We’re asked the question often, “Should I get a divorce?” Our answer to them is, “that’s not for us to tell you. We’re told in the Bible that “what God has put together let no man tear apart.” That includes us. Instead, we encourage them to pray and to read the Bible, asking God to lead them. This is a personal decision between them and God —”a cord of three strands.“
With that in mind, here is a starting point for you. Carefully and prayerfully read the following scriptures that concern divorce:
Deuteronomy 24:1-4:
If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.
Malachi 2:13-16:
Another thing you do: You flood the LORD’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accept them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring.
So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself [or his wife] with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty.
Matthew 5:31-32:
[Jesus said] It has been said, “Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.” But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
Matthew 19:3-9:
Some Pharisees came to him [Jesus] to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
“Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
Mark 10:2-12:
Some Pharisees came and tested him [Jesus] by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” “What did Moses command you?” he replied. They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.” “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”
Luke 16:18:
Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Romans 7:2-3:
By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress, even though she marries another man.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11:
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:12-14:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
1 Corinthians 7:15-16:
But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
1 Corinthians 7:27:
Are you married? Do not seek a divorce.
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(UK) Hi, all, here is an excerpt from rbc.org/bible-study – the publishers of Our Daily Bread:
Moses did more than describe God’s sacred purpose for marriage (Genesis 2). He also wrote laws granting the protection of divorce to the most powerless and socially disadvantaged women in Israel. Even for daughters who were sold into slavery to pay for a family’s financial debt (Exodus 21:7-11), and for foreign women captured as spoils of war (Deuteronomy 21:10-14), Moses made laws granting protection from husbands who showed willful disregard and neglect of their marital obligations.
In another law, Moses allowed a husband to divorce his wife with only one surprising restriction: he could not marry the same woman again if she was divorced or widowed from another man in the meantime (Deuteronomy 24:1-4). In a legal system severe enough to require the death penalty for those who committed adultery, Moses recognized hard-hearted cruelty that could be worse than divorce.
But is it right for us to call attention to these Mosaic laws when Jesus corrected religious leaders who were quoting Moses’ tolerance for divorce?
Jesus repeatedly corrected the misuse of Moses. When talking to self-centered men who were looking for legal loopholes to divorce “for any reason,” He talked about the importance of marital permanence. To such men, the Lord emphasized that God’s original intent was that marriage be a lifelong relationship.
But it would be a mistake to assume that Jesus would respond to a victim of domestic abuse in the same way. In parallel situations dealing with other laws, Jesus respected the intent of the law as well as its words.
Consider, for instance, the way He applied Sabbath law that, under Moses, required the death penalty for infraction. According to the gospel of Luke, Jesus went into a synagogue on the Sabbath and healed a woman who had been bent over for 18 years. When the ruler of the synagogue saw what Jesus had done, he was angry and accused Jesus of violating the no-work policy of the seventh day. Jesus, however, showed that it was the leader of the synagogue who misunderstood the intent of Sabbath law (Luke 13:10-16). In a similar incident, Jesus later asked, “Which of you, having a donkey or an ox that has fallen into a pit, will not immediately pull him out on the Sabbath day?” (14:5).
On another occasion, Jesus recognized other exceptions based on the intent of the law and said, “The Sabbath was made for man, and not man for the Sabbath” (Mark 2:23-27). By the same principle, we can safely say that marriage was made for people. People were not made for marriage.
But what if we aren’t sure that it makes sense to reach back to the Old Testament for practical guidelines today? If we’re wondering, remember the following.
Paul encouraged his readers to find spiritual insight in the whole counsel of God. So he wrote, “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16). Even though he wrote these words in the days of the New Testament, Paul saw that when the timeless principles of the Law and Prophets are rightly interpreted and applied, they offer us guidance for working through broken relationships.
So when a daughter, sister, or friend tells a personal story of marital abuse, we need to be careful. Let’s believe them until we have reason not to. And if their plight is real, they don’t need to be told again about headship, submission, forgiveness, and the threat of losing church membership. They need to know that the God of Moses and Jesus cares not only about marital permanence, but also for those who are caught in abuse that is worse than protective separation and divorce.
Father in heaven, forgive us for multiplying the pain of those who are living with abusively hard-hearted spouses. Please give us the wisdom we need to offer help and consolation to those who are grieving lost hopes and dreams. –Mart De Haan
(UK) I agree with you, Tony. Matthew 18 should apply. It did in my case. The difficulty is in the treating the person like a “pagan” part. My husband didn’t really take in the counsel of the elders, but whenever he does show up in church, he is welcomed and whoever hasn’t heard his story before will listen to him and give him sympathy and try to engage the elders, not knowing that he has gone through the whole process before. He can convince anyone that he is or has changed, or doesn’t know how to change. Only the facilitators of the batterers programme gave a report to the court that he had failed the course. His lawyer ignored that report, and no one from church knew about that report. The judge only gave it minimal consideration because he got good references from reputable people and a good report from the Christian therapist, who didn’t know about domestic abuse. The judge handed him a light sentence, with no jail time. From what I hear, this is the norm (the police had predicted it).
My husband is claiming that he wants to change, but he is not getting enough help and that God is not changing him. At the end of the day, I have a responsibility to look after myself and my children. I don’t want us to be a statistic. It got to a stage where I couldn’t be sure that my children would not harm him or each other, that he wouldn’t seriously harm us or that I wouldn’t kill him or all of us in desperation.
So you are right – there should be a collaborated effort. The consequences and pressure must be felt from all levels of society – legally, familially and socially. If no one tolerates it, then the abuser will feel the unacceptability of it and come out of denial. But as long as he is able to get his allies and sympathisers to agree with him that he is the victim, this is not going to happen.
(USA) And that would go a lot further than a divorce. If he’s abusive, he already lacks respect, so divorcing him doesn’t encourage him to change. After all, from his frame of reference (or hers in the case of my ex-wife) they are not the problem, it’s the other person.
But if the courts would actually do something about abuses, all sorts of abuses, such as adultery (emotional and possibly verbal and physical abuse) or other means of verbal, emotional or physical abuse, then the abuser would see that perhaps THEY are the problem. But as long as we just quietly allow abusers to be let off the hook by divorce, then how will they see they are the problem.
Personally, I’m not necessarily against divorce for more causes. I’m specifically against NO FAULT DIVORCE where the one seeking the divorce does not have to prove marital misconduct. This allows abusive people to continue their abuse by divorcing a spouse and potentially taking the children, the marital assets, and even forcing a spouse out of (typically his home) who is guilty of ZERO marital misconduct.
Let them prove the other person is guilty of those things if they want marital assets. If they just want to have their affair without the husband being around, or simply have “fallen out of love” or whatever tissue thin excuse they’ve given for their divorce, we can’t hold them based on Matthew 18 (acting as an unbeliever) and 1 Corinthians 7, (let the unbeliever go if he/she wants to go.
But why should such a person be allowed to take the children away from the betrayed spouse? Why should they get 1/2 or more of the marital assets when they want to abandon the marriage? Why should we even consider allowing them to stay in the marital home if they no longer want to be married? Make them prove marital misconduct before they get a penny of the marital assets. Make them prove marital misconduct before they are the primary custodian of children of the marriage.
As long as we allow no fault divorce, we legally sanction continued abuse of faithful spouses and having children raised by a parent who is setting the example that vows are meaningless. This is abusive towards the betrayed spouse and it’s abusive towards the children of that marriage.
(UK) Yes, I get your point about no fault divorce. It’s not right that a person can use that to their manipulative and cruel advantage. It must have been devastating for you.
Regarding your question as to how divorcing my husband would encourage him to change, I see encouragement to change as part of working within a relationship. Divorcing is putting an end to a marriage. It is not done, and indeed, should never be done, with the intention of changing a spouse. His change is not my responsibility, though I pray for his sake that he does change.
My divorce is an action I take to protect our lives, not to help him change his. Now I know why God led me to do this – because He is first and foremost, my Saviour. He saves people first, not marriages. When people are truly saved and made whole, marriages will be beautiful. Not perfect, but life-giving and Christ-reflecting.
(USA) At this momment me and my ex husband are currently separate and I filed for divorce. Is it wrong? He has been physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive. Is it wrong for me to go and leave knowing this? We were married for 2 yrs an 9mths. I am currently interested in other people. But I just don’t know now after getting on this site.
(CANADA) I grew up being taught very strictly that divorce was the biggest sin. I was married for 19 years in a very abusive relationship. I stayed in the marriage for that many years for a few reasons, #1 I loved my wife #2 my kids #3 what I had been taught about divorce being such a big sin.
My opinion on divorce is a lot different now than what I was taught. I believe that every effort should be given to make the marriage work, but this only works if both partners put effort into it, which in our case, she didn’t want to put effort into it. I won’t go into the details of how she was abusive to me or my children, all I am trying to say is divorce should always be the last option, after all other options have been exhausted, and to make sure you did your very best to make it work through a lot of prayer.
It took me a lot of years to learn that you cannot change somebody. All you can do is change yourself. Also, God will never force anybody to change, so neither can we, just like you cannot make somebody happy if they don’t want to be happy. So my conclusion is that Divorce should never be taken lightly, but after many years of being in a unhappy marriage where my spouse did not want to admit to her problems, where my spouse did not want to be happy, and where my spouse would not even consider her children, I finally came to the decision after much prayer that if God wants me and my children to be happy then what am I doing in this marriage where happiness was not and did not seem possible?
So after 19 years of marriage we were separated again for I don’t know how many times. I finally told her that I was not going to let her hurt me or the children again, that there was still a chance for reconciliation for a time, but after a while if she was not willing to reconcile I would move on. I gave her time but she never did seem interested to reconcile, so I made a choice 2 years ago now to move on. And the day I made that choice for the first time in years, I felt truly happy and free.
I am now remarried and happy in my relationship. My ex wife is still living in her anger and bitterness. So divorce should always be the very last resort, after you make sure you have done everything to make the marriage work. But if the other spouse is not willing and your marriage is over anyway, then and only then, do I believe you are justified in a divorce.
(USA) My husband decided this week he wants a divorce; I don’t. He thinks we rushed into it after a year and two months of marriage. I don’t believe in divorce. There’s no adultry, no abuse, he just isn’t in love with me but wants me to grant him a divorce. He doesn’t want to work it out or separate. He’s got people in his ear, his family thinks he’s being stupid because he won’t tell me to my face or talk to me without texting. I want my marriage to work and for his love to go back to the way it was. Please agree with me in prayer.
(GERMANY) Hi Chitquitita, I will pray for you and your marriage. My wife of 14 years informed me in Dec 2010 that she did not love me anymore. Mar 22, 2011 after our counseling session together she restated that the marriage was over and that I should move on because she has lost all feelings for me and that she could not love me like a wife should love a husband. We have two wonderful kids together.
Of course, I do not want a divorce but at the same time if she is not willing to work on the problems in the marriage and states she does not love me anymore why would I want somebody who does not want me anymore? I will not fight for her any longer as I told her and the counselor my priorities are now serving God and my two boys.
Focus on God and start changing yourself to be a better you, and see how you can serve others less fortunate than yourself. God will bless you beyond belief!!
(USA) Please pray for my family. My wife went on a girls weekend away and upon her return, she asked for a divorce because she “just cannot do this anymore” and she “deserves to be happy.” We have been married for 12 years. She was unfaithful 18 months into the marriage. We tried to reconcile but she never really dealt with the reasons behind why she cheated. Her behavior never changed (whereas mine did in the sense that I was no longer out partying, drinking, smoking, etc.).
What my part in all of this is, that I wouldn’t stand for the continued wayward behavior (i.e. bar-hopping & dressing provacatively while she has a husband & 4 children at home). I don’t want a divorce, but I don’t think that this marriage can continue like this either. I want my chldren to grow up as Godly men & women. I have asked the Lord to forgive my failures & shortcomings concerning my marriage. I ask that the Lord would continue to work in me and open the eyes of my wife’s heart so that she may see what is really happening around her. Thank you. Blessing to all in this forum. I pray that the Lord would strengthen our spirits, renew our minds, heal our bodies, mend our broken hearts, & restore our souls. Amen.
(UNITED STATES) My husband and I separated in 2007 due to him having a sex addiction and several women fulfilling it. I really don’t know who he is actually with. I know that her name is Kim and that she thinks that he is different to her. I used to see things he would write on the internet and it would be the same phases he had said to me. Our divorce was final in 2009 and haven’t even gone out with anyone else. I feel like if I do I will be guilty of something.
I was married for 14 years not counting the two in court and we had no children. The other woman wanted all of what we had. My parents had given me a lot of inheritance in the house and they are still alive. He didn’t get but about 10% of everything but it was still very hard. Anyway, I have always worked and he left me when I was sick with depression. I had taken a short term leave which became LT so they didn’t save my position. I had worked at the company for 7 years and could not go back due to people being laid off afterwards. The depression was mainly because of the things that were being revealed to me along the way.
On top of everything he paid for my cousin’s wife’s divorce while married to me. I knew something was going on and I was always told I was crazy. So to make it short two marriages ended up in divorce. Also, he dropped me from his insurance when I had him on mine for over ten years. My family and I were faced with an enemy that we loved so very much and never thought he would ever do the things he did. My late Grandma was a woman of God and stated God had answered her prayers in providing me with a great man. We dated for two and a half years and nothing but his family situation would have given me a clue that my marriage would end. His mother was 15 and his Dad was 65 when he was born. On top of that his Uncle was actually his brother and he did not find out about that until his father died. His mother ran out on his Dad after 14 years of marriage and lied to both her children in order for them to be with her.
My Ex told me a lot of other things about his homelife and even took me to people ‘s houses to confirm his issues his mother started prior to us dating because his mother refused to talk to him or me and I wasn’t going to marry him thinking I was the only problem between them. Everyone backed him in saying that his mother was the way he had proclaimed her to be and she was just mad because we gave him a home when he needed her the most. My ex did live downstairs in my parents house but paid 250 per month rent and did not sleep with me. My mother is a very Christian lady and made the rules very clear to both of us. He had no place to go because his mother followed a man to a different state and my Ex refused to go with her.
I was not going to marry him but something told me not to base my feelings on how others failed him. He claimed to be a born again Christian and attended church with me. I could not have asked for a better boyfriend or husband for a total of 14 years. He ended up being the exact person he disliked which was his mother. Of course, after he left he went back to his family on occasions and blamed the whole thing on me. God, my family and myself know the truth that he had used us by making us feel sorry for him. He was a high school drop out but got his GED because I stated I was not going to date him unless he graduated high school. He did it and got excited and went to techincial school to be a car painter. He completed that as well.
It is now and I am back in school and having a hard time getting a full time job. My father paid off my house but I want so much to pay him back. I have never depended on my parents and I love them so much. I want to be doing things for them not the other way around. Please pray that a wonderful position will open in order to bring new beginnings. God has provided me work but not the great F/T great benefits position that I have always had during the course of my marriage. I feel the devil is always pushing me back. Please pray that I can overcome the anger and bitterness I feel. I just keep saying to myself why? When him and her were the ones doing the wrong. I ask God everyday to help me to forgive. I hear about people praying and their husbands returning. I did pray and really believed he would but he did not return so I figure God knew I was in a unhealthy relationship and I accept that. I just want him to act in my own life so I can move forward.
To all the woman out there with no children whose husband decided to divorce you for the woman mentioned in Proverbs chapter 6 you can WIN, just be patient. Just because you did not have children didn’t mean everything is fifty fifty. Everything depends on how the relationship ended. Sorry this was so long.
(USA) Dear Angela, I know your heart hurts more than you ever thought it could. You also know anger and fear all too well. Please step into your Father’s arms and let go. What you write shows you need Him so very much more than you are allowing.
God hates divorce. It is that simple. I too went through and still go through some very challenging stuff but here is not the place to take those things up.
You know Jesus died for your sins and that He died for ALL of OUR sins. It is that simple and that hard. Look into Paul’s writings about finding contentment no matter where you are. Peace is what we all need. Seek the peace giver and let go “trying.” So very thankfully He knows we cannot even make it to where we can so that without Him. Blessings and Peace for your journey.
(NAMIBIA) Hi, I have been married now for 2 years and have been separated from my husband for 1 week. I decided to move out because there is a history of physical abuse and possible infidelity (I am saying this because I was never able to get concrete proof). Recently he became emotionally distant and told me that he is not sure if wants to make the marriage work and does not know whether he still loves me as much as he used to. I personally think that he was seeing someone else as he started coming home at odd hours and his stories just never added up.
I tried to stay and take it all in but one day it just got too much. So I moved out and currently I have my own place. What is confusing me is that, now he tells me he loves me and wants to make this work. My question is… should I believe him and what should I do? I am confused because I have been praying for God to bring my husband back and to restore my marriage.
We have a 9 year old daughter. Please help, as I want this move to be meaningful and something positive to come out of it.
(ITALY) Please, I need an explanation because I am confused. I was married for seven years to my husband without kids; we were not Christians. My father advised me to leave my husband and try with another man to have kids, which I did. But I was not married to this second man because he has a wife and kids.
I am now born again into a deeper life. I want to pray for a husband now. My pastor said I can’t, I have to reconcile back to my husband. I approached my husband. He said he is now married to another woman; he cannot have me back.
I am lonely. Please, I want to know if God really said in his word that I cannot marry, since I was married before because I don’t want to offend God. I want serve God all my life. Please, I need a reply because I am confused.
(US) Dear Mary, I hope that this reply is not yet late & that you are still in need of direction & didn’t put matters in your own hands. You must be the main reason I stumbled upon this site. The other of course, is to pray for all those going thru divorce. It broke my heart just by reading, how much more there must be broken hearts for those who were actually involved. How much more our Father’s heart must be broken since HE loved them all, even the kids of the parents going thru it.
I was actually just looking for Scriptures on divorce [planning to respond to a letter from my pastor whose belief was that it was ok to divorce, only in case of adultery (I agree on this) & that the party who did not cause the divorce or who didn’t commit adultery can remarry (this was where I begged to disagree with him). Suddenly I was already reading the letters & the last one I read was yours. Since you said you really are confused, then please read all these Scriptures because if we follow the Word of GOD, we can never go wrong. Please remember to pray for the Holy Spirit to guide you into all of these truths:
1) Deuteronomy 22:19, “She shall continue to be his wife; he must not divorce her as long as he lives.”
2) Malachi 2:16, “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel…
3) Matthew 19:6, “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
4) Matthew 19:9, “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
5) Matthew 5:32, “But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.”
6) Mark 10:12, “And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”
7) Luke 16:18, “And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”
8) Romans 7:2-3, “For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.”
9) 1 Corinthians 7:8, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion”
10) 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, “To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.”
11) 1 Corinthians 7:39-40 “A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is –and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.”
12) 1 Timothy 3:12, “A deacon must be the husband of but one wife and must manage his children and his household well.”
Please allow me to ask some rhetorical questions to help you to analyze the truths about divorce & re-marriage:
1) What is the excuse of our generation who has the Bible & professes to be Born Again Christians compared to our forefathers who experienced the same marital issues but stuck it out ’till death do them part’ YET they did not have the Bible or did not know CHRIST personally?
2) Didn’t GOD declare emphatically that HE hated divorce?
2) Wasn’t there a unity in Scriptures when GOD said in above Scriptures 4) to 12) that:
– one who marries a divorced person commits adultery with him/her
– a married person can only re-marry when the other spouse died
– a divorced person should remain unmarried
-a deacon (or any church leader) should be a spouse of only one.
May GOD Bless you always as you seek for HIS guidance.
(USA) I need prayer in a big way. 8 yrs ago I had an affair and was lying to my husband. I kept on lying. Now here I am with a husband who does not trust me and never will (his words). He also told me he can’t love me anymore because he can’t trust me. The affair did end 8 yrs ago. His heart is hard toward me and I’m trying to understand what God is saying to me. My husband has told me he is only here for our children. He also said nothing short of a miracle will fix our problems.
I’m lost now, not sure what is next. I do love my spouse and hope we can overcome this, not sure though.
(UNITED STATES) I’m asking that anyone please pray for my two daughters five and eight as well as myself. I’ve been married for almost nine years. However, my husband walked out of our family close to two years ago, he has been making my life a living nightmare.
I have been coping the best I can, I’ve enrolled myself into college, I have a part time job at a elementary school and most importantly I’m working on my relationship with our Savior. I’m trying to do the best I can, to provide for my two little angels.
I just ask for strength and healing. I forgave my husband for walking out, I forgave him for getting a woman pregnant with his son. I understand people just fall out of love. We’ve had issues throughout our whole relationship and marriage.
I know why our marriage broke, we did not have our GOD a part of our family. Please pray for our sanity, strength, faith, dealing with loneliness and patience. I thank anyone who can squeeze me into their prayer. God Bless!
(USA) About two years ago my husband decided to walk out on his marriage. I have been putting off the signing the divorce paperwork. I really think he is so confused. He has moved on and has a girlfriend. He asked me why I haven’t moved on and my response was because I want my Husband back. Even though I am his wife, I feel like the other woman.
I know that God is with me, and will never leave, but I am growing weary. I read have scriptures, prayed, and even went on a fast. For two years I have tried to come to grips that my marriage is going to work. I know that my spirit wants my marriage to work, but my flesh is saying move forward – he doesn’t want you anymore. Every time I talk to my husband face to face, I see the man I married.
I believe that the man I married was sent by God. Just looking at him today showed me that the devil is trying to destroy what God has for him. That alone hurts me, because I am watching him suffer spiritually. I have asked this question several times but have not gotten an answer….Do I give up on my marriage and sign these divorce papers, or do I cotinue to pray and fight? I just want to hear Gods voice in this matter.
(UNITED STATES) I am divorced since 2004. I had the best friend and partner ever. He got into some trouble and had to go to jail. I was 23 at the time and we got married before he went in. I thought I could deal with it. I divorced him while he was in prison.
I still cry because I was the one person he thought would be there and I wasn’t. I cut off all communication because it was hard. I worried all the time about him. He did 8 years of a 9 year sentence. He is out and we have been hanging out. He told me he has a girlfriend who was there 8 months for him at the end of his sentence.
I basically want my husband back and I have prayed and prayed. I want him to forgive me, which he says he does. I just cannot separate the feelings I have for him. I missed him. Of course he feels hurt and disappointed by me. All I want to do is turn to Jesus. He does not want to be hurt by me again. His family hates me, except his mom. We talk often. Looks like I lost him. He says he cannot leave his girlfriend to be with me cause he does not want to hurt her. I need guidance. I also had a third child while he was locked up. Pray for me.
(USA) I ask that anyone who may read this; please pray for me and my wife. We have been married for five years and have been going to couples counseling for a couple of months. Tonight I found out my wife wants to split up. She says that we have grown apart. She says that she loves me but that she is not In Love with me anymore.
I’m not sure if we can work it out or not. I have trust & faith in my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ that things will work out one way or another. I still truly love my wife and don’t want a divorce but I fear it is no longer up to me. My prayer is God will have his way in this situation. I blame myself for not being the Christian husband I should have been over the past couple of years. I humbly ask that you pray for me and wife that God will have his way and that I’ll finally become the Christian he wants me to be. Thank you for your time and God bless, Brandon
(USA) I’m 30 years old and I’ve been married for 5, going six years in September. My wife filed for divorce, so this anniversary might never come. It all started about my jobs that weren’t vary stable or I got fired a few times when finances got ruff or I was out of work and my wife would kick me out of the house. One day she decided that she didn’t want me there and we got into an argument where I said some things to her and she punched me and gave me a black eye. I left that night and returned the next day and she said she was sorry. To me it was not a big deal. One week later she was very closed off and cold with me. I tried talking to her about our problems and she would not even look at me and kept telling me to get out of the house – that she did not want to be with me anymore.
I got angry and did something I have never done to her, I physically assaulted her and myself as well, I went to jail for 5 days and got out and thought to myself I lost her for good and I deserve everything that’s coming to me. We separated for 2 months and I got my own apartment and two months later she came to my apartment and moved in with me and our four kids. We were there for 3 months, but we owned our home so I told her lets just go back home; she hesitated but agreed. Then in March we got some tragic news her mother had passed away. We went for the funeral and the day we’re leaving to go back home we found out that my mother-in-law had been murdered, not just that I’m not going to go into to much detail but when we found how she was killed and by who, it was just disgusting.
We came back home after the services and my wife was distraught; she overdosed on prescription pills rendering her in critical condition for almost a week. She got released from the ICU and was transferred to a behavioral health clinic for three days and when she got out I picked her up and we had dinner with our kids and went out for the day as a family giving God thanks that she was ok. Three days later she told me to leave because she wasn’t in love with me anymore and she since filed for divorce. I would appreciate prayers from anyone. I really love her and feel that we could make this better. Thank you and God bless every one.