The following are a number of quotes that Marriage Missions International individually sent out and then posted on our Twitter site as marriage tips. These Twitter Marriage Quotes can still be used in a variety of ways:
• A church, ministry, counseling organization, or an individual can use them to share, if desired.
• They can be used as points of discussion in marriage classes, mentoring, counseling, or coaching situations.
• Couples or individuals can use these quotes to discuss or consider the issues raised, allowing the Holy Spirit, our Wonderful Counselor, to speak further to them.
They make great discussion points for those couples who want to use them for conversation starters for a 22 Minute Date. (The guidelines are posted in the Romantic Idea topic.) Just make sure, if you use these quotes in a dating situation, you don’t get into heated arguments over them.
Twitter Marriage Quotes
The point in sharing these marriage tips is to build marital relationship bridges, not construct walls of contention, causing a breakdown of communication. You can constructively disagree with these tips and with each other, and still learn more about each other and grow closer together, in the process.
It is our sincere hope that the tips below will help marriages. As you read them, consider:
1. Do you agree or disagree? Why or why not?
2. Do you have further thoughts on the issue, to apply personally or as a general rule? (If you’re reading them with someone else, please share.)
3. Do any scriptures come to mind, which apply to the marriage tip given? (If possible, please share.)
The following are quotes to note for your use. Each quote stands on its own. (For your knowledge, the original sources are noted afterward in italicized parenthesis.)
Please Prayerfully Consider:
The development of a really good marriage is not a natural process. It is an achievement. (David and Vera Mace)
Marriage is not only a spiritual communion; it is also remembering to take out the trash. (Dr Joyce Brothers)
Getting married is the boldest and most idealistic thing that most of us will ever do. (Maggie Gallagher)
Marriage is set within the world, and within your home, as a reminder, a living parable of Christ’s relationship to the church. (Dave Harvey)
In your marriage: Are you going your own way and making it look like its God’s way? Additionally, are you going God’s way even if it hurts?
To get divorced because love has died, is like selling your car because it’s run out of gas. (Diane Sollee)
Love in marriage doesn’t lead you to commitment; commitment in marriage leads you to love. (Adrian Rogers) “Love one another” -Jesus.
Marriage isn’t a natural state, but if you’re persistent you learn to love the companionship, then you learn to love your companion. (Dan Harper)
Love doesn’t consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction. (Antoine De Saint-Exupery)
The first year of marriage is like wet cement. The impressions made in it are much harder to change once it has set. (Robert Wolgemuth)
Don’t discuss sensitive subjects before dinner—eat first. A spouse can be extra irritable when hungry. –Renee, happily married for 50 yrs.
“What would our marriages look like if we were intentional about being kind, faithful, and joyful?” Pick 1 each week and work with intention.
More Tips:
Love one another as I have loved you. By this all men will know you are my disciples, if you love one another. -Jesus (John 13:34-35)
Most get married to “BE LOVED,” but to stay married we must learn “TO LOVE”, unconditionally as God Loves us. -Mark Cornelius (comment from our Facebook page 10/20/2010)
No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying. -Unknown (And the same can be said about the husband.)
When arguing, ask yourself, “What difference will this thing we’re fighting about make in ten years? In one year? In a month?” (Unknown)
If you made a list of reasons why a couple got married, and another list of reasons for their divorce, you’d have a lot of overlap. (Mignon McLaughlin)
In every marriage, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, the grounds for marriage. (Robert Anderson)
Everything that irritates us about others [especially our spouse, who we live with] can lead us to an understanding of ourselves (Carl Jung)
Healthy marriages are healthy because the people in those marriages have learned to recognize and say no to selfish instincts that lurk in their hearts and in the heart of every one of us. (Paul David Tripp)
God designed marriage to bring us closer to Him and to teach us to be better servants, to strengthen our values, and learn to surrender. (Comment from Mark Cornelius, posted on our Facebook page)
Chains don’t hold a marriage together. It’s threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years. (Simone Signoret)
Additional Quotes to Consider:
Why would a couple that lives and sleeps together every night need to date each other? Precisely because they live and sleep together. (Bill Doherty)
“In all things give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” God has a plan for your marriage. Participate.
Real giving is when we give to our spouses what’s important to them, whether we understand it, like it, agree with it, or not. (Michelle Weiner Davis)
Live a life of love [show it], just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. (Ephesians 5:2)
“Strive to have a marriage that glorifies God and becomes a living testimony for those around you. Live the vision GOD has for your marriage.”
Don’t be foolish. Everyday you need to do some things that will strengthen your marriage. Love your spouse with your words AND your actions.
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love. (Tom Robbins)
They do not love who do not show their love. (Shakespeare) Don’t keep it a secret. Make sure your spouse and others know you love your spouse.
Whenever possible, return kindness for unkindness. Not only will it improve your marriage, but it will make you more Christ-like. (JoHannah Reardon)
Pray continually… -1 Thessalonians 4:17. “Hem your day with prayer and it will be less apt to ravel at the edges.”
“Say you’re sorry every once in a while. It’s a relationship Band-Aid that can heal a lot of wounds.” (Drs. Michael F. Roizen and Mehmet C. Oz)
Prayerfully Note:
For a marriage to have any chance, every day at least six things should go unsaid. (Unknown)
The challenge after the wedding ceremony is to help couples turn “I Do” into “We Can.” (Scott Stanley)
“The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything they have.”
“It’s possible to stay in love, but it takes more than fireworks. Falling in love only requires a pulse. Staying in love requires a plan.” (Andy Stanley)
Married love doesn’t commit suicide. We have to kill it. Though, it often simply dies of our neglect. (Diane Sollee) Walk in love… Ephesians 5:2
“Stop saying, ‘That’s your issue.’ Jesus said you and your spouse are ‘no longer two but one’ (Matthew 19:6), which means it’s always our issue.” (Emerson Eggerichs)
The lack of forgiveness is like a big cloud hanging over the heads of people, keeping them tied up and held in a prison of anger and bitterness. (Unknown)
Couples must stop fighting each other. While they fight with each other they erode their marriage, and energies cannot be used to do effective problem solving. Every couple is well-advised not to fight each other, but rather to attempt finding a common problem they agree upon to address.” (Dr David Hawkins)
It’s easier to be a lover than a spouse, for the same reason that it’s more difficult to be witty every day than now and then. (Balzac)
“Ask God to keep you both aware of the enemy’s hand in trying to stir up strife and misunderstandings between you. Don’t allow it to happen.” (Stormie Omartian)
Please Realize:
Placing blame on your spouse will only create distance, so “if the issue isn’t that serious, then be playful and don’t take it so seriously.” (Drs. Michael F. Roizen and Mehmet C. Oz)
There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake. (Ecclesiastes 7:20) This includes your spouse AND you.
To practice the Golden Rule of marriage, give Love and you’ll be given Respect. Give Respect and you’ll be given Love. Jesus said, “Give, and it will be given to you.” (Luke 6:38) (Emerson Eggerichs)
“Take a marriage lesson from Mary and Joseph and adjust to things beyond your control. It may be the best gift you give each other this year.” (Drs Les and Leslie Parrott)
The beauty of Christmas can be found in remembering the amazing love and grace that came to the world wrapped in the gift of Jesus. Isn’t it unfortunate that the holidays have become the time of year when we are least prone to extend love and grace to each other? As you reflect on the birth of Jesus, put His love into practice with the most significant person in your life” — your spouse. (Dr. Juli Slattery)
“By focusing on love rather than on being right or controlling another’s behavior, couples sidestep the pitfalls of typical arguments.” (Drs. Michael F. Roizen and Mehmet C. Oz)
One of the greatest things you can do for your children is to teach them to respect your relationship with Jesus and your relationship with your spouse. (Jimmy Evans)
Quotes to Note:
If you and your spouse were friends in the past but your friendship has died —get it back! Be intentional and do the things you did at first.
The way you fall back in love is to begin to invest in your spouse again. It’s the immutable law of sowing and reaping in action. (Jimmy Evans)
“Romance is not a feeling or a mood that can’t be controlled. Rather, it’s an atmosphere that must be created.” (Jimmy Evans) Do what YOU can to create it.
“Strive to have a marriage that glorifies God and becomes a living testimony for those around you. Live the vision God has for your marriage.” (David and Gretchen Willard)
Love sometimes requires extravagant acts of renewal. It requires renewal in our marriages. It requires renewal in our relationship with God. (Rowland Croucher)
For a marriage to last and be happy and fulfilling, three parties need to be involved: the husband, the wife and the Lord. (Stormie Omartian)
“Our task in thinking about marriage is to be holy people who think God’s thoughts after Him, and so bring glory to Him in all that we do.” (Dr Ray Pritchard)
Can you honestly speak the words of Proverbs 8:8 to your spouse, “All the words of my mouth are just; not of them is crooked or perverse?”
All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.‘ (1 Peter 5:5)
Please:
“Open your heart as wide as possible to experience all that God has for you and for your marriage.” Work with God on this and you may be amazed! (Dr Robert S. Paul)
“The day we stop learning and growing together is the day marriage becomes a holding pattern.” Look for ways to grow your relationship. (Quote by Dr Robert Paul.)
“Think about this: it takes the same amount of time to have a good marriage as it does a bad one. Lets work toward having a good marriage.” (David and Gretchen Willard)
Be careful in the way you speak to your spouse. “Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips.” (Proverbs 4:24)
We were born into a world at war—a theater of conflict with marriage at its center. There are really only two options. We can fight to save marriage and win, or we can neglect to fight and lose. (Jimmy Evans)
It’s up to the church to rise up and understand that this is a winner-takes-all battle with marriage as the price. In this fight for the very existence of our society, as goes marriage, so goes the rest of society. (Jimmy Evans)
“Christ’s glory doesn’t shine through our perfection, but thru showing each other His grace in the midst of our weakness and disappointment.” (From FocusontheFamily.com article, “Optimistic Love”)
Did Jesus Christ pursue the church, His bride, because she makes Him happy? No… to sacrifice Himself for her. Read and apply Ephesians 5.
The 3 stages of love and marriage: You don’t know em, but you love em. You know em, and don’t love em. You know em and you love em. (Unknown)
Realize:
“When you struggle with your partner, you’re struggling within yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.” (Joe, from Canada, posted on MMI web site 12/15/2010)
“Say you’re sorry every once in a while. It’s a relationship Band-Aid that can heal a lot of wounds.” (Drs. Michael F. Roizen and Mehmet C. Oz)
Stop sowing all your time and energy into other people and things and instead sow into your marriage relationship. When you choose –by an act of the will—to invest in your spouse, your emotions will follow. The invariable result will be renewed passion and a return to your first love. (Jimmy Evans)
Put intentionality into treating your spouse with the love and respect as God expects… “out of reverence for Christ.” (See Ephesians 5.)
Living peaceably means recognizing that a preference isn’t sinful. Just because you think one way doesn’t mean your spouse’s opposite thinking is wrong—it’s just different. (Kathy Collard Miller, D. Larry Miller, Larry Richards, PhD)
Help guard your hearts and relationship. “Sharing your deepest thoughts, dreams and ambitions should belong solely INSIDE the marriage.” (Quote from “Love’s Secrets,” Elegant Bride, Summer 2003)
“Friends don’t let friends disapprove of their marriage. Hang around with other friends and couples who support your marriage.” (Dr Pat Love)
As a home is built, it will reflect the builder. Most couples fail to consult the Master Architect and His blueprints for building a home. (Dennis Rainey)
“It’s the little gestures that go a long way. Ask yourself: Do I smile at him? Do I offer her a cup of coffee when I pour myself a cup?” (Dr Pat Love)
Remember:
Commitment is possible when we believe in the goodness of God. And it is almost impossible when you doubt his goodness. -R.P.
“It takes many small actions to establish a large marriage vision. Can you give a kind word, touch, smile, encouragement, and understanding?” (David and Gretchen Willard)
Marriage is our best chance to grow up. (Joseph Barth) It’s also an opportunity to learn to give the selfless love of Christ to another.
“The challenge is not to keep on loving the person we thought we were marrying, but to love the person we did marry” (and to show it). (Whitehead)
“Can you say that you’re friends with your marriage mate? If not, look for ways to fortify your friendship. Spend time together. Have fun.” (Dr Ray Pritchard)
“It’s possible to stay in love, but it takes more than fireworks. Falling in love only requires a pulse. Staying in love requires a plan.” (Andy Stanley)
“God created us for relationship—with Him and with each other. Create a safe place for your mate where they can be transparent and vulnerable.” (Dr David Hawkins)
In life and especially in marriage, remember: “Whatever you say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus…” (Colossians 3:17 NLT)
“If somebody tried to describe your love for God solely by how well you show love to your spouse, what would they say?” (Gary Thomas)
Your spouse is not perfect and neither are you but they ARE “perfect” to be used by God to help you to be transformed into His image. (Claudine Perry from Dec 9, 2010 Facebook comment)
More Twitter Marriage Quotes:
“Dozens, perhaps hundreds of times per day you influence your marriage with words of life or death. Which way it goes depends on you.” (David and Gretchen Willard)
A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers. (Ruth Bell Graham)
“Tempted to be negative? Pray: ‘Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips‘ -Psalm 141:3.” (Dr Emerson Eggerichs)
May your married love bring you to say, “If you live to be 100, I want to live to be 100 minus 1 day, so I never have to live without you.” (Quote by Winnie the Pooh)
“What a marriage needs is the superglue of Philippians 2:3: ‘Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind…” (Dennis Rainey)
In marriage, as in all things, the perfect can be the enemy of the good. (Unknown)
Online relationships with old high school or college flames, emotional affairs, sexual affairs, and cohabiting are shallow and illegitimate substitutes for the real thing. Emotional and sexual fidelity in marriage is the real thing. (Dennis Rainey)
Marriage, like a submarine, is only safe if you get all the way inside. (Frank Pittman)
“Warning to married couples: ‘If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.‘ (Galatians 5:15)
“Don’t argue with your clothes on. It throws each of you off-guard, defuses anger, and causes you NOT to fight in front of an audience.”
“Arguing all night isn’t a communication breakdown; you’re loss-averse. By refusing to give an inch, you’re risking even greater losses.” (Paula Szuchman)
Prayerfully Remember:
“Starting a quarrel is like opening a floodgate, so stop before the argument gets out of control” (Proverbs 17:14)
Remember your spouse is not your enemy. You’re on the same team! Facing problems united with the Lord’s help is how you best overcome them.
“May we all be quick to hear and slow to speak. And when we do speak – may our words be full of the Truth, which alone can set us free.” (Debi Walter)
Satan’s 2 greatest lies: 1. It won’t hurt —One time won’t hurt you. 2. God will never love you anymore —you’ve blown it! (Neil Clark Anderson)
“To steer clear of mental adultery, ‘don’t lustfully fantasize on her beauty, nor be taken by her bedroom eyes.’ (Proverbs 6:25 MSG)
“Your child is influenced by your marriage connection. The more warmth between you and your spouse, the happier and healthier your child is.” (Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend)
“What would your son or daughter say about how you treat your husband [or wife]?” (Linda Dillow)
THINK before you speak. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” (Proverbs 18:21)
“Words can make and words can break. Lord, help us to have seasoned speech always as we speak to our marriage partner.” -S. R. K. G. (From Facebook contributor – 2/25/2011)
One plus one equals one may not be an accurate mathematical concept, but it is an accurate description of God’s intention for the marriage relationship. (Wayne Mack)
More Tips:
In your marriage, do you speak the Truth in love to each other, or do you simply complain? “Don’t grumble against each other…” (James 5:9)
As you make judgments about your mate, can you honestly say, ‘Everything I say is fair and there is nothing twisted or crooked in it (Prov. 8:8 GW)?'” (Dr Emerson Eggerichs)
Before starting an argument, consider if it’s really worth it -Gloria Redner. Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam… (Proverbs 17:14)
Your marriage is more than a sacred covenant with a spouse. It’s a spiritual discipline designed to help you know God better, trust him more fully, and love him more deeply. (Gary Thomas)
“It is only possible to live happily-ever-after on a day-to-day basis.” Today is a good day to work in ways that bless your marriage. (Margaret Bonnano)
“Have you taken the opportunity to celebrate those every day kind of moments, we can often miss? Why not make plans now for this week?” (Debi Walter)
The more things we can laugh about together, the more connected we become. (Frank Pittman) Look intentionally for ways to laugh together.
Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. (Victor Borge) Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly. (Rose Franken)
“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.” (Anonymous) Look to Jesus.
Capitalize on the tiny moments. It’s important to celebrate those little moments— those unexpected things that make someone’s day. (Toben and Joanne Heim)
More Quotes:
The longer you’ve neglected your marriage and the more pain you’ve brought your spouse, the longer it will take to rebuild trust. (Glenn Wagner)
“In your marriage, speak the truth in love. In each situation; you have a choice to make: words that build or words that destroy.” (Glenn Wagner)
“Stone is heavy and sand a burden, but provocation by a fool [or behavior that causes resentment] is heavier than both.” (Proverbs 27:3)
“Compromise in marriage is not only positive but necessary. In marriage it is never ‘having my way.’ It is rather discovering ‘OUR’ way.” (Dr Gary Chapman)
Recognize marriage as a “we” business. Any couple who gives a “we” perspective experiences success in marriage. But a marriage shrivels when it becomes a matter of two “I”’s. (Neil Clark Warren)
Keep in mind: “God is the witness of every marriage ceremony, and will be the witness to every violation of its vows.” (Thomas V. Moore)
Live a life of a promise keeper. “It is a trap for a man to dedicate something rashly and only later to consider his vows.” (Proverbs 20:25)
“How can you gain perspective on your marriage relationship when life just won’t stop? You must live with the end in view.” (Linda Dillow)
In our busy lives, we often let our marriages fall into the background. Marriages are important, yet we often act as though they’re not.
I like not only to be loved, but to be told that I am loved. The silence is large enough beyond the grave. (George Elliot) Good to remember.
Additional Quotes:
“My, how we need to become blind to faults—blind to the things that annoy us, blind to bitterness and open to grace and forgiveness!” (Hugh and Cindi McMenamin)
“Keep your minds on whatever is true, pure, right, holy, friendly and proper. Don’t ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise.” (Philippians 4:8 CEV)
“Forgiveness is a decision but trust is a process.” (T. D. Jakes) You MUST forgive (as told in God’s word), however, trust is to be earned.
As you make judgments about your mate, can you say, “Everything I say is fair, and there is nothing twisted or crooked in it?” (Proverbs 8:8) (Dr. Emerson Eggerichs)
Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam. Drop the matter before a dispute breaks out. Every fool is quick to quarrel. (Proverbs 17:14 and Proverbs 20:3)
A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult -Proverbs 12:16. When it’s best, release it to God and give grace.
“Often the difference between a successful marriage and a difficult one consists of leaving about 3 or 4 things a day unsaid.” (Harlan Miller)
Don’t be as concerned about your kids not listening, as much as the fact that they’re watching how you conduct yourself in your marriage.
Remember God’s principle: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)
Look for ways to attack your problems—not each other. “Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.” (Barbara Johnson)
Think About It:
Is your spouse your soul mate? “A soul mate isn’t something you find. A soul mate is someone you intentionally and prayerfully become.” (Tim Alan Gardner)
“Here’s a challenge: Be on the lookout for something to publicly praise your partner about and then express it to someone. Make it a goal.” (Drs Les and Leslie Parrott)
Remember, you married your spouse; you didn’t hire him or her! Treat your spouse with love, care and dignity, as a co-partner in Christ Jesus.
“Shine a spotlight on something you appreciate about your spouse. We don’t always notice the positives in our spouse.” NOTICE and speak up. (Drs Les and Leslie Parrott)
Wedding gift idea: give books/resources to help their MARRIAGE. It may save you from wondering who got the stuff you gave after the divorce.
“Before you angrily blow up, ask yourself just how important this issue will be two weeks from now, a month, a year, a lifetime, Indeed!” (Quote from: joel@shakethatbrain.com)
“God has so much he wants to teach and shape us into through marriage—if we stick it out long enough to discover his plans for us.” Persevere! (Ginger Kolbaba)
In marriage, “run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith…” (Hebrews 12)
Keep in mind: “Doing the ‘right thing’ can make all the difference in the world and can bring hope to a seemingly hopeless marriage.” (JB and Shugie Collingsworth)
More Marriage Tips to Consider:
Are you nagging your spouse instead of praying for him or her? Is it changing his or her heart in a positive way? “Talk to God instead.”
“Let God’s grace, love and humor be the glue in your marriage and you will behold the abundant riches of a lifetime committed to your spouse.” (Lynn, from Spiritually Unequal Marriage)
Being deliberately kind to your spouse, does the good that Paul speaks of in 1 Thessalonians 5:11, ‘Encourage one another and build each other up.‘”
“It feels right to do what everyone else is doing, but when we follow their norms, we end up with more problems.” Do it God’s way instead. (Gil Stieglitz)
In your anger sin not. (Ephesians 4:26) If you cannot control your anger you’re as helpless as a city without walls, open to attack. (Proverbs 25:28)
In your marriage, with intentionality, make sure you: “Encourage one another and build each other up.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
“Sometimes after we become moms and dads we forget to be friends and lovers with our spouse. Don’t neglect your marriage relationship.” (Dr Phil)
“Passion in your marriage is likely to fizzle unless you proactively nurture it. Don’t stop pursuing the love of your life after you marry.” (Whitney Hopler)
“I implore you and your spouse to hold hands, look each other in the eye, and say, ‘Babe, lets run a marathon. Lets commit to making time to be together.’ Write it down; date it. Now, let’s make it happen. (Tim A Gardner)
Lastly, Consider:
“Love in a way that people in your world can best see the love you and your spouse share and the source of that love—God. Love unreservedly!” (Pam and Bill Farrel)
“Whine to the Creator about the created.” Take it to the Lord in prayer and commit it to Him to handle—get involved ONLY if HE says it’s best (Quote given on Facebook in April, 2011)
“If you remember nothing else throughout your marriage journey, remember this: Grace is the glue that holds the two of you together.” (Cindi and Hugh McMenamin)
Generously give God’s grace to your spouse: “Don’t assign motives. Grace says I will consider you didn’t mean it the way it came across.” (Cindi and Hugh McMenamin)
“God designed real and lasting love to be something you DO, not something you mystically have. Working at it is built into the system.” (Tim Alan Gardner)
“In keeping our wedding vows, we’re mirroring the Lord’s faithfulness, designed from the beginning to spill over to the whole of mankind.” (Mike Mason)
“Try bombing your battles with prayer instead of anger. It brings effective peace talks to the conflict when you pray for each other.” (Stephen Kendrick)
“It’s important to remember that our tone says as much about what we’re saying to our spouse as the actual words we use.” (Aaron Sharp)
“Romance is choked when any part of our heart is off limits. The first step in creating intimacy comes with a price—being completely honest.” (Debi Walter)
“Jesus said in John 13:35, ‘By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.‘ Your love is a light.” (Pam and Bill Farrel)
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