Do you pray for your marriage? If so (which we hope you do) we encourage you to pray scriptures for your marriage.
“Someone said that a successful marriage requires partners of steel. I believe that is true. But I would add that prayer is the anvil upon which the partners in a successful marriage must be shaped. If you and your spouse follow a proper plan to pray, God will shape you according to His desires and will make your marriage everything He wants it to be.
“Someone said, “What is a proper plan of prayer? It is simply a plan that helps you and your spouse consistently and fervently pray God’s will for all areas of your relationship. God loves you so much that He revealed His will for every area of your life in His Word. For your marriage to reach the highest level possible, you and your partner must know God’s will for your relationship and live accordingly. The best way to begin is to pray God’s very Word, asking Him to carry out His will in your lives.” (Lee Roberts, from the book, “Praying God’s Will for My Marriage”)
And that’s what we’d like to do in this Marriage Message. As we’ve said before, the principles for loving each other in marriage are the principles for living that God reveals throughout the Bible. So with that in mind, we’d like to encourage you to not only read the principles for living that are given to us in the Bible, and to live them out, but to also pray scriptures as you pray for each other.
Pray Scriptures
But what if you are the only one who is praying in your marriage?
“Your prayers for your marriage have power, even when you are the only one praying. That’s because the two of you are one in the eyes of God, and what one does affects the other —either for good or for bad. Of course, the power is even greater when the two of you pray together, but I don’t want to belabor that point. If you have a husband (wife) who will pray with you, consider yourself blessed. Most people don’t have that.
“What if you are the only person in the marriage who is a believer? What if you are the only one who is really living God’s way? Or only you are willing to submit to God’s perfecting process? Or are willing to work on the relationship? What if you understand the enemy’s attack on your marriage and your spouse doesn’t get it? Can YOUR prayers alone save the marriage? I believe they can. In fact, I have heard of miracles in that regard.
“… Even if you are the only one with a willing heart, your humble prayers can pave the way for God to do miracles in you and in your marriage relationship.” (Stormie Omartian, “Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage)
Pray Scriptures
The following are prayers that God has impressed upon my heart that you may find helpful as you pray for your marriage. They are based upon the scriptures that are given after each prayer. We hope they will bless your prayer life.
• Lord, please show me how to find the time to store your commands within my mind. As I turn my ear to Your wisdom, help me to apply my heart to doing things YOUR way. I know you are the giver of wisdom. Help me to hear what you want me to learn even if I don’t always understand Your ways, or why you allow certain things to happen in my married life. I want to trust you with my whole heart. Please help me. I know that as I trust in You, You have promised me that You will make my paths straight. Thank You. (Prayer based on Proverbs 2:1-6 and Proverbs 3:5-6.)
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• Lord, help me so that “love and faithfulness” never leaves me, no matter what happens within my marriage. Show me how to bind them around my neck and to wear them around the tablet of my heart so they protect me. Help me to guard my heart from the temptations that are all around me. You know my weaknesses, but so does the enemy of my faith. I don’t want to do things that would dishonor You or my marriage vows. I want to be a promise keeper, just as You are a promise keeper.
Give me discernment when temptation is waiting to ambush me. I don’t want to stumble into that which will snare me into sin. Help me to “preserve sound judgment and discernment” and not to let them out of my sight. I know they will be life for me. I know that “there is a way that seems right” but that it can lead to death. Help me not to go there. For you are my confidence and you are able to keep my foot from being snared. Thank You Lord. (Prayer based on Proverbs 2:11-12; Proverbs 3:3; plus, Proverbs 2:12-26; Proverbs 4:23.)
Pray Scriptures of Confession
• Sometimes I say things I shouldn’t. Help me to “let no unwholesome thing” come from my mouth, but only what is helpful for building my spouse and children up, rather than tearing them down. I acknowledge that I am not my spouse’s Holy Spirit. That is Your position. I do not want to grieve You, or say things what will cause more damage to my marriage relationship, rather than help it.
I know that the “tongue of the righteous nourishes” and “spreads knowledge.” Help me to “speak the truth in love” when it will benefit the situation rather than contaminate it. I don’t want to be a fool who lacks judgment and speaks in haste. I know that discernment, and the timing, and tone of my words are as important as what I say. Thank You, and help me Lord. (Prayer based on Ephesians 4:15; and Ephesians 4:29; Proverbs 29:20; Proverbs 10:21; and Proverbs 10:32.)
Here’s another:
• Lord, I know that loving money is the “root of all kinds of evil.” It has caused many to wander from the faith and pierced themselves with grief. I don’t want to place a higher value on money than You know is best or would condone. But sometimes it causes problems in our marriage when our expenses are higher than the money we have available each month. You promise to meet all our needs “according to Your riches in Christ Jesus.” If one of us is spending more than we should, I pray that You will reveal this truth to us and help us to line our lives with Your will.
You tell us not to worry about how our needs will be met. Help me Lord, not to worry and to release those things that I cannot change concerning our finances. I know that as I seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, You will give us the things we truly need. I need Your help in being “content whatever the circumstances.” In the Bible I’m told that “I can do all everything through Him who gives me strength.” You own it all, and if You deem that we should have more, it will be done. (Prayer based on 1 Timothy 6:10; Philippians 4:19; Matthew 6:25-34; Philippians 4:11-13; Psalm 136.)
Pray Scriptures Concerning Forgiveness:
• Heavenly Father, it is difficult to forgive my spouse sometimes. I know that I am not perfect either. I’ve fallen short of Your standards. And yet you love me and even sent Jesus to die for me while “I was yet a sinner.” Help me to be as gracious to my spouse as you are to me. I know that if I forgive my spouse for the things that grieve my heart, that you will forgive me for the things I have done that I shouldn’t.
I also know if I refuse to forgive my spouse, it will poison my spirit. It starts as a bitter root defiling not only my marriage, but others I come in contact with. Help me Lord to let go of unforgiveness and to be in the center of Your will for my life. (Prayer based on Romans 3:23; Romans 5:8; Hebrews 12:14-15; Matthew 6:14-15.)
We hope these prayers will help you in your marriage and that they will inspire you to dig deeper into the Bible to learn, live, and pray as God leads.
Cindy and Steve Wright
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My husband left me and our two kids to be with his mistress in August. At first he was seeing the kids 2 times a week and now can go for 2 weeks without seeing them. It hurts that he is now a visiting dad with little knowledge or care of what happens in the day to day care of his kids. His heart seems to harden more and more towards me and the kids. Please help me pray that God creates a clean heart in him and renew the right spirit within him –for him to come back to his senses like the prodigal son and return back home to his family. Thank you.
Lord, I am thankful for your mercy and grace and for the fact you are always willing to be here for us. Lord, you know the circumstances in this marriage. I pray for restoration in this marriage that Satan does not win this war. Children need both their parents, Lord, that is why you made us male and female; so we could be moms and dads together. Families are being torn apart all over the world Lord and we need your intervention. Lord, I ask that you turn this man back to his wife and children and that you will make him see the error of his ways. Lord, thank you for your son Jesus who paid the ultimate sacrifice for us on Calvary that despite our sins against you, you are willing to forgive us if we come humbly before you and ask. I pray this husband will do just that in Jesus Holy Name. Amen and Amen
Please pray for me and my husband. We have been married 23 years and separated almost a year. I believe he is going through a midlife crisis but also there are many serious childhood issues he is dealing with. He is having an affair with a co worker and recently moved in with her. I’m praying for ungodly circumstances to fall on his life to bring him to his knees and I also ask the Holy Spirit for guidance.
Since my husband has been living such an evil life I prayed the scripture 1 Corinthians 5:4 over him. Only For the sole purpose for him to feel the sting of his sin and bring him to full repentance to God. Please help me and join me in this fight against our enemy Satan!!!!
Thank you so very much for posting this!!!!! My wife and I are going through a very difficult time right now, so much that we are separated and she doesn’t want to speak with me nor have any form of communication with me. I pray to the Lord to please soften her heart and mind and understand that the hurt that I’ve given her is pain that she’ll never again receive from me. Please pray for our marriage.
Please pray for me. My husband and I are married for 16 1/2 years and we have 4 beautiful kids. In 2012 I found out my husband was cheating on me & he broke my heart. Than he left me & lived with her for 6 months while I was suffering so much I almost wanted to end my life. I prayed to God every day & wanted my husband to change & come back to me.
After that 6 months he came back to me and everything was ok until 3-4 months later. Inside of me was hurting because of what he did. I couldn’t trust him & my heart never felt the same. I was always taking about what he did and tracking him (his calls & watching everywhere he goes). Then in 2015 I found out in my heart that my husband never stopped talking with her. I saw texts on his phone that the woman wished him happy birthday & hope he loved her gift & she also said he left his shirt. I couldn’t hold it so I told him about but his lies. My heart broke. Then in November he starting to see her & spend & call her more on his secret phone he brought by summer . I confuse him & he told me that it’s over with us and that he doesn’t want to work on our relationship anymore; that our marriage has been dead since 2012. He said he tried to work it out with me but it was getting worse. So he told me he wants to be with her & he loves her and that he’s not going to hide anymore & wants me to give him respect. I cried so much and my heart felt heavy. He was still with me while he spent Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve and New Year’s Eve with her instead of with me & my kids.
Now I don’t know what to do now. I love him so much that I want to work it out but this time my heart feels it is hurt deeper. It hurts me how he can do that to our marriage and my kids. He doesn’t care. By January 6 my husband is in jail for 90 days. Ever since I’ve been praying to God for my husband to change and love me like he first met me, I want him to know how wrong he has been. I sometimes feel like it’s all my fault since I could forgive him or trust him anymore, which made things worse.
I feel lost, confused & depressed that I know where I am now. I fear so much what will happen next but I shouldn’t because I need to have faith in God and continue praying. There a lot of times I feel giving up but in my heart I want my marriage back. It won’t be easy since he’s done so much damage. I need strong prayers & help what I should do. I’m still praying to God everyday and talk to him all the time. I read my bible & bought a book called (Praying for your husband from head to toe). It’s a 30 day prayer guide . God bless you all & hope to hear from someone.
I feel my husband is going to leave me. Things have been rough for over a year now. I feel he is going through a mid life crisis. I have felt so alone for awhile now. Him being here physically but not mentally. In September I was unfaithful. It all happened so fast and I will forever regret that one night. We have been trying to work through it but it seems we get a little ahead and then go 10 steps back. 4months later…I truly feel he’s done with me. I love him so much! This pain is almost unbearable. I am praying that he give US another chance. Please pray for my husband Mike & I. In Jesus name…Amen
I feel my husband is going to leave me. Things have been rough for over a year now. I feel he is going through a mid life crisis. I have felt so alone for a while now, with him being here physically but not mentally. In September I was unfaithful. It all happened so fast. I regret that one night, I will forever. We have been trying to work through it but it seems we get a little ahead and then go 10 steps back. 4 months later… I truly feel he is done with me. I love him so much! This pain is almost unbearable. I am praying that he give US another chance. Please pray for my husband Mike & I. In Jesus name… Amen.
Thank you for your website. I find your words encouraging. I am battling cancer and my husband has been unfaithful to me during this time. I have forgiven what he did but recently has told me he won’t stop seeing the other woman even though he claims to care for me. We’ve been married over 30 years. Please pray for us; I pray and know that God will take care of all. Amen
I am praying that the Lord will restore my marriage. I just did the prayer. Thank you. I feel uplifted with with the Lord. Amen.
May God continually minister to your heart and situation as you lean into Him and lift up His Word.
I really don’t know how to start, seven months ago my wife of seven years walked out of our marriage. You see I’m 59 and she is 29, we got married 3 months after we met, she was an exchange student from the Ukraine. When we meet she worked for me. Over the past 7 years we have made a good life together, we grew financially, got all of her permanent residents papers, I mean to me things were wonderful, we have no children, and hardy ever had a disagreement.
So when I came home from work Sunday July 12th and she was gone it really broke me into pieces. Over the past 7 months since she have been gone we do see each other for a few minutes at a time when she comes by the house to see Maxx our boxer. She always say she loves me and misses me and I do the same. We have never discussed why she left. To this day I don’t know why.
I believe in God and have not violated our wedding vows. I don’t drink, smoke, gamble, or do drugs. I failed to bring God in our marriage like I should have. We didn’t pray together or attend church. As I look back over the time we had together that is my biggest regret, not putting God at the forefront of our lives. Now I may never have a chance to make it up to her. Of course this is only my side of the story but I will be grateful for any advice I can get. I will not give up God or turn away from my vows no matter what! I don’t believe in the D word. I love my wife and I believe she still loves me. Thanks, David
I want to say God restored my marriage. We have no children together, he raised my daughter as his own, and the enemy kept taking and dragging him in to the pits of hell. He lied to me cheated on me over 20 times in our home. The neighbors care taker was the other woman, after he let with her, me and my daughter stayed in our home. A week or 2 after he left, someone burned our house down. That’s when I hit my knees and said Lord, I can’t do this anymore without you!!!
My husband had a drinking problem, but people say it’s a man thing. No, God says it’s unforgiveness held in their hearts since child hood. They act the way they do because they can’t feel that emptiness inside their soul. So I forgave my husband. What God joined together let no man or woman separate. I declared his word over our marriage and God transformed, and converted, him to Christ.
He’s now the father, son, and husband God called him to be. By the way my husband is 36 and I’m 46 and we have been married now 11 years. I thought i was being punished for being with someone younger, but the Holy Spirit took all that away from me. I was forgiven at the cross, so I didn’t have to carry that condemnation anymore, and the enemy couldn’t taunt me with it!!!
So never underestimate your Father in Heaven. We’re his children; he loves us. And so you understand God showed me that things don’t matter, now we put him first in everything, over marriage, finances, health, and kids. We have been very blessed and this is our testimony to you :))) The enemy is only trying to kill, steal, and destroy. Pray everyday over your spouse, even if they’re not a believer!!! God bless.
I am Swapna G. I’m living in Bangalore. I worked in Ayurveda Hospital. There I saw my fiancé. His name is Tippesh. He is good boy, very innocent. I liked him. Then it became love after he looked so smart, or so I thought. But Tippesh is not like that. When I was in the hospital there was leisure time after I finished the daily lunch. He came to me wherever I sat. He searched for me and talked closely with me. At that time I told to him please go Tippesh, if anyone saw me and you, they will inform your Md.
But he never changed his character. He daily came during office times. Only after that in my heart I loved him so much. Last year he came to my house and asked my mother Anty, I want to marry Swapna; if you agree I’ll marry her. Then my mother and father also agreed with him there. His relatives came and saw me. I looked a little bit dark. They all are disappointed with me from that day onwards. Tippesh was so sad about me. Suddenly they didn’t make any decision. Then Tippesh was convinced with all of their relations. By God Jesus grace next month they are going to fix the marriage.
At this time Tippesh is not talking properly really on that time. I’m getting very scared. So kindly pray for my marriage. Tippesh is my husband. It is God Jesus who gave this life. He should not forget me and my love. Kindly pray for my marriage. Please brothers and sisters understand my feelings. I don’t have any friends support and family support. My father and mother are very poor in their health condition and my brother is mentally retarded so I am requesting you please pray for my marriage.
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Please pray for restoration of my marriage. My wife left me last August and I’m still in pain and shock. She won’t speak to me at all. God knows all the details, so if I’m not sharing it all here please understand. Please pray to soften her heart towards me, to bind outside influences, and to have her at least speak with me in a dignified way, and especially to reconcile our marriage. Thank you.
My wife and I are currently separated and are about to begin Marriage Counseling (Christian). My wife has said it may be God’s Will that He doesn’t want us to remain married but will see what God’s word is?
What she’s saying is that she isn’t sure she wants to put the work into making your marriage good again. If there are two repentant, willing hearts, I can say without any hesitation that it’s God’s will for married couples to reconcile. Marriage is a living picture of God’s covenantal love for His church. So why would he “want” His children to divorce and NOT reconcile? It sends out a horrible message to the world that God is weak in His commitment to those He says He loves. If they follow Him, He will be true to them as long as things are going well… if not, then He will back out. Jesus didn’t die on the cross to back out on His commitment to the world.
I really learned a lot on how handle my marriage and restore love and happiness.