded of the verse in James 4:7-8, “Submit then yourselves to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Come near to God and He will come near to you.” Pray for my husband too, to flee from the lies of the enemy. We are going away this weekend and I know we’ll talk about things finally. Please pray for that too and that we’ll finally find healing.
I have invited Jesus to the trip and asked Him to be there throughout and to protect us from the enemy. I want to be free from all these feelings. Only God can help me. Thanks a lot for all your support and prayers.
Dineo, you’re truly right. God is using this time to help us grow and trust me, I feel so different. When i look back and remember what I’ve gone through, the pain was unbearable but what I have gained is so much. That’s truly the love of our Father. I’ll keep you in my prayers. Please don’t give up. That’s the plan of the enemy. God truly saves marriages. He has saved mine. Love you all. I will write when we get back. Thanks for your prayers. God bless. Love, Anne. Lynne, how you doing?
(UNITED STATES) Hello Everyone. I’m sorry I have not posted anything in awhile. I am just a little burned out and….well, at a loss for words really. I want to start by saying thank you to each and everyone of you for sharing your testimonials and your words of wisdom. You have all been so inspiring to me and countless others I am sure. I love you guys for this!
As far as my situation, I am truly fighting a spiritual battle right now, and to be sure I am losing. But there is still a part of me that refuses to give up. I haven’t quite come to terms with praying for my marriage…the hurt for me right now is too deep. But it’s not as though I don’t want my marriage to work out -I’m just conflicted as to why I would feel love for this man still.
I know my situation is no where near as painful as some women’s on this site, but it is quite heavy for me right now. I just don’t know and I don’t trust any thought or feeling or intuition. Perhaps that’s why I can’t really pray. I don’t know what to believe anymore. I don’t know what God wants from me anymore. I don’t know and it’s scary because I am not sure why I have had such a sudden loss of faith… especially when I know for a fact that God has delivered me and protected me so many times before. I suppose I am just not sure if it was ever in God’s will to be married to this man. Even as I wrote that though… I honestly think I feel like I am supposed to be. But if this is true…WHY?
With everything that is inside of me… I will continue to speak with God. And I will try to pray for the reconciliation of my marriage if it is God’s will. I will pray for clarity and true unconditional love and healing and purpose and strength… true strength and faith in the Lord and his purpose for my life. I will pray that God touches not only my heart but the hearts of all those hurt by the selfish actions of myself and my husband. With Love, Andrea
P.S. I will also pray for all of you