How do you know your marriage is in crisis? That’s a good question! It’s one that you might think you have the answer to, but not necessarily. But there are warning signs when a marriage is in crisis.
We all know that every marriage goes through seasons of busyness, and stress. There can be illnesses/accidents, a child in difficulty or danger, job instability or loss. There also can be housing problems or loss, financial disaster, illness or death of a child or family member, natural disaster, and the list goes on.
During these times, your marriage may seem like it’s under attack. (It very well could be.) But it may be that the attack is subtler in its approach. You may not even realize the imminent danger until it appears to be too late.
So, to help you recognize the warning signs that a marriage is in crisis, whether the attack is evident or subtle, we have put together a list that should not be ignored. It’s meant to be your wake up call to treat the threat with urgency and intentionality if you note that any of these critical points is threatening your marriage. Please be forewarned that this is a time to make some important changes or a catastrophe is a very real possibility.
Warning Signs:
- When needs are being neglected and you (or your spouse) are running on empty emotionally, be on the alert. Also, when more negatives are seen in the relationship than positives, something needs to change in some way (either in attitude, actions or both) or a marriage crisis will follow.
- When you or your spouse (or both of you) are treating the other with contempt and disrespect, watch out! If this type of behavior is becoming the “norm” in your marriage and it’s as if the other “can’t do anything right” any longer, your marriage is in serious trouble.
Keep in mind: “Whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Jesus Christ.” (Philippians 1:27)
- When trust is a continual issue, there is need for alarm. Trust is foundational for the marriage to survive. It CAN be rebuilt again, but it will take effort. Either building trust needs to be in the works so it is on the rise, or your relationship is in danger of completely collapsing.
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- When open war is going on in your relationship —either behind closed doors or in public, you are at a critical point in your marriage. Your marriage cannot hold up under continual assault. Sometimes, the best you can do is to make sure you do your part in not contributing to verbal assault.
“Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.” (1 Peter 3:9) That does not mean that you cannot “speak the truth in love” to your spouse. But you need to stop your part in insulting and assaulting.
- Where there is abuse of any form, it puts the marriage into crisis. Abuse is a very complicated and critical situation. There is no “one size fits all” advice that can be given (especially considering that this is an international ministry where one’s culture can complicate matters). We refer you to the Abuse in Marriage topic of this web site to find ways to protect yourself, or to find methods to stop being the abusive partner.
- If your children start acting up as stress builds up in your relationship, your marriage is in a critical stage.
Realize:
“An indicator involves your children. Their behavior can often provide a barometer of what is occurring inside a home. You and your spouse may believe that the current level of interaction and health in your marriage is okay. You may think that’s just the way it will be. But your children may sense that something is wrong and needs to change” (from Focusonthefamily.com article “Indications Your Marriage Needs Help“). Do whatever is necessary to model healthy conflict resolution before your children and bring peace into their and your lives and hearts.
If your relatives/friends start telling you that they notice problems, take note. It’s an important time to get good help. We say “good” help, because often, spouses will look for cheap help, or will keep doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. That’s insanity! If you can’t build relationship bridges between you and your spouse without obtaining outside help, then don’t delay in seeking “marriage friendly” help. And don’t cheap out on it, if it comes with a price tag attached. A divorce is much more expensive in many ways than wisely working to save a marriage.
PLUS:
- If your spouse says, “I love you but I’m not IN love with you” …OUCH! This is the beginning of an end if your spouse isn’t willing to work again with you to rebuild lost feelings. This is NOT impossible to overcome, but it WILL take recognition, and intentionality on both of your parts to breathe life into your relationship again.
- When you and/or your spouse keeps looking for ways to spend most of your free time away from rather than with each other, serious trouble has invaded your relationship. You can’t control your spouse. Sometimes if you try to crowd him or her into doing that, which is right, it can backfire. But recognize the crisis, and know that you can control the efforts and time you invest in the relationship. Ask God for wisdom. Seek it as a hidden treasure. And then see what God will do in your heart and your marriage as you make Him your Wonderful Counselor.
- When you (or your spouse) is looking elsewhere to have emotional and/or sexual needs met outside the relationship, your marriage is in crisis, for sure. “Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned“ (or his marriage)? (Proverbs 6:27). It can be termed as, “being on the prowl,” although few spouses would admit to it. It might be as “innocent” as exploring someone through Facebook, or the Gym or elsewhere to find someone interesting to talk to. But when these types of temptations are fed by opening the door of curiosity, a crisis is either ready to explode.
God’s Word Tells Us:
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.“ (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
- When you or your spouse is having an affair, another person is being given the opportunity to divide the love you should have exclusively for each other. A marriage is in emergency mode when betrayal is in the works. Do not allow yourself or your spouse to continue the assault upon what should be an exclusive relationship between a husband and wife. Marriage is designed to be an exclusive covenant relationship between the husband and wife and God.
“Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth” (Proverbs 5:15-18).
In Addition:
- If the laughter has gone out of your relationship, warning, warning, warning! This might not appear to be as critical as some of the other signs that are listed, but don’t be fooled. If you see this happening, this is the time to infuse laughter back into the relationship again. The couple that doesn’t laugh together has lost a critical healing component to their relationship. The Bible says, “laughter (or a cheerful heart) is good medicine“ (Proverbs 17:22). If you stop laughing together, your marriage can naturally slide into crisis mode.
“Laughter bonds people. Any good friend will tell you that laughter is the shortest distance between two people —especially in marriage.” (Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott)
- When hope that a serious problem can be resolved is waning and thoughts of leaving the marriage are being entertained, your marriage is at a critical point.
“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life“ (Proverbs 13:12). Look to the Lord to show you where it is healthy to put your hope. And then invest wisely. And don’t use your human timetable when you believe your prayers should be answered. Line your will up with God’s and you will never be without hope.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)
Finally:
- When the “divorce” word is being thrown around as a continual threat, it often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You must stop doing that, which will drain your marriage of any hope. Instead, invest your energy into looking for solutions rather than inching towards a way of escape.
“There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death” [and in this case, it could be death of a marriage] (Proverbs 16:25).
As it concerns the many warnings above, consider:
“Whoever gives heed to instruction prospers,
and blessed is he who trust in the Lord.
The wise in heart are called discerning…“
(Proverbs 16:20-21)
Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this article.
Filed under: Save My Marriage
(UNITED STATES) Hi everyone, I have been married to my husband for two years, almost three. But we have been together a total of five. I truly love my husband and I know he loves me but I’m the verbal abusive one. I can admit it. I have so many family problems with my mom having been very sick with no help from my siblings. I take everybody’s problems on my back and I lash out at him and it’s bad. I say harsh things to him that I really don’t mean but I’m so angry inside for everything I’m going through. I neglect him so. I put him out when that’s really not what I want.
He won’t really talk to me. He told me he was going to pray and ask God to help him get over the way he feels about me. He told me I don’t need him and he doesn’t need me. I need to really know what to do. I haven’t slept with anybody outside our marriage. I admitted to him I had conversations with someone but no physical contact. So please tell me what do I do to help my marriage?
(UNITED STATES) It sounds like you are suffering from caretaker overload. Why aren’t your siblings helping? That sounds like the root of the problem. If they were helping, you wouldn’t be overtired and resentful and running on empty with nothing but anger left for your husband. The siblings need to get straight, or perhaps you need to go to some outside agency for help with your mother so that you have time for yourself and your marriage.
It is good that he prays and is praying. Do you think you both could arrange to begin praying together, even for just a couple minutes a day?
Has he ever had to deal with the illness or death of a family member? (I’m wondering if either it rings familiar to him, or if he hasn’t gone through it before and doesn’t know how debilitating it is emotionally and physically). I will be praying for you and your situation. ((Hugs))
(UNITED STATES) My wife of almost 20 yrs told me yesterday in counseling that she loves me but is not in love with me. We have 3 wonderful children and work together as we are self employed. I’ll admit I was the one arguing and getting mad because she refuses to hardly spend any time with me. I was recently diagnosed with depression and am on meds that seem to be working. What do I do? I feel as though I have been stabbed in the heart. She never initiates any lovemaking and I guess now I know why.
(UNITED STATES) My marriage of 13 yrs is heading in the wrong direction. She filed yesterday for divorce. We have two young boys together. I have prayed my heart out and done everything I felt I needed to do win her back. It’s in God’s hands. I cannot do anymore. Even the small things I’m not going to do. I’m not giving up on us, because I know there is a chance to work it out. She’s a good wife, mother and Christian and deep down I don’t think she can do it. I know what kind of person she is.
I love her and know she is the one that God put on this earth for me. I should be destroyed but I am not. It is by God’s grace and mercy. I have not been told to give up by our Lord. Looking back I should have but I’m not being told to. There has to be a reason. Things are happening that I cannot explain. There have been too many coincidences. There are no other women or men involved. I cannot lie I have tried to look and even been put in situations to have sex. For some reason they should have happened, but they didn’t. God stepped in and stopped them. I not only believe this I know it.
We need prayers for healing and restoration. I know it will happen. All I have is the faith to trust God. I know he is in control and he has a plan for us. I have seen too many of my prayers answered, one just the other day. She has not been to church since this happened. On Easter Sunday she is going to church, not with me but she is going. I pray that God will speak to her that day. She is my one and only and I will continue to love and cherish her. It is hard, very hard, and I have wanted to give up on life. But things happened and I haven’t. There is hope. Divorce is not the answer. God bless. He is on the side of marriage. I said my vows to her and I will keep my covenant with God and her.
(USA) I know in fact what it’s like. Back on Feb. 12th of this year my husband told me after almost 20 years of marriage he wasn’t in love with me anymore, but he does care for me deeply and does love me. He doesn’t want me to move out and wants me to still share his bed and does want to save our marriage. I know that I’m responsible for this because my emotional behavor and short temperrs over the past few years have taken a toll on him.
He still says he loves me and we do make love but I’m still so scared of losing him. I love him more than anything in this world. He even still calls me babe and honey, darling, so I am confused. He says he needs time to heal and to trust me again with my attitude. He says it’s going to take time. I am currently in counceling. He is also suffering from a great deal of depression. What do you think of my chances for us to be whole again?
I know exactly what your husband is feeling. My husband rejected me sexually for years and never initiated sex. It’s called sexual anorexia. I’m the spouse that feels rejected and then feels low self esteem. I’ve endured 10 bouts of depression because of this relationship. Every time I pick myself up and try again and then I love him again. But this time I just don’t have the energy, I need God.
I need God to help me revive the love underneath the weeds, which are anger and sadness. I just don’t know how. I love him as a person but I’m not in Love with him. He destroyed it with him criticism and rejecting me sexually. I have two beautiful children. I just don’t know what to do. I’m severely depressed and that makes everything worse. I feel like at 39 this is a mid life crisis. I need God to help me heal and trust my husband again. God please help me.
(USA) Hi, I have been married for 20 years and I’m going through some bad times with my wife. She goes to church every Sunday but raises hell Monday through Saturday and she always tells me that she loves me but is not in love with me. To make matters worse, her daughter’s boyfriend drives her van everyday and she is obsessed with him like he is her husband. When I am praying, she has no interest but tries to distract me from praying. She says that her way of life is the best way.
(USA) I’m in a marriage of almost 10 years with a very jealous man. I don’t feel like I’m allowed to do anything. He doesn’t want me to have a job, and acts different when I go out with my friends, even for lunch. He says he supports me 100% but I don’t feel it. We got married when I was 19 and he was 21, the day after I graduated high school and we had a 7 month old son together at that time. We disagree about a lot of things, mostly money and where it goes.
We now have 3 sons together and he works A LOT (16+ hrs a day) so he isn’t here a lot. On the weekends, he just sits around watching TV. He doesn’t do much with the kids, but always wants to do stuff with just him and I, which I think is wrong. I put my kids first, but it feels like he puts me first. He is my first serious relationship, he took my virginity. I have to admit, the curiousity of the single life lingers with me sometimes. I have been faithful to him 100% but he has accused me of cheating 3 times now. The first time it hurt a lot. He wouldn’t let it go for almost 4 years even though nothing happened.
I am emotionally exhausted because he makes me feel like nothing I do is good enough. When I want some thing (a new car, or even sex) sometimes he tells me “you don’t diserve it” or “You haven’t earned that” and it really makes me feel terrible. It has gotten to the point where our kids don’t want to do anything with him, and my oldest doesn’t think highly of him. It hurts to see our marriage play out this way, but my husband refuses to go to counseling because “it’s nobody’s business but our own.” My parents are concerned and every time we see them, my mother asks if I’m okay.
I used to feel depressed about all this but lately I’ve been feeling the urge to put my foot down and live out some of my dreams. I went and got a degree in business. I go out with my friends so our kids can have play dates and ignore his reaction. I’ve just sort of been doing my own thing and I think it is really getting to him. Lately he has started making comments to me about me hating him, or not loving him anymore, and I don’t know how to respond. I have told him so many times how he makes me feel and he does the same thing every time. He apologizes and says he will “work on it” but falls right back into the same rut as before.
My friends keep asking me why I put up with him because he is selfish and just brings me down and is so rude and negative all the time. I stand up for him because I love him, but inside, I agree with them. I’m not sure what to do, especially since he thinks everything is fine, and I am miserable.
Hi Melanie, I’m sorry for the hurt that your going through. However I would just like quickly say a couple things: First: Your marriage should be put first before the kids because it is an example of Christ’s love and sacrifice for them. Without a father, kids suffer and divorce takes a huge toll on their lives as they grow in understanding of what love is. Kids do need love and attention but they should NOT be put before your spouse. Part of a child’s development is in having both parents together and witnessing how they deal with issues, how they stick to their commitments (especially vows). It is a good testimony to your kids for them to see mom’s loving commitment to her husband despite who he is. God loves us despite who we are.
Second: Your friends may be wonderful to hang out with but they are likely not feeding you good advice. In fact, well meaning friends can give really bad advice that is not best for you and your spouse or your children. Friends can add input but they do not see the whole situation. They may be biased in only hearing one side of the story. Perhaps there are needs you are not fulfilling in his life. Most friends are not counselors and are not skilled at providing the help that you need.
I know that he has hurt you and there are many disappointments but leaving to “fulfill your dreams” is kind of selfish. I know marriage is hard. My husband and I have our own struggles, otherwise I wouldn’t be here. But we endure because of a covenant we made before God. The same covenant you and your husband have made before God. If you’re a Christian, look to God in prayer and humbly submit yourself to His word in seeking how to mend this relationship. Who knows you may be able to win over your husband by prayer and Godly conduct or discover changes within your heart. God bless
(USA) There were a lot of good comments and I certainly appreciate all I have read. My issues are assumptions and mistrust. I have never cheated on my wife and nor do I have any desire to. I am extremely busy at times and can’t spend as much time with my wife as she would like. When we got married I loved her but I was not in love with her. I have been trying to build that type of love for her through Christ and prayer. But it has been difficult for me. She is very sensitive in matters of heart so I shut down and won’t talk. She says tell her the truth but even in that she can’t handle it. I do love her but my heart is just not where she desires it to be, right now. I ask her to give me time but I know thats hard at times. I am really trying to be open to the move of God. Listening for a word…
(USA) Pick up the book The 5 Love Languages
by Dr. G. Chapman ASAP
(USA) I have been married for almost a year and a half. I’m 20 and she is about to be 21. We found out she is pregnant. She doesn’t work. I have deployed for 9 months and have came back. Ever since I came back tho, she has been talking to an old friend. Now they love each other. She loves me. But I have done everything I could think of to keep her with me. I have my own appt. a job and now a kid on the way. She has been talking to him for a while now and I just can’t give her up. It’s hard. I just don’t know what to do. Anybody please. I am begging as the 20 year old I am to help. Please…
(US) Try not to feel alone ..not here thank God, not sure who I am sharing my wife with but she is not talking. She’s a gym rat, gone all morning and afternoon and can’t keep track of her. She never gives me the time of day… more to come later.
Jess, Is your wife working outside the home or are you the one brings in the financial support in your home? It seems like she has too much time on her hands to be able to gad about as she is. What about romancing her? Can you go back and start doing those things that you did (and more) that caused the both of you to fall in love with each other? Emotional connection is especially important to have in a marriage. It’s not unusual to lose that from time to time. But you can put the effort into re-sparking that flame (and doing what it takes to keep it lit).
Here’s something that Dr Steve Stephens wrote that I’d like you to prayerfully consider. Hopefully it will inspire you: “It’s a sad state of affairs when we take better care of our cars and houses than we do our marriages. We change the oil, fill the tank, and periodically tune up our cars. We change light bulbs, wash windows, paint walls, unplug toilets, and re-roof our houses, but what do we do to maintain our marriage?
“The truth is: more damage is done than repairs are made. How important is your marriage? Is it more important to you than your car or your home? Are you willing to put in the time and energy and whatever else it takes to prove to your partner how valuable the relationship truly is to you?”
I hope the best for you and pray that God helps you and your wife to work together to address each other’s aloneness. Otherwise, your marriage is in jeopardy.
(USA) My husband is from an immigrant from a European country. He is younger than me; we have known each other for 3 years and been married for a year and a half. After we got married, we applied for his green card. This process took a year and a half, during which time we submitted the initial application (1 1/2 inch thick), had to resubmit several documents which the Immigration office lost, were interviewed three times, we made many phone calls to the Immigration office and caused tension between us.
I also have had health problems and after we married been diagnosed with 2 chronic health problems -hyperthyroidism and a medical disorder with my bladder. I have since been receiving treatment for these problems.
When we first met, my husband was working nearly 2 full-time jobs and going to school for his master’s degree in IT technology. About 1 year after we married, he went down to 1 full time job and decided to put his master’s degree on the back burner for the time being. Soon he decided to get his CDL because he finally got his green card and was tired of working minimum wage jobs. He needed to temporarily move out of state, because this vocational school trains the students in their language.
When he was working the two jobs and going to school, he was so tired that he stayed home after work most of the time, although he did occassionally find time that we would actually do things together; such as going out for lunch/dinner, going to church, ect.
After he stopped going to school and went down to one job, he was sure that he was going to go to thel school out of state and in a big city. Shortly before he resigned from the second job, he started spending a lot of time away from home (he said it was to talk with other immigrants about what to expect in the big city he was going to, and some of them also had CDL’s). He also spent increasingly more time talking on Skype on the computer (cheaper alternative to phone calls) and also on the phone. These phone calls were to his family and freinds in Serbia, and some Serbian speaking friends here in the US, many times which I also spoke with.
He left our home on December 10, and 6 days later flew to be with his family Europe for Christmas. He went to Europe with my insistence and blessing, because his grandmother has been very ill with diabetes complications and he did not see his family at all for 3 years. He spent 6 weeks with his family, and I gave up money that could have been used for other bills for him to take this trip.
He got his CDL almost 3 weeks ago, and started working immediately driving a flat-bed truck. Although he is working, he told me his company told him he needed to have a probationary period (usually 6-8 weeks) during which he needs to have another driver with him. He only drives 3 hours per day, and is paid about $400 per month. The other driver he’s driving with is from the same country and speaks the same language. They’ve been on the road across the country for 6-8 days, then home for 1-2 days.
I’ve tried so hard to be patient. The last time we had sex was in October. The medical problem with my bladder can be very hard to control, and at times causes me to take a very long time to completely empty my bladder. And because of my bladder problem, my husband has complained about an offensive odor. I didn’t think it was bad enough to be turned off during sex, but he did. But BEFORE he left, I put a great deal of effort into making sure to take ALL my medicine faithfully and with keeping myself very clean by showering daily and sponge bathing and changing my underwear 3-4 times a day. He didn’t notice my efforts. He was intimate with me ONE more time before he left (kissing, him asking me and me giving him oral sex). After he ejaculated, he kissed me and turned over and fell asleep. I went in the bathroom and cried my eyes out.
When I first started seeing him, we were freinds on facebook; but about six months later he told me would not use facebook anymore. I believe it’s possible he may have stopped using facebook, but may have or may be using other social websites that I don’t know of. After we married just over a year, I found something in our car. I used our car to run errands, and when I returned, I found a small jar of “Passion Fruit Body Butter.” This is not the type of body moisturizer my husband would use, and it was not mine. I showed it to him and asked why it was in the car. He apologized and said that one of his co-workers needed a ride home from work after she used the gym.
He has met most of my family in person, and my friends. I’ve met his family and some of his friends from Europe on Skype (we are planning to eventually go to Europe together). I have met his closest friends stateside in person. He keeps asking me to understand him, and be understanding. Believe me I’ve tried very hard to be understanding. He doesn’t very often do the same for me. Am I being unreasonable?
Easy, he used you for citizenship status. He has it now; you are sick, so he is looking for someone else.
Well, that’s a really tough situation, but my husband did trucking, so the co-driving deal and being away for up to 8 weeks at a time at first is REALLY normal. It’s also REALLY hard. But the pay sounds off, maybe you can tell him to ask for more driving time?
As for the body butter…that’s really suspicious, I agree, but it is POSSIBLE he is telling the truth. This post is really old, but if you’re still watching it, and he’s still doing trucking, I suggest you go with him on the truck. Spouses can ride with their husbands. That’ll give you more time together.
Yeah, right, like I am going to stay where I am not wanted. She told me “go ahead and leave anytime you like.” So the dishes are not done, the house is a mess, and the laundry is piled on the floor. I am the bad guy because I am the bread winner, and won’t help around the house. NOT MY JOB. I did my job by bringing home the money, and paying the bills. Boom, done. Let me rest in a clean house, oh, and here’s a thought when I say, “I will be home at 6:00”, have dinner ready. Oh wait, Never mind, I will not be coming home.
Hi there. A lot of sad news on here and a lot of good advice. Maybe someone out there can give me some. I am 26 and my wife is 25. We have been married for 3 years now with our ups and downs. We have two little girls ages 3 and 1 and I have full custody of my son age 5. I met my wife through my best friend back in high school who is her brother. She didn’t want anything to do with me back then. I met her again about 5 years later. We exchanged numbers just to stay in contact.
My son’s mother left him and I and I was alone. Do I talked to my now wife. She left her before to be with my son and I and after the 3rd date I gave her a ring saying I promise to marry you. I eventually did. She is the love of my life and I don’t want to lose her. :”(. Last October she received 2 texts at 11 pm. I asked her who it was and she lied. I confronted her and the issue. Come to find out she had been talking to another man and sharing intimate details and even talked about leaving me for him and taking all the kids. We talked and I thought I was over it. It still stays in my mind every time I see her on her phone.
I’ve never been a jealous person until I got with her. I never really cared what my lady was doing. Now I do. And now after that back in Feb of 2013 I found her on dating sites. I confronted her and she replied with “I didn’t know they were dating sites” or “it signed me up automatically. Since then she has been going in early to work and staying after later even if she has no clients. She’s a hair stylist and I’m a stay at home dad just FYI. Our funds are really tight as I try to pinch every dime. So we can’t go out much if any lately and we really can’t buy anything except things we really need. She says I am too concerned with who she’s talking to who she’s with and where she’s at, that I notice every little thing. Yes I admit I notice quite a bit. That’s just who I am. I look at all possibilities.
Well, there has not been much communication with us lately. She comes home from work and gets right on her phone. She says it’s face book or a game but I wonder sometimes. So we don’t talk cause I don’t want to bother her while she’s on her phone. Well, tonight I was asked to go out with friends bowling. I asked if she minded and she said no. Go have fun. So I went. I got on fb before I got to the alley and noticed she liked a page that was with half naked women on it. I asked her about it through text. She then disliked the page and then told me it’s not what she thought.
When I got home she was just about to go to bed. I joined her and asked her if she’s ok and why she disliked the page. I’m the type of guy that doesn’t mind his wife looking at adult things, just include me. She denied liking it. Then I heard crying. I turned light on and she was crying. I asked why and what’s wrong. She said “I’m bored. I’m bored with myself.” I don’t know what it means at all but I’m so scared that I’m not exciting her or something. PLEASE, PLEASE HELP ME OUT!!! Thanks. :”(.
I’m a Christian woman married to a Christian man. Well respected. Backgrounds and circumstances collided over the last two years and created a ‘perfect storm’. My husband left me for a considerable amount of time. Its been awful and yet, an opportunity for growth.
I’m writing a blog with helpful resources and things I’ve learned in hopes that another individual or couple going through mid life crisis or some other crisis causing marital trauma can find comfort and assistance. http://marriagerecovery.wordpress.com/
(Philippines) Hi. I’m Rhea 32. My husband is a seaman. We have been married for almost 5 years but then like others our relationship is up and down. And like other couples we fight. The reason is because of his family. They interfere in our lives. They want their son to always follow what they want. Sad to say I found out that my husband is a mama’s boy. We have 1 son… and when we fight he can see us fighting… till now. Even when we’re far from them, I can hear some issues about me and my family. My husband does not do anything to stop his parents. While he’s in onboard he will call me. It ends up in us fighting. I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t understand my husband’s attitude anymore. He’s so hard to handle I don’t know were I stand. I need advise on what to do.