My wife and I have been married for 10 years, divorced for 1 year, and remarried for 4 years. This, of course, is to each other. Ours is a marriage that has been put back together after the divorce.
You may ask, how is it the second time around? It’s absolutely marvelous. We never argue, never say the wrong things to each other, and we are always happy. If only it were so! No, we do argue, and we do miscommunicate with each other. We are not always happy. But that’s all part of having a successful marriage.
First Marriage
In our first marriage God was not a part of it. I rejected God and was the most inconsiderate man that any woman could ever have been married to. I was an alcoholic and a drug addict. Eventually I became a gangster. My wife had to live ten years of absolute hell with me.
She, however, loved me. She told me continually that the reason she stayed with me was because she believed the man that she had met 10 years before would return. Despite all the ways I hurt my wife, she did not divorce me. I left her for a younger girl and divorced her.
It was my six year old daughter who was the one who helped to bring us back together. She had never been into a church, nor did she know much about spiritual things. But one day she found out from her teacher that she should pray for God to bring her daddy back. God answered her prayer.
Lastly, I want to say that if you are having marriage problems and want to get divorced, I don’t recommend it. I believe with God any marriage can be successful. To sum it all up, success in marriage depends how much you are prepared to sacrifice. My precious wife was prepared to sacrifice everything to keep our marriage together. I thank God for her.
This is a true testimony given to us from a subscriber from South Africa.
My husband divorced me after 4 months of marriage. We had an annulment because he did not want to lose his SSDI Childhood benefits of $500 a month and is reapplying to get the payments back. I guess he never loved me because he refused to get a job and keep me instead and now wants me to have no income and live outside. I’m a disabled person with neck and back injuries requiring surgery. However, my former husband keeps asking me for money saying I cannot live here for free.
I used to help him with food bills with my food stamps and whatever cash I had on a legal loan to keep him but apparently he didn’t appreciate my efforts. I’m involved in a lawsuit for the place where I was injured, and have some bad disks in the back and neck, and am in chronic pain. It is hard for me to live outside with such pain. I have no income to pay rent and cannot find a job.
After 9 years my wife divorced me. I suffered a serious back injury, which left her to handle everything. Our children want daddy back home, but she has since gotten involved with a co-worker. The kids are very upset and I’m lost. I’ve since physically recovered and want my family back! Friends say to pray and leave it in God’s hands…
Me and my husband divorced last week and I didn’t want it. We have 5 grown kids between us. I thought this was our time together; instead he found someone else. My heart is broken. I have been praying ever since he left back in October on our daughter’s birthday. God, I will do whatever it takes to return him back to me and his family, please take us under your wings help us find our love again. In Jesus name I pray. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. I waited five years and prayed for my husband to come back he would come around from time to time then disappear again then one day I made the biggest mistake of my life I divorced him. I pray every day that God brings him back and forgives me. I believed God would do that. Looking back I just got angry. Please, he is cold to me now. Please, I would be most grateful if you had a moment to pray for us.
Hello Marie, I was in the same situation as you. I divorced him just very recently even if it was never something I wanted. My husband knew that…but I finally made that decision after many times he has left me and came back when the situation suited him. I know I have committed a grave sin to divorce him. But I am not giving up hope like you do for with God there is no such thing as impossible!
I have repented for this deeply… for every disobedient act towards God, the consequences will be with us for a long time. There is no escape. I now offer my life to our Lord, and left all my cares and worries upon Him. I pray for my now ex husband but I know deep inside God has called me to stand for this marriage. I gave him freedom… for him to find where his heart wants to go. Even it pains me, I will happier to see him be happy.
Just don’t overthink things… overcome them though Jesus Christ! Ana :)
I’m praying with all my heart for my husband x to return to me and for God to restore our marriage of 25 years. Would you please pray for God to lead him home? I would be so grateful.
Marie, just relax and put your trust in God. Your husband will return home, never to leave again. All you need do now is get busy in your local church, with charity works, with abandoned children/teens etc. Get engrossed serving God in humanity while God takes care of your issues. Remember, seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and things will be added unto you (Jesus’ words). Stop brooding over your husband. Just pray for him always. God is able to do all things. You will surely laugh again. Shalom.
I trust and believe that God wants to restore. Trust him. My prayers are with you
We were married for 17 years. After a year long, bed ridden illness I lost myself and my mind. I was struggling with the physical limitations I was left with after my illness. We have 2 teenage daughters and always a house full of kids. I ended up having an affair with a teenage friend of my oldest daughter.
Less than 24 hours after my husband found out, he kicked me out of the house, changed the locks, cleaned out all of our banks accounts, shut down all credit cards, filed for divorce and sole custody of both of our children and filed restraining orders against me regarding the girls. In the state we lived in at the time, if adultery can be proved, no alimony is awarded. It would of been about $4,000 a month he would have to pay me. His attorney would not allow him to speak to me, because if he said he forgave me, it cancels out no alimony.
After 3 months of being tortured with personality tests, drug tests and therapy his attorney required in order for me to see my youngest daughter. He reached out and asked to meet with me and my therapist to settle the divorce between the 3 of us without all the attorneys. I of course agreed. I would have agreed to anything, I just wanted to talk to and see my husband.
He convinced me to fire my attorney and agree to the terms of the divorce and as soon as the divorce was final we would get our life back together. Less than 2 hours after the divorce was final he invited me to our home and had sex with me, another thing not allowed in order to not pay alimony.
We have now, 3 years later, moved across the country, after him telling me that we would move and have a fresh start. After moving he explained his fresh start does not include me. I’m near broke, living in our travel trailer (that I had to buy his 1/2 from him), having a hard time finding a job, as I am 45, no degree and haven’t worked in 20 years.
With all that said. We are believers and have been extremely involved in our church since we met. Neither of us want to be with anyone else and are struggling to be just friends. Our children are off to college and we’re both separately alone.
I believe God can heal and repair anything. I’m a just lost without my husband and best friend. Not sure what to do. I want my marriage back, what I did is so beyond out of character for me, I can’t even believe I did it. Drs have tried to say my brain was messed up from all the drugs I was on during my illness, but I’m not looking for excuses. I’m holding onto hope, but I’m not sure how to move forward with him. He normally is very talkative, but after the divorce he saw a therapist that has taught him to “change the channel” when his emotions come up. So he just shuts off and I don’t know how to deal with that. It’s so completely opposite of who he is. Any suggestions? Lots of prayer please.
My story is similar, I love my husband and always will. I filed for divorce after discovering he was involed with a younger woman. We had been seperated for 4 months and he moved her into our home. He made me leave after an argument that ended with him being violent and abusive toward me. I didnt want to leave and believed we would reconcile but he became involved with another woman.
There is now an order of protection because of threats he has made and we can have no contact for 1 year and he was ordered to have a mental health eval for his bipolar disorder. I have prayed for God’s will to be done in our marriage and prayed for God to heal and bless our marriage. I am so hurt and I believe he is hurting too but he admitted to having a girl friend and going with her to the beach and I have seen so many photos of them together on social media.
He had several outbursts in the courtroom and was served divorce papers there today but when he left his last words were “I love you Pam”. With all that has happened in the last 18 years I still love him. People think Im crazy to love him but I cant help it; I love him. What do I do? Please pray for him to turn his life over to the Lord. He also has a history of drug and alcohol abuse and I believe that is his attraction to this younger woman in his life. Please pray for us.
I learned two years ago that my husband of 40 years was in a three-year relationship with a much younger woman. He left me for her and filed for divorce which will be final soon. He relocated me to Florida under the guise of retirement, abandoned me, took me away from family and friends, filed for divorce and went to her.
I still cry every day. I pray every day that God will make him see the error of his ways and stop the divorce and reconcile. In spite of money spent on The Other Woman, hurt, humiliation, disrespect, rejection, neglect and abandonment, I want my husband back. I know satan has him and I pray God will intervene and send my prodigal husband home. Please God, show both of us the error of our ways and put us back together. I pray this in Jesus name. Amen.
I would like prayer that my ex will come back to me. I divorced him after 50 years a marriage. He’s 74 and I’m 66. I love him very much. I truly made a mistake. He was cheating as I was cheating. I started after I found out he was cheating on me. It was no good because as a Christian you don’t do that. I thought if I divorced him he would leave her alone but he didn’t. He’s living with her now. I would like God to put us back together as one. I just need prayer on this. I hurt everyday. We’ve been divorced 2 years and a half. I have gave it to God but I still need prayer. I pray to God everyday for my spouse. I love him truly and I’m asking for prayer now. God bless.
I found out a few mins ago that our divorce was approved on 12-28-16. I did sign the papers with my husband on the promise of counseling and potential reconciliation. Unfortunately, we needed to be separated so we could deal with our own issues. We were married January 13th, 2015. As newlyweds, we struggled with a loss of my job in May 2015, me starting school for hair, him getting a second job to support us and me working for less than half of what I was making. We found out we were pregnant in July 2016 and I miscarried in the beginning of August. The stress was too much for him and on Nov 12th, 2016 he left me. I love my sweet, broken husband with all my heart. I know that he IS the one that the Lord has placed me to be with until death do us part. I’m not as devastated as I thought I would be and that is because of my renewed relationship with the Lord. I lift up my husband to God and I pray life, blessing, and prosperity into him. He is my sweetheart and I wish that I could go back in time and love him the way he needed to be loved. We bought caused each other pain and strife, but in the Lord’s eyes, I know we are still husband and wife. There was no affair that took place either. Praying for our restoration.
I have married 27 years. My husband, Ramon is an alcoholic, gambles and uses dirty words for most of the time, especially when he comes from his job. My husband holds a very good job, he works for USPS. He drinks and drives at times. I tried talking and praying for him but he is very tough in his heart. He pushed me to do a divorce which I regret now, but I believe and trust nothing is too hard for God to fix or bring him back home. My husband is a good and great man I love and will continue loving him until the end by God’s will. I know God can bring him back. God is in control; God is in power; God’s will is my will. I put everything into his hands and I clam God has already done it for me so I will sit back and thank God and say Amen. Pray for me everyone. Thank you.
My wife left me three weeks ago and I’m destroyed. I barely sleep and eat. I’m lost without her and my son. I see my son but the not seeing him everyday I can’t take. The waking up and she’s not there when I reach for her breaks my heart all over again. We had a bad start due to me being insecure and jealous, which was fueled by her cheating. Things slowly changed and we stopped fighting nearly as much or as bad but I guess it was not enough. She left me a short time before this but came back we started therapy, started communicating better and interacting with each other in better ways.
Then one night while at work I told her I was sorry and it would get better and she told me she can’t do this anymore. She said she no longer loves me and isn’t healthy enough to be my wife mentally. I just don’t understand why I can’t be there by here side. I know I shut down because of all the hurt and cheating prior to finding out she was done the first time. But I can’t wrap my mind around sticking it out through the bad and when there’s light ahead quitting especially with a kid involved.
God was absent in this relationship and I know through him all things are possible. I don’t know what to do. I want her back. I want my family back and I don’t know how to fix this. I pray and pray and I ask that all pray for my wife, son and I. She hasn’t filed divorce she says because the day she left I asked her not to but since then I have told her if that is what she wants, do it. I’m a holding on to anything to believe there’s hope or is that a sign my son Lucca, my wife Abi. Please pray for them both.
Hi,
What was it that made you want to try again? How did you find the Lord in your life.
Katherine, we all sometimes have situations in our lives when we feel like giving up and moving on. But in some of those situations, God’s Word would instruct us to not give up, but instead to keep trying to make it work and trust in Him. When I find myself in a situation like that, I have learned that it is helpful to pray that the Lord do a work in my heart to change me so that I can follow Him in the midst of the situation and know what He desires that I do. I also pray that He would come close to me and speak His truth and love into my life in a very clear way, so that I am drawn into a closer relationship with Him. These are requests that the Lord will answer as we continue to consistently pray, because they are aligned with the desires of His heart.
After 9 years of marriage my wife left me and divorced me; this was not something I wanted. I asked the Lord for a Miracle to bring my wife back to me and I’ve put it in the Lord’s hands. I miss her so much and I know deep down if anyone can save this it is the Lord. He has risen and is still on the throne. Jesus is Lord! Amen
Please pray for my marriage. A divorce after 30 years, but I know that GOD can restore. My name is Phyllis and my spouse name is Paul.