Do you pray for your marriage? If so (which we hope you do) we encourage you to pray scriptures for your marriage.
“Someone said that a successful marriage requires partners of steel. I believe that is true. But I would add that prayer is the anvil upon which the partners in a successful marriage must be shaped. If you and your spouse follow a proper plan to pray, God will shape you according to His desires and will make your marriage everything He wants it to be.
“Someone said, “What is a proper plan of prayer? It is simply a plan that helps you and your spouse consistently and fervently pray God’s will for all areas of your relationship. God loves you so much that He revealed His will for every area of your life in His Word. For your marriage to reach the highest level possible, you and your partner must know God’s will for your relationship and live accordingly. The best way to begin is to pray God’s very Word, asking Him to carry out His will in your lives.” (Lee Roberts, from the book, “Praying God’s Will for My Marriage”)
And that’s what we’d like to do in this Marriage Message. As we’ve said before, the principles for loving each other in marriage are the principles for living that God reveals throughout the Bible. So with that in mind, we’d like to encourage you to not only read the principles for living that are given to us in the Bible, and to live them out, but to also pray scriptures as you pray for each other.
Pray Scriptures
But what if you are the only one who is praying in your marriage?
“Your prayers for your marriage have power, even when you are the only one praying. That’s because the two of you are one in the eyes of God, and what one does affects the other —either for good or for bad. Of course, the power is even greater when the two of you pray together, but I don’t want to belabor that point. If you have a husband (wife) who will pray with you, consider yourself blessed. Most people don’t have that.
“What if you are the only person in the marriage who is a believer? What if you are the only one who is really living God’s way? Or only you are willing to submit to God’s perfecting process? Or are willing to work on the relationship? What if you understand the enemy’s attack on your marriage and your spouse doesn’t get it? Can YOUR prayers alone save the marriage? I believe they can. In fact, I have heard of miracles in that regard.
“… Even if you are the only one with a willing heart, your humble prayers can pave the way for God to do miracles in you and in your marriage relationship.” (Stormie Omartian, “Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage)
Pray Scriptures
The following are prayers that God has impressed upon my heart that you may find helpful as you pray for your marriage. They are based upon the scriptures that are given after each prayer. We hope they will bless your prayer life.
• Lord, please show me how to find the time to store your commands within my mind. As I turn my ear to Your wisdom, help me to apply my heart to doing things YOUR way. I know you are the giver of wisdom. Help me to hear what you want me to learn even if I don’t always understand Your ways, or why you allow certain things to happen in my married life. I want to trust you with my whole heart. Please help me. I know that as I trust in You, You have promised me that You will make my paths straight. Thank You. (Prayer based on Proverbs 2:1-6 and Proverbs 3:5-6.)
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• Lord, help me so that “love and faithfulness” never leaves me, no matter what happens within my marriage. Show me how to bind them around my neck and to wear them around the tablet of my heart so they protect me. Help me to guard my heart from the temptations that are all around me. You know my weaknesses, but so does the enemy of my faith. I don’t want to do things that would dishonor You or my marriage vows. I want to be a promise keeper, just as You are a promise keeper.
Give me discernment when temptation is waiting to ambush me. I don’t want to stumble into that which will snare me into sin. Help me to “preserve sound judgment and discernment” and not to let them out of my sight. I know they will be life for me. I know that “there is a way that seems right” but that it can lead to death. Help me not to go there. For you are my confidence and you are able to keep my foot from being snared. Thank You Lord. (Prayer based on Proverbs 2:11-12; Proverbs 3:3; plus, Proverbs 2:12-26; Proverbs 4:23.)
Pray Scriptures of Confession
• Sometimes I say things I shouldn’t. Help me to “let no unwholesome thing” come from my mouth, but only what is helpful for building my spouse and children up, rather than tearing them down. I acknowledge that I am not my spouse’s Holy Spirit. That is Your position. I do not want to grieve You, or say things what will cause more damage to my marriage relationship, rather than help it.
I know that the “tongue of the righteous nourishes” and “spreads knowledge.” Help me to “speak the truth in love” when it will benefit the situation rather than contaminate it. I don’t want to be a fool who lacks judgment and speaks in haste. I know that discernment, and the timing, and tone of my words are as important as what I say. Thank You, and help me Lord. (Prayer based on Ephesians 4:15; and Ephesians 4:29; Proverbs 29:20; Proverbs 10:21; and Proverbs 10:32.)
Here’s another:
• Lord, I know that loving money is the “root of all kinds of evil.” It has caused many to wander from the faith and pierced themselves with grief. I don’t want to place a higher value on money than You know is best or would condone. But sometimes it causes problems in our marriage when our expenses are higher than the money we have available each month. You promise to meet all our needs “according to Your riches in Christ Jesus.” If one of us is spending more than we should, I pray that You will reveal this truth to us and help us to line our lives with Your will.
You tell us not to worry about how our needs will be met. Help me Lord, not to worry and to release those things that I cannot change concerning our finances. I know that as I seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, You will give us the things we truly need. I need Your help in being “content whatever the circumstances.” In the Bible I’m told that “I can do all everything through Him who gives me strength.” You own it all, and if You deem that we should have more, it will be done. (Prayer based on 1 Timothy 6:10; Philippians 4:19; Matthew 6:25-34; Philippians 4:11-13; Psalm 136.)
Pray Scriptures Concerning Forgiveness:
• Heavenly Father, it is difficult to forgive my spouse sometimes. I know that I am not perfect either. I’ve fallen short of Your standards. And yet you love me and even sent Jesus to die for me while “I was yet a sinner.” Help me to be as gracious to my spouse as you are to me. I know that if I forgive my spouse for the things that grieve my heart, that you will forgive me for the things I have done that I shouldn’t.
I also know if I refuse to forgive my spouse, it will poison my spirit. It starts as a bitter root defiling not only my marriage, but others I come in contact with. Help me Lord to let go of unforgiveness and to be in the center of Your will for my life. (Prayer based on Romans 3:23; Romans 5:8; Hebrews 12:14-15; Matthew 6:14-15.)
We hope these prayers will help you in your marriage and that they will inspire you to dig deeper into the Bible to learn, live, and pray as God leads.
Cindy and Steve Wright
Filed under: Marriage Messages
Please, I met this man after so many years of waiting single but he’s from another tribe and am not sure if I want to or will be allowed to marry him; he has great plans for his future and it seems we are on the same track but I don’t want to say yes till I hear from God that “he’s the real one” because I’ve suffered enough heart breaks and don’t want more. Please, how do I go about it?
What is wrong with his tribe? Where I come from, we marry from any tribe. It’s a matter of understanding each other and knowing what tribe your home will be, or better still, incorporate both tribes in the home. God will not come and grab you by the hand and say, this one is the one. How long you have known his character is also an important matter in this. Love is about taking risks. If it means breaking your heart again coz you tried to love, then God ahead. All things will work out well for you. Hope your family understands. Wishing you well
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I feel like I am in a hopeless state. My wife wants a divorce. I don’t. Please pray.
Erick. Show her that you want to make things works. Us ladies are not difficult. Shower her with flowers and dates and ask for forgiveness for things you also did not do. lol. Lead her in this marriage. Be the pursuer and let her realize why she loved you in the first place. Its difficult but stand on God and all will be well in his time. We refuse divorce in Jesus name. Show her the change she wants to see in the marriage. Hope all is well and ends up well with you.
Please pray for my husband andmy marriage please thank you god bless
My life is full of hazard. I believe everybody blindly and they do wrong with me. I had a lover last year and he married another girl after continuing with me for 8 years of relationship. I was depressed a long time. Then I begged to GOD if he gave just one person for me who is educated, well mannered and responsible for me and my family. I say and say to GOD. Many proposals had come. But I chose one of them and judged him. I wondered that he is just what I begged from GOD. I was very thankful to God. But recently he has said to me that it is impossible for him to marry me. I love him very much. I cannot accept this. I’m feeling so lonely. What should I do to improve from this situation?
Hi Cindy. It’s me, O, again. I lost this sites page and have been searching for it for months. I want to give you an update that my husband is no longer in our home yet still I have contact with him. All you wrote to and about me was so true. I still am weak and wish I could get to a point where I don’t deal with him at all. Since the time of my last post he has gotten worse. He is facing another penitentiary sentence or possibly probation for possession of crack. Since my last post he has definitely physically abused me again and again. He has been kicked out of our home for 2 months now and I know that is not a long time but I am determined to stick with it this time.
I have a set of 16 yr old twins (before I met my husband) as well as 16 month old twins. I know. Only God can give THAT to a person, right. 7 children in all – the last 5 are all by my husband (of that what he knows). He has not physically harmed any of our children since he did that horrible thing to my beautiful son but what he has done is during a time he was assaulting me verbally. My 16 yr old daughter confronted him and called him every name back that he called me…and then some. He then turned his assault towards her verbally calling her whore, the b word, slut, and so much more.
On that day he threatened physically violence towards her. He choked me in front of her and said to her “see b****, its just that easy!” I called the police on him before he did that fearing he would try to physically hurt her and I know, if had it gotten that far, he would have brutalized her even worse than he has ever done me because he deeply resents my oldest children. I told my daughter in front of him that I choose her and I am responsible for this and will put this nightmare she and all my children have been forced to live to an end.
Now if I communicate with him it’s usually in very short intervals, never at home as I explained to him he will not be there, and is usually out of sympathy for him. He says he is so sorry, wants to change but, Cindy, he went for sentencing for his latest charge on 1/6, and was told by the judge to go to rehab. It is now 2/4 and he has only attended AA meetings, and just 3 days ago got full time employment. I find him repulsing but believe I must be ill as well.
I STILL hope one day he really will change. The most I can say for myself is I have left him in every way as we don’t even touch each other anymore. But spiritually I am still holding on to him. I know my thoughts are so irrational but I fear he will someday get better and be a wonderful man to some woman that has no ideal about his past. Please give me your advice because even abusive relationships are not black and white. Thank you so much again. You helped me so very much and I have peace when he is not around but wish I did not miss him or feel sorry for him.
I was recently invited to a bridal shower, which the mother of th bride hosted for her daughter. Instead of inviting her daughter’s friends, she invited all her married friends to come and give her daughter advice on different aspects of married life.
It was there where I realized how little did I pray for my marriage and my husband. I had developed so much hatred for him that anything to do with him would make me want to throw up. In that event a nun was invited, she cracked the cement that was blocking my ears about praying and forgiving my husband.
When she spoke about a movie called, War Room, which I had not seen, and very few had at that event. I started looking for it. After watching it, I realized that my husband was never like this, I know I have changed as well but I always say it’s because of his actions.
I now want to pray for him and our marriage but all I now need is a mentor to guide me through this hard long journey. I went to my priest and told him and he is willing to guide me but I guess I need someone that will be hands on. I don’t read the Bible much, hence I found your site very nice as there are scripture readings that I can do and create my own prayer strategy to fight the devil and release both me and my husband from th his bondage.
Thank you and may God continue to bless and protect you. May you both continue to help married people in realising how great marriages can be only if God is the head of that home. Regards, Khabo.
I’m so greatful for these prayers. We are married 4 years at age 55 and 65 ( he is older). I was widowed and had been alone for many years. He is an over-collector and it has been very hard on me. Without prayer I could not do this. God Bless each couple that sincerely wants Jesus Christ right in the middle of their marriage. Love and God’s Best, Patsy