I Don’t Even Like Him—How Can I Pray for Him?
Have you ever been so mad at your husband that the last thing you wanted to do was pray for him? So have I. It’s hard to pray for someone when you’re angry or he’s hurt you.
But that’s exactly what God wants us to do. If He asks us to pray for our enemies, how much more should we be praying for the person with whom we have become one and are supposed to love? But how do we get past the unforgiveness and critical attitude?
Honest with God
The first thing to do is be completely honest with God. In order to break down the walls in our hearts and smash the barriers that stop communication, we have to be totally up front with the Lord about our feelings. We don’t have to “pretty it up” for Him. He already knows the truth. He just wants to see if we’re willing to admit it and confess it as disobedience to His ways. If so, He then has a heart with which He can work.
Power of Praying Wife
If you’re angry at your husband, tell God. Don’t let it become a cancer that grows with each passing day. Don’t say, “I’m going to live my life and let him live his.” There’s a price to pay when we act entirely independently of one another. “Neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord” (1 Corinthians 11:11).
Instead say:
“Lord, nothing in me wants to pray for this man. I confess my anger, hurt, unforgiveness, disappointment, resentment, and hardness of heart toward him. Forgive me and create in me a clean heart and right spirit before You. Give me a new, positive, joyful, loving, forgiving attitude toward him. Where he has erred, reveal it to him and convict his heart about it. Lead him through the paths of repentance and deliverance. Help me not to hold myself apart from him emotionally, mentally, or physically because of unforgiveness. Where either of us needs to ask forgiveness of the other, help us to do so.
If there is something I’m not seeing that’s adding to this problem, reveal it to me and help me to understand it. Remove any wedge of confusion that has created misunderstanding or miscommunication. Where there is behavior that needs to change in either of us, I pray You would enable that change to happen. As much as I want to hang on to my anger toward him because I feel it’s justified, I want to do what You want. I release all those feelings to You. Give me a renewed sense of love for him and words to heal this situation.”
A Challenge
If you feel you’re able, try this little experiment and see what happens. Pray for your husband every day for a month using each one of the 30 areas of prayer I’ve included in this book. Pray a chapter a day. Ask God to pour out His blessings on him and fill you both with His love. See if your heart doesn’t soften toward him. Notice if his attitude toward you doesn’t change as well. Observe whether your relationship isn’t running more smoothly.
If you have trouble making that kind of prayer commitment, think of it from the Lord’s perspective. Seeing your husband through God’s eyes—not just as your husband, but as God’s child, a son whom the Lord loves —can be a great revelation. If someone called and asked you to pray for his or her son, you would do it, wouldn’t you? Well, God is asking.
There is a time for everything, as it says in the Bible. That’s never more true than in marriage, especially when it comes to the words we say. There is a time to speak and a time not to speak, and happy is the man whose wife can discern between the two.
Pray Rather Than Say
Anyone who has been married for any length of time realizes that there are things that are better left unsaid. A wife has the ability to hurt her husband more deeply than anyone else can, and he can do the same to her. No matter how much apology, the words cannot be erased. They can only be forgiven and that’s not always easy. Sometimes anything we say will only hinder the flow of what God wants to do, so it’s best to, well, shut up and pray.
This is an excerpt from, The Power of a Praying® Wife
— TO HELP YOUR FURTHER —
Below are linked articles to read to guide you to pray for your husband in different ways than you might have otherwise thought:
• 10 Things Praying for Your Husband Does for You (the Wife)
• 30 Days of Praying for Your Husband
Filed under: For Married Women Spiritual Matters
(SOUTH AFRICA) Hi Girls. Hope you all are fine. First of all this is my last day at my current job. I did not get the job and will be at home now, but I believe and have faith that God has other opportunities for me out there so I will not panic.
Secondly I would like to inform everybody that my ex husband is getting married on this coming Friday. They are having a party at home so I will be taking the boys and going away for the evening. I do not want to witness this and I cannot let my boys witness this.
He upset me very much past Friday because he was taking care of our eldest son. He was at home on a school holiday. I put the child in his auntie’s bed and he took the child out there and put him in bed with him and his girlfriend. And when I spoke to my son later that day he made the child lie to me. He told me that he slept in his auntie’s bed. I found out that evening that it was a lie because the child confessed to me. How low can a person go…tell me, to do that to your own child? But it is in the past and I am not upset about it anymore. He is just not doing it again. He is doing wrong in front of the child and he teaches the child to lie. But you know what? God is going to deal with him and his sin.
I just want to wish you all well in the chat room and I pray that God will come through for all of you. God knows what is best for all of us and He has plans to prosper us. Just remember that.
I love you all and are going to miss you….but I won’t be away from this chat room for too long. I will speak to you again soon.
Your sister in Christ, Leonie
(USA) Leonie, I want to extend my sorrow to you over the situation with your husband. His actions are shameful, and I sympathize with you over all of the ways that you and your sons are suffering because of them. I pray the best for you. I/we are also praying for your job situation, as well as your housing situation. May God grant you favor and blessing!
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. A righteous man may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all” (Psalm 34:18-19).
(USA) Ladies, Well I am unable to check and write as often as before because of a busy schedule now, but I am so sorry to hear that some of my girls are not doing so well.
Tracy, Girl…. I have something I would like you to read 1 Peter 3:1-15. I have been struggling with this issue myself lately because my husband wouldn’t read with me or go to worship with me. Well I have been following this scripture lately and it does work. My husband actually attended church with me yesterday. So let the Lord’s light shine through you and don’t spend your time talking your husband into doing what is right. He will only resent you for it later. Show him by your actions what is right. About the counseling thing, I agree with LT 100%. I have had a serious anger problem for a very long time.
Your husband and I have a lot in common. I too am a very intelligent person and for a long time I used that as a crutch. I have been known to be very prideful at times as well and have learned that it is defeating. I am also very close to having a degree in social work and I really thought I knew it all. I thought I already knew everything they were already going to tell me. Guess what I was wrong!
Well the truth is that every one can see other people’s problems but no one sees their own until it smacks them in the face. Just pray for him with all of your might. I suggest that you see a Christian counselor or your pastor on your own then. Going by yourself is way more helpful than you realize. You will learn things you never though of before about yourself and your marriage. I had been going to counseling for a few months by my self and occasionally still do. While my husband and I still have yet to go together he actually sees a counselor on his own now to, and that in it’s self was a miracle!
I know our situations are very similar but I do not assume that they are the same. While my husband has some of the same attitudes expressed by yours, my husband is a believer (although fleshy at times). Another very significant difference is that I assume your husband does actually believe on some level but his "logic" makes him feel foolish for believing in something that is not as apparent to him. I ask you this Tracy: Is it really that your husband doesn’t believe in God or is it that he is angry with God?
Please take this advice with a grain of salt and compare to scripture. Pray before you act always, and consult with a counselor or spiritual adviser before acting on this advice.
Logic is not wisdom and even people who think logically (or are intelligent) know that there are things that logic cannot explain. Having intelligence is not having wisdom, while your husband is intelligent, he is very unwise. He’s thinking that he is so much smarter than a counselor is, as LT said, and it is more pride than anything. It’s also very foolish because he does not know this counselor yet. So is his assumption that he’s smarter than everyone else? I would ask him who is smarter than him in his eyes. When he replies with a name then ask him why that person is smarter than he is? Then ask him why his personal life is such a mess and why he is so unhappy right now? If he’s so much smarter then all of the counselors in the world then why isn’t he happy and living well?
GOD is bigger than this Tracy and you know that. I can tell that you do. God is way bigger, and way more intelligent, and wiser than your husband could ever be. He will remind us that He is GOD. Pray that He opens your husband’s heart. I also suggest that you consult with your pastor or a Christian counselor on your own. It’ll help; trust me I know. I’ll stay praying for you girl. I know that God has you in His hands.
Leonie, I love ya girl. I will pray that you find new work soon and a new place. Love, Lynne
(USA) Hey Ladies, I need some advice this time. My husband and I have really been under the attack of the devil lately. He has been ripping us apart once again. Last night things kind of came to a head when we had a huge fight right in front of our son. My husband expects me to do everything and I can’t. I can’t work; take care of our son, and the household. I just can’t do it all.
Yesterday was a very stressful day for me and I told my husband about it, so you’d think he’d be more helpful and supportive than normal right? Wrong! He only added to my frustrations. The only thing that kept me from snapping was that I stopped and asked God to take my anger away. I was really at the boiling point.
I feel terrible. I wish things had gone differently. I asked my husband for some time apart. I really think that things are getting to a point were it’s not productive for our son. He seems to be getting upset too and he’s just way too little for all that stress. My husband agreed that we should take a little time apart too. I suspect there is something more going on with my husband but I don’t know what it is. He’s been very distant lately and I can just tell that something is wrong. I am not going to think about all of the possibilities because that would just make me crazy. Instead I am just going to pray for my husband because that is all I really can do.
My question is: Has anyone here been through a separation. I read a little bit about a structured separation but I am not sure if that would be right in our situation. I really feel down because I hate the thought of giving the devil more room to play games in our lives but it’s worse for us to be together right now. Does anyone have any advice? I have never been completely separated before. The longest ever was about two weeks if that. Thanks ladies I appreciate it. Love ya, Love, Lynne
(USA) This response is for Gigi, although a little late. I read your comments and prayed and pondered them for a while before responding. I feel that today is the day that God has given me the appropriate verses and insights to share with you. Keep in mind that the Holy Spirit should lead you primarily and if anything that I (or any other human) says seems to contradict what you feel God has led you to do, then you always follow God first.
There are 2 verses that came to mind in reading your situation:
1 – regarding your husband’s constant mention of wanting you to move out: Read 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Your husband asking you to leave is against scripture. If he leaves there is nothing you can do about that, but there is no reason for him to be asking you to leave (unless you were maritally unfaithful and that doesn’t sound like that case).
2 – regarding your husband’s drug use and you bringing this valid concern up with him and him not "hearing" you on it, see Matthew 18:15-17. I believe this is the next course of action for you. I would recommend you talking to your pastor about this since your husband won’t hear you.
Let me point out one of the ways in which his drug use is a sin, based on scriptural interpretation. I’m going off the assumption that this drug is not prescription meds but, indeed, an illegal substance. If marijuana isn’t even legal, then anything stronger isn’t either. The Bible tells us to obey the principalities and magistrates. In the U.S. (and a lot of other countries except, perhaps, the Netherlands), drugs are illegal. See Titus 3:1 that explains that we are to obey the laws. Anyone who doesn’t and blatantly finds ways to defend taking illegal drugs is in violation of this scripture.
I also want to give you my personal reaction to your husband’s viewpoint on this. He actually says taking this drug gets him closer to God??? I mean I have to admit it took me a a few days just to digest that. I’ve heard a lot of twisted interpretations of scripture to defend sinful behavior and I’ve seen Satan use very deceitful ways to pull people off track but this REALLY takes the cake.
I have to be honest, Gigi, it sounds like your husband is being SEVERELY influenced by demons. I don’t say that to scare you but just keep your wits about you and stay very close to God through prayer. He’s endangering himself and others around him on this twisted path he’s taken. I’m always surprised at the things I hear about on this website that so-called "Christians" are doing and this one is no exception. Christianity, true Christianity, isn’t just about saying you believe in Christ (because even the demons fear God) – it’s about living that life through action. If I were you, I’d take a step back whenever things get too heated unless you know you can rise above the situation through the working of the Holy Spirit.
Anyway- these are my thoughts. Stay close to God and trust what God is telling you directly, not what your husband says when you know it’s wrong and a violation of scripture. You are to put God first, then your husband.
I highly suggest you talk to your minister and approach your husband through that avenue. Your husband still might not hear you or the minister. You might (although this shouldn’t be the first step) end up having to call the police if your husband keeps saying that his drug use is ok. I hope it doesn’t end up coming to that….. listen to God first, and then involve trustworthy Christians as well. You say your husband is doing this drug use with a friend from church as well?? Obviously neither your husband or his friend are living in line with God’s will right now. Make sure you involve people that have a clear understanding of scriptures to help you – that’s why I suggest only going to your minister right now.
And if anything I say conflicts with what you feel God is telling you then you must go with what God tells you, of course. You are in my prayers. Be blessed.
(USA) Hi Lynne, I’m so sorry to read of the growing problems you and your husband are experiencing. And it’s especially difficult when you have a son, who loves both his mom and dad, to see what is going on. It’s heart-breaking on many levels.
As for what you should do, it’s difficult for anyone else to tell you because the consequences can be so harmful if the wrong advice is given. So I perceive that many people are sitting back and are praying for you, but are quiet in giving advice. But I keep feeling a nudge in my spirit, so I’m timidly going forward to reach out to you.
As I read what you wrote, and knowing the history you have shared on this web site in the past, it’s not surprising that you would want to put some space between you. A “rest” from the tension sounds good. But is it really what is ultimately best for both of you, and for your son, and for the health of your marriage?
What I’ve found is that if both spouses see a “fire escape” that appears to look like it could bring even temporary relief, they will find a way to inch or run in that direction until they finally take it. But if there is no fire escape, they will find a different way to work things out (or not if they aren’t as wise or willing to live beyond misery). What I’m trying to say here (and I could be wrong) is that I perceive that you and your husband have had that “fire escape” in the corner of your eyes for a while now. And as a result, you’ve come to this place of being ready to take it. If that’s true, I want to ask you, what are you and your husband attempting to do?
Is a “structured separation” something you BOTH are considering so that you BOTH get real serious about working through the differences that are keeping you from acting like a marital team, or is it just an escape from the pain you are going through right now? If it will truly be used as a way to rebuild your marriage (with a plan in place beforehand), then it MAY work for you. If it’s just being used as a way of escape, then the separation could end up complicating things even more. Those kinds of situation have a way of getting away from you. One or the other eventually can say, “Well, I never MEANT for things to go in this direction, but they just did.” I’ve heard that line so many times I could scream. But where there is an opportunity for a spark, there is the potential for a damaging fire to happen.
Lynne, you’ve written before about the problem your husband has had with distancing himself in his relationship with you. And you’ve stated that he’s been playing with an emotional attachment he’s had with someone else (even though he is evasive about facing up to this situation with you). What makes you think that this separation won’t accelerate his distance with you and allow him to go further into the temptations he’s had with this woman or other women? Has he exhibited restraint in the past that has made you think he is stronger than is apparent from the perception of one who is on the outside looking at it?
I can well understand how tired you could be in fighting this battle and others you are fighting with as well. Everyone would agree with that one. But I want to warn you that this could be a dangerous fire escape you are trying to go down. I perceive that there is a spiritual warfare going on around you that is working to take your husband down, and working to destroy your marriage, and steal a father from living with his son and his wife. And I perceive that this is a critical time in that warfare, and by taking the trek down that fire escape, you could be losing the ground that you have gained in recent months as you’ve prayed and have grown in Christ on a personal level.
I encourage you to take your eye off of the “fire escape” unless you are absolutely sure that this is where God is taking you. I encourage you to try to think outside of the box of “separating”. Pray and list one “problem” after another and pray and think about how things could be better dealt with rather than separating.
A question comes to mind: have you both considered how expensive it will be for your husband to move out and live separately? When you tally up each of the expenses he would have, it can really add up. Even if he lives with a relative, he still has to contribute to the household expenses there somehow and he would have to chip in and help around that house somehow. If one of your battles is that you need more help around the house, why not have him pay for a part time cleaning person? It’s less expensive than it would be living apart. And you would have more money left over afterward to pay for counseling to help both of you “get on the same page.”
Sure, he should help out more around the house. But first things first. Do this as a “quick fix” and then go to a pro-marriage counselor who will help you both to eventually come up with better long-term solutions. You say that you can’t work, take care of your son, and take care of things around the house. Let me ask you, what do you think will happen if your husband moves out? How much help will you have then? It’s true that you won’t have him to clean up after if he moves out (if that was part of the problem), but you will have additional burdens added in exchange. You could be exchanging one problem for two more.
And if your husband moves out, you will be working full-time, cleaning, and trying to take care of your son when he’s not in day care, without any help from your husband. But you can say that at least he will have visitation so you could have a few hours to do some of what you need to do then. Why not figure out a quick way to have your husband spend time when he’s living with you instead of having visitation when he’s living outside of the home, and have time to do what you can during that time? Again, this is something a counselor or your pastor could help you to figure out, at least for now, and then be working on a better long-term relationship solution for later.
I would imagine that your pastor (and his wife), who have helped both of you in the past, could help you to figure some of this out. You both obviously need some type of guidelines that will help you both to refrain from saying what you shouldn’t and say what you should. We have a few postings on our web site in the “Communication Tools” section that you could use. Or you can write your own (and look at ours as a basic starting tool). Obviously, if you don’t do something, you will both keep attacking and withdrawing. Having no rules of communication hasn’t worked in the past, so you need to put something in place in the future. Again, your pastor or a counselor might be able to help you with this.
Also, there is a book that I would highly recommend. It’s called “The Walk Out Woman” by Dr Steve Stephens and Alice Gray, published by Multnomah. You can find a description of it in the “Save My Marriage” section under Resource Descriptions. What I like about this book is that after each chapter, it gives you “Something to Try” which helps you to work through different problems you may be encountering. I’ve recommended it to others and have received some positive feedback.
I just don’t have the time or space to go into all of the ways that you can think outside of the “separation box”. But let your mind imagine it. Ask the Lord to help you with this. All of this might sound tiring and difficult. But so is separation and divorce.
I could go on and on as far as what you could do to work on this, but above all else I recommend that you pray about what I’ve written and go with what the Lord tells you — just try to pray as impartially as it is possible. And don’t quit communicating with other Christians. You need to be in community with those who are willing to be honest (even if we don’t always agree) and care about you. And we DO care about you — very, very much! We will be praying for you!
(USA) HI Ladies, I just happened on this sight today at work. And wow have I been touched. I was wondering if you could pray for me and my family as well. A year ago this 4th of July my husband and I told our children we were going to be divorced. He had found someone on the internet and decided to make it a go with her. Anyway, my children are devastated and I feel so lost. I only recently accepted Christ as my Savior. I pray daily for Gods guidance. But I am still on the road to learning His Word.
My divorce was supposed to be final this July, however since my husband will be out of the country it has been postponed to Sept. I am starting to believe this has been a sign from God. So I pray for his guidance and his help in my husband salvation.
My husband is a very selfish man and so into his own needs he is blind to our children. This whole divorce came out of the blue and blind sided me. So if your words or prayers of encouragement can help others, I hope you will give me your time as well. Thank you for reading my post. Lynette
(USA) Cindy, You are 100% right. We were seeing this as a way out. It wasn’t right and the great news is that we’re are not going to separate. We are going to stay together and work on things. My husband before hasn’t been helping around the house that is true, but also he hasn’t been helping a lot with anything. It’s like we’ve been roommates more than a couple. Well, we are going on a date tonight and my son is going to spend the night with Grandma. I am excited. My husband has started helping more around the house these past two days as well.
This was heavy on my heart and I’ve been praying a lot about it and Cindy I don’t believe it was coincidence at all that you wrote what you did to me. God was working hard on me and I really appreciate everything you’ve said to me. Thank you Love
LYNNE
(USA) Hi Lynne, that is just beautiful what you wrote. I’m praying you have a wonderful evening and that your son has a great time at Grandma’s house!!! You have a lovely persevering heart.
This is sort of an aside, my separation from my husband, due to the physical abuse, was God mandated through the church. I didn’t seek it – I was so distraught and beside myself because I was being shoved and/or smacked in front of my son I didn’t know what to do at all, let alone try and separate. And I also knew if I did try and separate my husband would pursue me with a vengeance, call me an abusive parent and try to get my child taken away, etc. It would have been REALLY bad. So…..just to answer your question – the separation I had recently (for 6 weeks) was ordained by God, not me.
Have a lovely night out. You are beautifull!! Be blessed.
(USA) Hi Lynne, PRAISE GOD… PRAISE GOD… PRAISE GOD! What a wonderful answer to prayer. You and your husband have been so heavy on my heart. I’ve been praying that somehow the Lord would break through and start a new work in your marriage. What you just wrote affirmed what the Lord spoke to my heart last night, that you both need to start romancing each other and finding ways to build your relationship. It’s so easy for ANY of us to become roommates in our marriages because life can become so daily and can rob us of the sparks we need to keep the fires of our love alive and vital.
Late last night I was reading more of Stormie Omartian’s book “Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage.” There were two chapters that I read that spoke to my heart about your marriage. One was “If You Are No Longer Each Other’s Top Priority” and “If the ‘D’ Word Becomes an Option.” It’s not that you’ve mentioned divorce in your comments on this web site, but if you both keep going in the direction you’ve been heading, I’m concerned that it might be seen as an option.
There’s one part in particular where I thought of you (and other’s I’m praying for) when I read it. Stormie wrote: “Whenever one spouse starts to feel unloved, and the other spouse is unloving, they are in dangerous territory. They can become strangers living in the same house but never making contact. And this is far more common than most people care to admit. At that point, the relationship is dying. If one or both of them then become involved in the activities of life and never include the other, they are headed for emotional divorce. They will grow completely apart if they don’t take immediate steps to stop it. They have to start saying no to everything and everyone else and yes to each other.
“…Don’t settle for an emotional divorce. Don’t settle for less than what God has for you in your marriage. And what He has for you cannot come about if you have a big “D” branded on your heart that represents the divorce you are always considering and leaving open as an option.” (Let me say here that it wasn’t so much a “D” that I saw with you and your husband but a big “S” — Separation. But what I also saw was that the “S” could be a precursor and eventually lead to a “D”.) “Once that gets into your heart, it will start to burn an imprint. If you let it stay there long enough, it gives you a way out and keeps your relationship from growing deeper and more committed.
“The more you give place to divorce (or separation) as an option, the deeper the imprint burns, the greater the distance that grows between you, and the more disconnected you will feel from one another until you have a spirit of divorce. Then it becomes a tearing of the heart. It becomes not about IF you will divorce, but WHEN. Once the “D” word takes hold in your mind, it almost has a life of its own. The spirit of divorce takes over and gets the process rolling. It’s as though a divorce demon says, ‘I’ll take it from here.’ Then you stop making plans for a future together and you only make plans for a future alone. Things will get worse between you, and one day when you have constant strife, arguments,and discord, divorce will seem like a pleasant relief.
“If you are in a dead marriage relationship where there is no joy, no pleasure, no communication, no common interests or goals, nothing to look forward to, and no hope for the future — in other words, no fresh air — then you must do something immediately. Get before the Lord and confess every thought you have had of divorce so the spirit of divorce won’t establish a stronghold in your heart. Pray for God to renew a right spirit in you and in your spouse.”
As I was reading this two thoughts came to mind concerning your marriage. One is that you need to start doing some fun things together (like you will be doing tonight — make sure it’s a fun time and not a time of talking about difficult issues. You can do that at another time). You need to do some heart-warming things that will build up your good feelings about each other and your marriage. And the other is that you need to sit down and draw up some kind of “10 Commandments” for how you relate to each other. Too much toxicity is going on. Just like your wedding vows, you need to figure out what things and actions you vow that you WON’T allow yourselves to do when you argue (like name-calling, saying the “D” word or “S” word, raising your voices, saying things to each other in a disrespectful manner, withdrawing before things are better for BOTH of you, etc.). It is an important vow you make for the strengthening of your home and relationship. You come up with your own list. (We have some samples on the web site in the “Communication Tools” section if you need some help.)
But you both need to work on building your love and care for each other in intentional ways, and you need to learn how not to hurt each other when you argue or need to talk. Once you start doing those things, a lot of your other problems will start working themselves out. I’m sure of it.
Please know Lynne that I (as well as Steve) care very much for you and your husband. You are on both of our hearts and in our prayers. What you wrote above touched my heart deeply. I rejoice with you over the starting of this victory! And that’s what it is… just a start… but a good one. YEAH GOD!!!
It’s not that a marital separation always leads to disaster, because sometimes it can help. But I didn’t sense that in what was happening with your marriage as it is. I’m just so glad that you are both giving this a try this way. Have a great time tonight and prayerfully it will just be the beginning of many more good times! Blessings!
Lynette, I want you to know that you and your husband are also in our prayers (along with many others who reach out to this ministry). I’m so very sorry for the betrayal you’ve suffered and the tragic split in your relationship. I hurt deeply for you.
I pray you don’t give up hope. I encourage you to work on your own “stuff” right now. Take a prayer journey through the Marriage Missions web site and read whatever quickens in your spirit, and then work on things about yourself that the Lord points out to you as needing help. And pray for your husband in the meantime. Pray that what the Lord helps you to overcome, will be noticed by your husband in a positive way. And then if your husband comes back home, you’ll be in a better place in your spirit right away. I pray blessings and hope and help upon you as you try to be the woman you were created to be! And congratulations! Welcome into the family of God. We are now sisters, and I love knowing that!
(USA) Cindy, LT, You ladies have really been a blessing in my life and I am so glad that I found this site. It’s such a helpful tool when the devil attacks our marriages. I am going to have a great time tonight, and Cindy you’re right, no serious talk tonight. I do that a lot and I think it ruins things. You guys are awesome. All of these ladies here are.
Well… I am gonna get going. I’m almost done with work and I am so excited to be going on a date with my husband tonight. I got a perfect outfit and everything. I almost feel like I did when we were first dating because it’s like we’ve been texting all day while we work and both getting excited about seeing each other. I haven’t been excited to see him in a long time. This is going to be great. We almost did go through an emotional "D" and it’s great to know that he wants to get back too. It feels good. Love ya guys have a great fourth of July. Lynette, I am praying for you girl I really am Love ya. Love LYNNE
(USA) Thank you ladies for the comments. I have been praying for God’s will to be done in my life. I am so grateful for the relationship that I have with Him and look forward to it growing from here on out. I also pray for my husband, with hopes that he will see this legacy as a tragedy to leave our children. I pray he will find salvation as I have and swallow his pride and try to come home. I know with God’s good grace I’m to swallow my pride as well and make it work. I just hope God has enough time to accomplish this feat.
Thanks again and have a wonderful weekend. Lynette
(USA) Hey ladies, Lynette, Girl I just said a prayer for you. However, I feel as if God is putting it on my heart to tell you this… Please allow it to be a known as fact that you’re open to the idea of reconciliation if your husband does so choose to come home. If he swallows his pride it doesn’t mean anything unless you do the same. Really watch your attitude; it’s going to be very hard, and you have every right to be upset but don’t let that anger get in the way of what you really want. If what you really want is reconciliation then let that guide your actions and your tone. Pray that God guides your tongue before speaking to your husband.
In other news our date went great! My husband’s actions have really surprised me lately. I was ill yesterday and unable to go to church. I thought my husband would just take this as his reason to stay home too but he actually went and brought our son. He’s been very loving towards me lately and I pray that it continues. Ladies if you don’t mind I also ask that you pray for my husband and his issues with lust? It’s a dangerous foot hold that the devil has with him and he needs all the prayer he can get. I really appreciate it. I love you all very dearly and if there is anything I can ever pray for you all I will.
Leonie, Anne, Andrea, How are you ladies doing? I miss you all and pray for you regularly. Hope all is well. Love, LYNNE
(USA) Hey Ladies, How is everyone doing? I haven’t been on in a while but it actually looks like I haven’t missed very much :P Hope that everyone is doing well. I just wanted to be a living testimony for a moment. Prayer really is a blessing in its own right. I am living proof that Prayer works and God is very, very real. My marriage and my life have completely transformed and God is truly more amazing than we realize. So if any of you ladies ever feel as if there just isn’t enough left in you to fight, stop for a second and know that God is in you and He is more than enough for both. I love you all very much and I guess no news is good news … hopefully. Love, Lynne
(CANADA) Hey girls how have you all been? I haven’t written in a while my computer had a virus for a while so I couldn’t use it. I have read all the comments. Lynne, when I read your first comment about the separation I can’t explain what I felt until I read all the comments. I can’t tell you how happy I am for you and from your last comment, I can tell things are improving. I prayed for you and your husband in the morning and thanked Him so much for His blessings. I love you gal and I’m really happy for you.
Lynette, how are things going? Don’t give up on your marriage. Nothing is impossible with God. I think we’ve all come to realise that in our marriages. We’re all here for you. As for my husband and I, we are doing fine, dealing with the disagreements that come between couples, but we always deal with them before they get out of hand.
Ever since I wrote about my husband’s frustrations he’s decided and prayed about changing his career to fire fighting. He’s always wanted to do it and had always read up on being a volunteer, but now he’s decided to go for it. He’s really excited and he’s to be so much better now. Pray for him and for this new found dream.
I also have a prayer request for our friends (my husband’s best friend and his wife), they’re going through marriage problems that are really driving them apart. The enemy is really lying to him. Please pray for them and for the woman that he’s now communicating with on line a lot, hence making him think he married the wrong woman. It will be their one year anniversary on Monday. Thanks a lot. God bless you all. Lynne how’s your cousin doing?