Do you pray for your marriage? If so (which we hope you do) we encourage you to pray scriptures for your marriage.
“Someone said that a successful marriage requires partners of steel. I believe that is true. But I would add that prayer is the anvil upon which the partners in a successful marriage must be shaped. If you and your spouse follow a proper plan to pray, God will shape you according to His desires and will make your marriage everything He wants it to be.
“Someone said, “What is a proper plan of prayer? It is simply a plan that helps you and your spouse consistently and fervently pray God’s will for all areas of your relationship. God loves you so much that He revealed His will for every area of your life in His Word. For your marriage to reach the highest level possible, you and your partner must know God’s will for your relationship and live accordingly. The best way to begin is to pray God’s very Word, asking Him to carry out His will in your lives.” (Lee Roberts, from the book, “Praying God’s Will for My Marriage”)
And that’s what we’d like to do in this Marriage Message. As we’ve said before, the principles for loving each other in marriage are the principles for living that God reveals throughout the Bible. So with that in mind, we’d like to encourage you to not only read the principles for living that are given to us in the Bible, and to live them out, but to also pray scriptures as you pray for each other.
Pray Scriptures
But what if you are the only one who is praying in your marriage?
“Your prayers for your marriage have power, even when you are the only one praying. That’s because the two of you are one in the eyes of God, and what one does affects the other —either for good or for bad. Of course, the power is even greater when the two of you pray together, but I don’t want to belabor that point. If you have a husband (wife) who will pray with you, consider yourself blessed. Most people don’t have that.
“What if you are the only person in the marriage who is a believer? What if you are the only one who is really living God’s way? Or only you are willing to submit to God’s perfecting process? Or are willing to work on the relationship? What if you understand the enemy’s attack on your marriage and your spouse doesn’t get it? Can YOUR prayers alone save the marriage? I believe they can. In fact, I have heard of miracles in that regard.
“… Even if you are the only one with a willing heart, your humble prayers can pave the way for God to do miracles in you and in your marriage relationship.” (Stormie Omartian, “Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage)
Pray Scriptures
The following are prayers that God has impressed upon my heart that you may find helpful as you pray for your marriage. They are based upon the scriptures that are given after each prayer. We hope they will bless your prayer life.
• Lord, please show me how to find the time to store your commands within my mind. As I turn my ear to Your wisdom, help me to apply my heart to doing things YOUR way. I know you are the giver of wisdom. Help me to hear what you want me to learn even if I don’t always understand Your ways, or why you allow certain things to happen in my married life. I want to trust you with my whole heart. Please help me. I know that as I trust in You, You have promised me that You will make my paths straight. Thank You. (Prayer based on Proverbs 2:1-6 and Proverbs 3:5-6.)
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• Lord, help me so that “love and faithfulness” never leaves me, no matter what happens within my marriage. Show me how to bind them around my neck and to wear them around the tablet of my heart so they protect me. Help me to guard my heart from the temptations that are all around me. You know my weaknesses, but so does the enemy of my faith. I don’t want to do things that would dishonor You or my marriage vows. I want to be a promise keeper, just as You are a promise keeper.
Give me discernment when temptation is waiting to ambush me. I don’t want to stumble into that which will snare me into sin. Help me to “preserve sound judgment and discernment” and not to let them out of my sight. I know they will be life for me. I know that “there is a way that seems right” but that it can lead to death. Help me not to go there. For you are my confidence and you are able to keep my foot from being snared. Thank You Lord. (Prayer based on Proverbs 2:11-12; Proverbs 3:3; plus, Proverbs 2:12-26; Proverbs 4:23.)
Pray Scriptures of Confession
• Sometimes I say things I shouldn’t. Help me to “let no unwholesome thing” come from my mouth, but only what is helpful for building my spouse and children up, rather than tearing them down. I acknowledge that I am not my spouse’s Holy Spirit. That is Your position. I do not want to grieve You, or say things what will cause more damage to my marriage relationship, rather than help it.
I know that the “tongue of the righteous nourishes” and “spreads knowledge.” Help me to “speak the truth in love” when it will benefit the situation rather than contaminate it. I don’t want to be a fool who lacks judgment and speaks in haste. I know that discernment, and the timing, and tone of my words are as important as what I say. Thank You, and help me Lord. (Prayer based on Ephesians 4:15; and Ephesians 4:29; Proverbs 29:20; Proverbs 10:21; and Proverbs 10:32.)
Here’s another:
• Lord, I know that loving money is the “root of all kinds of evil.” It has caused many to wander from the faith and pierced themselves with grief. I don’t want to place a higher value on money than You know is best or would condone. But sometimes it causes problems in our marriage when our expenses are higher than the money we have available each month. You promise to meet all our needs “according to Your riches in Christ Jesus.” If one of us is spending more than we should, I pray that You will reveal this truth to us and help us to line our lives with Your will.
You tell us not to worry about how our needs will be met. Help me Lord, not to worry and to release those things that I cannot change concerning our finances. I know that as I seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, You will give us the things we truly need. I need Your help in being “content whatever the circumstances.” In the Bible I’m told that “I can do all everything through Him who gives me strength.” You own it all, and if You deem that we should have more, it will be done. (Prayer based on 1 Timothy 6:10; Philippians 4:19; Matthew 6:25-34; Philippians 4:11-13; Psalm 136.)
Pray Scriptures Concerning Forgiveness:
• Heavenly Father, it is difficult to forgive my spouse sometimes. I know that I am not perfect either. I’ve fallen short of Your standards. And yet you love me and even sent Jesus to die for me while “I was yet a sinner.” Help me to be as gracious to my spouse as you are to me. I know that if I forgive my spouse for the things that grieve my heart, that you will forgive me for the things I have done that I shouldn’t.
I also know if I refuse to forgive my spouse, it will poison my spirit. It starts as a bitter root defiling not only my marriage, but others I come in contact with. Help me Lord to let go of unforgiveness and to be in the center of Your will for my life. (Prayer based on Romans 3:23; Romans 5:8; Hebrews 12:14-15; Matthew 6:14-15.)
We hope these prayers will help you in your marriage and that they will inspire you to dig deeper into the Bible to learn, live, and pray as God leads.
Cindy and Steve Wright
Filed under: Marriage Messages
I love my husband with all my heart. We have been maried for less than 2 years. We have been talking for separation for a while. He looks so unhappy with me. That breaks my hearts. Please pray for us. May the Lord help us to work on our misunderstandings and show us the way to be united again. We have a wonderful boy together. And I just want us to be happy. May God bring peace and happiness in my house. May he forgives me for all and save my marriage.
I want to say big thanks to Almighty God, for mercy and love upon my life. I am very much grateful. He has done it for me. My marriage is near and fast approaching. My traveling to Germany to be with husband is a big miracle. Double testimony. Thank you Jesus, after many disappointments; finally God is settling me with the best.
Please pray for me and my husband… I want to put my marriage back together but my husband is not willing and it’s largely my fault because I was critical and non-supportive of him.
My husband and I have been married for 2 years, 3 years in April. We recently had a baby boy (only child, 2 months old, I’m still on maternity leave). He has asked me for a divorce and has moved out. I’m currently at my parent’s place. I’m a bit scared of being alone without any support because our baby is still small.
I am 4 years older than my husband. I am 31 he is 27. He says that I am controlling, critical and non-supportive. He also says that I have hurt him too much and therefore doesn’t want to be with me anymore, he doesn’t even want to go to counseling. I agree that I’m controlling and have hurt him etc and I have apologized, but he doesn’t want to accept it. We have been to counseling before it was in the beginning of my pregnancy because he started going out and staying out all night. The counseling didn’t help and now my husband is totally unwilling to try to fix our relationship. He says that we are too different. His family doesn’t get along with me and are encouraging our divorce.
Please help, he has not even tried to make any contact except asking how our baby is doing once in a while. I don’t want to get divorced. I want to save our relationship. I do still love him but at this point I’m too scared to even send him a text message for fear of messing things up even further.
Please pray for us to heal our marriage and bind the bad things and people who are keeping us apart, especially bad family members who are not encouraging our reunion.
Hello please pray for my wife and I. We have been married for 14 yrs and together 4, prior to that. The main issue has been trust. I found out information that my wife was having an affair and then the guy told her he was seeing someone esle. That crushed my wife so bad she started treating me different. She also sent a text message to her best friend explaining although she is still married, she was in love with this guy. If that was not bad enough my wife’s best friend that is a Christian as well, has been condoning the affair. So please pray for us. Thank You.
Greg, I am so sorry to hear that your wife is having an affair. I am going to be with you in prayer. I encourage you to forgive your wife and do not show her that what she is doing hurts you a lot.
Do not act desperate. If possible you can move to a friends/parent’s place without telling her where you are going, just to see her reaction.
Finally lets pray to God for an answer. In the beginning God created man; he made him sleep and got only one rib from him. God didn’t get the same rib from two different men. Tell God that if your wife is truly the rib he got from you, then he should change her heart and bring her back to you.
I hope this helps. God bless you
I recently found out that my husband was in a relationship while we were separated. I found a note from the woman on reasons she loves him. The note is from 2013 and he still has it. He moved out of our home for two years at which time we were regularly going to counseling. I feel so betrayed and lied to. Last year he moved back home but we have not been intimate for nearly three years.
I have stuck with him because I want to honor God with our marriage and have been trying so hard to save our marriage just to end up in this place. I want God to confront my husband and bring him to a place of repentance. What do I do? My husband has not told me any of the above and I believe he has kept it from me so he won’t hurt me. Too late, I’m hurting so much and I feel mad at God for not answering my prayers and allowing this infidelity to happen. I don’t understand. Please help me to understand, to trust, and to know what to do.
Rebekah, I truly understand what you are actually going through,
1. You shouldn’t be mad at God for not answering your prayers, you know he answers our prayers at the time we least expect him to do so. Just try to wait on him patiently knowing that he is a loving God who answers every prayer. Let his will be done.
2. Now that you know he’s having an affair, ask God for the grace to forgive him, (YES it’s not easy because you’re mad) but calm down, relax and then pray to God in a very loving tone. Declare to God that as you wait for him to take away all the anger; you have forgiven your husband. I learned that God doesn’t really answer prayers that are said out of anger, because he looks into our hearts and he knows exactly what you can do to your husband just in case he confesses.
I pray with the lover of my husband at the same church, I greet her and carry the baby. At first the congregation was waiting for unpaid for movie, this didnt happen. It hurts but you can surely do it.
We are not legally married but have two beautiful angels, a boy and a girl. Last year we both accepted Jesus Christ as our personal savior and got baptized. Before getting saved, the father of my babies had an encounter with another woman and gave birth to a little girl. She is an innocent, lovely baby. I have not been intimate with him for over two years now but even then, still love him dearly.
I want us to start all over again and be a happy family but he tells me that he has to wait on God to chose between me and the other lady. Well, I trust and believe God, so I am praying for him to come back to me and his children. Please advise if I should continue praying and which Bible verses I can use. My heart is quite heavy, you know. Thanks and God bless you as you advise.
Now I have seen that God can use anything to bring salvation to my marriage, for it to keep on. I HAVE LEARNED SOMETHING. God bless.
Please pray for my husband and I to get back together. He is a non believer, and wants out of our marriage. It’s very stressful for me and my daughters. I still want to make the marriage work and have a happy family again. Please help me pray for him to search his heart and realize his family is worth keeping.
Please keep my family in your prayers! We are passing though a rough patch now! I do believe with all my heart that this too shall pass away! In God’s Name, I want my husband’s thoughts to reconsider his decision! May His Mind be guided By the Almighty and Directed towards the wellness and togetherness of our Family! My Prayers to Each & Every Heart that is feeling the Pain as I am now! May God Heal & Turn every bitterness into Love! Thank You very much for keeping me, my husband & my kids in Your Prayers! God Bless!
Thank You for these prayers; they so had me in tears. I know that it is never too late and that God has the final say… Praying that God will allow the manifestation of restoration in my marriage and my family. I appreciate your prayers in binding the spirit of separation and divorce because they’re not of God. I declare and decree my family healed.
Thanks again. I pray that God also does a miraculous healing in all marriages and couples who have responded to this posting. Blessings to you all.
I am so discouraged tonight. My husband and I have only been married just over 1 year and it feels like it had been war. This is both our second marriage; he has 2 children and I had a child that died in my previous relationship. We really felt that God allowed us to meet for a reason and we already have our own beautiful new baby girl together.
But there are so many issues I don’t even know where to start. We desperately need help. I feel that he has major control issues, trust issues, and fears and I cannot handle them anymore. He says I have emotional issues and I agree on some level. I still deal with a lot from the loss of my son and my body just produced another little human so I have A LOT of emotional, hormonal craziness.
I feel like it’s fire and gasoline with us. We constantly fight and argue and it seems there is no peace. I’m worried about the effect it has on my step children and also it wears on my husband and I both. It seems like divorce is inevitable if things don’t change and I don’t know what to do. PLEASE if you read this … Pray for us.
Dear Elie, May the author and perfector of your marriages bless yours. May He give you wisdom, purify your words and give you knowledge and understanding in managing and taking care of your marriage.
May the Lord or peace give you peace and understanding that is beyond human understanding… in Jesus name I pray and consecrate your marriage.
My dear sister this is your test and you are failing. Go back to the text book, the Bible, and study, remembering what Jesus said; the battle is not yours it’s his. Remember this… don’t invite yourself into the argument, walk away even though you may be right. I am praying for you.
Hi Elle! It isn’t over until God says it is. Be hesitant to be hasty in thy spirit for anger rests in the bosoms of fools. You will miss your blessing when you are angry. Have a kind heart and pray for him and your family. This is the works of the devil to seek and destroy what planned and that’s family. Lean on your pastor, reverend whoever you seek spiritual guidance to help in this tumultuous time. God hasn’t brought you this far to leave you. Stay in prayer.
I ask that you all pray for my husband and I. This May will be our 5th year wedding anniversary and he has asked me for a divorce. We have both been married twice before and this is our third marriage. I really felt God was our base for this marriage. I love my husband, but he refuses to work on our relationship. He says it is over.
He has stated we argue too much and he is miserable with me. I am asking you to pray that he can see I am willing to work on my attitude. And to see that God brought us together.
I know tht my God can do anything, but I still need prayers. I do not believe God brought us together, to allow petty things to come between us.
Hi, I am praying for your marriage. I pray that God will let your husband see that your heart is completely his and that you want him to heal your wounds and allow you to keep your commitment to love one another. Keep praying to God for healing, and pray that he sends the words of love to your husband’s heart. I’ll pray and pray for you. I know how you feel. I’ve been praying for my marriage and God has been a faithful healer!
You’ve already started the work; you stated you believe. The word says he that cometh to God must first believe that he is and that he is a rewarder of them (Hebrews 11:6). Now get off your knees and start acting…start with that attitude, you change and let him see the change let your prayers be the action behind the change. And God will help you. Ask him to allow you to see yourself and let how you act be your mouth piece. God bless you for making the change!!
God doesn’t make mistakes. I pray your husband softens his heart and hears your cry that you love him. I pray that the reason he’s miserable is because of you and it’s maybe something else he’s afraid to open up to you about. I pray that any outside influences seeking or advising to end your marriage to stop in name of Jesus. God is not man, so He has the final say so. Stay in prayer.
Tammi, stop, close your eyes, breathe and pray your heart out. At every calm moment you guys have tell your husband that you love him and your heart bleeds for him and you’d never do anything deliberately to hurt him and you do not want to lose him (I tell you, men forget this sometimes). Look him in the eye and tell him this from your soul. A loving wife to come home to every night is a blessing and he should realize that he’s blessed to have you.
I believe he’d realize that you’re not an adversary but it’s just plain old CONFLICT ARISING because it involves two different individuals.
Secondly, allow him to be a man… to lead. BUT in actually you will lead HIM from behind… with STRONG PRAYERS.
Please pray for my husband to come back to me. We have been together for 15 years and he left me for someone he met at work. Please pray that he sees the truth and finds the courage to come home. I truly believe we are soulmates. I feel so sad and lost. Please continue to keep Dave and me in your prayers.
Please pray for me and my husband. His parents created rifts between us and broke our marriage. We are no more living together. We are about to get divorced. Please pray for us that the divorce gets cancelled, and he comes back to me so that we can work on our marriage. Please pray for us that his parents attempts in sabotaging our marriage will not be successful and my husband realises what they have done. Please pray for us. It will be a miracle if my marriage is saved. I really want this to work.
Please God, transform our marriage into a happy one. Please give us another chance and help us be a successful couple with strong family values.
I agree in prayer… Lord, may it be so.
Praying for you.
Please pray for my marriage. We’ll be married seven years this July 18, 2015. We’ve been together straight for nine and on and off for two, or all together its been twelve years. We have a wonderful little boy to at her and wonderful family’s in high school. We hurt each other and made awful mistakes. We have a past; mine is worse than his. In a lot of ways we are soulmates. I forgave him for his he is having extreme difficult forgiving for mine. He wants a divorce now. He loves me, just can’t stand to touch me or the thoughts that cross his mind BC of the sexual sins I have.
I’m sorry for them. I want to be with him more than anything. I believe in my heart he does too. He just doesn’t know how to forget. I forgot his. I know that the devil has tried to tear us apart from day one and he does too. When he’s happy with me he doesn’t think about things. I just need prayer over my marriage BC I know that if he would forgive me he loves me.
I can’t fix it myself. I’m asking God to fix his wounds and heal his heart and show him the love. Through God all things are possible and to bless you and change us for the good please pray for me and him. And if anyone has any suggestions on verses to help save my marriage please let me know. Thank you Jesus, thank you Lord, in Jesus name I pray, amen.