The following are Web Site links and recommended resources that married men could find helpful. We pray they will minister to your marriage.
WEB SITES and RECOMMENDED RESOURCES
• Familymanweb.com Familyman Ministries started with this mission: “to remind dads of what’s most important.” How to accomplish this mission has grown, along with the ministry. They have podcasts and a weekly email newsletter available. There are also many encouragement products available for moms and dads.
• Husbandrevolution.com This web site is about “taking the road less traveled in marriage.” As they say, “The world has made it to easy for you to walk away. To quit. To give up on the gift that God gave you, your wife. It may even applaud you if you do. The Enemy is working over time to destroy any credibility the church has by breaking up our marriages. You are being asked to join a revolution to change not only your marriage but many marriages around you.
“God has an awesome plan for you and your marriage. He wants you to man up and start loving your wife like Christ loves the church, giving himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25). What would happen if you would start loving your wife this way? What happens if you lead by serving, forgive as Christ forgave, sacrifice your desires for hers, and not just be willing to die for her but to live for her as well? I believe you would see a revival in your marriage like you couldn’t imagine and the world would see Christ like love pouring our of your marriage.”
ADDITIONALLY:
• Maninthemirror.org This ministry aims to come along side pastors and men’s ministry leaders who are equipping men for success. They are accomplishing their mission and vision through: Men’s Bible Studies, Christian Literature, Seminars, Leadership Training / Networking and various articles and events they post on their web site.
• Mensteppingupblog.com This is a web site, put together by the ministry of Family life. It puts out a “call to courageous manhood.” They are calling men to step up as it concerns, your wife, your children, yourself, your world, your legacy, and more.
• Charismamag.com This is the web site for New Man Magazine, which is a contemporary magazine for Christian men. It is actually now, a division of Charisma Magazine. On their web site you will find many articles that could help you as a married man.
• Thedatinghusband.com: This web site has “dating ideas and tips for married Christian men. These are men who want to actively love their wife and pursue a lifetime relationship with her.”
• The-generous-husband.com This web site, put together by Paul Byerly, is for men who want to learn ways to love their wives in the generous spirit God has ordained. It’s “an announcement list of ‘generous’ tips,” which are continually added to and shared with you.”
RECOMMENDED RESOURCE DESCRIPTIONS:
• A Husband After God’s Own Heart: 12 Things That Really Matter in Your Marriage
• Discovering The Mind Of A Woman: The Key To Becoming A Strong And Irresistible Husband This book is written by Ken Nair, and is published by Thomas Nelson. (Steve highly recommends this resource.) This book is about husbands learning to understand their wives as Christ. And then you learn to respond to a wife in a consistently Christ-like manner. Not only will it revive your marriage, it has the potential to positively affect the rest of your life to improve relationships with your children, your coworkers, your friends—everyone. This book is painfully honest and very scriptural.
PLUS:
• Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time This book is written by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, published by Waterbrook Press, a division of Random House. For any man who has ever struggled with sexual sin this book is a must read. If you’ve struggled one day, or 50 years, with sexual sin only to find yourself frustrated and guilty that you can’t overcome it, then this book is for you. It can change your marriage too. Arterburn and Stoeker are completely transparent about their own personal struggles with lust and sexual sin. They give a very practical approach to gaining victory over such areas as pornography, impure thoughts, masturbation, etc.
The authors share stories of pastors, worship leaders, deacons and elders. They have stories of white-collar office workers and blue-collar employees. But they all have one thing in common-they were caught in the snare of sexual sin.
• Every Man’s Marriage: An Every Man’s Guide to Winning the Heart of a Woman This book is written by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker with Mike Yorkey, and is published by Waterbrook Press. This book is a perfect follow-up to the best selling book, Every Man’s Battle. In this book, you can discover the common misconceptions about what it means to exercise biblical authority. You can also learn to understand the role of submission in the marriage relationship. It helps men to grasp and apply essential but often overlooked principles for marital leadership. As they say in the introduction to this book, “If you’re willing to trust God and implement what we tell you, some amazing things are going to happen to you and the woman in your life.”
Plus:
• The Power of a Praying® Husband This book is written by Stormie Omartian, published by Harvest House Publishers. In 20 short, easy-to-read chapters, Stormie Omartian shares how you can intercede for your wife in areas where she longs for your prayers. She shares her emotions and moods, her spiritual walk, motherhood, priorities, sexuality and more. There are also personal stories from well-known Christian men. Plus, there is advice, prayer ideas, and words from Scripture to help you shape your requests to God. Some of the contributors to this book are: Neil Anderson, and Steven Curtis Chapman. Also, there is Michael Goldstone, Jack Hayford, Michael Omartian and more.
(USA) WOW! I clicked on “For Married Men” then Links and Resources. Zoiwie Batman! This is just what I am looking for. I am looking to start a blog on the subject, as my wife says I’ve learned a few things over the years that I should be sharing. Happily married to my sweet bridge for 41 years. Love you Guys! Keep up the good work!
(USA) I have lived in a sexless marriage for years. I have read Ken Nair’s book twice and perused it often. I guess I am trying to see what I missed. I was struck by how adversarial Mr. Nair appears to be toward men. He also has a view of sex that would fit right in with that of my wife. She adores the book. Needless to say I thought the man Ken described in his book (I believe he was talking about himself), was a jerk. If he were married to my sister, I would be tempted to smack him. Probably verbally.
I think my wife likes his book because it makes her aversion to anything sexual, a normal healthy thing. I would strongly recommend you read anything but his book. It is the Manifesto of all women who believe that we husbands should just learn to be Christlike and sexless.
Twenty-one years married. Still in love with my husband. Still desire my husband. Still get butterflies in my tummy when we’re apart. So why does my soul feel so heavily burdened with frustration and resentment? What once was thought to be so perfectly understood is everything I question today. Were we really meant to be? Are we really that different? Do our interests differ so drastically that it’s just easier to do things apart?
The hidden is reviled and the gentle man that once was is gone. The love is there for me, although absent by his faith. To love me completely is to love God first. This is were I surrender all to God. I’m I love with an empty man that claims faith with his words, and not with his life.